Hello, this is Haru. Today, I will share special tips that can boost your charm by at least five times. First, let's look at the characteristics of people who struggle with dating and explore solutions. I will serve you these dating tips on a silver platter. Please don't spit them out! Today, I will start a special lecture on baby food. 

Let me ask you a question: What should you do to become an attractive woman? Should you definitely learn from the dating master? No, that's not it. Even if you accumulate charm points with dating skills, if you keep acting inappropriately, you will end up at zero or your effectiveness will decrease. Women in their 30s will especially relate to this. Even if a man is good-looking, capable, kind, articulate, and sexy, if he ruins everything the moment he opens his mouth, or if he constantly engages in behaviors that you dislike, it becomes a problem.

If someone is cold-hearted, irritable, has a habit of repeating oppa at the end of their sentences, has dirty nails, or is a selfish person who only thinks about themselves due to a cool attitude, then no matter how handsome or wealthy they are, they are extremely undesirable. I want to meet a man that all my friends envy. I want to date someone who treats me well. First, I need to recognize the behaviors that diminish my charm; I need to have self-objectivity. Then, in the second step, I need to learn dating skills. I guarantee that if these two things change, you will witness the way men look at you transforming into real-time hearts. Even those who are overly suspicious should just check out some reviews on eyelash extensions and dating tips. You will be surprised. The first characteristic of women that men dislike is thinking they are good at dating. Do you know what I realized while teaching many men and women?

It's funny how men often think, I'm good-looking enough, while many women, despite being pretty and slim, still say things like, Why am I so fat? or I think I look too ordinary; I don't like my face. However, when it comes to dating, it's the opposite. Men tend to lack confidence in their dating abilities and can objectively assess themselves, while 9 out of 10 women believe they are good at dating. Especially women in their 30s often consider themselves experts in relationships. When counseling begins, they always say things like, I haven't dated anyone recently, but honestly, I'm good at dating. I've met doctors, lawyers, and businesspeople, but I'm not sure about this guy. I understand to some extent; for women, as long as they have a certain level of attractiveness, meeting men isn't particularly difficult. Just the fact that they are younger can be a point of attraction. Honestly, if they set their minds to it, they could date three, or even five.

you can meet a woman at the same time. The difficulty of starting a romantic relationship for women and men is fundamentally different. For women, as long as their appearance is above average, there are men who will express interest in them. Of course, the level of men may be quite similar, but in any case, it means they can start a relationship. However, it is different for an average man. He is not in a position to choose; instead, he is in a position to court and be chosen, becoming the seed in this dynamic. If his romantic intelligence is not high, he will accumulate a lot of experiences of failure. Through this process, self-objectification occurs. Additionally, there is a significant difference in instincts between men and women. Males have an instinct to meet as many females as possible, while females have an instinct to want to meet the one outstanding male. This is because, in the past, meeting a man who lacked ability made survival itself difficult. In the course of evolution, women have focused more on nurturing than on reproduction, while men have focused more on reproduction than on nurturing. So,

In relationships, men can start with a lighter heart, and ultimately, it is the men who end up feeling more regretful, because there are more women they are interested in. This means that women who struggle with dating may sometimes have the illusion that they are good at relationships, even if they have never successfully attracted a man they like. I received some confessions in my youth; I was approached by doctors, lawyers, and businessmen, and I even dated a few of them. So, what is the standard for being good at dating? I say it this way: for men, it’s the ability to attract their ideal type; for women, it’s the ability to start and maintain a relationship with their ideal type. If I have dated a man I like for more than six months and he has completely fallen for me, even proposing occasionally, then those people should not attend this lecture. They should let go of their greed and pass on their dating skills to other women. But you know, when it comes to men...

Despite having met many people, Smar, who always seeks a cost-effective girlfriend, has experienced infidelity and breakups with every man she has dated. Those who have only encountered such negative experiences need to learn how to engage in a proper relationship from now on. Of course, the one who cheated and treated her poorly is at fault, but if these kinds of relationships keep happening, it suggests that the problem might also lie within oneself. 

Just like how people pay to learn cooking or video editing, it's essential to learn about relationships as well. In fact, I don't have to be the one to cook or edit; professionals can do that for me. However, no one can take on the responsibility of my relationships for me. It's something I must handle for my entire life. There are many women who think they shouldn't have to learn about relationships. I believe there are cheat codes and shortcuts to everything in life, and I have actually succeeded that way. I hope you all realize this truth quickly, so you can enjoy the best years of your life in good relationships.

You can be in a relationship while being loved by a man. I'll do a pet pocket now. Honestly, being a loser doesn't matter to others as they grow old because they have never experienced being treated well by a woman. However, our subscribers, like the pretty women, are receiving favors in human relationships, whether they realize it or not. Male friends buy them drinks, and they accept all the jokes I know; the truth is, they do this because they have feelings for them. Don't think that as you get older, life will be just as easy as it is now. We are different from otaku and socially awkward men. The moment the beautiful age passes and femininity fades away, all the perks will disappear, and you will realize how cold people can be. Some women look at me and say that being single is the trend these days, and getting married is a disadvantage for women. You might want to criticize me, but what can I say? Even if we are all single, men still approach me.

I receive attention, but I refuse it because I'm not interested. It feels like no one is interested in me, so I can't help but feel the weight of loneliness on a different level. Are capable and smart men foolish? They could live well on their own, so why would they bother getting married and starting a family? In reality, the more attractive and capable a man is, the higher the probability that he will get married. But there are reasons for that. If you want to meet a good man, be loved, and create a happy family, and if you want to have someone on your side for life, then you need to reflect on your past. You must analyze whether your previous relationships were genuine and what went wrong. Only then can you change. Let me give you an example using math from the college entrance exam. There is Ji-yeon, who scored 60 points on last year's exam. She is currently retaking the year and is attending classes, but since the material is from her third year last year, Ji-yeon does not participate in this class.

It seems similar in content, but when it comes to the exam, the scores are akin to distractions. You think you know it well, but the scores don't change. This is because you are under the illusion that you know something just by having seen it once. There is a difference between having seen something and truly knowing it. Familiarity and knowledge are truly different. 

Let's assume we are talking about squats. Anyone can do them, right? But is the squat of a professional athlete the same as that of an average person? Most people do it without really knowing. Even after ten years of training, it remains the same. Most people are under the illusion that they know something just because they have seen it briefly. True knowledge is when you can explain something accurately to someone else, and there is a dramatic effect when applied; that is when you can truly say you know it.

So, the difference between those who have never been in a relationship and those who have is that even men often think of women only as sexual partners while believing they are in a relationship. Women, on the other hand, give advice on other people's relationships.

I met several people, boasting about it. When I consult, there’s a 95% chance that my friends say that this guy likes me. An older sister I know has met a lot of men, but she says I shouldn't be the one to suggest meeting first. I can assure you, that sister is likely 70% to pre-book movie tickets and send a text to the guy she likes suggesting to meet. There’s more than an 80% chance that she isn’t even dating properly herself. Despite having met many men, the reason she struggles with relationships is simple: 

1. She confuses non-dating situations with dating.
2. She only meets men who like her.
3. She doesn’t even think about how to attract the kind of man she wants.

To avoid wasting time, money, and emotional energy, one needs to achieve self-objectivity, be able to meet the men they like, and know how to attract men and women. Only then can you avoid wasting time and meet good men. Do you understand?

The second characteristic of people who struggle with dating is the misconception that if they treat a man well, he will automatically reciprocate. Women and men who are not good at dating often think, If I treat him well, he will treat me well in return. Everything I give will come back to me. However, if you have had many dating experiences, you will know how unrealistic this statement is. Therefore, women who have had many bad experiences will almost reach a breaking point and will never open their hearts to a man. They will only engage in selfish relationships that benefit them, all while pretending to be aloof. But this is not the right answer either. Men are not fools; they can easily distinguish selfish women. However, if they have a liking for a woman, they might just overlook it. They might think about keeping it casual or be ready to leave at any time. The important thing is the order. First comes attraction, then showing that you are a good woman. Without attraction, you simply become a target for exploitation.

You think of men easily, but men also think of women easily. A nice woman must also be an attractive woman. Let me tell you how. Even if you are a man, this method will be helpful for you. The issues faced by nice women and men are essentially the same. They treat you well at first, but then they leave. They only treat you well initially, and later they don't. Is it wrong to treat a man well? Is it wrong to treat someone you like well? Some may ask if I can like him more. Yes, you can treat them well and like them more. Just because someone says not to like them doesn't mean it will work that way. However, you should never just always treat someone well without any boundaries. For example, if a 46-year-old man, who is 170 cm tall, weighs 100 kg, wears glasses, and is bald, likes you and constantly gives you gifts and sends you gift coupons, would you date him? No, you wouldn't.

Just because someone treats you well doesn't mean you should automatically date them. In fact, it can become a problem. What is the issue? At the very least, there should be a sense of mutual attraction. Even if they treat you well, they need to continue doing so afterward. If someone shows you kindness without any interest in you, it can lead to a situation where you become a convenience for them. This is the first principle. If there is no feeling of attraction at all, but they are just trying to impress you, it will only make you a fan club member or a pushover. If you really want to pursue someone like that, I won’t stop you. But I can assure you that having a serious relationship with that person will be difficult. 

The third point is the nice guy complex. Being kind to everyone and always saying yes doesn't make someone attractive. However, I’ve noticed that many women struggle to say no. They find it hard to refuse. How can they say that? What if the person ends up disliking them? What if they appear too picky?

You see, no matter what you do, a person who always agrees to everything quickly becomes tiresome. The feelings of joy and happiness are not absolute emotions; they are relative emotions. Happiness grows larger when there are needs. Just because wealthy people eat beef, it doesn't mean they feel happiness like we do. Buying a BMW doesn't make them feel an overwhelming thrill. The threshold for happiness has increased. If a woman's appearance doesn't match my ideal type, I can't feel special just because she treats me well. Men don't want to invest in such women. Investment can be financial, emotional, temporal, or physical. The more a person invests, the more valuable they feel that person is. The larger the sunk cost, the more a woman falls into the special woman fallacy. However, kind men tend to comply with any request from the other person, so this psychology doesn't operate in such cases.

Rather, it works the opposite way. If someone wants to buy something, they do; if they want to travel, they book flights and accommodations. If they want to meet someone, they even cancel other appointments to make time. Then I think to myself, I must be a good enough guy for this girl to treat me so well. I feel a bit guilty about it, but of course, it turns into a one-sided relationship, and I end up going down to the basement, even the 13th floor, to meet her. It's because I think, If you want to meet me, you need to put in that much effort. So, just being overly nice is definitely not a good strategy for a relationship. Please believe me. In high school, a friend of mine once asked for the number of my cousin, saying she was pretty. So, after getting her permission, I gave him her number. However, my friend came from a wealthy family. He had all the trendy brands that were popular at the time and received a lot of pocket money for a student.

He was quite good-looking, but he acted like a 99. His cousin was a beautiful and cunning woman. Did these two have a sweet romance like a couple of beautiful people? No, my friend gave her every gift imaginable and never even had a proper date. When she said she liked Nike, he brought her Nike shoes; when she mentioned a pretty bag, he got her that bag. He was just a fool who kept buying whatever she asked for. They only met when he was giving her gifts, and right after receiving a gift, she would go meet another man. My friend treated her well, but why couldn't his cousin develop anything more than a fling with that guy? It was because there was no reason for her to treat him well. She treated him like a fool because he acted like one. In the first meeting, objective conditions determine my value, but...

Un is about how subjective words and actions shape my values. If you act like a fool, you become one; if you act like a queen, you become one. However, these good women don't realize what the problem is. They don't know how to refuse actions that they don't necessarily need, like asking for gifts or favors. Think about it: if a guy I like gives me a luxury gift, I feel good and happy, and I want to do something nice in return. But let's assume there's a guy who's not really that close to me, and he keeps giving me gifts. Of course, it feels nice at first, but at some point, don't you think it might feel like it's expected? You might start to think, Well, he's just that kind of guy who works hard to meet me, so it's only natural. Many women struggle to say no, but I’m going to share four easy ways to escape being seen as an easy woman.

The phrase I'll think about it allows one to take a moment to step back, and since it is not an immediate rejection, it minimizes the burden of saying no. People with a tendency to please others often find it hard to refuse when they see someone's face. Therefore, going through this intermediate step and taking time to think is important. I can ask myself if this is something I really need to do, if I have the time, and how much pressure I feel about it.

The second step is to create a brain that can say no. People with a good child complex often respond reflexively with Sure, that's fine, so they are not accustomed to saying No, I don't want to. Therefore, it is necessary to practice regularly. Let me ask you to do something now: please send me 100,000 won via Super Chat. No? Practice saying it. I'll ask again: please send me 100,000 won. Try saying no. Rejection is a habit, and with practice, it becomes less difficult. Let me make another request: we agreed to meet on Friday, but what about Thursday?

It's okay to meet, but I can't because I have plans with my friends. I haven't seen them in a year. If you give a clear reason when you refuse, it becomes easier. One reason refusing is difficult is that when we do so, we think we need to have a perfect scenario that the other person can accept. I wanted to help, but the situation was unavoidable. It's definitely not my fault. Don't hate me just because I refused. This kind of subconscious thought is present. When refusing, it doesn't have to be a perfect reason. Let me tell you about an experiment conducted by Professor Blank at Harvard University. In the experiment, people were standing in a long line at a printing shop. The experimenter cut in and said, Excuse me, may I go first? About 33% of people allowed it. However, when the wording was slightly changed, most people permitted it. How?

I'm sorry, but can I go first? Because my boss is asking me to bring it right away. I can totally relate to the reason, so of course, the success rate would inevitably increase. And in the last experiment, I'm sorry, but can I go first? Because I really need to do it myself. It's such an absurd reason, right? What happened? Apparently, 93% of people gave way. This means that just by stating a reason, people feel psychological pressure. Moving forward, let's not be used by others but rather engage in smart relationships. For detailed dating techniques, please refer to Dating Essentials or 1% Dating Masterclass. Finally, focus on the advantages that come from saying no. When you refuse, instead of feeling guilty or fearing that someone will dislike you, compare it to the benefits you gain from saying no. It's okay to meet on Thursday instead of Friday.

Ah, I can’t do it. It’s a friend’s birthday, and I have a prior commitment with my friends. The downside is that my boyfriend feels hurt, and I feel sorry about it. However, there are advantages as well. My boyfriend will feel anxious and will try to make plans in advance next time. On Thursday, I’ll be curious about how well my girlfriend is having fun, and conversely, my boyfriend will spend lonely time and will miss me more. By thinking about the advantages rather than the disadvantages of saying no, I can alleviate my fears. Do you know why saying no is important? It’s because focusing on myself rather than others boosts my self-esteem and allows me to love myself more. Interestingly, even though I treated them well, the guys who didn’t love me before start to treat me with more care. They will realize that they met such a special woman.

So, selfish women actually tend to do better in relationships. However, we will become more special. By combining the advantages of both selfish and kind women, we will reach a complete form. I will conclude today's video. The more likes, comments, and subscriptions I receive from you, the more special videos and faster uploads will follow. Please help me to be able to share my dating skills with you. Thank you. This has been Haru, the only man in South Korea teaching practical dating.

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