관계에 대한 남성의 관점과 실연에 대한 교훈

### 관계에 대한 이해 실연과 여성으로부터 배운 교훈
* 💔 "하트브레이크는 인생에서 더 나아지려고 노력하면 **상황이 항상 나아진다는 것**을 이해하는 힘을 가르쳐 줍니다."
* 👨 남성은 삶의 많은 측면이 여성에게 매력을 느끼고 감동을 주는 것을 중심으로 이루어지기 때문에 **여성과의 상호작용을 통해 자존감과 동기를 찾는 경우**가 많습니다.
* 🔍 남성은 나이가 들어감에 따라 **관계의 패턴을 인식하는 경향**이 있으며, 이전에는 간과했던 위험 신호를 식별하여 과거의 선택에 대해 더 잘 이해할 수 있습니다.
* 🛑 감정적인 투자는 판단력을 흐리게 할 수 있지만, **성숙해지면 자신에게 진정으로 옳은 것이 무엇인지 명확하게 알 수 있습니다.**
* 🧠 각각의 상심은 개인의 타임라인에서 중요한 지표가 되어 당시에는 고통이 압도적으로 느껴지더라도 **성장과 자기 계발의 기회**를 제공합니다.
* 🚫 '잔인한 거절'이라는 개념은 과장된 경우가 많으며, 많은 남성은 **모든 상호작용이 성공으로 이어지는 것은 아니라는 것**을 이해하기 때문에 굴욕감을 느끼지 않고 거절을 경험합니다.
* 📈 남성은 과거의 연애를 되돌아보며 **상실감이 자신을 어떻게 더 나은 사람으로 만들어 주었는지** 깨닫고, 잠재적으로 성취되지 않을 수 있는 파트너십에서 벗어났다는 사실을 깨닫는 경우가 많습니다.
* 🌱 궁극적으로 매력과 거절의 역학을 이해하는 것은 개인적인 발전을 위해 필수적이며, **남성은 여성과의 경험에서 귀중한 교훈**을 얻을 수 있습니다.

남성의 삶은 여성을 중심으로 돌아가고, 그들의 선택과 자기 계발이 이루어집니다.

have you ever been brutally rejected by a woman? No, because there's no such thing as brutal rejection. I lots of women like me, lots of women don't. I've never been brutally rejected because I've never tried that hard. You know, when I first started getting famous, back when I still had Instagram, I was platformed. Instagram DMs would get leaked, and as I said, they've been through my hard drives. I've never said anything stupid. You know, I said to the girls, Hey, where you from? You know, want to go out sometime? No, never in a million years. And I literally just say, Okay, no problem, smiley face. And then two years later, when I was getting famous, they'd post it, Ha, Tristan tried to sleep with me. I'm like, Yeah, but I also sent that message to 500 other girls, and 400 did sleep with me, so like, I don't really care. So there was no such thing as a brutal rejection because I was never brutally trying. I was never trying to force someone to

like me who didn't. So I guess when you're younger, maybe no, still as a man, you always have to know when to take no for an answer. You know, message her twice, maybe three times. If there's no reply, just give up. Like, and it's so, I, it doesn't matter. Like, I've been rejected loads of times. I've tried to speak with lots of different women, certainly in person. If I see a pretty girl and I walk up to her, she's like, No, I'm not interested. Okay, well, have a wonderful evening. Goodbye. Like, what could possibly be brutal about it unless I was standing there insisting again and again. Oh, well, you know, maybe you're just stuck up, like some idiots do. You see them on the Internet and they look like fools. And then she'll say, Well, you know what? You're a [__] idiot who's balding and you got a crooked nose. Like, they've never had to be rude to me 'cause I

know when to take the h and to just leave. So, no, there's been no brutal rejections, uh, ever on heartbreak. Uh, what does heartbreak teach you? Heartbreak teaches you the power of understanding that in life, things will always get better if you try to make them better. You know, I'm not going to say her name, but there were girls who I dated when you were still a baby. So, let's say I was 20 years old, and she was 19 years old. I was 20 years old, and we broke up for whatever reasons. This girl, this particular girl, got some job wish I had to move to London, and I was upset about it. And now she's some 35-year-old middle-aged woman with, you know, two unspectacular kids and a husband who's divorced her. And I'm just like, if the heartbreak had never happened, well, I'd be that guy. I'd be with her now. I wouldn't have done all the great things I've done. It's there. Heartbreak sucks.

and you do have to deal with it. And again, know when to walk away without begging or humiliating yourself, especially in this day and age of DMs and messages being recorded and stuff. And each heartbreak, like with every bad event that happens in life, sets an important marker that you eventually look back on on a longer timeline, and you see the growth and the self-improvement and maybe the hypothetical scenarios that would have happened had you stayed with that person or had you not been betrayed by that person. And yeah, it serves as very important markers on a timeline, but it's only once you progress a couple of years past that timeline that you could see the knowledge in it. Unless you do it the wrong way and let it spiral you into a down-the-toilet of self-destruction, in which case, and you're like, Well, that's when my life went completely wrong. So no, that's when you chose to give up. They're two very different things. Heartbreak is fantastic. I wish someone got... I wish my

heart could still be broken. That would be nice. What made you realize a girl wasn't the one for you? I realized now they all weren't the one, but the problem is I had to be older and smarter to get it. You know, at your when you're 19 or 20, 21, your first pretty girlfriend. Oh no, no, she's definitely the one. She's probably not. You know, she might be by all means, but as you grow and evolve as a person, whether it be female company or male friends, as you grow and evolve as a person, you can look at what you knew about those people now and you just think, Well, that was a lucky escape. No matter how much you idolize her at the time, I may well when I'm 45 look at women I know today and be like, How come I didn't see that this wasn't right for me? 'Cause at 45, I'm going to be smarter than I am today, albeit probably less hair, but I'll be smarter than I am today, and I'll

see it then nothing ever happened to me in life besides like normal girls you're hooking up with. You realize I don't need to be around this type of person, the obvious [ __ ]. If a girl takes drugs, massive red flag for me. I immediately cut people like that off, but really it takes if you're emotionally invested. Uh, if you're emotionally invested in somebody, you probably with your current mind, mind in your current judgment, you're only 23, think that you are correct to be emotionally involved with this person. But a 35-year-old version of you would see all her flaws. So I think it comes later, but then there's obviously massive red flags that you just cut people off for. But I never get that serious with people who have those red flags. I'm never with someone two years and I'm like, Oh, oh, she takes cocaine all the time. Like, I either knew at the beginning and stopped talking to her, or you know, you don't stay with someone that long before you notice glaringly.

obvious red flags. What does a man learn about life from women, and what does he need to learn himself? Well, men live for women. This is the point: men live for women in every single way. If women didn't exist on this planet, everything about my life would be different. I'd have fast cars 'cause I like driving them, but a lot of the things that men do, a lot of the things we say, the way you dress, lots of it is about trying to attract women, trying to impress women, and trying to have women hold you in a high regard. 'Cause if women in general hold you in a high regard, then you, as a high-value man, have your pick of the best women on the planet. And there isn't a single red-blooded male out there in the world who doesn't like the idea of lots of different women being attracted to him, even if he's got his wife and he's in love and it's the first girl he's ever been with, and he's, I don't know, a Mormon or a Muslim or a Christian.

who's super involved. If you were to ask him, would you like to be unattractive to women or attractive to women, just in general, he'd say attractive because it raises the impression people have of his wife, for example. So, there's not a single man in the world who doesn't live for women in one way or another. So, they are almost every lesson you learn about life, and almost everything you've done wrong can somehow be reflected back into the mirror of what do women think of this, and what do women see in me because of this. So, almost every lesson

Tristan Tate on Rejection From Women And Heartbreak

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화자는 잔인한 거절을 경험해본 적이 없기 때문에 잔인한 거절 같은 것은 없다고 믿습니다.

인스타그램 DM을 통해 자연스럽게 여성에게 접근했고, 거절을 당해도 웃는 얼굴로 응대하고 넘어갔습니다.

많은 수의 메시지를 보냈기 때문에 여성과의 성공은 거절의 영향을 받지 않았다.

'하트브레이크'는 노력하면 삶이 나아진다는 것을 이해하는 것이 중요하다는 것을 알려줍니다.

과거의 관계를 되돌아보면 그것이 운명이 아니었음을 알게 되고, 개인적인 성장을 통해 자신에게 맞는 것이 무엇인지 더 잘 이해할 수 있습니다.

시간과 경험이 쌓이면 당시에는 완벽해 보였던 관계에서 운 좋게 벗어날 수 있다는 것을 알아차릴 수 있습니다.

감정적 투자가 관계에 미치는 영향과 관계의 적신호

사람에 대한 감정적인 투자는 판단력을 흐리게 하여 결점을 보기 어렵게 만들 수 있습니다.

약물 사용과 같은 위험 신호는 즉각적인 거래 중단을 초래하므로 이러한 사람은 조기에 차단하는 것이 중요합니다.

실연은 성장과 자기 계발을 위한 중요한 지표가 되며, 시간이 지나면서 귀중한 교훈을 제공합니다.

여성이 남성의 삶에 미치는 영향

남성의 삶은 여성의 영향을 크게 받으며, 남성의 많은 행동과 선택은 여성의 관심을 끌고 감동을 주기 위한 것입니다.

여성의 인정과 높은 평가를 받고자 하는 욕구는 남성의 가치관과 정체성에 기여하는 원동력입니다.

여러 여성에게 매력적이라는 생각은 관계 상태나 신념에 관계없이 많은 남성에게 호소력을 발휘합니다.

남성은 종종 여성에게 매력적으로 보이려고 노력하는데, 이는 다른 사람들이 자신의 파트너에 대해 갖는 인상에 영향을 미치기 때문입니다.

많은 인생의 교훈과 개인적인 성찰은 여성이 남성을 인식하는 방식과 관련이 있습니다.

거절은 남성에게 흔한 경험이며, 언제 거절을 받아들이고 우아하게 넘어가야 하는지 아는 것이 중요합니다.