관계에 대한 조언: 여자가 알아야 할 것에 대한 남자의 관점

### 앤드류 쿠오의 여성을 위한 10가지 데이트 팁: 6년 후
* 📈 앤드류 쿼는 2014년 가장 많은 바이럴을 기록한 동영상 이후 **"6년 동안의 변화를 되돌아보며"** 남성들이 관계에서 중요하게 여기는 것에 대한 새로운 인사이트를 공유합니다.
* 👫 "지옥 같은 싱글"에서 **"가장 행복하고 건강하며 가장 긴 연애"**를 하고 있는 Quo의 개인적인 성장 여정은 연애에 대한 그의 관점의 진화를 잘 보여줍니다.
* 🍔 '먹는 것이 중요하다'는 Quo의 관점은 **새로운 레시피를 시도하거나 더 건강하게 살도록 서로에게 동기를 부여하는 등 가치를 더하는 실용적인 기술**을 중시하는 것으로 바뀌었습니다.
* 👀 "멍청한 척하는 것은 귀엽지 않다"는 Quo의 조언은 **자신이 아는 것과 모르는 것에 대해 솔직해져야 한다**는 것을 강조합니다. 멍청하거나 똑똑한 척하는 것은 상대의 마음을 돌릴 수 있기 때문입니다.
* 💔 "남자를 좋아한다면 다른 남자가 얼마나 멋진지 이야기하지 말라"는 Quo의 입장 변화는 **남자 친구를 나쁘게 보이게 하는 방식으로 비교**를 해서는 안 된다는 것을 시사합니다.
* 🗣 "괜찮다는 말로 논쟁을 끝내는 것"을 강조하는 Quo는 어떤 문제도 최소화하거나 해결하지 않고 방치해서는 안 된다는 점에서 **관계에서 소통의 중요성**을 강조합니다.
* Quo는 "너무 열심히 노는 것"에 대해 조언하며, **초반에 너무 열심이지 않고 놀리는 것은 효과**가 있을 수 있지만, 어느 순간 **비열해지거나 흥미를 잃게 되는 시점**이 있다고 말합니다.
* 🎯 Quo의 마지막 요점은 관계에서 소통의 힘을 강조하는데, 서로를 더 잘 수용하기 위한 모든 변화는 **두 파트너가 얼마나 서로를 아끼고 있는지**를 보여주기 때문입니다.

6년 동안 Andrew는 관계에 대한 관점을 크게 발전시켜 소통과 개인적 성장을 강조했습니다.

hey, six years ago in 2014, I made a video called ten things guys wish girls knew, and it went on to become, by a pretty large margin, my most viral video ever. It has been six years of on-again-off-again making advice videos, and in that time, my life has changed drastically. It started my full-time job, becoming this. I, for a few years, was on a social media tour. I found what I think is my true calling with my second channel, where I started a non-profit to throw parties for charity, and it's just all been a wild ride. So I thought today it'd be cool to reflect on how things have changed in six years. Back then, I was hella single and thought I knew a lot more about dating than I actually did. I also aspired to be a bit of a ladies' man, and then I think I actually got kind of decent at it, in the sense that I just became a lot more relaxed and cared less what people thought, which ended up giving me a lot more options in the dating pool, and fast.

forward all the way to now, and I'm in the happiest and healthiest and longest relationship that I've ever been in. And it's something that I never even thought was really possible for me. So with all this growth, I wanted to see what I had to say back then, and basically update everyone on what I think guys really value as time goes on. But before I hop in and do it, I just want to let you all know that this video is sponsored by zero, the easiest and best way to build a website. I've actually been playing around with the idea of making some updates to my website for the nonprofit that I run. I got to admit, the experience in Xaro is actually super clean and really easy to customize. They have a bunch of preset designer-made templates that you can really pick apart every little piece of and do whatever you want with. But don't just take my word for it. If you use the discount code Andrew, you'll get 30% off any paid service that they have. And prior to that, like you can

test everything up for free. It's really sick. So if you're ever thinking about starting a side business or, you know, making a website just as a little portfolio for some of your work, no better time than now. I'll go ahead and put a link in the description with my promo code. And yeah, I hope you check it out. Anyways, on to the video. Hey, so there are some things that girls just don't know about guys. I think would make everyone's life easier if they just did. So today, I'm gonna be explaining those things. Enjoy. Number one is we don't care about thigh gaps. When I first through the term, I didn't even know what it was. Could you imagine a guy saying something like, Oh, I really like this girl, but she doesn't have a thigh gap. No, it just doesn't happen. Don't worry about it. You know, we still definitely don't care about the thigh gaps. But I've come to realize, I'm pretty sure that's just a thing girls put on themselves. Like maybe other girls will

look at that and notice that guys have never noticed nor I think cared. And hey, if you want a thigh gap, I think as long as you're going about it in a healthy way, there's nothing wrong with that. Just know that guys will most definitely find you equally attractive with or without. Number two is we're gonna watch porn. Look, we don't see porn as cheating, it's just porn. It's been with us since we hit puberty and it's gonna be with us till we die. There's nothing to do with not being satisfied, it's just porn. It's funny that I said this because this is the point that I've actually really taken a huge 180 on. First of all, yes, I mean I think if not all, most guys have at least seen porn, if not are pretty addicted to it. I would actually go so far as to say I think it is a huge problem that men face and don't talk about enough. Like I know for me personally, for a large portion of growing up, I was pretty addicted to porn.

and it just killed my motivation and killed my desire to actually go out and meet women. Weirdly enough, it got to a point where I felt really terrible about myself, and I decided to quit indefinitely. I cannot tell you how much that changed my life. I felt in a few weeks like I had been given superpowers, and suddenly I was more engaged in conversations, and I was just so much more confident. I credit a lot of this to being the turning point as to why I went from being kind of awkward to pretty good at going on dates. I think what's damaging is when you're watching a lot of porn, you're really sexualizing the women in it to a super unrealistic, unhealthy standard. You're watching super unrealistic depictions of what sex is like because there is just no intimacy, and it's like hyper-stimuli on your brain that no amount of actual sex really can compare to. So this is a little side note. I know most of my audience is women, but if you

are a guy watching this, and any of it is resonating with you, I recommend you check out NoFap and see what other people have gone through because I think it's something that a lot of guys need to talk about more. Number three, eating is hot. I know a lot of girls that just don't eat like all day. They've had a salad or a piece of bread. Look, that is just not healthy. You should be having three meals a day, even if they're small. Have some protein, some carbs, some vegetables. Just eat the things that you need to fuel your body to stay alive. We would so much rather date a girl who gets like a burger and fries at a meal instead of like half a salad and can barely finish that. So, I think what I was trying to do with this point is help girls who feel bad about themselves for having an appetite to not feel that. And I don't know if I handled it in the best possible way because I think the truth is, I don't think anyone cares what you

eat like if you're on a date. No guy is gonna be like, Oh, you're gonna get a burger and a salad, I'm out, or vice-versa, You're getting a salad on a burger, not interested anymore, sorry to waste your time. I mean, I guess it depends on each specific guy, right? Like, I'm a pretty healthy person, but if I was on a first date and the girl got a burger, like, I wouldn't be instantly turned off. But after a bunch of dates, if every single time this girl's getting the most unhealthy thing on the menu just because I'm so healthy, clearly we have different values. And then eventually, I'll start to find that unattractive. But the good news is there are guys who are gonna eat just like that and love it, and you're gonna be so stoked that you're like that too. And so in any situation, if any guy ever gave you crap for the way that you eat, you guys are probably not compatible. Either way, there's a guy out there with every kind of eating habit. So if it

really is important to you that your diet is exclusively chicken nuggets. There will be a guy out there who's like, Hell yeah, let's do that every single day for the rest of our lives. And so if that's what you want, best of luck in finding him. Number four, if we're putting ourselves out there to talk to you, you should at least be giving us some signs. Look, it takes a lot of confidence to go up to a girl and just start talking to them or start flirting with them. And for a girl to not really know how to respond is just not meeting us halfway. If we start talking to you and you're into it, show us, smile, be touchy. I actually think that most girls will flirt back in a noticeable way if they are interested. Maybe that's just because my personal approach - like always talking to girls would be very laid-back. Like I was never the kind of aggressive guy to be like, Hey baby, I'm gonna take you out, give me your number, I'm gonna take you here, I'm gonna

meet your mom. She's gonna love me like I would never push a conversation if the girl wasn't immediately reciprocating because personally, I think there's nothing more attractive than someone who seems attracted to me. Anyway, if you are genuinely not interested in the guy and he is being pushy, you should make your intentions clear. There are a lot of guys that don't pick up on subtle hints that you're not interested, and well, he should definitely take a lot of blame. People need to know when the hell to back off. Number five is that if you don't get along with our friends, we know this relationship's not gonna last. Relationships come and go, but friends stay with you forever. I have one friend who I've hung out with since I was four, and we're still close. Any girl can do the bare minimum and just be nice to her friends, but if she leaves and my friends are like, Yo dude, that girl was awesome, when you bring your own next, we're gonna have to marry you. So I'm sorry. Oh man, how is so naive.

wish that point were true, but it is really not. I definitely have a few friends who have girlfriends who don't mingle and potentially might not even like their boyfriends' friends, or at the very least have not made a lot of effort to get to know us. But I don't think that's gonna stop a guy from ever liking someone. But we'll say making an effort goes a long way, and it's really nice to know that your girlfriend can fit in with your friends. You don't have to actively separate them because then you're being forced to choose. But what is a make or break for a lot of guys is family. Like, if you can get a guy's parents to just absolutely love you, they're gonna be asking from that day forward, When is the wedding? Number six is that playing dumb isn't cute. We're just gonna think that you're dumb. The last thing we want is to have to take on like a fatherly role and teach you about the world. Just be real about what you know and what you don't.

know me personally, I'm an idiot about a ton of things, but I'll never pretend to be one. If you have a good personality, you can be a dummy, no one is really gonna care. I don't know why I said that. We don't want to teach you things because we literally do like an excuse to look smart and Stroke are you go sign me. I just think realistically everyone is dumb in some situations and smart in others, and no part of that is a turn-off unless the guy is really insecure. Seven is if you like a guy, don't talk to him about how awesome you think other guys are. What do you usually make him jealous if you didn't already know this really goes those guys obviously we're gonna get jealous if you make it seem like some other dude has all these skills that we don't have so don't do that. I think my meaning behind this was don't intentionally make a guy jealous, which I still stand by, but I'm not crazy about how I worded this. You should be allowed.

to compliment or just think highly of other guys in general, but I will say the point at which I would no longer say that is if you're comparing these people to your boyfriend directly, or in any sort of way that makes your boyfriend actively look bad. But to be honest, if you're doing that already, that tells me a relationship is kind of toxic because it sounds like you're actively trying to hurt him by saying, hey, oh, this guy is so much stronger than you, so much better than you. Like, no boyfriend is ever gonna want to hear that, so be considerate human being, have a little bit decency and there shouldn't be no problems here. Number eight, who King is really hot. And look, I don't mean this in a haha, girl should always cook for me kind of way. I know how to cook and I will cook for you, but if you were completely useless in the kitchen, it's gonna get annoying. We live in an era where a lot of people are living with their parents or have a meal plan at

university up until like their mid-20s, and a lot of these people don't know how to cook. These are life skills; everyone should know them. Funny enough, from 2014 all the way till now, I have found that with almost every girl I've gone out with, I have been the better cook of the two of us. Not even to say that I am an expert chef; like I'm definitely not. I just enjoy cooking. But while I thought dating someone who was gonna be better than me at cooking would be hella attractive, which I guess to some extent I still think would be attractive. I don't think being unable to cook is such a big turn-off unless, however, the reason is because you expect every meal to be served to you starting from your parents, and you expect that of me because I'm never gonna be in a relationship like that. But point being, it's fine if you don't know how to cook. The bigger point at large is really having any practical skill that has, you know, semi-daily use. It was

really attractive like if you like baking, and you want to make fresh bread every once in a while, or birthday cakes for birthdays that SiC like maybe you're just way cleaner than he is, so you help him, show him how to organize his room. Also, say people just want to be in relationships with other people who help them better themselves, so if you can do that, you're adding value. He's gonna love that even if the two of you both suck at something like cooking. If you motivate each other to try new recipes or a little healthier like that, is infinitely better than if you were a great cook and we're not consistently showing that off. Number nine, don't play too hard to get. Look, playing hard to get can for sure work. You just gotta tease the other person and make them want to get your attention. However, there's a point at which you're just being mean or you just seem completely uninterested. If you seem uninterested and we haven't really invested any time in you yet, we're just gonna give up. So don't do

that playing a little bit hard to get, or rather I would just call it not being too eager too early in a relationship. I think we should all just accept is a part of dating. If someone was too interested, too eager, and me really early on and showed it, it would definitely freak me out. That being said, as a more adult now, I think there comes a point at which you're really just being a little childish and not communicating that you like someone. To properly let someone in or know that you have feelings for them is probably the biggest issue in a lot of relationships, and it's also the exact reason I feel really lucky for the one that I'm in now, because we can really communicate about anything. And yeah, that means every once in a while we're gonna have fights, but it's always me and her versus the problem, not me versus her. And with every argument, we talk until we both feel better, which always eventually happens. And shutting down a conversation just because you don't want to talk about it, in my experience at least.

always leads to just bottling stuff up. And once you start doing that, you might not know where to stop, which leads me nicely to the last point of this video. Number 10 is ending an argument with the word fine. It's just gonna make everything worse. Arguing for whatever reason should always be resolved ASAP. Look, nobody wants to be bitter about it, but I know a lot of girls that'll end the conversation with fine. You know what? No, no, it's okay. I feel better. You clearly don't. Sometimes it's best to just get some space, you know, cool off, and then talk about it. Like I just said, the biggest, most important takeaway I've learned is the power of communication. And to master that, you need to accept that no issue is not a big deal. And if something is bothering your partner, you need to address it seriously and help find a solution instead of trying to minimize it or make it feel like it's just their problem. And here's a cold, hard fact that might mean making changes to your daily life. For example, one time out 'cause the

only double-booked with my girlfriend so I had plans with her but also I've plans with a friend. Even being honest wasn't the first time it happened, and it was the start of a real problem because she felt like I wasn't appreciating her time right. She was keeping her date clear, and I wasn't doing the same. And so to make sure that I wasn't ever gonna do that again, we decided I should start using a calendar, which like most people use calendars, it's good to just organize your life. So now I use a calendar, and it has been a permanent solution, and she has made just as many little changes to better accommodate me. So that's what a relationship is, every change we make just shows how much we both care. So yeah, communication is key. Anyways, that was it for today. Thank you guys so much for watching, and if you enjoyed this video, please give it a big thumbs up. And again, I just want to say thank you so much to zero for sponsoring today's video. Like I said earlier, as I Rose the absolute

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remember if you want your comment featured on my next video just leave one down below. And if I like it, maybe it'll be featured on one of a huge Instagram shout out to cotton and tamanna' who both commented on my last Instagram pic, which was me and my girlfriend in quarantine masks just to stay safe, which I really appreciate. So thank you, and I hope all of you are out there staying safe. To go follow those two, and if you want a little Instagram shudder of your own, make sure you follow me on Instagram. My Instagram is just Andrew quo. You leave comments, sometimes that respond, and yeah, I'll be featuring people on here who engage with my stuff. Finally, I just want to say subscribe to me for more videos. I got a party video up here, and more advice right here. Thank you so much for your time, and stay safe. I'll see you soon face.

10 Things Guys Wish Girls Knew REVISITED

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6년간의 개인적 성장에 대한 성찰

6년 전, 데이트에 관한 한 편의 바이럴 영상은 크리에이터의 인생에 큰 변화를 가져왔고, 성공적인 커리어와 비영리 벤처로 이어졌습니다.

'여성스러운 남자'가 되고 싶었던 크리에이터의 데이트에 대한 태도는 점점 더 여유로워졌고, 결국 현재의 행복하고 건강한 장기적인 관계로 이어졌습니다.

또한, 크리에이터는 스폰서십과 프로모션에 대해 반성하고 허벅지 갭이나 포르노와 같은 특정 주제에 대한 자신의 견해가 수년에 걸쳐 어떻게 변했는지에 대해 이야기합니다.

데이트와 자신감의 어려움 극복하기

과도한 야동 시청은 자신감과 사회적 상호작용에 부정적인 영향을 미칠 수 있지만, 끊으면 자신감과 참여도가 크게 향상될 수 있습니다.

같은 식습관을 인정하고 공유할 남성이 있기 때문에 여성이 남성에게 깊은 인상을 주기 위해 엄격한 식습관을 고수해야 한다는 압박은 불필요합니다.

식습관에 대한 서로 다른 가치관은 관계에서 서로 맞지 않는 점이 될 수 있지만, 식습관에 상관없이 모든 사람에게 맞는 상대가 있습니다.

데이트 기대치를 탐색하기 위한 팁

누군가 내게 말을 걸거나 시시덕거리려고 노력할 때는 관심을 보이고 화답하는 것이 중요합니다.

특히 상대방에게 관심이 없는 경우, 특히 상대방이 시시덕거린다면 자신의 의도를 분명히 밝히는 것이 중요합니다.

파트너의 친구들과 친해지려고 노력하는 것은 관계에 긍정적인 영향을 미칠 수 있습니다.

멍청한 척하는 것은 매력적이지 않지만, 자신의 지식에 대해 진정성을 보이는 것은 관계에서 중요합니다.

성격이 좋다면 모르는 것이 있으면 인정하는 것도 괜찮습니다.

특히 남자친구와 비교하여 다른 남자가 얼마나 대단한지에 대해 이야기하여 남자를 질투하게 만들지 마세요.

요리와 같은 실용적인 기술은 중요하지만, 파트너가 모든 것을 해줄 것이라는 기대가 없는 한 거래를 깨는 것은 아닙니다.

관계에서 개인의 기술보다 서로를 지지하고 서로의 발전을 돕는 것이 더 중요합니다.

의사소통은 갈등 해결의 핵심이며, 논쟁을 끝내기 위해 "괜찮아"라는 말로 끝내지 않는 것이 중요합니다.

강력한 관계를 구축한다는 것은 파트너의 우려를 최소화하는 것이 아니라 문제를 진지하게 직시하고 함께 해결책을 찾는 것을 의미합니다.

인간관계에서 커뮤니케이션의 중요성

이중 예약은 관계에 문제를 일으켰고, 더 나은 정리를 위해 캘린더를 사용하기로 결정했습니다.

캘린더 사용은 영구적인 해결책이 되었고 서로를 더 잘 수용하기 위한 상호 변화로 이어졌습니다.

이 경험은 관계에서 커뮤니케이션의 핵심적인 역할을 강조했습니다.