Hey, namaste. I'm Kay. This is Ecstatic Self. Um, earlier this week, I was encountering people talking about *The Secret*, the favorite book of a lot of people about manifestation. Um, and I have complex feelings about *The Secret*. Um, yes, I definitely believe that you can manifest

things in your life. Yes, I definitely believe in the power of positivity and the power of words and the power of intentions, that you should make a wish and let it go, absolutely. But I do struggle with this idea of 'you can have everything you want,' because sometimes that's just not true.

Sometimes you have, or all times I should say, you have karma to *wrestle* with, the effects of your past actions, the lessons you have to learn to come into balance, balance, and to come into wholeness in this lifetime. So that means sometimes the things you want

are diametrically opposed to your karma, which means either a) you won't get it, or b) you will get it, but then you're going to suffer tremendously. So instead of trying to will yourself into the life that you desire, instead, what if we take a different

approach? What if instead of trying to mold and use our will and force things to happen, or, you know, gently release into letting them happen, what if instead we just take a moment, we feel gratitude for all of the blessings that we already have, because

all of us are each uniquely blessed and we all have wonderful things that we could be celebrating. And then what if you just invite, or set an intention for your best well-being, your personal growth, and then don't get caught up on the

specifics of what that looks like because I know for myself, I for a long time tried to manifest a life as a successful actor and I worked constantly, but in my career, it never really took off. But the thing I learned as I struggled with this and kept wondering why is this

not manifesting? I'm really good at manifesting things. Why is this not working out? Is that this wasn't in my best interest? This wasn't what I needed to learn this lifetime. I needed to let that stuff go because what I really needed was to

learn that I'm beautiful and worthy and lovable and and fantastic without getting awards or praise or fame. I needed to learn that the thing that matters most isn't being celebrated, achieving celebrity, but yes, I may have just made up a word, but that's a word I

like to make up. Celebrity, but it's about having meaningful connections with other people, sharing love, giving love, getting love, having friendships and partnerships. It was about loving where you live, being humble, being grounded. Those were the things I needed to learn, and me pursuing a career as an actor was

diametrically opposed to those things. And there actually reached a point in my career when I had a big agent sit me down, and he's like, "You know, you could have all this, but you're going to have to give everything else up. This is going to have to be your

life." And in that moment, I realized I don't want this life. But had I successfully manifested it, I probably would have been miserable, suicidal, because that's what happens for a lot of people. They get that thing that they've worked for for years. They think that they

thought would make them happy they won the Oscar they flew to Mars whatever and they realized they're still miserable and now that there's not that thing to work towards depression sinks in anxiety mental health issues it's called the arrival fallacy this idea that one day

you'll make it and everything will be fine so yeah there are other elements of the Secret that I appreciate absolutely is there truth in it absolutely there is but please please please open to this idea that you're already having the universe orchestrate for you to have the perfect life

that already you're given the lessons you need you don't need to try and make things happen you are already experiencing the karma that you need to grow and if you can see that and you can work on that and you can appreciate that your life is going to be so much better

so sure try to manifest the Bentley or the million dollars or the life partner but realize if that's not in your best interest and that's not in your karma then you may not find it and you're not doing anything wrong you're not a bad

person you're not a failure it just means you have some other lessons to learn and those lessons are ultimately going to serve you more so be grateful for them I'm sure I'll be talking about this more later on um but I thought my these ideas might be

worth sharing I hope you appreciate and yes I know my tan is horrible sorry about that okay have a great day guys Namaste okay

“The Secret” is Bullshit!

Kaelan + Ecstatic Self

'더 시크릿'에 대한 엇갈린 감정에 대한 소개와 인정.

표현, 긍정성, 의도에 대한 믿음은 있지만 원하는 모든 것을 성취할 수 있다는 주장에 의문을 제기합니다.

욕망의 성취에 영향을 미치는 업의 개념.

강압적인 표현 방식과 감사를 기반으로 한 부드러운 대안을 대조해 보세요.

표현에 대한 대안적 접근 방식: 감사와 웰빙

기존의 축복에 대한 감사에 집중합니다.

구체적인 결과보다는 개인적인 성장에 대한 의도를 설정합니다.

배우로서의 커리어를 추구하다가 그것이 개인의 성장과 일치하지 않는다는 것을 깨달은 개인적인 일화.

외부의 검증과 무관하게 스스로의 가치와 사랑스러움을 실현합니다.

명성이나 유명세보다 의미 있는 관계, 사랑, 근거를 우선시합니다.

경력 성공을 위해 모든 것을 희생하라는 에이전트의 조언을 듣고 화자는 이 길이 불행으로 이어질 수 있다는 것을 깨닫게 됩니다.

도착의 오류에 대한 논의: 목표 달성이 곧 행복과 동일시되는 것은 아닙니다.

오랫동안 추구했던 목표를 달성한 후 우울증 및 정신 건강 문제가 발생할 가능성이 있습니다.

결론 결론: 우주의 계획에 대한 신뢰

우주가 이미 완벽한 삶을 조율하고 있으며 필요한 교훈을 제공하고 있다는 확신이 있습니다.

개인적인 성장에 집중하고 인생의 교훈에 감사하도록 격려합니다.

욕구를 표현하지 못하는 잠재적 실패를 다른 교훈이 필요하다는 신호로 받아들입니다.