개인의 힘 되찾기: 자아 및 투사 극복하기

### 당신의 힘을 되찾으세요: 자아 및 투사 극복하기
* 🧠 자아는 종종 자신의 약점과 맹점을 감추기 때문에 **자아가 어떻게 작동하는지 이해하는 것**은 개인적인 변화를 위해 매우 중요합니다.
* 🔍 투사는 해결되지 않은 문제를 **다른 사람이나 외부 상황으로 돌리는 일반적인 기법**으로, 자기 발견을 위한 도구로 사용됩니다.
* 💔 "사람들이 당신을 지배하는 것이 아니라 **상황이 당신을 지배하는 것**입니다. 오히려 당신이 그들에게 힘을 주는 것입니다."
* 👀 무엇이 자신을 자극하고 무엇을 투사하는지 인식함으로써 **자신의 약점을 파악**하고 해결하여 궁극적으로 자신의 힘을 되찾을 수 있습니다.
* 💔 예를 들어, 누군가에 집착하는 것은 **내면의 충족되지 않은 욕구**에서 비롯되는 경우가 많으며, 이는 **잘못된 동경과 에너지**로 이어집니다.
* 👔 마찬가지로, 권위자와의 해결되지 않은 문제는 **그 사람에 대한 인식을 왜곡**하여 그 사람의 행동으로 인해 피해자가 되었다고 느끼게 만들 수 있습니다.
* 💰 마지막으로, 돈에 대한 집착은 금전적 성공이 자신의 가치를 입증해 줄 것이라고 믿기 때문에 **더 깊은 무가치감**을 반영할 수 있습니다.
* 📝 이러한 경향을 극복하기 위해서는 **일기와 자기 성찰**을 통해 자신을 다스리고 자신의 에너지를 이해하여 자신의 경험을 보다 객관적으로 바라볼 수 있도록 하는 것이 필수적입니다.

개인의 약점을 파악하고 해결하면 개인이 외부의 영향으로부터 자신의 힘을 되찾을 수 있습니다.

Hey, in this video, I'm going to be talking to you about how you can stop giving your power away to other people, other situations, and experiences. So, when it comes to transformation work and doing ego work and working with the ego, we have to really see the areas that we are weak, okay? And the biggest problem with this is the ego doesn't want us to see our weaknesses because your ego is built upon your weaknesses. So, your ego will do everything it can to keep your weaknesses out of sight so that when it comes to doing transformation work, it's very difficult because we've got this persona, this ego that's constantly hiding things about ourselves because you don't want to see them. So, we can use techniques, ideas such as projection, right? So, projection, you're probably all familiar with, is when we give power or we project our own stuff onto something or someone else, onto something external usually. And when we do this, we can actually use the projection as a tool to tell us or show us what we need to work on if that makes

sense. So we're actually using reality and the difficulties we have and the projections we put out to tell us what my blind spots are. Because like I've said, your ego is going to hide your blind spots and your weaknesses from you. But we can look at the world, we can look at the things we get triggered by, the things that we project upon, and we can identify our weaknesses. When you identify your weaknesses, then you can actually fix them. And this is one of the most powerful parts of the ego, is that it doesn't want to show you them. So in this model, I'm just going to show you some examples, some general examples of how you're projecting and giving your power away. When you begin to see this, you can fix it, you can reclaim your power, and that's what this game is all about. So to begin with, I'm just going to show you these three examples. Let's say this is you, right? Um, I'll explain the lasers coming out of the eyes in a minute, and let's say this is all your unresolved stuff from the

past all your trauma, all the negative beliefs, just unlovable, you're afraid, and whatever else that went on for you, but you're blind to it, and you can't see it because you're looking outward. This is what I mean. This is your ego. It's always looking outward, doesn't see what's going on subconsciously unless you do a lot of work on it. And what we tend to do is we project all of this stuff onto people, onto situations. So what I like to say is that people don't have power over you, situations do not have power over you. You actually give them the power. Then it feels like, Oh, this person has power over me. No, you didn't realize that you were giving them the power because reality is neutral. You don't see things the way that they are; you see things the way that you are. It's one of the truest spiritual statements that you can really come to understand, okay? And so this model will help you understand that. So first example I've got here, let's say

this is a female. This is just some dude, some guy, and he's very attracted to this girl, right? This works in any dynamic you want. This is just an example. So, he's very attracted to this girl. He sees this girl, and he gets very obsessed with her. He almost puts her on a pedestal and puts so much power and energy into her, let's say, and he gets obsessed with her. Now, I'm sure some people, many of you, have been in this situation where you've gotten kind of obsessed with someone. Maybe it was in your teenage years, maybe it was when you were older, maybe even now you're going through something like this. The thing is that power that you're putting on that person does not belong to that person. They are not as amazing. They are not as amazing as you think they are. I'm sorry, you're burst the bubble. What's actually happening is you've got a lot of unresolved, unmet needs which you don't know about, and you're

projecting them out onto this person. So, you maybe didn't feel like you got the love you needed from one of your parents, so then guess what? It gets projected onto someone who resembles that. Sometimes, if you didn't feel like you got the love you needed from your mother, you would potentially project that onto other females as a general example. And then other things, you might just feel like you're unworthy, and you might somehow think, Okay, if I get with this person, they're going to make me feel good enough. None of these things work, and all you're doing is giving your energy away, and it actually doesn't work in attracting that person to you nine times out of ten. Putting someone on a pedestal just does not work, right? People want to feel they're on the same level. Nobody wants to date someone who's below them, but it's difficult to understand that when you're caught up in this dynamic. Um, you've probably heard that famous saying as well, If you treat her like a star, she'll treat you like a fan. That's

exactly it. So when we begin to withdraw our projections and we see, okay, this stuff in me that I need to resolve, and then actual fact that person doesn't deserve that much attention from me, nothing at all. You pursue in that person, there's a general attraction there, but not all the stuff you put on them. And if you actually heal this stuff and saw where really what you've got to do is you've got to look at what you're projecting onto them, really inquire about with journal about it, shadow work, all these types of things, and then begin to see how these things are a part of your character and how you can begin to kind of get these needs to make yourself right because you, underneath all of this stuff, you are all the love and value anyway, you're already it, you don't need to displace it. The problem is you don't see it in yourself. Another example I've got here, let's say this is your boss at work, made him try to look angry, just more sad. So let's

say this is your boss at work, and you think your boss is always giving you a hard time. He's always on your case, and it just makes your life very difficult. I mean, there may be a little element of that, but a lot of the time, we're also projecting a lot of our unresolved stuff around authority. A lot of us have issues around authority as well. Maybe your father was a disciplinarian or something, or you had some rough time with authority growing up. So, you took all this unresolved stuff, and now you project it onto anyone you perceive as being an authority, and it changes the way you interact with them. Every little thing they do, you see that as though, Okay, this person's out to get me. Why is he so bad to me? or she or whatever. Most of the things you see aren't actually there. You're just zoning in on them based upon your own unresolved stuff. It's crazy. It's like you've got this lens, and you only choose to see certain things, and you block out everything else. How absurd.

is that so instead of just seeing things as they are objectively, which is where we want to get to, which is constantly putting meaning and giving out power away to things that don't deserve it. And the final one I got on here was just money, just another common popular one. A lot of people give, get, can get obsessed with making, saving money. Now I'm not saying there's anything wrong with this again, but again sometimes, a lot of the time, we have unresolved needs. We think we're worthless and we might feel like when I get all this money, I'm going to be worthy. People are going to like me. I want to be popular again. Usually, we're just projecting a lot of our stuff onto this external object that doesn't belong there. And the way you can start to do this work is just to look at the things that you got obsessed about and really begin to question if that obsession is kind of necessary. Maybe you can still go and pursue this girl without being obsessed about her. Maybe you can still have a boss without

always feeling like he's out to get you. Maybe you can still pursue money without being obsessed about it, and maybe if you did it the way I'm telling you, everything would happen a bit more easily and a bit more smoothly. What we're trying to do here is we're trying to become more objective. We want to become the witness or The Watcher of experience. That might feel a bit bland, but it's not. It's a place of power because then things don't control you; you have control over them. You can let yourself go a little bit in certain situations. You don't always have to be this Observer, but you don't keep giving your power away to things that don't deserve it, and that puts you in a position of power. Okay, so every time you get obsessed with any of these things, think about that energy, right? That's energy you're giving away. I want you to reclaim the energy, and that'll actually help your ego begin to dissolve as well because the problem is you can't see your blind spots.

because you can't see your blind spots, you're just giving your power away all the time, and this is a problem. This makes you unhappy. So, journal about this. Think about this. Contemplate on this. The things that you're obsessed about, the things that you give your power away to, and try to see what is unresolved in you. Like, what are you seeking in these things? If you contemplate it enough, you'll get the answers. Another thing you can do is you can work on being more grounded. I might make another video on this. And being grounded means you're just more present. So, when you are around certain people or in certain situations, you just don't get pulled into them, right? You're solid. You know where you stand. You're just present. So, that's an important topic, which we'll talk about later. But that is everything I'm going to talk about in the video. I hope it helped you out. But until next time, God bless.

How to Stop Giving Your Power Away to Others (Reclaim your power)

Authentic Self Growth

자신의 힘 되찾기: 자아와 투사 이해하기

자아는 우리의 약점을 숨겨서 변화를 어렵게 만듭니다.

투사는 무엇이 우리를 자극하는지 관찰하여 우리의 사각지대와 약점을 파악하는 데 사용할 수 있는 도구입니다.

이러한 약점을 인식하고 해결함으로써 우리는 자신의 힘을 되찾고 개인적인 성장을 촉진할 수 있습니다.

우리의 자아는 종종 외부를 바라보기 때문에 자신의 트라우마와 부정적인 신념에 눈이 멀어집니다.

우리는 해결되지 않은 문제를 다른 사람에게 투사하여 그들에게 권력을 부여하지만, 실제로는 우리가 그 권력을 내어주고 있는 것입니다.

누군가에 대한 집착은 상대방이 우리가 생각하는 것만큼 훌륭하기보다는 우리 자신의 충족되지 않은 욕구에서 비롯되는 경우가 많습니다.

부모로부터 충족되지 않은 욕구를 투사하면 비슷한 사람에게서 사랑을 구하게 되고, 이는 종종 충족되지 않는 역학 관계로 이어질 수 있습니다.

누군가를 받침대에 올려놓으면 사람들은 같은 수준에서 느끼기를 선호하기 때문에 불균형이 생깁니다.

투사의 악순환을 끊고 자신의 가치를 인정하려면 치유와 자기 성찰이 필수적입니다.

해결되지 않은 문제를 기관 수치에 투영하기

많은 사람들이 훈육적인 부모와 같이 과거에 해결되지 않은 문제로 인해 권위에 대해 어려움을 겪습니다.

이러한 해결되지 않은 짐은 권위자에게 부정적인 감정을 투사하여 그들의 행동에 대한 왜곡된 인식을 야기할 수 있습니다.

또한, 돈에 대한 집착은 자신이 가치 있고 인정받고 싶다는 욕구에서 비롯되는 경우가 많기 때문에 투사와 해결되지 않은 욕구의 순환을 더욱 영속화합니다.

돈을 추구하는 것이 꼭 집착일 필요는 없습니다.

자신의 경험을 객관적으로 관찰하면 통제력을 되찾는 데 도움이 될 수 있습니다.

건강하지 않은 집착으로 낭비하는 에너지를 되찾으면 자아를 해소하고 사각지대를 명확하게 볼 수 있습니다.

다양한 상황에서 현실에 집중하면 부정적인 역학 관계에 빠지는 것을 피하는 데 도움이 됩니다.