자아: 복잡성의 다섯 가지 층

### 자아를 이해하는 5가지 복잡성의 층위
* 👶 1단계: 자아는 환경에서 통제하거나 느낄 수 있는 것을 말합니다. **만지지 않고 통제할 수 없는 것**은 자아의 일부가 아닙니다.
* 👩 2단계: 자아는 육체를 넘어 추상적인 개념과 사회적으로 구성된 식별자로 확장됩니다. **청소년기에는 타인이 나를 어떻게 인식하는지에 대한 집착**이 두드러집니다.
* 👨 레벨 3: 자기 정의와 세상이 우리를 바라보는 시선 사이에 긴장이 있어 **스트레스와 불안**으로 이어집니다. 자아는 우리 자신에 대한 자기 정의 역할을 하며, 우리는 종종 이야기로 자아를 보호합니다.
* 🧠 레벨 4: 자아의 개념은 경험, 환경, 문화에 따라 우리가 만들어낸 임의적인 정의입니다. **자아는 우리가 사회적 종으로서 기능하는 데 도움이 되는 유동적인 구성 요소**입니다.
* 🧘 5단계: 자아는 없으며, 내가 존재한다는 믿음은 환상입니다. 현실은 **무한한 정보의 흐름**이며, 이 환상을 꿰뚫어보고 존재를 무한한 존재의 바다에서 현현하는 것으로 경험하도록 마음을 훈련할 수 있습니다.

자아의 개념은 신체적 통제부터 사회적 구성, 자아 방어, 자의적 정의, 궁극적으로는 존재의 착각에 이르기까지 다섯 단계로 전개됩니다.

- What's going on in the YouTube land? Mark Manson here. If you've spent quite some time on YouTube, you've probably come across these videos where experts explain a particular concept in five different levels. So, they start by explaining it to a child, then to a teenager, then to a college student, and then to a postgraduate student, and then to an expert. I think Wired started this. The things you assume are simple topics or simple concepts, there is an infinite amount of complexity beneath them. So, I wanted to try that today just with the concept of the self. Yes, the self. There are five layers of complexity just for our understanding of oneself. So, stay tuned because I think the last one will leave you speechless. (fast-paced rock music) All right. So, level one, explaining the concept of the self to a child. It's actually very simple. Everything you feel or control in your environment is part of you. So, I can control my hand. That's part of me. If you can control your foot, that means it's part of you. If you can feel something happening when you push against your chest, that means your chest is part of yourself. And your self is separate from the rest of the things in the world because you can't control the chair without touching it. You can't control the light without pressing the switch. So, anything you can't control without touching it is not part of you

- for a teenager. So, for now, you have grown a little. You have some hair on your private parts, and you are probably starting to understand that your self is not simply limited to your physical body. There are certain abstract concepts that represent yourself that are untouchable or intangible. So, the fact that you are compassionate or a good friend, or good at biology, or have musical talent, these abstract concepts come to define you in the same way that, you know, your height or weight or physical appearance also define you. They are also a kind of abstractions more based on the social. You know, I was born in Austin, Texas. That's part of me. I like video games. That's part of who I am. I live in New York. All of these are socially constructed identifiers that determine who our identity is. Once you discover these abstract points of yourself, they are a source of obsession. They are something that constantly worries you. Do they think I'm smart? Do they think I'm nice? And a good friend, maybe I was a bit silly. Maybe I'm not as smart as I thought. These thoughts start to consume us around our adolescence because much of our sense of well-being is based on how others perceive us, right? And so, in this sense, the self is not purely physical, nor abstract, but something that is socially negotiated or tested based on how other people react to us or how the

I can think that I am intelligent, but if every person I come across treats me like an idiot. Then that stresses me out a lot because it raises the question that maybe I don't really know myself. Level three, - - What's up, brother. - explain the concept of oneself to a university student. Then we discuss how there is this tension between our self-definition and how the world comes to see us and how this can generate a lot of stress and anxiety in our lives. We also have certain mechanisms of psychological defense that protect our sense of identity. So, if I believe I am intelligent, but everyone treats me like a fool. Then I will start to tell myself stories to protect my self-definition. I will say: These people are, I am not the fool. These people are all the fools. Or if I see myself as a compassionate and kind friend, but all my friends treat me badly, then I will tell myself stories like, well, maybe I am not compassionate enough. Maybe I just need to be even kinder because that's the kind of person I am. This is the Freudian definition of the ego. The ego is basically our definition of ourselves for ourselves. And then we tend to protect that definition, either by pushing other people away or just lying to ourselves about what other people say. The word ego has had a bad reputation over the years, but the thing is we all need a bit of healthy ego, to some extent. A

Who you are, feeling very comfortable with the traits you have, and who you are as a human being in the world. And you are not afraid to defend it. We all need a bit of a healthy ego where the ego becomes less healthy and becomes very toxic when our definition of ourselves deviates quite a bit from reality. If I start to think I am a trapeze artist even though I have never been on a trapeze, that is not a very accurate self-definition based on my real experiences or what I do in the world. But if I believe it strongly enough, I will start defending it with all sorts of lies and coping mechanisms and emotional outbursts that made me dysfunctional in the world. So, what Freud accurately pointed out is that many emotional dysfunctions in the world, and many people who struggle in their relationships and struggle to get along with others, is because they have a poor definition of themselves and are simply protecting it from reality. This was a very profound insight, and that's why Freud is so important. And then he went on and talked about penises all the time. So that's why we make fun of him. It's okay. Level four, - - Hmm. - explain the concept of self to a graduate student. So, the concept of self is actually just an arbitrary definition. Like anything else, you know, it's like I have my definition of what friendship is. Maybe you have a different definition of what friendship is.

Friendship is something that we all develop definitions of based on our experiences, our environment, the culture we grow up in, and the things we are exposed to. There is no correct definition of friendship. We all have slightly different definitions based on what we have gone through in life. The same is true for self-definition; there is no correct definition of ourselves. We all invent it as we go along. So, this fluidity of the self is actually just another psychological mechanism that keeps us stable in the world and in our environment. The brain probably needed to invent a concept of the self or invent an ego because an ego helps us function as a social species. It helps us determine, are we treating ourselves fairly? Is someone taking advantage of me? Am I being threatened by a group in some way? If we didn't have an ego or if we didn't have a sense of self, it would be almost impossible to determine these things. And so, in that sense, the ego is just an evolutionary adaptation of our minds. It is something we just invented at some point, and it's not even really real. Level five, expert. (Group of people singing) There is no self. You do not exist. And the belief that you exist is just an illusion that your mind spins. And that is almost impossible to stop for a long period of time. There is nothing in particular. Everything is simply an incessant interflow of information that occurs at the subatomic,

Trillions of bits are processed and converted into patterns that create this illusion that the self exists, that something exists at all. You can train yourself to see this, feel this, inhabit this. You can train your mind to see through its processes to begin experiencing reality, not as the self or the ego, but as another manifestation in this infinite sea of existence; everything you love or care about is simply a temporary cessation of this imagined separation between things. Life is transitory and poorly defined. There is no such thing as death. Nothing lasts yet, nothing is lost. That's because everything is present and has always been; you are this, and this, and this. Make sure to like and subscribe, fuckface. (fast-paced rock music)

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자아를 이해하는 다섯 가지 수준

YouTube의 전문가들은 이제 자아를 어린아이에게 자신이 느끼거나 통제하는 모든 것으로 설명하는 것부터 청소년에게 집착의 원인이 되는 타인의 인식에 따른 자아의 사회적 협상에 이르기까지 자아의 개념을 다섯 가지 수준의 복잡성으로 탐구하고 있습니다.

이 새로운 접근법은 단순해 보이는 자아의 개념 이면에 있는 무한한 복잡성을 드러내는 것을 목표로 합니다.

외부 인식이 자아 정체성에 미치는 영향

자신을 바라보는 시각과 다른 대우를 받으면 스트레스와 불안이 생길 수 있습니다.

우리는 종종 자아상을 보호하기 위해 심리적 방어 기제를 사용하여 다른 사람을 비난하거나 자신의 행동을 정당화합니다.

자아라고 알려진 이러한 자기 정의는 건강한 정체성을 유지하는 데 중요합니다.

건강한 자아를 갖는 것은 중요하지만, 왜곡된 자아상은 정서적 기능 장애와 인간관계의 어려움을 초래할 수 있습니다.

프로이트의 명성은 논란의 여지가 있는 주제에 대한 집중으로 가려졌지만, 잘못된 자아 정의의 영향에 대한 프로이트의 통찰력은 심오합니다.

우정과 자아는 개인의 경험과 문화에 따라 형성되기 때문에 하나의 정확한 정의는 없습니다.

자아와 자아의 개념은 우리가 사회에서 기능하고 타인의 대우를 결정하는 데 도움이 되는 심리적 메커니즘입니다.

자아는 궁극적으로 마음이 만들어낸 개념이지만, 우리가 세상을 탐색하는 데 도움이 되는 진화적 적응입니다.

현실을 경험하기 위한 마음 훈련

수조 개의 처리된 비트가 자아와 존재에 대한 환상을 만들어내지만, 마음을 훈련하면 이를 꿰뚫어보고 현실을 다르게 경험할 수 있습니다.

모든 것이 항상 존재하기 때문에 삶은 일시적이고 잘 정의되지 않으며, 진정한 죽음은 없습니다.

이 메시지는 자아를 무한한 존재의 바다에서 또 다른 현상으로 보도록 격려합니다.