Ladies and gentlemen, I think there is a big difference between being strategic and just not being good at math. I really don't want to mention terms like 'dividend distribution' or 'single allowance.' Hello everyone. It's your Laundry Auntie here. I received a really interesting question after a long time.

Isn't the background CG? Isn't it chroma key? Seriously, guys, this is truly my real home, where I actually live every day. It's not just a studio setup. Alright, let's get started with what we have planned.

It's a bit early in the morning. It's nine o'clock right now, so I might be a bit puffy, but let me go ahead and read the letter for you. Hello there? I'm a 34-year-old single woman, and I plan to remain single for life.

I've dated and almost got married when I was younger, but due to various reasons, here I am now at the age of 34. I'm currently stable in my career, find it enjoyable, and want to continue pursuing it. I also have many family responsibilities to manage.

While I was in a relationship, it lacked intense passion. However, there are issues that might be resolved with the right opportunity and enough time. Even then, it never really overflowed with emotion. Being single isn't really bad, so I don't have any plans to get married.

I have four high school friends who know all about my situation. We met in our freshman year and have kept in touch ever since. After finishing high school, we decided to save money for a trip, putting aside 50,000 won a month. Now, after 12 years, we've saved quite a bit of money, enough for some big plans.

We've been using this money for weddings, bridal showers, and funerals, giving 1 million won each time. However, we haven't gone on a trip yet, which is something we still dream about. Now, a friend is about to have a baby, so it seems a trip is out of the question.

I've never received any bridal shower money, and most likely, I probably never will. I haven't attended a funeral yet, so the money I've received and will receive remains zero. There will only be shared expenses like childbirth, first birthdays, and other such occasions, with no personal gains whatsoever.

Recently, a friend's husband opened a BBQ restaurant, and they suggested using our pooled money for a wreath, an envelope, and perhaps a congratulatory card. I thought to myself, it's not even her own business, it's her husband's new venture. For the very first time ever, I felt that supporting a husband's business was really too much to ask.

We had a bit of a disagreement, but thankfully, another friend mediated really well, and we each decided to handle it individually, in our own unique ways. From my perspective, with jobs, husbands, and other commitments, and issues like childbirth arise, if we can't all travel abroad together as a group, I'm really not sure why we need to keep saving this money.

Honestly, even if they give me the same million won, as a single person, I feel like I might only lose out. Maintaining friendships since high school by investing 50,000 won a month is fine, but as time goes on, circumstances and positions change.

And as I start to feel that my friends aren't considering me at all, I begin to wonder whether saving this money each month might be becoming more of a loss for me than a benefit. Am I too calculative? In fact, my parents both needed surgery, and during that challenging period, I received no visits or help from anyone at all.

Not a single penny. Then suddenly, when the topic of a gift for a husband's business came up, I began reflecting deeply on my position and had various thoughts. Please make sure to read my story. Thank you. That's the letter. I guess I've already crossed the line.

I'm not single, but reading this letter makes me feel really disappointed. It's disappointing. If you've been friends since high school, that's a genuine and true sisterhood, wouldn't you agree? It is truly disheartening when both parents have undergone surgery and friends neither visit nor send cards.

I mean, it's not like they had some simple cosmetic surgery or just a minor procedure, isn't that right? It's not like a facelift. Then, not getting a gift for your husband's business opening feels off. Naturally, after you're married, your husband and you are a package deal.

You don't separate my business from my husband's business. After all, it's all coming from the same pocket. So, for married friends, it's only natural to share everything. It's the same with this channel too. Although it carries my name, it belongs to all of you as well, my friends.

If you weren't watching, this channel would just be like a secret diary shared on Cyworld, hidden away. The shares belong to me, you, my husband, and also he shows up occasionally whenever needed. When we unpack the rice, my husband has a significant share, so it's a package deal, a genuine partnership, a real collaboration.

But let's see, just how many years has it been since the high school senior year wrapped up? If you've saved 50,000 won until you're 34, that's almost 10 million won. With four people, that's over 4 million each. Indeed, it's a substantial amount of money.

Even with weddings or bridal showers, a lot of money remains unspent. Honestly, this could become something significant, a real opportunity for growth and success. Everyone, I think that being strategic and lacking math skills are completely distinct and unrelated concerns altogether. Some might say, 'Why bother with friends pooling money? Just end it,' but I think it's about more than just money, it's about trust, support, and camaraderie...

Whenever money is involved, even in apartment elections, there should be clear standards and records kept meticulously, with precision, to avoid any confusion. That's why such issues inevitably arise, don't they? Laws change with the times, adapting to new realities and circumstances, so why hasn't your friendship evolved and grown more in all these many years that have gone by?

From high school until now, it's been 17 long years. The world has changed twice over, hasn't it? They've built roads and tunnels, redeveloped everything around us, transforming the landscape. But sticking to the same old rules from when you were kids leads to these problems, doesn't it? It really hinders growth and adaptation in our rapidly evolving world.

It's not that your friendship is as thin as paper, like a tissue, causing these issues, but rather the outdated and old-fashioned way you approach things. It's because the way you spend money hasn't been updated, causing instability and issues that could easily be resolved with a new approach.

How many years has it been since your child was born? How old are you now? Situations, values, and relationships have evolved significantly. Naturally, relationships will inevitably shake and shift. It's expected for things to change. Especially with crucial matters like marriage and childbirth, these are undoubtedly the biggest influencing factors.

When we are facing life's most crucial and significant events, how do we exactly decide to utilize this shared financial fund that we have? It creates these awkward and difficult issues that are often hard to bring up. If uncomfortable feelings or emotions arise, you must address them quickly to keep things going smoothly.

What began as a simple friendship gathering has now turned into a money pool because finances are involved. Instead of approaching this emotionally, like "I feel bad, I'm upset," we need to propose a thorough and comprehensive reevaluation of this money pool.

There are four of us right now, but this is meant for eight people, isn't it? We saved up money to eventually go on a trip later. We're not paying taxes here, are we? It's not like we're paying taxes.

Hey, I feel bad. I'm leaving this group. Give me my money back. That's not the best way to handle this situation at all. It's not like we should just cut ties and never see each other again. First, what do your friends truly know about this?

Do they know that you almost got married but unfortunately broke up? Or are they aware that you've gone ahead and made a bold declaration that you'll never, ever choose to marry? If you haven't made this declaration, from your friends' perspective...

they might think you're overreacting, like, "Why is she doing all of this when she'll eventually get married anyway?" They might see it as an overreaction, which is why it's very important to clarify things properly. Hasn't the purpose of our exchanged money changed over time? We definitely need to discuss this in detail.

Four thousand bucks isn't just a dog's name, right? If the money used to go strictly to celebrations, then why are we not discussing in great detail how exactly it's being used now? We need to discuss thoroughly about how to spend it beyond that. It's not just about the money; I've grown in this relationship significantly, and much more.

The disappointment has grown tremendously, just as much as the interest on that money has increased over time, significantly. When I think about it deeply, there won't be issues like weddings or baby showers for me to worry about in the future, thankfully.

So, I need to create my own celebrations, my own events, things that truly matter to me. This isn't about being forced to contribute out of obligation; we're friends who genuinely care about each other. I don't want to use terms like 'single allowance' or 'unmarried dividend'.

Those words aren't classy or elegant enough for us. As friends, we truly require a sophisticated and refined term that beautifies and enhances our unique and special friendship, something akin to 'Single Celebration Day.' For singles, let's come together to celebrate with love, respect, and mutual understanding, offering some wonderful benefits.

Or should we call it something else, like 'Light Partnership'? But that sounds too much like an insurance company. That sounds like an insurance company, doesn't it? Sorry, I got a bit carried away. Using English seems a bit off; let's be patriotic...

Independence Fund? It's money I've set aside to live independently in my future. Let's support living well and celebrate you. Doesn't that sound nice? My Path Support Fund, something like that, you know? Isn't it wonderful how warm and friendly it is among friends? So, let's keep the vibe easygoing and relaxed, shall we?

Don't talk about it too seriously or harshly. Maybe over a drink when the mood is right⋯ Bring it up naturally. You've been friends for 10 years, so it shouldn't be hard to talk about this. I don't want to say it's all about money, that it's already over and done with. When money's involved, things can get complicated really quickly.

I think it's important to have clear standards and to be a bit more honest about how I really feel, even when it's uncomfortable. At 34 years old, you're the same age as our editor who's cutting this video. Honestly, our editor seems brand new to me.

At this age, your thoughts might change a hundred times over. Marriage? A hundred times? You can't get married a hundred times. At the age of 34, there's still an abundance of time to meet someone new, fall deeply in love, and embrace a fresh start.

Don't act as if life is over, as if you're 340 years old. Sis, I have no desire now, but tomorrow, it might just burst out unexpectedly. I don't even know what tomorrow or the day after holds for me. As I live life, I find my thoughts and feelings change daily, unexpectedly.

I'm so busy worrying about myself all the time. Though, I'm sure you're not like that, dear sister. I'm someone with clear standards and values that are guiding my life. If my story now seems off to you, I do sincerely apologize.

But the real worry is, once I voice thoughts like staying single, everyone around me seems to know about it immediately. Words hold immense power, they truly do. So, when I've said something significant, today's feelings might completely change by tomorrow.

I might think, 'Should I try marriage or not?' But the words I've spoken, they linger persistently and constantly in my mind... It's hard to take back words once they're out, and I might end up ignoring my own small, personal thoughts.

So, don't lock yourself too hastily into the values, principles, and beliefs that you've set for yourself. Keep an open mind always. I also have a group of close friends from '84. There's a group of us, about eight in total. Even with just four people, it's quite chaotic. Now, just imagine when it's all eight of us?

Out of eight, six have kids now. You think it's just one kid? Some have three. We all go on trips. When we travel, everyone brings their kids. You wouldn't believe how happy the husbands are. Everyone leaves together. Isn't it almost twenty people?

It's a madhouse when we're all together, like a refugee camp. But it's not annoying or unpleasant, it's absolutely hilarious. We're all older now and can't party as hard as we used to, though we try. Seeing us sprawled out from exhaustion is funny. Once you're over forty,

There are all sorts of stories that people share. Some stories come and go, while others involve having kids and raising them. Arguing with husbands, it's a chaotic scene. You remember the friend who had a kid early? Well, that kid's nearly as tall as me now. It's just a funny, chaotic mess, but in a good way.

Of course, there were gaps in between for us. You know, when the kids are really young, it's tough to travel or meet up. But as time goes by, things slowly change, and eventually, we start meeting up again, just like you mentioned earlier, before.

Right now, it really feels like there's nothing in common with my friend, almost as if our lives have completely diverged and taken different paths. Life is essentially the same for all. It might seem like you'll never travel together or see each other again, but those feelings of distance do eventually pass.

It's almost like magic when the right time comes around, although it won't be exactly like our high school days. We adjust to each other's differences over time, and while there are some regrets, it's something I have to accept as part of life.

Then, that relationship continues to grow, and in ten years, no joke, ten years just pass by like a breeze. Eventually, a moment arrives when we come together as we did in the past. I truly wish you consider carefully and nurture those valuable connections without trying to change them into something else.

Alright, so that's it for today with Laundry Auntie. Keep going! Cheers.

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이 여성은 자신의 안정적인 커리어와 가족에 대한 책임감을 설명합니다.

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