강박적인 자기계발: 더 나은 삶에 대한 파괴적인 집착

### 강박적인 자기 계발의 함정
* 😊 자신이 관심 있는 일을 더 잘하는 것을 보는 것은 기분 좋은 일이며, **삶의 다양한 측면에서 더 유능하고 유용하게 만들어 줍니다.**
* 🌐 인터넷 자기계발 커뮤니티는 종종 자기계발을 인생의 어려움에 대한 독립적인 해결책으로 홍보하여 **더 이상 어려움을 겪지 않아도 되는 지점**에 도달할 수 있다는 믿음을 심어줍니다.
* 👑 많은 성공한 사람들은 일반적인 자기계발에 집착하기보다는 **특정 기술이나 영역에서 탁월한 능력**을 발휘하여 자신의 지위를 달성합니다.
* 📚 실제 경험 없이 사회적 상호작용에 대한 광범위한 독서와 같은 **강박적인 자기계발**은 오히려 역효과를 낳을 수 있습니다.
* 🏰 마치 성벽 안에서 끝없이 칼을 갈고 있는 동안 밖에서는 **실력을 발휘해야 하는 현실 세계**가 기다리고 있는 것과 비슷합니다.
* 🗡 이 사이클에서 벗어난 대부분의 사람들은 **완벽을 추구하면서 고립되어 있는 것보다 불완전한 기술**을 가지고 인생의 도전에 직면하는 것이 더 낫다는 것을 깨닫습니다.
* 📖 실제 경험을 쌓는 것의 가치를 잘 보여주는 추천 도서로는 **크리스 해드필드의 '우주비행사의 지구 생활 가이드'**가 있습니다.
* 🎧 가장 다양한 오디오북을 제공하는 Audible은 **한 달에 1크레딧과 Audible 오리지널 2개**를 포함하는 **30일 무료 체험**을 제공합니다.

강박적인 자기계발은 실제 경험과 성공을 방해할 수 있으며, 단순한 이론과 향상보다 균형과 행동의 필요성을 강조합니다.

- One of the best feelings in the entire world is the feeling of getting better at the things that you're interested in. If you're starting to get into the gym, it feels really good to actually see yourself getting stronger. Whether that's visually, or the fact that you can bench more pounds. Getting stronger and hitting new records is at least half the fun, if not all the fun, of going to the gym. If you're a piano player and you've been practicing your improvisational skills, it feels really good to be able to just make a banger of a melody in like five minutes. It feels good to walk around life with a certain level of competence. You've put in the work, you're better at certain things than most people. Competence makes you more useful to yourself, to your family, to your community, and it kind of makes the world a better place if you think about it. But if you've spent pretty much any time

on the internet whatsoever, you've probably noticed that there's a culture that exists on Reddit and on YouTube, and on bodybuilding forums that sees self-improvement as its own standalone hobby detached from any particular interest or a goal. And it's used almost like a widely prescribed antidote for a crappy life. You feeling down in the dumps, try self-improvement. Oh damn! your dog died. There's this self-improvement book that I heard is really good. You should go pick it up and read it. Damn, that sucks dude, your wife left you? There's this bald self-improvement YouTuber that gives really good advice. You should give him a try. And that's either a good thing or a bad thing. I don't think you can really bash the sentiment because improving yourself is obviously a noble and worthwhile aim. Like what else are you gonna do? Do like get worse? But one thing that I do think is destructive

is that these internet self-improvement communities seem to either intentionally or unintentionally sell this idea of self-improvement kind of being the answer to everything. They sell this idea of being able to improve yourself to a point where you don't really have to deal with life struggles. You can eventually improve yourself to a point where everybody loves you because you're so charismatic, you have such a rocking body, everyone's just impressed with your matte DIA Vela biceps. I'm not ripping on mat DIA Vela; those things are huge. You'll eventually make so much money that you can pretty much buy anything you want. And all this stuff sounds really great; who wouldn't want all that stuff. But as soon as you say it out loud, it becomes pretty clear that this type of thinking almost stems from a place of insecurity of conditional happiness. It comes from a certain dissatisfaction of where you are now. Self-improvement therefore

becomes kind of like a vehicle that will take you towards this fantasy, this perfect life that
you've always dreamed. But if you look at some of
the most successful people on planet earth, I can guarantee you they
didn't get to where they were by just being really
into self-improvement. Usually they get there by being really fricking
good at something. Bill Gates was obsessed with coding. Billion Musk, What's he not into. If you look up to these types of people and you want to be somewhat like them, you have to realize that
they're not obsessing over their perfect morning routine and figuring out how to
like stack certain vitamins so that you can see through walls and unlock some sort of third
eye of truth or something. That stuff is useful, but it's only useful if you're already doing something. One of the funniest examples of self-improvement being super
counterproductive or unhelpful is people who read a lot of
books about social interaction.

And I'm totally not speaking from experience. It seems like common sense that the best way to get better at socializing is to socialize. To go out on a Friday night instead of spending your time playing video games. But there was a point in my life where I didn't really socialize at all, and all I did was read books like How to Win Friends and Influence People, The Like Switch, and Models by Mark Manson. And it's almost like I was an alien trying to learn how to socially interact with people while I was locking myself in my house, not getting any exposure to people. It's like the perfect example of obsessive self-improvement not doing anything to help me improve. The very thing that I was trying to improve was being sabotaged by the fact that I was cerebralizing it, theorizing about it, instead of just getting out there and getting experience. Now, the books that I just mentioned

are helpful, and I've recommended
them on the channel before, but they're only helpful if the vast majority of your time is spent out there in the
real world, just living. If all you watch is
self-improvement videos, every book you read is
a self-improvement book, and self-improvement is your main hobby, it's almost like you're a
Knight in the middle ages, and you spend like your entire life deep within the castle walls, obsessively sharpening your sword and optimizing your equipment. Meanwhile, there's a war raging on outside the castle walls, and the kingdom really needs your help. Maybe the princess got
captured by a dragon or something like that, but you're just sitting there inside making sure you have like
the perfect equipment, and you're doing tons of push-ups and stuff, and making sure you're in shape, but you have no clue how to fight any of
the monsters out there. You've never been on an adventure before.

So it's like you have the
sharpest sword in the world, but no idea how to use it. And you're running out of time. And what most people who
eventually break out of this self-improvement obsession, eventually figure out is that it was far better to hack and slash their way through life with a dull sword than to spend your entire
life inside with a sharp one. Now it would obviously be pretty stupid if you never sharpened your sword. If you never picked up a book that suggested a different
way of doing things, if you never questioned
your current lifestyle and what you can do to improve it, but get out the door, go make some mistakes, go try some things, go live life, and sharpen your sword along the way. This video was sponsored by Audible. And I really wanna use this opportunity to recommend a book, one of my favorite books that has absolutely nothing
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by Chris Hadfield. And even though it has the
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self-improvement book at all. Chris Hadfield is a Canadian astronaut and the former commander of the
international space station, and his life is a great
example of the fact that he didn't spend a lot of time obsessing over self-improvement. He just had a goal and a dream and an obsession. He was out there in the real
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Why self improvement is ruining your life

Created by Joey Schweitzer

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피트니스나 음악과 같은 취미나 기술에서 발전하고 있다는 느낌은 능력과 유용성을 가져다줍니다.

자기계발은 종종 Reddit이나 YouTube와 같은 플랫폼에서 인생의 난관에 대한 보편적인 해결책으로 홍보됩니다.

이러한 자기계발 문화는 고귀한 것으로 여겨지기도 하지만, 광범위하게 적용될 경우 잠재적으로 파괴적일 수도 있습니다.

자기계발 커뮤니티는 자기계발이 인생의 모든 문제를 해결하고 보편적인 존경과 성공으로 이어질 수 있다는 생각을 조장합니다.

하지만 이러한 믿음은 불안감과 조건부 행복에 대한 열망에서 비롯되는 경우가 많습니다.

실제로 진정으로 성공한 사람들은 대부분 자기계발에만 집중하기보다는 특정 기술과 전문성을 통해 목표를 달성합니다.

실제 경험 없이 자기계발에만 시간을 소비하는 것은 사회적 성장을 저해할 수 있습니다.

자기계발 콘텐츠와 책을 지속적으로 소비하는 것은 실제로 생활하고 사교하는 것만큼 효과적이지 않습니다.

마치 실제 세계인 성 밖으로 한 발짝도 나가지 않고 전투를 준비하는 것과 같습니다.

인생의 여정을 포용하기: 다른 관점

자기계발에 대한 강박관념은 실제 삶을 살아가고 경험을 쌓는 데 방해가 될 수 있습니다.

크리스 해드필드의 "우주비행사의 지구 생활 가이드"는 실제 경험을 쌓고 실수를 하는 것의 중요성을 강조하는 귀중한 책입니다.

다양한 오디오 북을 제공하는 Audible은 인생을 최대한 살면서 배우고 성장할 수 있는 좋은 기회를 제공합니다.

Audible 멤버십을 해지하면 무료 오디오북을 포함한 전체 오디오북 라이브러리를 유지할 수 있습니다.

실제 책보다 오디오북을 더 많이 청취한 크리에이터가 가장 좋아하는 스폰서입니다.

또한 크리에이터는 새로운 장소로 이사 중이며 곧 더 많은 동영상을 게시할 예정입니다.