- One of the best feelings in the entire world is the feeling of getting better at the things that you're interested in. If you're starting to get into the gym, it feels really good to actually see yourself getting stronger. Whether that's visually, or the fact that you can bench more pounds. Getting stronger and hitting new records is at least half the fun, if not all the fun, of going to the gym. If you're a piano player and you've been practicing your improvisational skills, it feels really good to be able to just make a banger of a melody in like five minutes. It feels good to walk around life with a certain level of competence. You've put in the work, you're better at certain things than most people. Competence makes you more useful to yourself, to your family, to your community, and it kind of makes the world a better place if you think about it. But if you've spent pretty much any time

on the internet whatsoever, you've probably noticed that there's a culture that exists on Reddit and on YouTube, and on bodybuilding forums that sees self-improvement as its own standalone hobby detached from any particular interest or a goal. And it's used almost like a widely prescribed antidote for a crappy life. You feeling down in the dumps, try self-improvement. Oh damn! your dog died. There's this self-improvement book that I heard is really good. You should go pick it up and read it. Damn, that sucks dude, your wife left you? There's this bald self-improvement YouTuber that gives really good advice. You should give him a try. And that's either a good thing or a bad thing. I don't think you can really bash the sentiment because improving yourself is obviously a noble and worthwhile aim. Like what else are you gonna do? Do like get worse? But one thing that I do think is destructive

is that these internet self-improvement communities seem to either intentionally or unintentionally sell this idea of self-improvement kind of being the answer to everything. They sell this idea of being able to improve yourself to a point where you don't really have to deal with life struggles. You can eventually improve yourself to a point where everybody loves you because you're so charismatic, you have such a rocking body, everyone's just impressed with your matte DIA Vela biceps. I'm not ripping on mat DIA Vela; those things are huge. You'll eventually make so much money that you can pretty much buy anything you want. And all this stuff sounds really great; who wouldn't want all that stuff. But as soon as you say it out loud, it becomes pretty clear that this type of thinking almost stems from a place of insecurity of conditional happiness. It comes from a certain dissatisfaction of where you are now. Self-improvement therefore

becomes kind of like a vehicle that will take you towards this fantasy, this perfect life that
you've always dreamed. But if you look at some of
the most successful people on planet earth, I can guarantee you they
didn't get to where they were by just being really
into self-improvement. Usually they get there by being really fricking
good at something. Bill Gates was obsessed with coding. Billion Musk, What's he not into. If you look up to these types of people and you want to be somewhat like them, you have to realize that
they're not obsessing over their perfect morning routine and figuring out how to
like stack certain vitamins so that you can see through walls and unlock some sort of third
eye of truth or something. That stuff is useful, but it's only useful if you're already doing something. One of the funniest examples of self-improvement being super
counterproductive or unhelpful is people who read a lot of
books about social interaction.

And I'm totally not speaking from experience. It seems like common sense that the best way to get better at socializing is to socialize. To go out on a Friday night instead of spending your time playing video games. But there was a point in my life where I didn't really socialize at all, and all I did was read books like How to Win Friends and Influence People, The Like Switch, and Models by Mark Manson. And it's almost like I was an alien trying to learn how to socially interact with people while I was locking myself in my house, not getting any exposure to people. It's like the perfect example of obsessive self-improvement not doing anything to help me improve. The very thing that I was trying to improve was being sabotaged by the fact that I was cerebralizing it, theorizing about it, instead of just getting out there and getting experience. Now, the books that I just mentioned

are helpful, and I've recommended
them on the channel before, but they're only helpful if the vast majority of your time is spent out there in the
real world, just living. If all you watch is
self-improvement videos, every book you read is
a self-improvement book, and self-improvement is your main hobby, it's almost like you're a
Knight in the middle ages, and you spend like your entire life deep within the castle walls, obsessively sharpening your sword and optimizing your equipment. Meanwhile, there's a war raging on outside the castle walls, and the kingdom really needs your help. Maybe the princess got
captured by a dragon or something like that, but you're just sitting there inside making sure you have like
the perfect equipment, and you're doing tons of push-ups and stuff, and making sure you're in shape, but you have no clue how to fight any of
the monsters out there. You've never been on an adventure before.

So it's like you have the
sharpest sword in the world, but no idea how to use it. And you're running out of time. And what most people who
eventually break out of this self-improvement obsession, eventually figure out is that it was far better to hack and slash their way through life with a dull sword than to spend your entire
life inside with a sharp one. Now it would obviously be pretty stupid if you never sharpened your sword. If you never picked up a book that suggested a different
way of doing things, if you never questioned
your current lifestyle and what you can do to improve it, but get out the door, go make some mistakes, go try some things, go live life, and sharpen your sword along the way. This video was sponsored by Audible. And I really wanna use this opportunity to recommend a book, one of my favorite books that has absolutely nothing
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international space station, and his life is a great
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Why self improvement is ruining your life

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Inaction is a Slow Death.

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