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### 변화하는 자기 계발: 습관부터 성과까지
* 🧠 약속을 지키지 못할 때마다 **자기 신뢰와 자신감이 떨어지고**, 이는 **에너지와 존재감에 부정적인 영향**을 미칩니다.
* 🌅 반대로 **자신과의 약속을 지키면 자신감이 생기고** 다른 사람들이 무의식적으로 감지할 수 있는 긍정적인 기운이 퍼집니다.
* 📅 자기 계발에 열성적인 사람이라면 **새벽 5시에 일어나 매일 명상하기**와 같은 야심찬 새 달 목표를 세울 수 있지만, 이러한 목표를 꾸준히 달성하지 못하면 **패배감**을 느낄 수 있습니다.
* 😞 예를 들어, 어느 날 새벽 5시에 일어났는데 **다음 날 잠이 들면 실망감이 하루 종일 지속**되어 부정적이고 비효율적인 생활이 반복될 수 있습니다.
* 📉 이러한 주기는 종종 자기계발 과제의 압도적인 특성에서 비롯되는데, **더 많은 노력을 기울일수록 실천은 줄어들고 결국에는 자신감과 기운을 잃게 됩니다.**
* 📒 보다 효과적인 접근 방식은 습관 추적에서 매일 달성한 모든 것을 **'완료 목록'에 기록**하는 것으로 초점을 전환하는 것입니다.
* ✨ 이렇게 하면 **모든 작은 성취가 전반적인 성장에 기여**하기 때문에 완벽하지 않은 날에도 발전과 자신감을 유지할 수 있습니다.
* 🎉 한 달이 끝날 무렵, 이 노트에서 자신의 성취를 검토하면 **자신감과 기운을 크게 얻을 수 있으며, 작고 꾸준한 행동이 큰 결과**를 가져온다는 사실을 증명할 수 있습니다.

자기 계발은 계획뿐만 아니라 성과를 문서화하여 자신감과 긍정적인 에너지를 쌓을 때 성공할 수 있습니다.

Every time you say you're going to do something but you don't end up doing it, you lower your confidence. In other words, you teach yourself to not trust yourself. This, in return, negatively impacts your energy, aura, presence, whatever you want to call it, and people around you can sense it—not consciously, but unconsciously. On the flip side, every time you say you're going to do something and you actually do it, you build your confidence. In other words, you teach yourself to trust yourself. This, in return, positively impacts your energy, aura, presence, whatever you want to call it, and people around you can sense it—not consciously, but unconsciously. So, with that in mind, let's assume you're a self-help junkie. You read all the bestsellers, listen to all the podcasts, watch all the YouTube videos. Now, nothing wrong with this per se, but now let's assume it's a new month and you're gearing up to make it the best month ever. For this new month, you decide you're going to take charge of your life and commit to the following habits: sleep

at 10 p.m. wake up at 5:00 a.m. meditate 20 minutes a day take 10K steps deep work 4 hours a day and breath 30 minutes great habits right you bet if you were to apply these habits consistently then there's no doubt that you'll be able to turn your life around and steer it in a more positive direction but the issue is most people including me at times say they're going to do X but then don't actually end up doing X this in return leaves them worse off than they would have been if they hadn't set these habits in the first place because they lose Aura to illustrate let's use the habit of waking up at 5:00 a.m. which is a great habit for sure but let's assume you commit to this habit and wake up at 5:00 a.m. on the first day but on the second day you don't get up at 5:00 a.m. instead you

snooze your way to 8:00 a.m. What happens? Well, if you're like most people, you'll wake up with the taste of defeat in your mouth, feeling lousy, miserable, and like the day is already wasted because you weren't able to get up early and used the quiet hours to move your life forward. This feeling, in return, will stay with you more or less for the entirety of the day and color everything you touch with it. The big consequence of this is you typically attract more of what you feel, so if you feel defeated, you'll attract more defeat. It's just how the game of life do so. Whereas otherwise you would have woken up at 8 and had the entire day to make magic happen, you now wake up with defeat and filter your entire day through this frame. This results in you not really getting anything done. This is one of the biggest problems with self-improvement. It fills your task list with positive habits and routines that are very impactful, but the

more you take in, the more you commit to, the more you commit to, the less you do, the less you do, the more Aura you lose, the more Aura you lose, the more ineffective you become. All because you become what you practice, and with self-improvement, what you're often practicing is defeat, AKA telling yourself you're going to do X but not doing it consistently. Such as the bitter pill most don't want to swallow, but it's a pill you must become conscious of so you can put it down and pick up something new instead. So, with above all noted, you're probably wondering, Okay, I see your point, Ted, but what's the solution? And when it comes to solutions, you can come up with the obvious ones that everybody talks about, such as bulldoze your way through, be relentless, practice many habits, do less, only commit if you're 100% sure you're going to follow through, otherwise the consequences are not worth the effort. And all these solutions are great, they work, but in my opinion, there's an even

better way for the vast majority. What's the better way, you ask? Instead of coming up with new habits and focusing on what you're going to do, scrap all that and focus instead on what you actually get done. In other words, put down the habit trackers and pick up a fresh new notebook instead. Inside this notebook, you want to date it each day and write down all the things you did that day to move your life forward. If you woke up at 5:00 a.m., write it down. If you put in 4 hours of deep work, write it down. If you studied copyrighting for 30 minutes, write it down. If you took 10K steps, write it down. If you meditated for 20 minutes, write it down. If you hit your nutrition goals, write it down. If you struck up a convo with a stranger, write it down. If you read your mindset folder three times a day, write it down. Get the point? If you do, then you'll realize that with each day, you wake up with blank

space from a position of power instead of being weighed down by all the [ __ ] you have to do, and your one and only mission is to fill up the day with quality inputs. This way, with every entry you make, you're building a real track record of actually pulling the required levers to move your life forward, and you have documented proof at Year's End. Even more importantly, you're no longer losing Aura because even on days you may not be able to wake up at 5:00 a.m., put in 4 hours to deep work, and read for 30 minutes because, well, life happens, you can still wake up at 8, put in 2 hours of deep work, and read 10 pages, or heck, wake up at 9, put in one hour of deep work, and read one page. This return makes a world of a difference because now you're building confidence day in and day out instead of losing confidence because even on your worst day, you can always do and write down at least one thing, no matter how small, to

move your life forward, and this, my friend, is what it actually takes. Because after all, not all days are going to be perfect, but it's tiny progress that leads to astronomical gains. Yippee! So if you're one to constantly fall on and off the wagon and feel like [ __ ] as a result, I encourage you to let go of the old way and try this way instead for the next month. In other words, commit to nothing but carrying a new notebook. Inside this notebook, you don't want to write a to-do list but a done list, meaning only write down what you get done to move your life forward. Even better, gamify it and see just how many quality levers you can stack inside each day for the month. Then at month's end, flip through your entries, see all that you got done, and experience the confidence and aura gains that come as a result. That's all for me. Thanks for watching, your friend Ted.

Self improvement is destroying your aura (do this instead)

Tej Dosa

자신과의 약속을 지키는 것이 미치는 영향

약속을 지키지 않으면 자신감이 떨어지고 에너지와 존재감에 부정적인 영향을 미치며, 이는 다른 사람들이 무의식적으로 느낄 수 있습니다.

반면에 자신과의 약속을 꾸준히 지키면 자신감이 쌓이고 에너지와 기운에 긍정적인 영향을 미칩니다.

자기 계발을 위해 야심찬 습관을 세우는 것은 좋지만, 이를 지키지 않으면 자신감을 잃고 전반적인 존재감에 부정적인 영향을 미칠 수 있습니다.

오전 8시까지 낮잠을 자다 보면 패배감에 사로잡혀 하루 종일 부정적인 기분이 드는 경우가 많습니다.

이러한 패배감은 생산성을 저해하고 자기계발 노력을 비효율적으로 만들 수 있습니다.

이 악순환의 고리를 끊는 열쇠는 100% 실천할 수 있다고 확신하는 경우에만 습관과 루틴에 전념하는 것입니다.

습관 형성을 위한 더 나은 접근 방식

새로운 습관에 집중하는 대신, 매일 실제로 성취하는 것에 집중하세요.

노트북을 사용해 아무리 작은 일이라도 매일의 성취를 기록하여 진행 상황을 기록하세요.

이 방법은 자신감을 키우고 힘의 원천이 되어 하루를 양질의 정보로 채우고 삶을 발전시킬 수 있도록 도와줍니다.

작은 진전이 인생에서 중요한 성취를 이루는 열쇠입니다.

할 일 목록 대신 한 달 동안 새 노트북에 완료 목록을 사용해 보세요.

그 과정을 게임화하고 월말에 성취도를 검토해 자신감과 동기 부여를 강화하세요.