성숙한 남성성: 힘, 목적, 그리고 여성을 끌어당기는 힘

### 여성을 끌어당기고 성숙한 남성성을 개발하는 진정한 길
* 💪 "남자로서 더 강력해질수록 **더 자유롭고 성적으로 매력적**입니다."
* 🔒 권력은 다른 사람을 통제하는 것이 아니라 **새로운 것을 시도**하고, **사회적 자본**을 갖고, **목적에 뿌리를 내리**고, **인격을 단련**함으로써 개인의 힘을 키우는 것입니다.
* 🚹 오늘날 많은 젊은 남성은 성적으로 좌절감을 느끼며 **지위가 여성을 끌어들이는 열쇠**라고 생각합니다.
* 🔴 그러나 남성성에 대한 이러한 **거래적이고 미성숙한 접근 방식**에는 결함이 있습니다.
* 🌟 여성은 **지위보다는 깊고 진실하며 안전한 남성성**을 더 중요하게 생각합니다.
* ♂ **성숙한 남성성은 도전을 통해 성장**하며, 삶은 항상 남성의 핵심을 시험합니다.
* 🚺 여성을 대상화해서는 안 되며, **남성성을 개발하고 다듬는 여정에서 소중한 파트너**로 여겨야 합니다.
* 📚 성숙하고 개방적인 남성성을 개발하고 인생에서 힘을 키우고 싶다면 **"용을 죽이는 심리학"**이라는 책을 읽어보세요.

강력한 남성이 된다는 것은 자유와 성적 매력을 키우고, 지위와 거래적인 접근 방식보다 개인의 힘과 목적, 성숙한 남성성을 강조하는 것입니다.

the more powerful you become as a man, the more free and sexually attractive you are. That's the bottom line, that's the true status, that's the true flex. Power is not power over other people, it is personal power. How able are you to go try new things, to do new things? How much Social Capital do you have, right? How rooted in your purpose, how disciplined are you, how disciplined is your character? Like, those are the things that really cultivate and protect power and personal power, and without personal power, everything is pure stagnation. You're just masturbating to PornHub, hitting your Vape, playing video games with the old homies, and you can't do anything. You just work a job you don't really like. If that is low power. So, a lot of young men today are sexually frustrated, they have trouble getting girls, they don't like the quality of girls they're getting into relationships with, and this has created a huge Rift in young men and really fueled a lot of the red pill community in the manosphere. I have some issues with the red pill.

Community, I really admire and appreciate the encouragement to start working out, to stop being the porn addiction, so starting a business, all the personal development stuff. I think is great, but the shadow side to personal development and this whole red pill Community is this overemphasis on status. Oh, go to the gym and make more money so you have higher status so you can get women. This is not only faulty in thinking, but it's also a very transactional and immature approach to masculinity, and I want to talk about both these things. If you follow enough of the red pill, you know life advice people and pick-up artists out there, you're going to start to think that women only care about status, that if you don't drive a nice car and you don't have money and you don't have the looks, that you're screwed. And this may only be right if you're at a club. Honestly, in my experience, I know beautiful successful men who can't even get women. I also know men who have almost no money who pull women left and

right status is like this like overly celebrated thing and I think it creates a lot of frustration in young men who don't feel high status and it's creates this limiting belief like oh I don't have the things so she won't like me. In fact, women care a lot less for status than they do for how deep, true, and safe you are as a human being. Let's get into a lot of this. This is the interesting thing and this is kind of the core piece of this video. I think that women's sense open-hearted mature masculinity. In fact, it is what they are wired to look for biologically and evolutionarily. Is can I trust this man? Is he strong inside of himself? Does he lead himself? Is he enjoying life? Is his heart open? When we get those things correct, when we're standing in our purpose, in our Dharma, we are connected to people, we are connected to our lives. We emit a vibration, we emit an energy that women sense and are attracted to. I'm gonna give you two scenarios for my

life not to brag, but to illustrate this idea. Okay, a few years ago, I went through a hard breakup. You know, and I had a lot of frustration towards her and towards women in general. I was alone for months, for months, traveling in my van, and I just couldn't meet any women. I was struggling with my purpose, what I wanted to do. I didn't feel very connected to other people, and I saw my ex, you know, posted on her stories with other guys, and I knew she was, you know, on a tear, really. And it created a lot of frustration and jadedness inside of me towards women, understandably. I know other men can relate to this. And long story short, all of a sudden, I started thinking like I didn't have enough status, so therefore I couldn't get women, or I needed to be a certain way, or I needed to do something different, or there wasn't the right women out there, that just this good woman didn't exist. Fast forward to, you know, the last few months of my life, and it feels like I am

connected to my life. I am connected to my community. I just finished writing a book. I'm celebrating, you know, and the amount of interest I garner from the feminine is like tenfold what it's ever been in my entire life. Um, and it's amazing, and it's also showing me, like, whoa, women are actually attracted to what you're putting out there, so what you're embodying, to the quality of your masculinity, the quality of your presence, far more than what you have or what you look like or what you say, right? They sense something deeper. Now, this is a very different message than what a lot of the pickup artists and people in the red pill community are speaking to. Many of these pickup artist type people are saying, Hey, get more status, dress in this way, look this way, use these techniques, and then you'll get women. But if those are the things that you're trying to gain, A, you're looking for the wrong type of woman, and B, you're looking in the wrong.

places, and if you feel out-competed, you feel sexually frustrated, you feel all these things. It's not time to, like, try to go learn more techniques to pick up women at the club. It's a terrible idea. It's time to go inward. It's time to develop your sense of purpose, your sense of direction, your sense of self-leadership in life. It's time to get healthier, to live more vibrantly, to be connected to brothers, to find a sense of purpose, to refine yourself, right? And through that, you know, intermingling with your community, building connections, real connections with the community, and that is where you're going to meet people, and that is where you're going to attract good women who actually come into your life and add so much value. There's different stages to a man's life, and I think the cocooning stage always precedes the blooming stage, okay? And I feel like I'm coming into the blooming stage where I have a lot more power, I have a lot more resources, I have a lot more social capital and interest.

from the feminine than ever before, but that wasn't always the case. And here's the thing: if you're not in the blooming stage, trying to be in it and trying to escape where you're at is only going to create anxiety, frustration, and a lack of steadiness and conviction inside of you that everyone will sense. When I talk about the cocooning stage, I'm not talking about just shutting your door and just like doing inner work, uh, no. It's about trying new things, going to new places, building yourself, building your business, growing through the challenges of the world, the challenges before you. Maybe it's leaving home, maybe it's building a business, maybe it's finishing your studies, like whatever it is, is growing through that and growing courageously, like approaching new people, going trying new things, going out to events, you know, growing in every way you can. Here's the thing: this video has a very subtle undertone of power. The more powerful you become as a man, the more free and sexually attractive you are. That's the bottom line.

the true status, that's the true flex power, is not power over other people. It is personal power. How able are you to go try new things, to do new things? How much Social Capital do you have, right? How rooted in your purpose? How disciplined are you? How disciplined is your character? Like, those are the things that really cultivate and protect power and personal power. And without personal power, everything is pure stagnation. You're just masturbating to PornHub, hitting your Vape, playing video games with the old homies, and you can't do anything. You just work a job you don't really like. Like, that is low power. A high power individual, right, is free. He is disciplined. He is dedicated. He is convicted. And he is confident because he has lived with courage his whole life. That is where power comes from, the courage to face fears, to face resistance, to do new things, to grow, to ever expand the boundaries of your kingdom, and cultivate the resources inside of it. That is what power is, and that is something that is a missing message in

the component of masculinity. And here's another thing I disagree with a lot in the red pill Community is this objectification of women as these manipulative, you know, self-centered, attention-seeking hosts. I think it's a terrible lens to see women through, and when you see women through that lens and you're angry at the dating market and you're angry at these things, like not only are you gonna push women away, but you're also not going to develop mature masculinity. Okay, I think women come into our lives to really develop and refine men, to cultivate you, to open your heart, to show your blind spots, to help you perceive an entire new world that is feminine in nature. The feminine brings so much Beauty to life, and she needs to feel safe and cherished and honored. I think that process of empathizing with the women and working with a woman and learning to lead a woman lovingly and refining your own sense of masculinity through the best reflection you'll ever get is one of the greatest gifts in life, and it's not to

be overlooked. You know, women, it's not just for sex and like some kind of companionship and teammate. No, like getting into a relationship is deep work, especially at the beginning. Your first couple relationships are there to really refine you and teach you and teach you about yourself and teach you about the other. And I think valuing that is something completely, again, completely missing in the red pill community. So I want to go a little bit deeper here on immature masculinity versus mature masculinity. And first things first, my friends, is masculinity grows through challenge. This is why I was saying the more courageous you can be in life, the more challenges you can face in your work, in your personal life, the more addictions you can face, the more problems you can solve, right? The deeper you become. Generally, when you grow through challenges, when you grow through fears, right, you grow deeper. You start to become more capable, you start to become more steady and consistent because you've worked through your indulgences, you've worked through your challenges.

you're coming more into your Dharma. Your Truth, your Center. This is what life tests. You gotta understand is life is feminine, and life is always testing the masculine, just like women and The Feminine are always probing and testing the masculine. Can I trust you? Are you steady? Are you capable? Are you consistent? Are you open-hearted? Are you full of joy or full of worry and despair and all these different things? They're testing to see, are you centered in your core, okay? There are two main forms of immature masculinity that I see, and most of us are or have worked through some combination of the two. On the one hand, there's the fragile and tight, you know, fragile masculinity, if you like, the need to control and hold up the world. They're always seeking to prove themselves. They're always looking for the approval for others. They react harshly, you know, that they have this feeling of tightness of excitement of pressure of anxiety of quickness in them. They're not slow and present and

more surrendered because they just haven't gone far enough yet. The other type of immature masculinity is this: the uncultivated and impotent type. These people are very wishy-washy, they're unsure themselves, they're insecure, they don't really know who they are, and they just kind of drift and coast through life. Most men, most boys, are some combination of the two. The Fragile is always tight because he is scared and he is insecure. He has not grown through the immense challenges and initiations of masculinity because he has not gone into that cocoon phase of facing life, you know, of being courageous. And without that, he doesn't feel deeply trusting of himself, deeply trusting of life. He has not surrendered into open and initiated masculinity, and you can feel this when you talk to these fragile type men, right? You don't sense a glowing vitality about them, you don't sense an open heart, a depth of emotion, a depth of feeling, a depth of willpower that perhaps a more initiated man, you know, expresses.

and I guess what I'm saying here is there's these two types of masculinity, and the more you can come into that mature, rooted, grounded, connected, open-hearted masculine at your Center by growing through challenges courageously, the more the feminine will be attracted to you. The more the feminine nature of life will reward you. Open, strong masculinity must be earned, but through earning it, you earn the rewards of life. Hey, I'm Christian. Thanks for watching Wisdom Warriors. We just dove into a lot there on transactional value, status, power, women, mature masculinity. Let me know where you want to go deeper. Also, if you want the full guide to coming into mature, open masculinity, to building power and resource in life, you should check out my book, The Psychology of Slaying Dragons. It's coming out in one month, and I'm so excited. I've been working on this baby for two years, and it really is the full detailed guide to a lot of what we talked about on this channel. Um, there's a link in the description to sign up to get free essays from the book.

and also be notified of the launch date. So make sure you sign up there. You know you're going to get some really high-quality content through that. And I will see you at the next video. Make sure to subscribe for more videos like this and let me know where you want to go deeper. Peace.

My thoughts on the red pill community

Wisdom Warriors

개인의 힘은 외적인 지위뿐만 아니라 자유와 성적 매력의 핵심입니다.

레드 필 커뮤니티가 지위와 권력을 강조하는 것은 잘못된 생각이며 젊은 남성들에게 좌절감을 안겨줄 수 있습니다.

여성은 지위와 권력보다 깊고 진실하며 열린 마음을 가진 남성성에 더 매력을 느낍니다.

어려운 이별과 좌절감은 화자가 여성에게 매력을 느끼는 방식에 변화를 가져왔습니다.

지위나 외모와 같은 외적인 요소에 집중하는 대신 개인적인 성장과 자기 계발에 집중하는 법을 배웠습니다.

목적 의식을 개발하고, 커뮤니티와 진정한 관계를 구축하며, 내면의 발전을 우선시함으로써 연사는 자신의 삶에 가치를 가져다주는 여성을 끌어들일 수 있다는 것을 알게 되었습니다.

남성성과 개인의 힘을 포용하기

'코쿤 단계'는 성장과 용기, 새로운 시도를 통해 개인의 힘을 키우는 시기입니다.

남성성은 여성을 대상화하는 것이 아니라 두려움에 맞서고 성장하며 경계를 확장하는 능력으로 간주됩니다.

여성과 공감하고, 사랑스럽게 이끌며, 관계를 통해 남성성을 다듬는다는 메시지는 인생의 소중한 선물로 여겨집니다.

미성숙한 남성성에서 성숙한 남성성으로의 여정

남성성은 도전과 두려움에 직면함으로써 더 깊이 있고 정서적으로 성숙해지는 과정을 통해 진화합니다.

미성숙한 남성성은 인정받으려는 연약하고 불안정한 유형과 자기 신뢰가 부족한 불확실하고 불안정한 유형의 두 가지 형태로 나타납니다.

대부분의 남성은 이 두 가지 유형의 조합을 경험하지만, 인생의 도전에 직면하고 열린 마음으로 주도적인 남성성을 포용할 때 성장합니다.

성숙한 남성성이 여성을 끌어당기는 데 미치는 영향

성숙하고 뿌리가 깊으며 열린 마음을 가진 남성성은 여성적인 삶의 본질에 매력적입니다.

인생의 보람은 개방적이고 강한 남성성을 개발함으로써 얻을 수 있습니다.

곧 출간 예정인 크리스천의 저서 '용을 죽이는 심리학'은 성숙한 남성성에 대한 자세한 가이드를 제공하며, 한 달 안에 출간될 예정입니다.