수줍음 극복하기: 자신감 있게 여학생에게 다가가기

### 두려움 극복하기: 자신감 있게 여자아이들에게 다가가는 방법
* 😌 고등학교 내내 부끄러움과 내성적인 성격 탓에 여자아이들과 대화하는 것이 두려웠지만, **이 모든 것이 정신 게임**이라는 것을 알게 되었습니다.
* 🌟 과거를 돌이켜보니 귀여운 아이였음에도 불구하고 불안감 때문에 여자아이들에게 다가가지 못했고, **고3이 되어서야 껍질을 깨기 시작했다**는 것을 깨달았습니다.
* ✈ 지금은 스웨덴에서 혼자 여행하면서 여자와의 거의 모든 대화가 긍정적으로 이루어지고 있으며, **자신감 덕분에 98%의 대화가 잘 진행**되고 있습니다.
* 💬 "실례합니다, 이름이 어떻게 되시죠?"와 같은 간단한 오프닝 멘트를 사용하고 대화를 이어갈 수 있도록 **흥미로운 질문**을 던지며 평범한 사람처럼 소녀들에게 다가가고 있습니다.
* 💖 저는 몇 분 후에 미묘한 시시덕거림을 섞어 억지스럽지 않고 자연스럽게 느껴지는 **진심 어린 칭찬**을 건네면 소녀들의 긍정적인 반응을 이끌어내곤 합니다.
* 🏋 자기 계발에 투자하는 노력은 **상호 작용과 매력 있는 여성의 자질**에 반영되므로 더 가치 있는 남성이 되기 위해 스스로 노력하는 것이 중요합니다.
* 🔍 다양한 유형의 여자들과 실험해 봄으로써 자신의 삶에 긍정적으로 기여하는 **양질의 파트너**를 찾는 방법을 배워 데이트의 여정을 즐겁고 깨달음으로 만들 수 있습니다.
* 🎉 소녀들에게 다가가는 설렘을 받아들인 것이 제 삶을 변화시켰듯이 여러분도 **안전지대에서 벗어나 동일한 보람**을 경험해 보시기를 권합니다.

여자아이들을 보통 사람처럼 대하고 자기 제한적인 신념을 극복하면 여자아이들에게 쉽게 다가갈 수 있습니다.

what is good boys. I'm going to be telling you why approaching girls is not scary. So, I used to be terrified to talk to girls all throughout my high school, even up until I was like 18, 19 years old. I was actually extremely shy and introverted, and just talking to a girl would generate all these negative self-limiting beliefs in my head that would hold me back from even doing it. So, if you're in this position, I completely understand what you're going through, and I know exactly how hard it can be. But you need to realize that this is all a mental game. See, when I was a kid, looking back, I didn't feel very confident about myself. I was always extremely insecure, but I was kind of a cute kid. Even when I was like 14, 15 years old, I could have easily gotten with a lot of the girls in my school, especially now after seeing the girls that I get with. Those girls from high school weren't, and I would have pulled every single one of

them, but I wish I could have known that and had that sort of confidence back in the day. But I was that kid who would get shy, get red in the face when I went up and talked to a girl. So, it just, I never even did it, and I never got anywhere. And I didn't really get with girls until my senior year, is when I first got pushed by my friend group to break out of my shell. The first girl that I actually hooked up with, I was kind of just shoved into a car, and it kind of just happened from there. But that's kind of how shy I was. And here I am now, I'm currently in Sweden. I like to solo travel and go to new cities and meet girls. And pretty much every weekend that I go out, I get with a new girl. It is that easy. And every single girl I speak to is nearly a positive interaction, like 98% of them. I have a great interaction. I'm not saying that every girl I talk to, I end up getting

with or sleeping with, but nearly every interaction goes well because of how I do it and everything that I've learned, and I'll share some of those things with you in this video. So, what you need to realize is that girls are actually extremely friendly, and they want to talk to people just like anyone else. You can't overthink it, and you can't pedestalize girls and make them seem like this thing that's like untouchable, 'cause really, if you just go to them and talk to them like they're a normal person, that's pretty much exactly how my game goes. And then I start throwing in some flirting later on. I was actually just experimenting with some new things this past weekend, and it worked extremely well. So, what I do is I just talk to them like they're a normal person. I say, Excuse me, what's your name? I've told this a million times on my channel, but that's my opening line. And then I just asked them some basic questions that are pre-loaded in my head, so I always know

what to say, and I usually go with something like, Where are you from, and what do you do? Do you work? Are you in school? And at that point, once you've asked those three questions, the conversation should just be flowing. You're going to understand their level of reciprocation, if they're interested in having this conversation or not. You can look at some of their body language cues, like is their body facing to you, are they interested, are they touching you, you know what I mean? A lot of little things like that will give you cues. And if they're facing away, their feet are turned in the opposite direction, and they're just looking at you with their head turned, they don't want to be in this conversation. Tell them, you know, it's a pleasure to meet them and go talk to someone else. It's really not that difficult. And what I noticed to elevate my game even more is that I throw in some flirting like 5 to 8 minutes in the conversation. It's very little subtle things. It's not like I go up to a girl

and say, Excuse me, you're so beautiful, 'cause I personally think that that's like not good game. That's my personal opinion. Some people disagree, and that's fine, but I like to throw in subtle little compliments later on in the conversation. And it's funny, I actually noticed that girls will do the same thing. So after I've been talking to them for like 3 to 5 minutes, a lot of the time if they're interested, they'll give me a compliment. One I commonly get is like my eyelashes. They say, Oh, your eyelashes are so long and curled. They're so pretty, whatever. And I'm like, Thank you. I mean, I guess as a girl, that's like a good thing, but guys, we don't really care. But so the thing is, you can give them like little subtle compliments. I would recommend doing something like, you know, something slick. It's just like, Your eyes are very beautiful, saying something like that, but later on in the conversation, not as an opener. Don't do those as openers. So I

have extremely positive actions by just treating girls like the humans that they are, like normal people, and then actually just going up to them and approaching them in a very respectful way. Like if they're not facing to me but I know I want to talk to someone, I give them a tap on the shoulder and say, Excuse me, and that's gone extremely well for me. And if they're looking directly at me, all the better, and then you don't need to do that whole tap thing, and you can even skip the Excuse me if you're making direct eye contact and you walk up to them. But that's pretty much my game, and since then, I have... I mean, the difference is night and day. I mean, of course, you need to be working on yourself, and you need to be improving to be a higher-value man, 'cause of course, it's the same thing with girls. You're not going to want to talk to the fat ugly girl, let's be honest. You want to talk to the hottest and prettiest girls, so it's

the same thing for girls. They want to be approached by the, you know, highest-tier males, right? So, the more work that you're putting in—going to the gym, looks maxing, improving on your mindset, your business, your social skills, reading, learning, developing—all these things are only going to help you in the long run and actually allow these conversations and the girls that you attract to increase over time. So, of course, there's personal work that goes into it, but I've seen guys who are really not that high-value who just go up and talk to girls, get so many, just because they're out there chatting. And you'd be surprised how easy it is to actually get these girls, especially out here in Sweden. Don't be coming out to Sweden, though, 'cause this is my spot. You can find another European country to come to, but this is my spot. Don't come here 'cause if I see you rolling up in my city, saying that you on my channel, I'm going to be upset 'cause this is my secret spot. But I'm giving it to

you guys, since you're early to my channel. So, it's for me in Sweden. I mean, it's super easy. I mean, sometimes you'll just be in a conversation, and you can literally just be like, Let's get out of here, just straight up out of the Crazy Stupid Love movie, right? Ryan Gosling just goes, Let's get out of here. That's pretty much exactly the game that I've developed over time. It's just very similar things to like the one from Spread, Ashton Kutcher, where he uses that exact line that I told you, What's your name? And then the one from Crazy Stupid Love where Ryan Gosling is just very cool in the club, and then he just chats with them for a little bit, makes them feel good, lets them talk about themselves, and then asks them to go home with him, and it works every time. So, I mean, that's what I've built my game off of, is those two movies pretty much, and it's worked extremely well. So, I hope this kind of breaks down some of your

self-limiting beliefs and allows you to start approaching girls and living the life that you want because girls are a super important part of life and self-improvement. If you do really want a high-quality girl in the future, you're going to need to experiment around and see what a high-quality girl is. After being with tons and tons of girls, I can very quickly identify a high-quality girl from a non-high-quality girl, and the things stand out so clearly over time. And these will be things that I missed out on in the moment, like years ago. I'll be like, I don't know if this girl is good or not, and now I'm like, Oh, that's clear as day. So, you really want to be able to experiment around and be able to pick a high-quality girl for the future if you do want to have a family and kids and a great marriage or whatever it is that you're going for, or just have a good girl that you can date that's not going to cause you headaches.

and take away from your life but add to it. So, being a little bit of a Playboy is never a bad thing, really feeling out the different types of girls out there, the, you know, the positives, the negatives, and identifying what you want in a relationship and what you want out of, you know, your female companion is super important. So, I hope you can start living the life that I've been having where, you know, talking to girls now is just something that I actually love doing and I look forward to. I don't have a single negative self-limiting belief when I do this. When I see a hot girl, I'm all excited. I just run over to them and talk to them, and that's pretty much how it is. And this can be the same thing for you. You just got to get out there and start doing it and watch how your life changes. All right, so if you got any value from this video, please like and subscribe, comment down below if you're going to start talking to girls, and I'll see you guys in the next one.

Overcoming the Fear of Talking to Girls

Sebastian Riccobono

여자아이에게 다가가는 것에 대한 두려움 극복하기

연사는 고등학교 시절 여학생들과 대화할 때 수줍음과 불안감에 시달렸던 자신의 개인적인 어려움을 공유합니다.

자신감을 키우는 것은 정신적인 게임이라고 강조하며 여학생들과의 기회를 놓친 것에 대해 반성합니다.

자신의 안전지대를 벗어나기 위해 노력한 결과, 결국 자신감을 얻었고 지금은 혼자 여행하는 동안 여학생들과 긍정적인 상호작용을 하고 있습니다.

여성을 지나치게 생각하거나 위계화하지 않고 평범한 사람으로 접근하는 것이 성공적인 상호작용의 핵심입니다.

화자는 간단한 오프닝 멘트와 미리 로드된 질문을 사용하여 대화를 시작하고 관심을 측정합니다.

몇 분 후에 상대방의 참여 수준을 파악하기 위해 바디 랭귀지 단서를 사용하여 미묘하게 시시덕거림을 도입합니다.

여성에게 접근하기: 개인적인 관점

화자는 오프닝으로 칭찬을 사용하기보다는 대화 후반부에 미묘한 칭찬을 선호합니다.

여성은 종종 몇 분간의 대화 후에 칭찬으로 보답한다는 사실을 발견했습니다.

화자는 어깨를 가볍게 두드리거나 직접 눈을 마주치는 등 여성을 존중하고 자신감 있는 태도로 다가가는 것이 중요하다고 강조합니다.

여성은 종종 높은 지위의 남성에게 끌리는 경우가 많으며, 시간이 지남에 따라 자기 계발을 통해 매력을 높일 수 있습니다.

특히 스웨덴과 같은 곳에서는 여성에게 다가가 대화에 참여하는 것이 놀라울 정도로 효과적일 수 있습니다.

연사는 영화 장면에서 영감을 얻은 성공적인 접근 방식을 공유하고 자신감과 여성의 기분을 좋게 만드는 것의 중요성을 강조합니다.

다양한 여자를 만나보는 것은 미래를 위한 좋은 파트너를 찾는 데 중요합니다.

시간이 지남에 따라 수준 높은 여자의 특성이 명확해져 더 나은 관계를 선택하는 데 도움이 됩니다.

자신을 제한하는 신념을 극복하고 자신감을 가지고 여자에게 다가간다면 만족스러운 사회생활과 의미 있는 관계로 이어질 수 있습니다.