20대 탐색하기: 인생의 교훈과 조언

### 20대 탐색하기: 코너 프랜타의 조언과 성찰: 20대를 위한 조언과 성찰
* 🎂 20대의 끝자락에 접어든 코너 프랜타는 20세 이후 자신이 경험한 개인적 성장을 되돌아보며 **이 10년간의 변화무쌍한 모습**을 강조합니다.
* 🌍 프랜타는 **세상을 탐험하고 새로운 사람들을 만나 다양한 관점을 얻는 것**이 중요하다고 강조합니다.
* 🎥 그는 **20대를 끊임없는 흥분과 파티, 사치의 시기로 묘사하는 영화**가 설정하는 비현실적인 기대치를 비판하며 많은 사람이 이러한 이상에 부응해야 한다는 압박감을 느낀다고 말합니다.
* 💸 프랜타는 **20대의 돈에 대한 상반된 조언**을 공유하며 경험에 대한 지출과 현명한 저축/투자를 모두 제안합니다.
* 👫 그는 친구를 사귀고 잃는 것은 인생의 자연스러운 과정이며, **진정으로 도움이 되는 친구를 찾는 것은 20대에 일어나지 않을 수도 있다**는 것을 인정합니다.
* ❌ 프란타는 **실수를 배움의 기회**로 받아들이고 **안전지대에서 벗어날 수 있는 기회**를 잡을 것을 권장합니다.
* 🧘 궁극적으로 그는 **20대에 길을 잃고 불확실성을 느끼는 것은 정상**이며, 누구도 모든 해답을 가지고 있지 않다고 강조합니다. 프랜타는 스스로에게 과도한 압박을 가하지 말고 **현재의 순간을 최대한 활용**하라고 촉구합니다.

20대에는 변화를 받아들이고, 실수를 하고, 경험을 추구하며, 사회적 기대에 굴복하지 마세요.

if you're feeling lost in your 20s, then this video is for you. So, I'm 29. It's the last year of my 20s, which is so weird to say. You never really feel like you're getting older, and you never want to be that cliche, that cliched older person being like, Ah, enjoy your youth, you're getting older, enjoy it, we're withering away, we're all decaying, enjoy the last of it. You never feel like it. You never really feel like you are that person or you'll become that person. Yet here I am, the end of my 20s are approaching. It's so weird. I can't explain it. I swear to god, I was like an 18-year-old filming youtube videos in my college dorm room yesterday. That [ __ ] crazy. I don't understand it. I'm just gonna allow this video to be a very open free space where I just talk about what I've learned, what I've been through, obviously from my perspective and my very unique situation.

but I hope it still resonates with you. Just a quick friendly reminder that I am going on tour next week, October 19th, Los Angeles, Minneapolis, Houston, Chicago, Orlando, New York. You can meet me on tour for my new book, reserve your tickets, place a pre-order, all on connorfrantabooks.com. Thank you. Should we um, no, we're not doing this, no, not those either. There's absolutely no doubt in my mind, your 20s are incredibly significant. So if you feel like your 20s are very heavy and they're giving you constant whiplash, frankly, they are. I'm a completely different person than I was at age 20. Completely different. Like, I mean, frankly, I was, I was in the closet at 20. I was a straight at 20. I had yet to really develop any strong individual opinions or really any individuality at all. I relied a lot on my friends in my early 20s. I relied a lot on people around me to tell

me what to think and to tell me who to be, and it wasn't until the middle of my 20s that I started really taking hold of my own self, my own future, my own thoughts, my own beliefs, and honestly, it's the perfect time to do that. You've most likely seen a little bit of the world, you've most likely met a unique set of people, and you can start formulating your view on all those things. So I advise you, and I know this isn't easy for everyone, but I advise you to see the world. I advise you to go on that road trip with your friend, to go to that country with your school, as many opportunities as you can take, even just to see a new city in your own state or a new city in your own country. Take it, go have a different perspective, see a different way of living. It really develops your take on the world, and exactly the same with meeting new people. Meet as many people and listen to them.

as much as possible. Getting comfy. Here we go. I'm an introverted person, so it's really difficult for me to meet new people and automatically open up to them, to be my full self with new people. But some of the best times in my life, some of the most memorable times, are the times that I did that, the times I just said, Forget it, we're going out and we're gonna have a big night. Or, and this is just a me thing, I one time I went to Africa with a charity, and it was with like 15 people I had never met. And the idea that I, that me myself, went to another country without knowing anybody or really what I was doing is lunacy. And it's some of the best memories I ever had was taking that chance and just like going for it, because at the end of the day, like, what's the worst that could happen if you take a chance? Well, I mean, you could die.

but really, taking chances are the only way that 
you are going to discover new aspects of yourself. You're not going to find yourself doing the same 
thing every single day. Switch up your routine, 
switch up your life. Change, change, and change 
again. Not this again. I blame a lot of this on 
movies, frankly. Movies make it sound like your 
20s are going to be the most exciting, thrilling, 
the peak, the absolute peak of your existence. 
Parties and luxury and money. All these films 
set truly an unrealistic expectation on a 
majority of people. Like a majority of people 
are in heavy debt. A majority of people can't live 
the way that they do in the movies. So naturally, 
you're gonna feel let down. I can see why so often, 
myself included, I just feel like I'm not living 
up to my own expectation. And that's because 
it's not even my own [ __ ] expectation. 
It's the expectation put on me that I didn't ask 
for. The government, capitalism, brainwashing. It's

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because of all of the experiences that you've had, 
the knowledge that you have gained along the way, that sounds pretty fun to me. I don't know about 
you. Again, I am the poster boy of privilege here, so I just was just pointing that out yet again. 
Make tons of mistakes, make all the mistakes. I mean, like maybe not on purpose. Don't go around ruining 
everything, but if you find yourself in a situation 
where you've really messed up, you've really done 
something wrong by all accounts, learn from it. 
Learn from your mistakes. Every time something has 
gone wrong in my life and I've corrected it, I just 
know that I'm most likely never gonna find myself 
in that situation again because I know exactly how 
I got there. And ultimately, not right away, 
trust me, not right away. Screw anyone who says look 
on the bright side right away, but eventually 
and inevitably, I'm almost always thankful 
that I messed up, almost always, most of the time. Be 
reckless, like not too reckless, but do things that

make you feel uncomfortable. Most of my regrets come from the times that I didn't do the bad thing that I got close to. It, I almost touched it, but then I walked away. Slowly, I can think of times that I've been offered drugs. I can think of times that I was asked to go to warehouse parties at 4 am, go get a spontaneous tattoo in another country. Is someone really mowing the lawn right now, ma'am? I'm trying to fail, and ultimately, sometimes I'm like, Connor, you should have just done the drugs. You should have regretted the night before. You should have gotten the weird tattoo. I'm honestly like, those are the things that shape a person, the times that they have done the semi-crazy thing. Life is so short, and you get to pick the path that you're on. The thing that's deemed crazy and the thing that's deemed abnormal is [ __ ]. It's fake. That's someone's interpretation of life. It doesn't have to be your interpretation.

money in your 20s is a difficult one because 
part of me wants to say if you have some spend it,   blow it all on fun things. There'll be more money 
in the future, just spend it because you have   it right now. But then the other part of me 
says save it, invest it, use your money wisely,   be an adult. And I think that's my rotted 29-year-old 
brain, and my 21-year-old self is like stop him,   somebody stop him. It is rare that I regret 
spending money on an experience. It is frequent   that I regret spending money on a possession, 
plane ticket to Montana, love it, fantasize   about it. Designer shoes that will ultimately 
go out of style within the next couple months,   pain, pain, and dread. You're going to make a lot 
of friends in your 20s, and you're also going to   lose a lot of friends, and both are good things. 
People are going to come into your life, and

they're going to exit your life, and that is 
natural, and that is normal. It's okay to wish   that some would stay longer, and it's okay to wish 
that some had never, never been there in the first   place, but what i've learned is that you 
won't find the best of them, you know, the   right friends, the ones 
that get you, the ones   that are there for you for the highs and lows.   If you don't go out and look for them, Jesus [ __ 
] Christ, here we are, another minute with another   weed whacker. Why does this only happen when I 
when I turn on the camera? Real friends, the ones   that will be there for you at your lowest lows 
and your highest highs, they'll be there laughing   with you, they'll be there crying with you. You may 
not find those in your 20s, you may find those in   your 30s or even your 40s. You have a whole life 
to live, and anything can happen along the way.

it's so hard to fully encapsulate this decade of your life because it is so turbulent. One day you feel like you're on top of the world, and the next you feel like you have no idea what you're doing. And that is so normal; no one has any clue what they're doing, not just in your 20s, in every stage of life. We're all just making it up as we go, we're all just winging it and hoping for the best. Despite what the internet may make you think, no one has it perfect, no one has a secret formula to the best life possible. Some people are just better at making it look easy or making it look pretty, or they too have been given way too much privilege. Ultimately, I think people need to stop putting so much pressure on themselves. You have an entire life ahead of you; this is not the only moment worth living. So stop putting so much pressure on yourself, but while you're here, you might as well have a [ __ ] amazing time. You might as

well do the crazy thing go on the road trip with your friend. You might as well kiss that stranger in that bar. You might as well get incredibly drunk with your friends on a school night. Like those are the times you won't forget. You may regret them but you won't forget them. It's the last year of my 20s and I think ultimately I'm just gonna make it count. If you enjoyed this video, make sure to click the thumbs up and leave a comment down below. Where are you at in your life? Are you in your 20s? Are you out of your 20s? What do you think about this period in your life? Let's have a discussion in the comments down below. If you're new to my channel, click subscribe, turn the notifications on. I make videos all the time. I'm constantly on Twitter, on Twitch, on Instagram. Connor Franta on the mall, go follow me. My new book, House Fires, is out in a week. Pre-order it at conorfrantabooks.com. I will love you.

forever thank you thank you thank you and I hope this helps some of you. I hope this makes you feel a little bit less alone, a little bit less loopy or uneasy. You'll get through it, trust me. Anyways, I love you. I hope you're doing well and I will see you super soon. Bye. What is happening? Hello.

it's not you, it's your 20s

ConnorFranta

서른 살이 된다는 것은 개인적으로 큰 성장과 변화를 알리는 초현실적이고 충격적인 일로 느껴질 수 있습니다.

20대는 세상을 바라보는 관점을 형성하기 위해 여행과 새로운 사람들과의 만남에 중점을 두고 자신을 탐색하고, 자아를 발견하고, 개인의 의견을 형성하는 시기입니다.

새로운 경험을 수용하고 기회를 잡기

낯선 사람들과 함께 외국을 여행하는 것과 같이 안전지대를 벗어나는 것은 인생에서 가장 기억에 남는 경험으로 이어질 수 있습니다.

자아를 발견하고 단조로운 일상을 피하기 위해서는 기회를 잡는 것이 필수적입니다.

영화가 주는 사회적 압박과 비현실적인 기대는 자신의 잠재력에 부응하지 못한다는 느낌을 줄 수 있습니다.

BetterHelp는 재정 지원 옵션과 함께 저렴한 온라인 치료를 제공합니다.

실수를 받아들이고 위험을 감수하는 것은 개인적인 성장으로 이어질 수 있습니다.

자신만의 길을 선택하고 틀에 얽매이지 않는 것을 포용하면 만족스러운 삶으로 이어질 수 있습니다.

20대를 탐색하기: 돈, 친구, 그리고 격동

20대에 돈을 쓸 것인지 저축할 것인지는 논쟁의 여지가 있지만, 경험은 물질적 소유보다 후회할 가능성이 적습니다.

친구를 사귀고 잃는 것은 이 시기의 자연스러운 과정이며, 인생의 어느 단계에서든 찾아올 수 있는 진정한 관계를 찾는 것은 괜찮습니다.

20대는 불확실성으로 가득 찬 격동의 시기이지만, 누구도 모든 것을 다 알고 있는 것은 아니며 최선을 다하는 동안 길을 잃었다고 느껴도 괜찮다는 것을 기억하는 것이 중요합니다.

기억에 남는 경험을 찾아 20대의 마지막 해를 최대한 활용하세요.

코너 프랜타는 시청자들에게 이 시기를 받아들이고 소중히 여기라고 독려합니다.

또한 자신의 새 책인 '하우스 파이어'를 홍보하고 시청자들에게 안도감을 선사합니다.