첫사랑: 최고, 최저, 그리고 배운 교훈

### 첫사랑의 롤러코스터: 자아 발견과 성장에 대한 개인적인 이야기
* 💔 화자는 고등학교 2학년 때 처음으로 사랑에 빠진 자신의 경험을 이야기하며, **당시를 인생에서 가장 강렬하고 행복했던 시기**라고 묘사합니다.
* 💑 그는 이 관계 이전에 여자와의 경험이 부족했던 것을 **자의식과 부모의 이혼, 어머니의 부재 등 가족 문제 탓**으로 돌리며 반성합니다.
* 🎢 이 관계는 **신혼 여행 단계**를 거치지만 결국 소녀가 이사를 가고 화자가 가족과 정신 건강에 대한 개인적인 어려움으로 인해 끝이 납니다.
* 📉 이별은 깊은 우울증의 시기로 이어지지만, **창업과 콘텐츠 제작 등 화자의 자기계발 여정에 촉매제 역할**을 하기도 합니다.
* 💼 이 경험은 성공적인 비즈니스를 창출하고 자기 계발에 다시 집중하게 하며, 화자는 **연애를 시작하기 전에 자신을 사랑하는 것**이 중요하다고 강조합니다.
* 🎯 그는 시청자들에게 **타인의 인정이나 행복에 의존하기보다는 개인의 성장과 행복을 우선시하라**고 조언합니다.
* 🎓 내레이터는 시청자들에게 **첫 연애에 너무 큰 의미를 두지 말고** 자신의 이야기를 통해 배우고 자기 계발에 집중할 것을 권유하며 마무리합니다.

고등학교 시절 첫사랑을 쫓아다녔던 그는 그 관계의 끝을 통해 자기애와 개인적 성장의 중요성을 깨달았습니다.

If you have never had a girlfriend, this is going to be one of the most important videos you've seen in a very long time. For me, it started in junior year of high school. I was sitting in class right at the beginning of the school year. I happened to see this girl across the room that was literally like peak standards in my opinion. When I tell you I didn't find any other girl as attractive as I found this girl, like it was bad. Now, for me, junior year of high school had started right after the virus. I can't actually say that on YouTube, but you know, the virus. And everyone was wearing masks. Now, I was wearing a mask and so was she. So, I only really saw from her eyes and above, but just that alone, I was like, Oh my gosh, this girl is like insane. So, what I did, and just out of nowhere, I went up to her and I just started talking to her. I asked her some questions and I can't remember what it was about, but I asked her a question.

that led her to have to like contact me later. So after I asked a specific question, I ended up getting this girl's snap, and that night we had talked for like the whole night just over text about random stuff. That like, I don't know, it was just like goofing around. So yeah, we're goofing off, and I would say the first like kind of move that I made, it was a really dumb move. So like, I definitely don't recommend doing this, but I started teasing her about this girl, or I mean guy, that I knew she had talked to in the past. Now, I don't think they had dated, but this guy was kind of known around the school as like being this like douchebag, I guess. And to be honest with you, I was so inexperienced. I had no other way to really think about how to bring up like dating or guys or anything like that. So all I could think to do was like, hey, let me just make fun of this guy she used to talk to. Bad idea, but besides the point, I think she liked.

me enough to kind of go with it because when I was bringing it up, she didn't seem upset. Now she was actually laughing at these jokes like way more than I would have thought. And that being said, this is all over text on Snapchat, so she's like saying hahaha. For all I know, she could have been completely straight-faced. But one thing that I've noticed when you really like someone is like you genuinely find them way more funny than they might actually be. And I swear it's like the chemicals in your brain just convincing you like, hey, like this person because you might be with this person, you know? So me and this girl were both extremely attracted to each other, which for me, I was a self-conscious guy who had never been talking to a girl before, even since elementary school. Like I had opportunities with girls to maybe date them and stuff like that, and I had crushes and all this, but I was always too self-conscious to ever actually act.

on it. So, this was like Euphoria to me. This is like probably one of the best feelings I had felt like ever, and I'm saying ever, like in my life. I was like, Oh my gosh, this is going too good to be like not work, you know what I mean. Now, being older, looking back on it, I know that even if things are going extremely well, it might not work, which I'll talk about later in this video, but just to continue, we're chopping it up. It's a great time. She never actually sent a picture of her face, which I thought was really weird, and I only saw the upper half of her face, so I was like, Bro, what if this girl was like really ugly below the mask, you know what I mean. So anyway, we're talking, and then I took one of the biggest risks, at least at the time. It was one of the biggest risks I felt like I had ever taken. It was really dumb, and I don't recommend it, but that night, I was in such a good mood. I was like, Bro, I

need to like entice this girl or something. So I, oh dude, I'm cringing thinking back on this. But, but I was in my garage and I, I didn't have a shirt on 'cause it was really hot. I was like, bro, I'm just going to send this girl an ad picture to see her reaction. Oh, it's so bad, but anyway, I did that. And I can't remember her response, but I know it was good. I think she saved the snap, bro. When I tell you, my phone, my phone, I threw that thing across the room in pure excitement. I was like, bro, I, I was, I was shell-shocked. Okay, anyway, we get past this night. I was smiling the whole time, like literally, like nothing could have been better. And the way that my school worked, we had A days and B days. So I would only see her about two, uh, three to two times a week. Yeah, 'cause it was 5 days a week going to school. In the class that she was in, I would literally try to prepare as much

as possible look as good as possible always just like trying to impress this girl. Funny enough, the class that we shared together, it was only one class, but it was actually like my least favorite class. I hated it. She was the only thing that made it good. Anyway, we can skip ahead a little bit. I think I'm getting too excited talking about this. I just feel like it's such a memorable time in my life. But anyway, um, we skip ahead like about a week, and then she asked to come over to my house. When I tell you, I have never been more excited, nervous, butterflies, happy, all of this in one. It was one of the most emotional roller coasters I've ever felt. And all it was was a little text that said, Hey, want to hang out or something like that, like very simple. I'm freaking out. Like, I don't know what to do. And by the way, when I saw this girl in person, she was even better than I thought. Like, she was better than I saw her online. She was better. She, she was like ideal. It was too

good to be true you know what I mean. It was too good. She had a great personality. She was extremely attractive. She was like everything that I ever could have wanted. She was kind of tall, and I, for some reason, like that too even though I'm not that tall. But yeah, it was the night that she was coming over. I think Squid Game had just dropped or something like that. I was like, This is a popular show, maybe she'll want to see it. And then that night, she came over. And that's the night that I fell in love. Like head over heels in love. It was the first time we hung out. Now looking back, I wasn't actually in love at that time, even though I did end up falling in love later. But to me, never experiencing a girl ever, like to me, that was like literally falling in love. So at this point, if you look at my brain as like a pie chart, you have like what I focus on. It's like school is like 20%, work, this, that, money, all like social media all

that stuff right she was probably taking up about like 50% of my mind space. Like half the time, I was thinking about her, half the time I was thinking about literally everything else. And a little bit later, I'll tell you why that was actually a really bad thing. But for now, it felt amazing. Like I was in the best mental state of my life. Anyway, we hang out a couple more times and I was like, Oh my gosh, I need to snatch this girl up. Like I need to ask this girl out, 'cause if I don't, someone else will and I could not, I just could not let this opportunity pass. She was the perfect girl in my opinion. So anyway, we hung out a few more times, like probably three or four. And I think it was on the fourth time I asked her, like over text, 'cause dude, I don't know why that it's like this nowadays, but you kind of have to ask a girl to be your girlfriend. I think she was actually hinting towards it. She was

like are you going to ask me, or I don't know, obviously we both wanted that. So eventually over text, once again, I think it was on Snapchat, I was like, Do you want to be my girlfriend or something like that? She said yes, and once again, it was another like Euphoria moment, like dude, my dopamine was at an all-time high. It was like a stock just shooting up or something like that, I don't know. So now we're a few months in, and everything is amazing, things are just going great. But little did I know it would start going downhill, and things would start getting bad. Before I get into that, I want to relate to you guys about this. So the reason I had felt so good and felt all this Euphoria is because I actually had a lot of problems throughout my entire life with my parents getting divorced, with me never really seeing my mom. I literally had mommy issues, and that's a real thing. It's basically where like if you don't see your mother or your father

whoever you basically crave some sort of attention, and I didn't know this at the time, but that's why I felt so insanely high whenever I was with her. It's because I was lacking that attention my entire childhood, and the other thing is, like as guys, I feel like you guys can relate to this too, but like in elementary school, middle school, I really didn't ever even try to get a girlfriend because I was so self-conscious, and it wasn't easy at all. Like, it was actually really hard, especially 'cause I would always talk to girls and get really close with them, but I would never take that step of asking them out, simply because I felt like I either looked bad, wasn't confident, like didn't have the nicest house, like anything like this. My honest advice to people that are going through something like that, like you guys, like the time will come, I can promise you that. The time will come, and I don't necessarily think you even have to be looking. I think you just have to be.

improving yourself as much as you can, because for me, I wasn't really looking when this happened. It really just came right in front of my eyes. I'm sure a lot of you guys can relate to this, but especially growing up, never really getting that girl or female attention is just honestly really hard. Even guys that are right now like in high school, I'm sure there's a lot of you watching this who have never had a girlfriend. You're probably sophomore, junior, even senior, maybe even graduated without ever having a girlfriend. And that can actually take a toll on your mental health. And the thing that's really hard to understand is that you don't need that attention. You really don't, even though it's so glamorized and feels like something that's completely necessary and everyone talks about, Oh, I lost my v-card at 16 or like 15 or whatever. It's just like it's not. It's not all that. I'm not saying relationships aren't great, especially mine. Like, it was great, but it will never

end well if you cannot learn to love yourself first, which is what I highly recommend to all of you watching this. You need to be completely content with yourself before you get into a relationship, and I stand by that. If you are not happy with yourself, let's say you're self-conscious, or you're just not where you want to be, I don't recommend getting into a relationship because you're going to rely on that person rather than relying on yourself. And the reason that hurts is because let's say things don't go right, like you might be in high school, middle school, whatever age, it's pretty likely that things aren't going to go right. So when you put so much reliance on someone, it can end up backfiring on you like crazy, and that's exactly what happened to me. So back with this girl, the love of my life at the time, um, those few months of my life went by, and this is known as the honeymoon phase, like the phase where everything is good, nothing's bad at all.

on both sides, there's no arguing, there's no fighting, there's no conflict at all. And this happens with most people, so be prepared for that. But anyway, something that got really planted in my head that hurt a lot was like, what's going to happen when it's over? So this girl, she actually had to leave, um, as soon as school ended, like had to go to a different state. And that just sort of dawned on me. Like every day after a certain point, after a few months went by, it was like one of the things that would kind of graze my mind. And I'm the type of guy that really thinks long term about things. So I was like, okay, this girl is leaving. I don't necessarily think she wants to stay with me if she leaves. So then everything at that time became literal, like push and pull, like the best of the best and the worst of the worst, because don't get me wrong, everything was so amazing. But that's actually what made it worse because I

knew it was all coming to so we're hanging out like two to three to even four times a week, and I'm getting sadder and sadder and sadder and things that my home started going wrong a lot of money issues and all this stuff that I talk about in my other videos, and then I get to an extreme low point in my life. This girl is about to leave, it's almost summer, my parents are struggling financially extremely bad, and I had a lot of family issues, and when I say a lot, I'm talking like life-changing family issues, like my stepmom who was like one of my main caretakers at the time had to go to the hospital for like nine months, just really bad stuff, and then it all hit me all around the same time. I pretty much lost everything, my stepmom, my real mom at the time had a brain tumor, my Grandma had brain cancer, not brain cancer, I don't know, some sort of cancer, I don't know what it was, my dad had no job, and everything was

horrible, like the worst time of my life. It was horrible. To top things off and make it even worse, this girl was done, like she didn't want to be with me anymore, and it was pretty apparent. Anyway, this got dragged on for a while until eventually we broke up, and I had never been more depressed, sad, upset in my entire life. Once again, stemming back to these quote-unquote mommy issues. Of course, this hurt really bad because I was lacking that motherly, not even motherly, but like just girl figure in my life. Like I said, my stepmom was in the hospital, and my actual mom was experiencing extreme health problems. So I was at an all-time low. It had never been worse in my life. Just in general, the feeling of that was the worst feeling I've ever experienced. I still feel that to this current day. That was the worst thing I have ever experienced in my entire life. I've been through really hard things, so this didn't make total sense.

where I think I can give you guys the best advice. Do not put too much reliance into one person. Like you, you truly do need to love yourself first. If you don't, you could go through the same thing that I did. Now, what's most important is, no matter what happens when things start to go wrong, it's what you do. For me, I got into entrepreneurship, I started making content, and I met you guys, which was the best thing I've ever done in my life. Which now, coming up to current times, has stemmed this business. Simplec, this business was literally stemmed to where I just started making products that help you improve yourself and look better, especially during that time after my breakup. That's like one of the main things I focused on, and it's the reason I even do anything relating to self-improvement now, because I was in such a bad place that I had to improve, or else I would have not been here right now. I don't know what would have happened. I was doing things to make my

hair look better like using salt spray. I was giving people tips online on Tik Tok, and I was getting 100,000 followers a month. Amazing upward momentum solely because I took my negative energy and all that depression and sadness and used it towards something good, which I think you guys should do too. It was the most improvement I've ever experienced in my life until probably right now, which deserves an entire other video. The level of improvement I started a business that started making six figures a month. It wasn't actually simple that was the business, it was a separate one, but this is the one I do now. It was life-changing, it literally set me on the path that would set up to be the rest of my life. This is the career I'm doing forever now because I took this pain and suffering and turned it into something that is actually worth anything, I guess. With all this being said, I have nothing against this girl. She's still amazing. I would still say I love this girl. She was the love of my life at the time, like I said.

at the time not anymore. I don't like want to be with her or anything cuz I'm way too focused. I've talked to a lot of different girls, and I kind of I I'm not there right now. Like I need to focus on myself like like I was saying. That's the thing I have to do, and trust me it's like it's actually working. Like this business is literally doing six figures a month, and my goal is to do a million a month, which is just crazy. But thanks to you guys, it's possible. Yeah, you just need to understand that you you cannot settle if someone doesn't want to be with you. You you might as well leave, and when that happens, it's going to hurt. When you get your first girlfriend, chances are to be completely honest with you, it's not going to work, and that's going to hurt extremely bad. And that's just because that's how life is. It's your first love, is your first love for a reason. It's very rare that High School sweethearts make it, and if you do, that's

a really great thing. Please, for me, like for me, for you, for the greater good of humanity. Just do what's best for you. Like, really, like, seriously, do not prioritize other people over yourself. You should never do that. And when things go good or bad, just make sure you act in the best way possible by improving yourself, improving the people around you, and improving your surroundings. Trying to make the most of it, because at the end of the day, this is a huge part of life, and it's going to hit you in the face one day. Pause. So, if you have never had a girlfriend in your entire life, it'll come, it'll happen, don't worry about it. But when it does, be prepared. I hope this story and this video is the reason that you succeed, maybe you marry this girl that you mean your first ever love. Like, I, I, I hate the fact that that probably won't happen, but let's be real, it probably won't. If it doesn't, just focus on yourself, my boy, focus on yourself. Anyway, good luck, guys. See you.

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기억에 남는 만남: 고등학교에서 사랑을 쫓다

한 고등학생이 팬데믹 기간 동안 마스크 너머로만 보던 한 소녀에게 푹 빠지게 됩니다.

그는 경험이 부족하지만 위험을 무릅쓰고 그녀를 놀리기 시작했고, 놀랍게도 강한 유대감을 형성하게 됩니다.

이 교류를 통해 그는 압도적인 행복감을 느끼고 연애에 대한 새로운 자신감을 얻게 됩니다.

사랑에 빠지는 기억에 남는 여정

한 남자가 한 여자와 사랑에 빠졌던 기억에 남는 순간을 떠올리며 민낯 사진을 보내는 것부터 여자 친구가 되어달라고 부탁하는 것까지.

그는 그녀가 자신의 마음의 절반을 차지한 것처럼 느껴질 정도로 그녀에게 열광했습니다.

그 경험으로 그는 나중에 그녀에게 너무 집중하는 것의 단점을 깨달았지만 최고의 정신 상태를 유지할 수 있었습니다.

한 청년이 자신감과 부모님 문제로 어려움을 겪다가 마침내 여자친구를 사귀게 된 행복감에 대해 이야기합니다.

그는 사랑을 찾는 데 있어 자기 계발과 인내의 중요성을 강조하며 다른 사람들에게 조언을 제공합니다.

연사는 연애 관계에 대한 사회적 압력을 인정하면서도 자존감과 정신 건강에 집중하는 것이 중요하다는 점을 강조합니다.

연애를 시작하기 전 자기애의 중요성

스스로 만족하지 못할 때 다른 사람에게 의지하는 것은 역효과를 낼 수 있으므로, 연애를 시작하기 전에 스스로 만족하는 것이 중요합니다.

연애의 허니문 단계는 놀랍지만, 특히 다른 개인적인 문제를 동시에 해결해야 하는 경우 최종적인 결말이 더욱 고통스러울 수 있습니다.

자기애와 정서적 안정에 우선순위를 두는 것은 관계의 기복을 헤쳐나가는 데 필수적입니다.

끔찍한 이별과 개인적인 어려움을 겪으며 자기애의 중요성과 타인에게 지나치게 의존하지 말 것을 강조합니다.

기업가 정신과 자기계발에 눈을 돌린 이들은 새로운 목적의식과 성공을 발견하고 궁극적으로 6자리 숫자의 비즈니스를 구축했습니다.

아픔이 있었지만 전 파트너에 대한 악감정은 전혀 없으며, 도전적인 경험을 통해 성장한 덕분이라고 말합니다.

자기 성장과 관계에서의 성공에 우선순위를 두기

개인적인 목표와 자기 계발에 집중하는 것은 로맨틱한 도전에 직면하더라도 매우 중요합니다.

연사는 자신을 저평가하는 관계에 안주하지 않는 것이 중요하다고 강조합니다.

첫사랑이 항상 지속되는 것은 아니므로 자신의 행복과 발전을 우선시하는 것이 중요합니다.