Ah, why is he an uncle while I am a girl? If you are listening to this conversation, please stop; it will become a big issue. Today, I want to share my thoughts on the challenges of dating someone with a significant age difference from a woman's perspective. While making this video, I reflected on the people around me who have married despite a considerable age gap, as well as my own experiences. Of course, there are couples where the woman is older and the man is younger, but it seems that, more often than not, the man is older. This may be because men tend to have a greater inclination to take responsibility and care for their partners, while women often seek protection and security. Therefore, I believe that among those in relationships with an age gap, it is more common for the man to be older. I will primarily discuss situations where the man is older than the woman. If you are considering dating someone you like but are unsure whether to refer to him as uncle or oppa, or if you are already in a relationship...

I often find myself wondering whether it's right to continue a relationship regardless of gender. I've heard people talk about this. Today, I would like to share my thoughts on these two points. First, I want to discuss the differences between an older man and a younger brother before starting a relationship. Have you ever heard that when a woman feels attracted to a man, age differences don’t matter? This suggests that there are men who can attract women regardless of age. 

I can relate this to my experiences with men whom I perceive as older and those I see as younger brothers. For example, I know someone who got married in their early twenties. I consider myself the first younger brother in this context. I meet various people while socializing in my neighborhood. These relationships are not ones I can easily cut off if I don't feel a connection, as they involve multiple people. Therefore, I have to be cautious, knowing that I will inevitably run into them at least once or twice a year.

There are people with varying age differences, some being seven years younger and others having even larger gaps. Regardless of how they present themselves to me, I can only categorize them as aunties or uncles. This is because they themselves want to change the way they are addressed, starting from oppa (older brother) to more socially accepted titles. At some point, they expressed their frustration, saying, I’m single, and mentioned that they hang out with friends who have been on dates or are involved with people in their twenties. Recently, they went on a blind date and said that a person in their twenties liked them. In expressing this, they also want to hear me call them oppa. Earlier, I mentioned that women feel attracted to men and that age differences don’t matter. This means that their charm needs to be perceived, but the way I see these individuals...

Before fully appreciating the charm of their appearance, many men, particularly older ones, seem to prefer dating women in their 20s or younger. This perception makes it difficult for them to avoid being categorized as uncles. The second point is caution. Among the people I know, there are those who have married despite being the same age or having a significant age difference. Some of them are even in my family. A common statement from these women is, I confessed, and I was the one who approached him. This means that dating someone with a significant age difference is not an easy matter for men either. The weight of the relationship can vary depending on the age difference. Therefore, among men who may have an interest, once they learn the woman's age, they inevitably become cautious. So, I asked men who have gone through dating and eventually married, and they said things like this.

People say that at that age, you are really blessed. They talk about how, in the end, meeting someone is about yourself, and when you actually meet, you start to wonder if you can handle it. I feel a mix of emotions, including guilt towards someone who hasn’t experienced the things I have gone through. So, I was told that I have to be careful. I'm sure that these aspects will be noticeable to women even before meeting. If a woman truly likes you and feels a connection, she will sense that you are being cautious, and that's when the phrase I like you comes up. There may also be external appearances, but beyond that, it really depends on how I treat the other person and how they respond. This distinction between someone you are attracted to and someone who feels more like an older man becomes clear. I understand that attraction is there, but is it really okay to pursue a relationship with such an age gap? Is it worth continuing?

Is it correct? I often hear that this kind of worry continues. Most people say they oppose relationships with a significant age difference, but looking at my surroundings, there are people who are married and celebrities as well. However, with celebrities, even if there is an age difference, it's said that it's their own world. So, this time, let's talk about situations where we need to be bold and relationships that can continue. Among women, those who wish to meet men with a large age gap with pure intentions rather than for utilitarian purposes can be divided into two types. The first type is those who feel that men of the same age or those who are only slightly younger seem immature. The second type sees them as father figures. The commonality in both types is that they are attracted to someone who appears mature and can be a source of support for them. Therefore, in relationships with an age difference...

연애를 함으로써 내가 보호받기를 원한다는 거죠. 어떤 연애를 하던지 보호 본능이 들어 있기는 하지만, 또래에서 보호받는 입장과는 좀 다른 부분인 것 같아요. 첫 번째로 반대할 수밖에 없는 상황에 대해 얘기하자면, 나이 차이가 많이 난다 해도 남자친구일 뿐, 아빠가 될 수 없다는 겁니다. 예전에 대학생 때 친구가 일곱 살 차이 나는 연상을 만나기 시작했어요. 20대에 만나는데, 제가 보기에는 그 당시 30대가 그렇게 아저씨처럼 느껴지는 거예요. 그래서 어떻게 사귈 수 있냐고 물어봤더니, 의지가 엄청 된다고 얘기하더라고요. 그 사람이 나를 귀엽게 봐주는 눈빛도 좋고, 그냥 내가 공주가 된 입장이라는 얘기를 하더라고요. 그리고 지요 오빠 카가 아닌 오빠 카를 들고 다니는 친구였어요. 처음에 오빠 카 이러면서 주변에 친구들이 영남인보다 부럽다고 했는데, 얼마 안 가서...

I broke up about six months ago. When I asked about it, I received a response that I was cute, but at some point, it felt like they stopped listening to me. They said it was just because work was busy, leading to a breakdown in communication, or that I was too young to understand. As this relationship continued, I felt like I could no longer give the feeling of being a princess that I initially experienced. They told me they were thinking about whether it was right to be dating if it felt that way, and that’s how we ended up breaking up. 

Reflecting on it now, I remember discussing this with my friends. I realized that I had simply been myself, but at some point, I felt the pressure of societal expectations as I entered my 20s and 30s. Just because I’m getting older, does that mean I’m fundamentally changing? While there are aspects of social life that may influence me, unless my life drastically changes, I feel like I will remain the same person unless I actively try to change.

그대로 된다는 거예요. 그렇다면 나와 나이 차이나는 남자 친구라도 비슷한 입장일 텐데, 어릴 적 우리 공주님 하는 아빠의 모습을 바랄 수는 없다는 거죠. 그래서 연애에 있어서는 남자 친구인지 부모님인지 이제는 구분할 필요가 있더라고요. 두 번째로, 관계를 이어나갈 수 있는 사이에서는 이런 것들이 지켜지고, 여자의 독립성과 남자의 존중이 필요하죠. 제 주변에 두 살 이상 차이가 나는 분들이 결혼하신 이야기를 들어볼게요. 이 여자분 같은 경우, 대학생 때 현재의 남편을 만나 결혼하게 되었고, 지금 애도 키우며 사업도 하고 있는 분이에요. 그 당시 남자가 호감이 있는 게 보이는데, 무척 조심스러워해서 본인이 먼저 다가갔다는 얘기를 해줬거든요. 그래서 제가 어떻게 결혼까지 하게 된 건지, 그리고 지금까지 어떤 방식으로 지내왔는지를 물어보니, 내가 뭘 하려고 했을 때 그 나이에 무척 조심하다 보니 놓칠 것들이 많았다고 하더라고요.

Thanks to that, I often hear that the sun shines. There are moments when I feel like a child, and while we may argue sometimes, rather than just stopping me from trying what I want, he guides me to think about his experiences and helps me move in a better direction. I feel supported and respected. The woman also doesn’t just rely on willpower; she is someone who strongly believes in accomplishing things on her own, regardless of the child. As we live like this, we create a synergy effect. To put it extremely, how do college students view middle school and elementary school students? They often think, Oh, they are just kids, while pretending to be mature, but there are times when even babies seem to have a clear vision of what they want to do. However, my husband doesn't just treat them as children; he believes in their potential to achieve things.

이 기간을 존중해 주고, 본인이 겪은 일에 대해서 보완할 점을 찾아주는 것이 중요합니다. 그리고 어떻게 보면 남자분들 입장에서도 이 여자가 나를 이용하려는 것이 아닌가 하는 반대의 생각을 할 수도 있습니다. 이럴 때 여자가 얼마나 독립적인지 보는 것도 중요하다고 생각합니다. 연애를 가볍게 끝날 사이로 보는 것이 아니라, 진지한 미래를 생각하고 있다면 말이죠. 왜 결혼하신 분들이 항상 하는 말이 있잖아요, 결혼은 현실이다. 이 말은 나이 차이를 불문하고 나오는 것 같습니다. 그래서 분명 나이 차이가 나더라도, 지금 어떻게 보면 20대 초중반의 나이지만, 나 또한 함께 생활을 꾸려 나가는 사람이라는 생각을 한다고 여자가 이야기해 주기도 했습니다. 이분들을 보니 나이 차이가 난다고 해서 시대적 차이가 생기거나, 남자가 여자를 가벼운 관계로만 보거나, 여자가 남자의 경제적인 조건 때문에 만난다는 생각들이 사라지더군요. 물론...

There are many people who say that it is common to do things this way, but I really think it varies from person to person. Among women, there are those who have been in relationships with older men and then find themselves tempted when peers approach them. However, this can also be seen as a moral and ethical issue for the individual. Just because someone is in a relationship or marriage with a significant age difference doesn’t mean that everyone in such situations behaves the same way. 

Today, I discussed the points of distinction between an older man and a younger guy before engaging in a relationship with a significant age difference, as well as aspects that should be maintained in a relationship. Even if there is an age gap, it is possible to have a relationship that is exclusive to that particular man or woman. However, what is most important is how much I can handle and whether the other person can also adapt and grow together with me. I believe this is crucial to consider, especially when I feel overwhelmed.

You cannot force someone to fit into a certain space. So, for those who are currently struggling with this, it would be good to think about what kind of personality the person has, what their character is like, what their preferences are, and how much I can accept and adapt to their appearance. Surely, the answers lie within me, but if I only look for external factors, like age, I will only invite more confusion. If you search for the answers within your heart, you will definitely reach a conclusion to your questions, and it will help resolve your issues. I hope that those who watched today's video can fill their hearts and find new excitement. Don't forget to subscribe and like! Goodbye.

나이차이 많이 나는 연애 | 오빠로 느껴지는 남자 | 결혼까지 가는 사이는?

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