During his reign as the emperor of Rome, Marcus Aurelius faced immense uncertainties that would strike fear into the hearts of most people, such as times of war, plague, internal conspiracies, the death of some of his children, and the death of his wife. Yet, he faced all of these problems with an unshakable courage. The secret to his unshakable courage lies within a collection of notes he wrote to himself roughly 2000 years ago, many of them written in the midst of war, with the gravity of imminent death on his mind. Today, this collection of notes is referred to as Meditations, and based on my readings of these notes, I've determined 5 principles that we can use, like Marcus, to overcome our inner cowards and become courageous. Along the way, you will hear many other stories and ideas that are not from Marcus, and they will help illuminate the emperor’s words in greater depth.

So without further ado, let’s begin our journey through the 5 principles. Look for solutions, not people to blame. Our inner cowards love to look for people to blame rather than solutions, because it passes off the difficult burden of making real change to someone else. And for many people, asking them not to blame others seems like too high of a demand. “Sometimes other people are responsible for the negative circumstances in our lives,” they say. And to that, I would agree, but looking for people to blame will often be counter-productive to finding a solution to your problems, because instead of arguing over the correct way to solve the problem at hand, you will begin arguing about who's really to blame for the situation. You will blame someone, and they in turn will blame someone, and then that person will blame someone, and so on back to the beginning of time. As Marcus Aurelius said, “Blame no one.

Set people straight, if you can. If not, just repair the damage. And suppose you can’t do that either. Then where does blaming people get you?” A courageous person, on the other hand, looks
for solutions, not people to blame. When trying to solve the problem of segregation
and racial inequality in the United States of America, Martin Luther King Jr. did not
blame all white people. He even said that we must realize so many
people are taught to hate us that they are not totally responsible for their hate. He demonstrated incredible empathy in a situation
where blame would have been so easy. He didn’t view the struggle in America as
being between blacks and whites, but rather, as he said in his own words, a conflict between
justice and injustice. Rather than looking for people to point the
finger at or waiting for someone else to come fix his problem, he took responsibility for
the situation at hand and helped develop a proactive movement around the tenets of nonviolence,
noncooperation with evil, unity, and love.

And along with the other citizens of Montgomery,
he set a revolution in motion, not through blame, but by setting an example, and by becoming
the change he wanted to see in the world. Don’t second guess yourself. Today, when we say, don't second guess yourself,
it doesn't mean to act without thinking deeply about the consequences of your actions, but
rather, once you have made a decision, act with conviction and strength. Don't let doubt, hyperplanning, and overthinking
turn you into a passive coward. There's a short poem called The Centipede's
Dilemma, often attributed to Katherine Craster, that shows the relationship between overthinking
and cowardice. In the poem, a centipede is walking along
without problems until, suddenly, a toad asks it how it coordinates all one hundred of its
legs to move forward. The centipede thinks about it and realizes
that it has no idea.

And now the centipede is no longer able to
walk, confused about how to coordinate its legs. Another phrase for this condition is paralysis
by analysis. When we overthink our actions, we become paralyzed
by confusion and are no longer able to act courageously like we once did. While we’ve obviously been gifted with mental
faculties that allow us to reflect and plan, these faculties only exist to enhance how
we act in the present. We were made to act, not just reflect and
plan. Spending too much time in the past or future
eventually makes cowards of us all, because it is thinking that gives rise to fear. But when our attention is brought fully to
the present moment, courage is inevitable, because there’s no longer time to dwell
on all of the things that could go wrong. In Meditations, Marcus Aurelius wrote, “[Concentrate
every minute on doing what’s in front of you] with precise and genuine seriousness…[free]
yourself from all other distractions…stop

letting your emotions override what your mind tells you…” Find the beauty in your mistakes. Making mistakes in life is inevitable, so if you fear making one, you will inevitably become a coward, afraid to act for fear of doing things the wrong way. The way to overcome your inner coward is by finding the beauty in making mistakes. The Japanese art of Kintsugi allows you to transform a broken item into something beautiful by repairing the cracks in it with a gold, silver, or platinum lacquer. The cracks in the item are not meant to be ignored or covered up, but rather, they become the central focus and the most beautiful parts of the item. The art of Kintsugi teaches us that every mistake contains a greater beauty in it, but you have to be willing to look for it. Every mistake is a lesson waiting to be discovered, and every lesson you learn only makes your soul more beautiful. In Meditations, Marcus Aurelius said, “If anyone can refute me—show me I’m making

a mistake or looking at things from the wrong
perspective—I’ll gladly change. It’s the truth I’m after, and the truth
never harmed anyone. What harms us is to persist in self-deceit
and ignorance.” Humble yourself. Although it may seem odd at first, humility
and courage are intimately connected. In the story of The Emperor’s New Clothes,
two scammers visit an emperor and attempt to sell him a suit. They tell him that the suit is a special one
and that it’s invisible to those who are foolish or incompetent. Intrigued, the emperor, who enjoys spending
his kingdom’s money on luxuries for himself, puts an order in for the suit. Upon completion, the scammers show the emperor
his suit, which is actually non-existent. But the emperor, who is incredibly vain and
prideful, does not want to be thought of as foolish or incompetent, so he says that he
is happy with his suit and will wear it at

the next parade. And so, the emperor, strutting his new suit
in front of his subjects, gets called out by a little boy. “The emperor has no clothes on!” says
the boy, pointing and laughing. This little story illustrates the connection
between pride and cowardice. When you are too prideful, you also become
cowardly and avoid anything that might bruise your ego, like the emperor who would not admit
that he could not see the non-existent suit, for fear of looking foolish and incompetent. So humble yourself, and you will become more
courageous because you will not fear making mistakes, being wrong, or bruising your ego. Or, as Marcus Aurelius said, “Remember:
Matter. How tiny your share of it. Time. How brief and fleeting your allotment of it. Fate. How small a role you play in it.” Do your best and trust that things will work
out the way they’re meant to.

Sometimes the strongest courage comes out of the deepest faith. In 2008, in the midst of the global financial crisis, Starbucks faced the potential of complete collapse. They had scaled their business too quickly, lost the quality cafe experience that customers had come to love, and were facing formidable competition, such as McDonald’s new McCafe offerings. Their future was incredibly uncertain, and so their former CEO, Howard Schultz, decided to step up once more as head of the company. And in his book Onward, when speaking about what it took to bring the company back from the dead, Schultz said, “There are moments in our lives when we summon the courage to make choices that go against reason, against common sense and the wise counsel of people we trust. But we lean forward nonetheless because, despite all risks and rational argument, we believe that the path we are choosing is the right and best thing to do. We refuse to be bystanders, even if we do not know exactly where our actions will lead.”

In other words, he acknowledged the connection
between faith and courage. Before he could have the courage to act, he
needed to have faith that things would work out the way they were meant to. While Schultz did have somewhat of a strategy
of how he would try and resurrect Starbucks, it was his faith that things would work out
the way they were meant to that allowed him to have the courage to put together and implement
his strategy in the first place. Sometimes you just have to do your best and
have faith that things will work out the way they are meant to, even if that means things
don’t go the way you expect. Or, as Marcus Aurelius wrote about the true
stoic, “He does only what is his to do, and considers constantly what the world has
in store for him—doing his best, and trusting that all is for the best. For we carry our fate with us—and it carries
us.” Conclusion. So these are the five principles we went over
today based on Meditations by Marcus Aurelius:

Look for solutions, not people to blame. Don’t second guess yourself. Find the beauty in your mistakes. Humble yourself. Do your best, and trust that things will work
out the way they’re meant to. And by following these five principles, you
can overcome your inner coward and become more courageous. This was just my interpretation of Marcus
Aurelius’ work, and if you’re interested in hearing more of my interpretations on his
work, check out my last video called “Marcus Aurelius - How to Become Who You Are”.

Marcus Aurelius - Overcome Your Inner Coward

Marcus Aurelius - Overcome Your Inner Coward