오프라 윈프리: 감정적 연결과 카리스마의 대가

### 오프라 윈프리의 카리스마: 감정과 취약성에 깊이 연결하기
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* 🛋 사용자는 몇 가지 질문에 답한 후 **24시간 이내에 치료사와 매칭**될 수 있어 도움을 원하는 사람들에게 빠른 옵션이 될 수 있습니다.
* 🤝 오프라 윈프리는 친밀감을 높이고 정서적 개방성을 방해할 수 있는 장벽을 없애기 위해 **종종 게스트와 나란히 앉는 등 신체적 연결의 힘**을 보여줍니다.
* 👀 그녀는 **강한 눈맞춤과 적극적인 경청 능력**으로 상대방의 말을 편안하게 받아들이며 대화하는 동안 진정으로 듣고 이해받고 있다는 느낌을 줍니다.
* 😭 오프라는 **공감을 통해 게스트의 감정을 공유**하고, 게스트가 자신의 어려움과 승리에 대해 털어놓을 수 있는 안전한 공간을 만들어주며, 이는 종종 **깊은 교감의 순간**으로 이어집니다.
* 🎤 다른 사람의 감정을 검증하고 개인적인 경험을 공유하는 능력은 **오프라의 접근 방식의 특징**이며, 이를 통해 오프라는 **청중과 신뢰와 친밀감**을 쌓을 수 있었습니다.
* 💬 오프라는 깊이 있고 생각을 자극하는 질문을 통해 게스트가 자신의 삶을 되돌아보도록 유도하여 **시청자와 공감하는 진정한 정서적 유대감**을 형성하는 데 도움을 줍니다.
* 🌟 궁극적으로 오프라의 카리스마는 **정서적 참여를 우선시하는 그녀의 철학**에서 비롯된 것으로, 그녀는 사람들과 깊이 있게 소통하고 다른 사람들도 그렇게 하도록 영감을 주는 데 능숙합니다.

오프라의 초능력은 다른 사람들과 깊이 연결하여 취약성과 정서적 개방성을 키우는 능력에 있습니다.

Oprah Winfrey has a superpower. For over 30 years, people who speak to her have not been able to help but to open up, sometimes crying, expressing joy, or just showing the most vulnerable parts of themselves. That ability propelled Oprah to a net worth of four billion dollars, not to mention launching books to the top of the bestsellers list and Dr. Phil's television career. So, in this video, we are going to explore how and why Oprah is the best connector that I have ever covered on this channel. And you're gonna learn how to live so that people will naturally find themselves opening up and connecting with you. First off, Oprah sets the stage to connect literally. Unlike many other TV show hosts, she is famous for walking the aisles of her studio audience and for sitting on the same couch as her guests. Later on, she would actually go into their homes for intimate interviews. Now, the lack of physical barriers such as a desk tends to make two people

feel more connected, and that's why you are more likely to find a spark on a first date if you sit adjacent to your date rather than being separated by a table. And it's also why people who don't feel comfortable will subconsciously block the other person by crossing their legs or by placing an object in between them. In Oprah's case, the lack of barriers enables both a sense of being emotionally connected as well as an opportunity to connect physically via touch. [Audience cheering] Oprah: Of course, I do. I'm so happy for you both. So this is a deal? [Crying] I love you. Oh. [Audience laughing] You are so so, so, good. [Crying] Thank you. [Audience laughs] With Oprah, you're gonna see high-fives, hand squeezes, walking arm-in-arm, and hugs, but to really grasp how important touch is to her style of communication, you have to see it in context.

Now, I can't show all of this next clip because it's three minutes long, but take a look quickly at how many points of contact she has with the member from her audience. ...and we're all celebrating our 40th. Your ninth baby... Come here. [Audience cheering] How many months are you now? No, really, did you always want a big family? That's it. That is it. Okay, thank you. What's your name? Katherine. Katherine is going to have a baby in three months. Unbelievable. [Audience applauds] It's doubly unfortunate that there are so many cases of unwanted sexual touching coming up in the news and in our culture nowadays. It's obviously fantastic because we're eliminating that, but an unfortunate side effect is that these platonic touches are getting lost. And these are things that truly help to connect to people. It's part of why people can open up so quickly and so comfortably with Oprah.

Now, for a more nuanced breakdown of touching, you can check out our video on Chris Hemsworth, but for now, just note that this immediately lowers the sense of separation between Oprah and the person she's speaking to. You may have also noticed something else that does that, which is how strong Oprah's eye contact is; she is completely comfortable with intimacy and prolonged eye contact. Just look how present she is when listening with Steven Spielberg, showing him how he truly has her full attention. ...number times, unfortunately. I think the first time was when he gave his very, very long and important explanation of why he needed to get the 13th amendment to abolish slavery— You could see Oprah squinting and furrowing her brow, which shows the other person that she is actively listening to what they are saying. But these aren't necessarily charisma tactics to just be used. This is the result of what happens when you are truly present in trying to understand someone.

When you're on the flip side receiving someone's full attention, it feels absolutely incredible. Now, to drive this point home and make the other person feel even better, Oprah will often listen and then summarize what the other person has just said. Take this clip, for instance, where Rihanna's been talking about her relationship with her father and Chris Brown, and notice how she responds to Oprah's recap of what she just said. I had to forgive him because I cared about him still. And the minute I let go of that, I started living again. You made peace with your father, and then you were able to make peace with Chris. Yes. Because you realize the connection between what your father had done and what Chris had done. Because of the intensity of Oprah's full focus, her guests often feel that she gets them at a deep level. They feel connected to her in some way, like they share a common life understanding. Now, Oprah doesn't just imply these connections and commonalities with her body language.

She straight up calls them out with her guests as she sees them. I was so thrilled to realize you know how we you and I are most alike. Let me guess, you're an introvert. I'm an introvert. Amy: I knew it. Oprah: You knew it? This small thing is much more significant than it may sound. In his book influence Robert Chiellini discusses how feeling similar to someone is one of the six most powerful factors in persuasion. It puts two people in sync allowing for pacing and leading which we've discussed in other videos that I'm going to link to in the description below. Now, two people who are in sync may breathe at the same pace — they might move in the same way — but the easiest way to spot it is if they can finish each other's sentences. Now, Oprah hits this phase blindingly fast with many of her guests. Just watch the continuation of that clip with Amy Schumer. I've been at parties where I have to get up and leave—

Amy: Take a break. Recharge. Oprah: I'm just in the bathroom. Recharge. I love the bathroom. Love it. Both: I love to hide in the bathroom. She gets energy from people. She feeds— She feeds and we get sucked. And I get sucked dry. You need to be taken out of a party in a stretcher. Yes. All of what we've discussed up until now is very useful. But what makes Oprah truly exceptional at connecting is her philosophy — that the most important thing to uncover in an interaction is what moves people emotionally. She didn't get famous discussing politics or by doing goofy skits. She got famous by exploring what made her guests feel feelings and that's why you often hear her ask questions like these — What's the most difficult decision you've had to make to fulfill your destiny? How would you describe your childhood? How did you manage to pull the pieces of yourself together? You'll notice that these questions aren't small talk or banter.

They have to do with hardship, with family, with the things we don't want to tell people about ourselves because we're afraid of how vulnerable, raw, and emotional they make us. But family, hardship, our dreams, the things that we're ashamed of — these are the things that often define who we are at our core. And to illustrate how powerful these ideas of dreams and family can be to people, watch this clip of Oprah with James Corden; this was actually the video that put her on my radar as someone that had a true gift with charisma. Now, I recommend watching the whole thing separately because it's really remarkable, and I'm gonna diminish the effect by editing it here, but this is a brief overview of an interaction that lasts just two and a half minutes. When did you first realize you have this power just to make people cry? Go on. Give me your best, okay? Unleash the power. Every father has a dream for his children—

Oh, shut up. [Audience laughs] What is the dream that you hold in your heart? I just want... it just feels like this every day... [Laughs] This scenario isn't unique to Oprah; she's been bringing people to tears her whole career. And it's this ability to get to someone's emotional core that really did make her famous. And if you apply what you've learned so far, you're gonna be able to get people to open up to a deep connection that will bond you to for a long time. But there is one final and very critical point — when people do get emotionally real, when they cry, they get excited... whatever it is, Oprah doesn't try to defuse that tension; she leans into it; she allows her guests to express themselves fully. And so many of us unfortunately do the opposite. Someone cries if we pat them uncomfortably saying, There, there, hoping that they will stop or they get excited and we redirect the conversation.

because their enthusiasm doesn't fit our current mood. Oprah can connect with people so brilliantly because she not only encourages them to open up, she also validates them when they do. She's empathetic enough to go there emotionally with them; she shares in their joy or their pain. Have you been sober since? Yes, I have. Hello. Let's celebrate that. That's where you are right now. Look at how great that is. Wow. It makes me cry too. It makes me cry too. I know, I know. It's beautiful. Why am I crying on Oprah? In short, people feel comfortable enough to be vulnerable and open up to Oprah because she will go there too. In fact, she went there first; early in her talk-show career, she revealed the sexual abuse that she suffered as a nine-year-old, not to mention a whole slew of other personal struggles that I wasn't even aware of as someone who didn't watch her talk show as a kid.

And it was her openness that paved the way for others to do the same when they came on her show. So, if you want to connect with someone deeply, to get them to open up past the surface level small-talk, you have to be fascinated by what moves them emotionally. You have to focus primarily on what you share rather than on how you differ, and you have to be willing to open yourself up so that others feel safe doing the same with you. That's what made Oprah the biggest talk show star ever. It's what endeared her to millions of viewers and earned her billions of dollars. And if you followed the advice in this video, it can be your superpower too. Now, one of the themes of this video is the value of being heard. It honestly can't be overstated; you see how deeply impacted Oprah's guests are by her attention. What's unfortunate is that so few of us have the opportunity to feel heard in our lives, and sometimes it's hard to share what's going on in your life, even with close friends.

and sometimes those friends and family don't know how to advise us, or they give bad advice because they're so close to us. That's why I have asked BetterHelp to sponsor this video, and I'm very excited about it because BetterHelp provides affordable counseling from licensed therapists, all from your home. I've actually used this service myself, and I'm going to continue to because talking to someone once a week has had a positive impact on my life. Plus, it doesn't have this hassle of having to leave the house; you can just chat from your couch using your phone or your computer. Ben also signed up and got a ton from it. He was actually pretty excited because he identified this sense of anxiety masquerading as perfectionism. And since then, he's been able to take steps not to worry as much about past mistakes or trying to be so perfect all the time. BetterHelp can help you also find your blind spots, so if you think that you might benefit from talking to someone on a regular basis,

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오프라의 독특한 사람들과의 연결

오프라는 신체적 접촉과 개인적인 상호작용을 통해 청중과 소통하며 편안하고 개방적인 분위기를 조성합니다.

사회에서 원치 않는 성적 접촉이 증가하면서 관계를 형성하는 데 필수적인 플라토닉 터치가 사라지고 있습니다.

깊고 개인적인 질문을 통해 사람들의 감정적 움직임을 파악하는 오프라의 탁월한 능력은 다른 사람들과 소통하는 데 있어 그녀의 명성과 성공의 열쇠였습니다.

오프라 윈프리의 연결의 초능력

오프라 윈프리는 사람들의 감정의 핵심에 다가가 마음을 열고 자신의 취약점을 표현하게 만드는 독특한 능력을 가지고 있습니다.

그녀는 격렬한 순간에 감정적 긴장감을 끌어올려 게스트가 자신을 온전히 표현할 수 있도록 합니다.

물리적 장벽을 허무는 등 오프라의 연결에 대한 접근 방식은 그녀의 성공과 다른 사람들에게 미치는 영향에 중요한 역할을 했습니다.

오프라의 탁월함은 취약성을 격려하고 감정을 공유함으로써 다른 사람들과 소통하는 능력에 있습니다.

그녀는 자신의 어려움을 공개적으로 공유하여 다른 사람들이 마음을 열 수 있는 안전한 공간을 만듭니다.

오프라의 카리스마와 게스트와의 공감대를 형성하는 능력은 사람들이 이해받고 있다고 느끼게 하는 그녀의 강력한 영향력과 능력에 기여합니다.

BetterHelp와 오프라의 경청 능력이 미치는 영향

BetterHelp는 면허를 소지한 치료사로부터 저렴한 비용으로 상담을 받을 수 있어 집에서 도움을 받고자 하는 분들에게 편리한 옵션을 제공합니다.

이 서비스는 내레이터의 삶에 긍정적인 영향을 미쳤으며 친구가 불안을 파악하고 해결하는 데 도움을 주었습니다.

이 동영상은 오프라의 접근 방식을 의미 있는 관계 구축의 모델로 삼아 깊은 경청과 정서적 연결의 힘을 강조합니다.

BetterHelp는 24시간 이내에 치료사와 연결할 수 있는 편리하고 저렴한 방법을 제공하며, 비밀이 보장되는 매칭을 제공합니다.

정서적 유대감을 형성하는 데 있어 신체적 근접성과 접촉의 중요성이 강조되고 있으며, 오프라의 커뮤니케이션 스타일은 하이파이브, 포옹, 강렬한 눈맞춤 등을 통해 이를 잘 보여줍니다.

오프라의 적극적인 경청과 존재감은 타인을 이해하는 데 있어 진정한 연결의 힘을 더욱 잘 보여줍니다.