I am currently 40 years old, and I want to become a billionaire. I will consider my age until I turn 48. But can a 48-year-old man really date a 40-year-old woman? There are people who talk about a 40-year-old woman being introduced to a 48-year-old man as if they are doing her a favor. So, before making demands about what I want, I hope they check whether they have the conditions to make such requests. As I run a marriage information company, I believe there is a reason why I have been loved by clients for so long. I have been doing this for almost 7 or 8 years now. Honestly, because it’s about money, I would like to say that I can accept everyone. However, when I try to proceed, there are definitely clients who I think would be better off meeting people outside of the marriage information company. I openly tell these clients that it might be better to meet outside.

If you are considering or are interested in using a marriage information company, and if you fall into this category, I would recommend meeting people outside rather than going through a marriage information company. For people like this, visiting a marriage information company is a waste of time and money. 

First, when counseling DINKs (Dual Income, No Kids), I often hear them say at the end, I actually don't want to have children at all. Recently, there have been articles indicating a preference for DINK lifestyles, and it is indeed on the rise. There are also discussions about DINKs. The advantages of being a DINK are threefold: economic freedom, as you don't have to spend money; time freedom, allowing you to focus on your own life; and psychological freedom, as you don't have to deal with the challenges of raising children. 

So, with all these advantages, why shouldn't you join? However, marriage information companies cater to those who are looking to build a family, and over 85% of their clients have the intention of having children. This means that out of ten people, eight are looking to start a family.

Some people want to have children, but there is no reason for a DINK (Dual Income, No Kids) couple to meet with those who want to have children. In my consultations with clients at a marriage information company, I often hear about past relationships that ended for reasons related to DINK lifestyles. For example, some couples dated for about two years and then, when it came time to get married, they discussed the issue of having children. One partner might say, I don't want to have kids, leading to further negotiations. There are also cases where couples got married without ever discussing the topic of children beforehand. One partner might say, I won't have a baby, and then they end up getting divorced. We have quite a few members who have gone through this. One of our members was a manager at a large company. He got divorced because he wanted to have children, but his wife had been hiding her desire not to have kids when they got married.

So, after just one year of marriage, it ended. These are aspects that should be thoroughly checked before getting married. Naturally, we thought there would be children. Therefore, it's better for those who come to us and say, I’m a DINK (Dual Income, No Kids) to refrain from doing so. Our representative tends not to accept DINK couples. However, if a DINK man or woman expresses a desire to have children, that’s acceptable. But if someone firmly states, I absolutely do not want children, it’s actually not easy to make introductions for them. 

The second point is about transitional relationships. Currently, I find it hard to understand people in these situations. After counseling, I often hear, I haven't broken up with my boyfriend yet, or I actually have a girlfriend. Why did you come here? To break up? What do you think about this?

I think there are some mental issues. When I get angry, I get really upset. Things are not organized, and they don't end neatly, so why do they come? If the boyfriend I'm currently seeing secretly consulted a marriage agency to find out what kind of women he could meet, would I continue to see him? No, I wouldn't. But in reality, there are people who come to us for counseling while still married and living with another woman. Later, they might say, Actually, I'm not divorced yet. In my opinion, that's deceitful. These are people with mental issues. Please don't come if you're like that; get your life in order first. It's obvious what will happen. They are very irresponsible and extremely emotional. They might have just had a fight and only think about their own feelings. That's why they come, without considering the other person's perspective. And one characteristic of these people is that they seek guilt for themselves.

They are really good at rationalizing. When you ask why they came, they always blame the other person. Instead of blaming others, they should have just broken up. This is also a form of infidelity, right? It's a mental infidelity. But they absolutely cannot recognize it as such. They pretend to be cool, and then they go to their girlfriend and treat her really well. They think, What's the problem? I didn't cheat. It's just ridiculous. In short, they lack loyalty. But what's funny about these people is that if their partner did the same thing, they would go crazy and throw a fit. It's really unfair. And breaking up seems to be a habit for them. It’s like a routine; if they introduce someone else, they will just meet while still being in a relationship. But how can we trust someone like that to introduce them to others? These people should just stay away and meet secretly outside instead.

I would like to know. The third person is not ready yet. If you are not ready, why did you come? Do you know what type of person I find the hardest to understand? It's someone who lacks their own opinion and talks about others. I want to ask a friend. But why would I ask a friend about using this? I can ask, but if my friend says not to do it, I won't. I will just take it as a reference. Then, if you say you are not ready, why did you come? I also want to ask, why did you come? Some people say they feel they should get married because they have reached a certain age, or they came because their parents pressured them. They just come. I don't understand those people. A woman over 40 comes and says she wants to proceed and do something, but then says she is not ready yet. What do you mean you are not ready at 40? You have already broken up with your boyfriend and came here.

So, I prepare my heart for everything I do. When I'm ready, I take the plunge. If you're not ready, you shouldn't get married for the rest of your life; just stay at home quietly. It's because you lack conviction that you're indecisive. If you keep hesitating, by the time you're 45, 46, or in your 50s, I won't be able to help you anymore. There are people who come at that age, but they often don't return after three or four years. Those who are indecisive end up ruining their own lives; sometimes, being alone might be better for them. That's why people come to marriage agencies out of urgency or desperation. If someone comes without a clear purpose, we simply reject them outright. The representative doesn't deal with those who aren't serious; it's not worth the effort. What is there to discuss? They're just playing around.

This is the first time I'm encountering someone with unrealistic expectations. These individuals lack self-objectivity. I once met a girlfriend who was a Miss Korea contestant; she was over 170 cm tall, had a bust size larger than a C cup, thin ankles, a waist of 23 inches, and hips of 35 inches. There are actually people who ask for women like that. Meanwhile, they don't even consider their own appearance. Why is that? It's because they are completely unable to self-reflect. It's as if they think we are some kind of factory that can just produce people. 

And then there are women who, without considering their age, are looking for a perfectly sculpted man. I'm currently 40 years old, but they want a billionaire. They say they are willing to consider men up to 48 years old. But does a 48-year-old man really date a 40-year-old woman? Some women talk about being introduced to a 48-year-old man as if they are doing him a favor, but that's absolutely not the case. Why would a man worth over 10 billion want...

You meet a 4-year-old girl, and a 40-year-old woman talks as if she is being generous. She says, Well, if you have about 10 billion, you can meet someone at 48. Then I ask, What about children? She replies, If you don't want them, you won't have them. But men want children, which is frustrating. The characteristic of people who cannot be objective is that they either haven't dated much in their 20s or have only met one person on the street, or they have only dated men as potential partners. I always tell women over 40 to be open to possibilities. They often say, No, my mom said it's absolutely not okay. But that's just their mother's opinion. Men don't often look favorably upon women in their 40s. I want to emphasize again that you need to be open to possibilities. If you think you can't be, it might be better not to come at all. This is because, nowadays, the age of women in our company is in their 20s.

In the early twenties, there are many women around, so now there isn't much room for women in their forties to enter. This is the reality; you need to understand that a marriage information company is a place where people who genuinely want to get married and plan for marriage gather. If you are not mentally prepared, or if you are just playing around, or if you are someone who lacks self-awareness, then it would be better for you to meet people outside. In our case, we are looking for those who want to meet seriously, so we hope that only those who are looking for planned and serious relationships will contact us. Also, we are not a factory; we cannot produce people. Therefore, before you demand what you want from us, I hope you check whether you are the kind of person who has the conditions to make such demands.

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