마이크 포스너의 감동적인 여정: 미국 횡단 도보 여행과 인생의 교훈

가수 마이크 포스너가 미국 전역 3,000마일을 걸으며 어려움을 극복하고 개인적인 상실감에서 진정한 행복을 찾은 자신의 여정을 공유합니다.

### 마이크 포스너의 인생을 바꾼 여정: 미국 횡단과 다섯 가지 인생의 교훈
* 👣  마이크 포스너가 미국 전역을 걷는 여정과 그 과정에서 얻은 다섯 가지 인생 교훈을 공유합니다.
* 🎤  마이크는 처음에는 행복에 대해 고민했지만 뮤지션으로서 유명해졌지만 여전히 성취감이 부족하다고 느꼈습니다.
* 💡  그는 음악계의 부정적인 반응에도 불구하고 아버지가 바라던 행복을 추구하기 위해 미국 전역을 걸어서 여행하기로 결심했습니다.
* 🐍  마이크는 방울뱀에 물려 생명이 위태로운 상황에 직면했지만, 이를 극복하고 그만두기 위한 핑계를 대지 않는 법을 배웠습니다.
* 🌱  그는 2,851마일의 여정을 완주하면서 진정한 행복은 성장과 인내에서 비롯된다는 것을 깨달았습니다.
* 👨‍👩‍👦‍👦  마이크의 감정 연기는 아버지의 죽음과 꿈을 이루기 위해 기다리지 않는 것의 중요성에 대해 이야기합니다.

(Music) I took a pill in Ibiza, To show Avicii I was cool. And when I finally got sober, felt ten years older. Oh,

but I'm not the same person.
I was when I wrote that. In fact, that's why I'm here today. I want to tell you about the time
that I did something crazy, and it changed me. I want to tell you about the time
that I tried to walk 3,000 miles all the way across
the United States of America, the big challenge that got in my way, and the five life lessons that I learned. But way before I tried
to walk across America, my story begins with my father. My dad used to always tell
me when I was little, Mike, there's two things
that are most important to me. Number one, I want you to be healthy. And number two, I want you to be happy. Now the healthy part,
that came easy to me. But the happiness ... I struggled with that. I was kind of a shy and depressed kid, and I thought if I could get everyone
to like me, you know,

maybe I would be happier. And so I set about trying
to get everyone to like me. And I'll let you guys in
on a little secret. I was very effective
at getting people to like me. (Laughter) In fact, by the time I was 22,
I had become famous. I would walk onto stages
and people, forget about like, they would scream for me. I would take my shirt off at the concert, they’d scream even louder. I’d go backstage, they tell me
how great I was, but I'd get to the hotel and I'd be alone. And the happiness that Dad wanted for me, it just wasn't there. I don't know how to tell you this,
I tried everything. Therapy, meditation,
self-help books or retreats. Nothing worked. And it's not like this went on
for six months, this went on for 10 years. And so out of options, I decided to chase after the happiness
that Dad wanted for me.

in one last way, in a way that had been stuck
in my head for many years. I decided to walk across America. Now, very quickly, the people I worked with
in the music industry gave me the feedback that this was both
a bad and a crazy idea. You can't just stop making albums,
stop doing shows and leave. This is a career-ending decision. That's when I learned
life lesson number one. Not all crazy ideas are great, but all great ideas are crazy. (Applause) And so I made the decision, but still, these negative thoughts
kept coming up in my head. Thoughts like: What if I really hurt myself
permanently from doing this walk? What if they're right
and I do ruin my career from trying this project? What if I fail? What if I don't make it across and, like, I fail in front of everyone? And to make matters worse, I lived in LA,

but strategically, I wanted
to start walking on the East Coast. So before I walked across America,
I had to drive across America. And I don't know if you guys
have checked lately, but America -- It's really freaking wide. It's really freaking wide. In fact, even driving across it
at 70 miles per hour was daunting. I literally had to look
at this vast expanse of land that I was going to
attempt to walk across. I was going to try to walk one eighth
the circumference of planet Earth. And so it was scary. But on April 15, 2019, I stood off the coast of New Jersey,
and I took a step. And when I took that step, all the fears and doubts about what might
happen if I chose to do this, they disappeared because I was doing it. And that's when I learned
the second lesson. Step one is take one step. I walked across New Jersey
and Pennsylvania.

I walked across Ohio, where I developed blistering foot pain. It was worse than I thought
it would be, but I kept going. I walked across Indiana and Illinois. I walked across Missouri
during a heat wave. I walked across Kansas. I walked into Colorado. Before I knew it, I'd been walking
for over three months. I could just see the Rocky Mountains
on the horizon when -- ow! Pain shot up my left leg. And then I heard a sound
that I didn't want to hear. Sh-sh-sh-sh. And I realized
that a poisonous rattlesnake had just sunk its fangs into my left leg. I called 911 and I asked, Dispatch, am I going to die? And the voice on the other end
of the phone said, I don't know, sir. I spent three nights in the ICU, and my leg swelled to the size
of an elephant trunk. I went from walking 24 miles every day.

to not being able to walk to the bathroom. But after a lot of PT
and great medical care, a really funny thing happened. I got better. (Laughter) And so now I had a decision to make. I could either, A: return to my life
of fame and luxury and Uber Eats. (Laughter) And unhappiness. Or I could B: go back
to the sweltering heat, go back to the blistering foot pain, go back to the sides of the roads where the cars almost hit me
every single day. This path sucked and it hurt a lot, but it taught me lesson number three. When it comes to things I care about, my reasons to quit are always excuses in disguise. See, I had the best reason
to quit of all time. Let me spell it out for you. I was bit by a deadly snake, (Laughter) and I almost died. This is the gold standard of reasons
to stop doing something.

(Laughter.) In fact, it was such a good reason to quit that if I did quit, most people probably wouldn't even consider me a quitter. It would just be a really cool story with a bad-ass ending. But I wasn't doing this for most people. I knew. I knew that the only way for me to become the version of myself that I'd actually be proud of and have a chance to taste the happiness that Dad wanted for me so bad was to walk the remaining 1,000 miles. And... I don't know how to tell you this. There was no podcast I could listen to about it, there was no book I could read about it, there was no documentary I could watch about it, there was no magical piece of advice a friend could give me about it, there was no psychedelic. I had to do it. I had to do it. And so I went back to the exact spot that that darn snake bit me.

(Laughter) I was scared to go back there, too. (Laughter) And I took a step. And I kept taking steps until I walked up and over
the Rocky Mountains. And I kept taking steps
until I walked across Colorado. And I kept taking steps when I didn't
want to keep taking steps. I kept taking steps until I walked
across Navajo Nation. I kept taking steps
until I walked across Arizona. I kept taking steps
until I walked across Nevada. I kept taking steps until I walked
across the Mojave Desert. I kept taking steps until
the Hollywood sign was on my right. I kept taking steps
until the pavement turned into sand. I kept taking steps until my walk
transformed into a sprint. And after six months and three days, 2,851 miles, 5.7 million steps, I dove face-first into the Pacific Ocean. (Cheers and applause) And while I was in that water,

an unfamiliar emotion washed over me, and that was happiness. That’s when I learned lesson number four: that true happiness comes from growth. So now I had the health, I had the happiness, but I didn’t have my dad. Two years before I started walking across America, my dad was diagnosed with glioblastoma, that's a form of brain cancer. And on January 11, 2017, my dad passed away. And I want to be real with you today. I had the idea and the inspiration to walk across America way before my dad got sick. But every time spring rolled around, I would say, “Next year. Next year, I’m too busy right now. I’ve got a concert, I’ve got a tour. Next year, I've got work, I've got a wedding that I don't want to go to, but I feel like I've got to go to it. Next year, next year.” And as a result of me saying next year ...

My dad never got to see me achieve my biggest dream. My biggest accomplishment. And he never got to see me truly happy. And so, if lesson number one is not all crazy ideas are great, but all great ideas are crazy. And lesson two is step one is take one step. Three: reasons are excuses in disguise. Four: true happiness comes from growth. Then lesson number five ... Don't wait. Don't wait. Thank you. (Applause and cheers) This song is for Dad. (Music) You tell me that you can see your mother. I couldn’t see her. That was my fault, it wasn’t yours. And I spit back these words I heard in Ram Dass lectures to make you feel better about what's in store. And everyone has their theory of where you're going. And here I am about to throw more words on top of that pile. I happen to think that you always know who I am. You're just stretching out your wings.

You're gonna fly for a while. And that's all right with me. Fly, baby, fly. Yeah, that's all right with me. Fly, baby, fly. I'm so tired of life inside the saddle. There's no reason for that. It happened just because. And the moon’s so bright tonight that I have a shadow. And that's a reminder that I'm not who I thought I was. And everyone has their theory of where you're going. Here I am about to throw more words on top of that pile. I happen to think that you always know who I am. You're just stretching out your wings. You're gonna fly for a while. And that's all right with me. Fly, baby, fly. Yeah, that's all right with me. Fly, baby, fly. Yeah, that's all right with me. Fly, baby, fly. Yeah, that's all right with me. Fly, baby, fly. And then it comes undone. It all unwinds. And there's only so much I can take. Only so much time.

Yeah, it comes undone. It all unwinds. Been in the dark so long
that the light just makes me blind. Been in the dark so long
that the light just makes me blind. At some point, every light
begins to flicker. So I suspect that even mine will start to wane. But I've got an idea
that I'd like you to consider. If I could love you
without trying to change you, could you do the same? If I could love you
without trying to change you, could you do the same? (Music ends) (Applause) Thank you guys so much, my name is Mike Posner, appreciate you. (Applause)

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인생을 바꾸는 여정: 미국 횡단 걷기

건강과 행복을 강조하는 아버지의 영향으로 마이크는 인기를 추구했지만 명성은 얻었지만 성취감은 얻지 못했습니다.

성공한 이미지에도 불구하고 그는 수년간 행복을 찾기 위해 고군분투하며 다양한 방법을 시도했지만 아무 소용이 없었습니다.

최후의 수단으로 그는 아버지가 바라던 행복을 찾아 미국을 가로지르는 3,000마일의 도보 여행을 떠났습니다.

두려움 극복: 미국 횡단을 위한 한 남자의 여정

연사는 낙담에 직면했지만, 훌륭한 아이디어도 처음에는 미친 짓으로 여겨지는 경우가 많다는 것을 깨닫고 미국 횡단을 결심했습니다.

그는 두려움과 의심을 극복하고 첫발을 내딛어 결국 여러 주를 걷고 여행 중 방울뱀에 물려 목숨을 잃기도 했습니다.

연사는 생명을 위협하는 상황에 직면했지만 역경을 극복하고 도전적인 여정을 계속하기로 결정했습니다.

그는 그만두려는 이유가 변명에 불과하다는 것을 깨닫고 최고의 자신이 되기로 결심했습니다.

그는 굳은 의지로 2,851마일의 도보 여행을 완주하며 놀라운 인내와 회복력을 보여주었습니다.

상실을 극복하고 행복을 포용하기

연사는 아버지를 뇌암으로 잃은 후 진정한 행복은 개인의 성장에서 비롯된다는 것을 깨달았습니다.

그는 아버지가 투병하기 전에 미국을 횡단하고 싶다는 영감을 받았음에도 불구하고 너무 늦을 때까지 계속 미뤄왔습니다.

그가 전하는 마지막 교훈은 지체하지 말고 기회를 잡는 것이 중요하다는 점을 강조하며 기다리지 말라는 것입니다.

마이크 포스너의 변화와 놓아주기에 대한 성찰

노래 'Fly Away'는 가수가 변화를 받아들이고 통제권을 내려놓는다는 내용을 담고 있습니다.

가사는 상대방이 있는 그대로의 자신을 허용하겠다는 의지를 표현합니다.

노래는 무조건적인 사랑과 수용에 대한 희망적인 질문으로 끝납니다.