Hello, this is Inseon Con. In the past, I uploaded a video about the characteristics of Korean women. Today, I would like to discuss the characteristics of Korean men. In the previous video about Korean women, I mentioned that even if you change the gender, it's still the characteristic of a Korean person. In reality, Korean men or women are not always popular with the opposite sex. From my experience and observations around me, many Korean men and women are not necessarily popular with women. It may not be very exciting and there can be various situations. However, I believe that marrying such individuals can lead to a stable and happy marriage. In my opinion, what I mentioned in the previous video about the characteristics of Korean women, such as lack of victim consciousness and intense emotional fluctuations, applies here as well.

I recommended some people who are not here, but this time, I would like to talk about a positive direction. Yes, the first is a man who focuses on self-development and self-management. He thinks that work is now considered a basic necessity. He believes that being self-reliant and having the ability to sustain a living is a matter of course, as well as possessing certain qualities of character. To truly become a genuine man, he believes that additional effort is required. This is what I mean by self-development and self-management. I don't trust people who just talk. Many men talk big about rosy hopes and goals for the future, but in reality, there aren't many who actually achieve them. So, if you want to choose a genuine man, you should not listen to his words but observe his actions and choices.

I always think about why I talk about self-development and self-management. I believe that what a person does in their spare time, apart from working hours, shows their orientation and thoughts. For the average office worker, what they do after work is a moment to see their true colors. I think like this. There are various types of self-development, such as studying and exercising. Of course, I mean to encompass all of these. Now, in preparing for the future, exercising to maintain health, training the body, is of course self-development and self-management. Training the brain is also self-development or self-management, naturally. Additionally, there may be people preparing for side jobs or other businesses. For office workers, I believe the key to self-development is time.

Management. People who say they don't have time usually find it very difficult to challenge themselves with new tasks. Actually, I think that how they make time and how they utilize that time show their true colors. If they are engaged in actions related to self-development or self-management during that time, I believe there is a high possibility that they are a genuine man. Secondly, being able to give compliments and express gratitude is a rare trait in men. It seems that men who know how to compliment and express gratitude to their girlfriends or wives are relatively rare. In practical terms, I think this is not an easy quality to find, even when I look at the marriage lives of my friends in general. Sometimes, when I deal with men who are just being dragged along like a buoy, it's not about forcing compliments, but rather about being able to genuinely give compliments from a broader perspective.

Men who know how to compliment and express gratitude towards women are considered to be more mature and likely to be bigger individuals. Complimenting someone usually means that the person is making a judgment and understanding about that individual. Expressing compliments is typically done when one sees the other as an equal or even superior, rather than when someone lower compliments someone higher. It is not common for a subordinate to compliment a superior in this way. I think that a good marital or romantic relationship is where both parties respect each other, are equal, and compliment each other's strengths, expressing gratitude. People who are good at giving compliments and expressing gratitude often observe or are aware of changes in their partner, or things their partner has done. This is how natural compliments come about, and many people who do this well are good at recognizing these aspects. Giving compliments suddenly without a reason may not be well-received by the recipient.

It often feels unnatural and not very convincing from the audience's perspective. It is because there are many cases where it doesn't resonate well. You can praise or express gratitude to someone because you are interested in that person. I think that in a good relationship between a couple, these two things, praise and gratitude, play a more significant role than anything else. However, what I want to point out here is that knowing how to give compliments and thanks is different from mechanically giving them all the time. Even though praise and gratitude are necessary, if someone always praises others, they might appear superficial. Moreover, compliments can become too obvious, potentially causing a negative impact on the relationship. If you keep giving compliments mechanically, there is a possibility that in the end, when you don't praise, the situation could turn into Why aren't you praising me?

I may come out, so I didn't really like playing hard to get in relationships, but I think some moderation is necessary in relationships, like always managing dopamine to a certain extent. Therefore, I believe that moderation is needed in some relationships by refraining and controlling compliments or gratitude to some extent. I think it not only enhances the effect of words but also is very good for maintaining good relationships. Also, if a man who understands these aspects exists, he is likely to be a person with a high understanding of human beings, which could lead to a happy marriage and be considered a true man. The third is a person who knows that he can also become a bad guy. I am a person who thinks objectivity is important. Therefore, among the types of people I do not trust, one type is those who do not self-reflect.

People who think of themselves as good. In married life, at any time, one can become a bad spouse, and there is never an absence of disagreements, conflicts, or such inside a happy married life. At any time, arguments can happen, and it is possible to become unhappy. Everyone has good and also bad aspects, as well as desires. I like the novel Demian by Hermann Hesse, where Demian often distinguishes between the good world and the bad world, as well as the sensual world and the rational world, showing a lot of opposition. People who always think of themselves as good may not respond well when they experience becoming bad. In my experience, among those who consider themselves good and kind, there are people who do not adapt well.

On the contrary, many people struggle with self-objectification, and some even think that they could be bad or evil. Among those who acknowledge their weaknesses and always try to be cautious with others, making an effort not to behave badly, there are many. I think that those who are aware that they could become bad people tend to be more careful in their relationships and make efforts to maintain good relationships with others. They believe that there is no one-sidedness in relationships. They consider that their actions could be selfish or bad, and those who are aware of this, reflect and think about it, actually have a higher potential to become better people. They might not be true masters yet, but they think that they could be bad people.

People who think they have the presence of mind are more likely to be honest without prejudice about themselves and are less likely to try to deceive others. Conversely, if self-objectification is possible, it means that one can objectify oneself well and make good judgments about oneself, which also indicates a high likelihood of being good at understanding others. Therefore, ultimately, people, through what they experience, end up judging others based on themselves. So, those who do not judge me with prejudice about myself can also be less likely to judge others with prejudice and are more likely to understand the other person well. Therefore, I believe that there is a high possibility of being on the right path. Yes, the conclusion for today is that the characteristic of these people who are on the right path is ultimately that they are more likely to be people who are making efforts to become better individuals. And it's a simple truth.

I believe that I should become a good person so that the other person can also meet a good person. As someone who is married, speaking from the perspective of a married person, I have seen many good people marrying other good people. However, these days, there is a growing negative perception about marriage itself, and there are also many who do not desire it. While it is not necessarily wrong, I often find myself advising good people around me to be a little more ambitious. This ambition includes aspects related to money that I frequently mention, as well as social recognition and such. Above all, I also think it would be good to be a little ambitious in finding a good spouse. When I talk about true men or true women today, I think it would be okay to be a little more ambitious.

And to viewers who watch this video until the end, I hope you will have various desires and try things in life. As I mentioned earlier, being genuine doesn't necessarily make you popular in terms of personality, even for genuine men or women. There are many genuine people who live only at home. I hope they can find good partners and participate in many gatherings or activities outside. Because they have the qualities to meet such good partners, I believe that focusing efforts in that direction could lead to a much happier life. Thank you for watching.

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