However, it feels like you’re not giving me your full time, as if you’re only giving me 100 when you’re busy. But when we meet, you take me to really nice places. Right now, I really like this girl, so I’m focusing 90% of my time and energy on her. It feels like, “Please call me like this.” That kind of man is not attractive. 

Hello, I am the woman who reads about relationships. Today’s topic is the attitudes of men that drive women crazy. I’d like to explore that. I feel more attracted to those who have charm, but when I see such people, they aren’t necessarily exceptionally good-looking or anything like that, yet they are popular. What kind of characteristics do they have? What is their charm that attracts women? It would be great if you could share some insights on that. Women are instinctively drawn to strong men. To put it simply, it’s all about confidence.

There are no women who are not attracted to confident men. For example, instead of saying, What should we do? What do you want? a man who confidently says, I'll pick you up. There's a great restaurant there; let's go, is much more attractive. Women are instinctively drawn to masculinity. The symbol of masculinity is the shoulders. Women are naturally attracted to men with broad shoulders and strong arms. It's about confidence. Speak with confidence and look her in the eyes. You can cover up being skinny with clothes. While women instinctively feel attracted to men with broad shoulders, the younger generation, the MZ generation, is also attracted to men who dress well, like Joo Woo-jae. So instead of lacking confidence just because you're thin, remember that your body is yours, and it's hard to change, so just be confident.

Yes, and if you hunch over because your shoulders are narrow, you will appear even smaller; only your face will look bigger. However, even with narrow shoulders, if you wear a loose t-shirt and speak confidently with your eyes, that can actually be appealing. Don't forget, confidence is key for men. 

And for the second situation, don't try to flatter someone to get out of a moment. What does that mean? For example, if two people have had a bit of a fight, and I notice that the woman seems a bit sulky, if I try to avoid that moment by asking, What's wrong? Why are you upset? and cling to her, those actions can annoy her. 

For instance, women often say, Do you even know why I'm upset? The story continues from there. Just do this: I'll give you a solution. Have an honest conversation. Ask her, Was there something about my behavior or my tone that upset you?

If you honestly tell me, I'll fix it. Girls, you don't need to be dragged around. In that moment, trying to avoid the situation, saying I'm sorry or It's okay, is what I dislike. Please identify the cause and respond to that part. Thirdly, understand what the other person wants. I really wanted to say something: I like it when you write me letters. Then, they might say, Just write me another letter. There are always kids like that. If you only give them a letter, it's absolutely not enough. You need to give them something shiny, you know? But friends who don't understand girls tend to do it straightforwardly. Popular guys listen carefully to what girls say. You can just ask, What do you want? But girls have two types of communication. One is the straightforward ones who say they want something. For example, I want that, oppa, and then you can just buy it for them. But if they don't say anything and subtly hint, like, Oppa, if you write me a letter...

There are kids who talk about various things, but do you know what they say among the girls? Oh, how do I explain this? There are types of conversations that happen. So, you should casually ask if they want a necklace, for example, or if there's something else they would like. By doing this, you can clearly identify what they want and then give them that as a gift. 

And the fourth point is to know and understand your own charm. This seems to be a bit difficult. Everyone has their own charm, but for example, if I struggle with dating and only focus on dating skills, while just trembling and shaking, girls can see right through that and actually find it unattractive. If someone goes around just learning dating skills and tries to act charming with a shaky gaze, that’s not appealing. However, don’t be afraid to show your awkwardness.

Among women, even if it's not 100%, about 30% may feel attracted to that authenticity. Also, having a good physique like Kim Jong-kook's style is appealing. So what should you do? You have to drive, turn around, and walk with your muscles flexed while backing up. I think the point is to appeal to that charm. For example, just because someone says they like certain charms doesn't mean you have to match those exactly. That seems really off to me. For instance, women often talk about their ideal type, and men ask, What is your ideal type? But an ideal type is just an ideal. Even if I perfectly fit someone's ideal type, if I only show them what they want to see, my mental state will eventually break down. Moreover, the other person's ideal type can change. The ideal type in your 20s is different from that in your 30s. So, focusing too much on what the other person wants can lead to issues.

I don't exist, and I only match about 90% with that person. So what happens is that I look good, but I lose my charm. Dating is about tension, isn't it? There's a feeling of tug-of-war that creates excitement. Right? You have charm, and I have charm. I mentioned that men should have confidence, and similarly, we need to engage in a bit of a tug-of-war to be attractive. If I get too drawn in, what happens? I end up rolling around at the bottom. I think that's not good. So I must recognize my own charm. Lastly, the fifth point is to raise your own value to 100%. There’s a reason why most women go crazy for older guys. Older guys don’t treat me like I’m desperate. For example, older guys are always busy; they are very busy, but they still take the time to treat me to some nice things here and there. However, they don’t give everything they have.

I feel like you're not giving me 100% of your time because you're busy. But when we do meet, you take me to really nice places. If my level of knowledge is this much, then you guys give me even more. That's why women go crazy for you. A working man is very attractive, and a capable man is even more appealing. So I want to tell men to elevate their own value. Just because you really like a woman right now, don't spend 90% of your time and energy solely focused on her. That kind of attitude isn't attractive. What women really go crazy for is a man who uses his time wisely, spends time together when he can, and clearly listens to what they want. Women really like a man who keeps them on their toes. So I prefer men who are a bit more capable than those who are younger or the same age.

I feel like I'm experiencing tension and excitement. That's why I'm the one who reads about love. Instead of studying love through books, don't just listen to others' stories and have indirect experiences. Go out and experience it directly. It might be difficult for everyone at first, but remember the five key points I've mentioned. If you put in a little effort, you can end up dating a beautiful woman. What is the ultimate goal for men? They want to date beautiful women, right? Today, I've shared five key points about the attitudes of men that beautiful women truly adore. I hope all single men can date beautiful women. This has been the one who reads about love. Please like and subscribe. Thank you.

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