개인적 성장과 인간관계: 청년기 탐색하기

### 관계를 찾기 전에 자기 계발의 중요성
* 💪 **24세에서 30세 사이에는 상당한 성장이 이루어지기 때문에** 장기적인 파트너를 찾기보다는 개인의 성장과 자기 계발에 초점을 맞춰야 합니다.
* 📈 이 기간 동안 얻은 경험과 성숙함이 향후 관계 선택에 영향을 미치므로 **건강, 경력, 개인 재정에 시간을 투자하는 것**은 매우 중요합니다.
* 🧠 많은 젊은 남성들이 자신감이 있고 연애에 대한 준비가 되어 있다고 느낄 수 있지만, **진정한 자기 인식과 개인적인 욕구에 대한 이해**는 종종 인생 후반에 발달합니다.
* 💔 너무 일찍 결혼하면 개인적인 성취와 성장의 기회를 놓쳐 **장기적으로 두 파트너의 성공을 저해**할 수 있습니다.
* 🌱 정직과 신뢰와 같은 내적 가치에 기반한 강력한 기반을 구축하는 것이 **부와 같은 외적 요소보다 지속적인 관계에 더 유리**합니다.
* 📊 자기 계발에 대해 생각해 보면, 많은 젊은 남성들이 어린 나이에 **자신의 성숙함을 과대평가**하다가 진정한 자아 발견에는 **시간과 경험이 필요**하다는 사실을 나중에 깨닫게 됩니다.
* 💑 관계에서 함께 성장하는 것의 가치를 주장하는 사람들도 있지만, **두 파트너가 비슷한 수준의 성숙도와 헌신할 준비**가 되어 있는지 확인하는 것이 중요합니다.
* 🔄 현재의 데이트 환경은 이전 세대보다 더 많은 선택지와 비교를 제공하기 때문에 **젊은 남성들이 진지한 관계를 맺기 전에 자신을 개발하는 것**이 중요합니다.

야심찬 젊은 남성은 장기적인 관계를 추구하기 전에 개인적인 성장에 집중해야 합니다.

If I were 24, I would not even be looking for a long-time partner until I was at least 28, and I feel like 28 is pretty young. I would do nothing but get jacked, get your money up. You're already [ __ ] handsome. Stop, man, bro [ __ ]. You're [ __ ]. You can't even fight. I'll slap the [ __ ] out of you right now, slap the [ __ ] out of you, but just to take this outside, okay, no problem, follow down the. But the point I'm making is if I were you, I would put my head down and get so deeply ingrained in fitness, go box, business, everything that y'all are doing, and build your money and build yourself as a man. Because I'm telling you what's going to happen, and it's probably already happening to you because you're good-looking and [ __ ], and you're doing things. Women are just going to jump in front of you, so I truly believe women.

bet on horses. They look down at the field and they're like, Which one of these guys are going to win? and some girls, and oftentimes good girls, especially because you're work, work, work, work, work. They're just going to jump in front of you, and you're just going to run them over, and you might end up having a... I had a girlfriend for like five or six years in my 20s. She's a bit crazy, and I told her that I was going to have other girlfriends, and she acted like I didn't say it, so I did it, and she'd get mad, and just back and forth. But you know, I was around her a lot, and um, if I were you, man, I truly mean this. I wouldn't even be looking for a wife right now. There's so much you have to do, yeah, and those guys that get married early, they never achieve what they should have achieved, and it doesn't work because he never becomes a man. He could have... Well, I'll say from my own

experience. I didn't truly come into myself until I was probably 28. Yeah, really. I was told so much. I was told when I was 18. I started working in real estate, and I was told people are not really going to take you seriously until you're 25. And like 25 is when it starts to happen because it starts to level out in terms of your maturity, like a mental thing about that age too. Yeah, I think it was just relating to other people in such a way that you couldn't do before the age of 25 because you haven't had the experience. But even me at 25, like I was insecure. I would overthink everything. I wasn't sure of myself. You didn't have enough experience with women. No, I didn't. And you're going to need a lot of experience with women. You're going to need to see how they act. You know, you're going to need to go through relationships, sleep with some. I mean, I'm not saying you're not doing that, but you know, like experience.

the different parts of the relationships with the girls. I just wouldn't want to see you get your heart in. And I'll tell you another thing, a guy like you particularly. I'm not trying to be your mentor right now, but I'm just using you for an example. A guy like you that's ambitious, that's going to do a lot of good stuff. You might settle for a girl based off the man you are today when you're going way up here. And then that's going to create a whole another problem for you because the girl you can really get at your maturity, let's say between 33 and 35, is probably going to be substantially better material, probably more beautiful, probably a lot of things better than what you can get today. And I just believe that to be true. And do you believe though that there's value in having someone come up with you and building that shared thing? Not necessarily together. I think that's a bit more of a pipe dream. My parents met in high school. My dad was a senior, my mom I think was

like a junior or something in the 70s or the 80s, bro. 80s, yeah. All right, hey, I don't really have any rebuttal to that. That's, can I have this water? Yeah, go for it. Thanks, bro. I don't drink water, it's just coffee. He's insane, horrible ins. He doesn't drink water. I kid you not, he drinks no water. I do in a protein shake, okay? Just a protein shake, Optimum Nutrition. I how he survives, that's wild, bro. Coffee is water. Here's the thing about your parents, man, in the 80s. Your dad might see one woman every now and then in a Walmart parking lot, that's beautiful. He can live in the same town with her for the next 20 years and might not see her again, right? But now it's over, it's over, bro. And on a daily basis, you're going to be getting compared to other men. So, a couple of comments about this whole conversation. I do think that there is some merit in growing up with this.

person because you don't necessarily want somebody to like you just based off of external factors, such as how much money you have, right? I think that's such a small component in terms of money because there's always going to be someone else with more money, always money. I think more internal values, such as, are you an honest person, right? Are you punctual? Can you rely on this person? Stuff like that are better and stronger foundations to build successful relationships off of rather than other things that sure could be indicators of those traits, but such as wealth, such as, I don't know, maybe like fancy shoes and stuff like that, you know? On a scale of one to 100, what percentage based off of where you believe you're going to land as a man do you feel like you're already developed? I mean, that's funny 'cause when I was like 19, I thought I was at like 70, and I was just thinking about this a couple weeks, just like a [__] 19-year-old do.

you think now uh I hope low uh I hope I'm at 30 uh maybe 20 but realistically I would say I'm at maybe 40 and there's a bunch of things that you don't know that you don't know yet myself included I think it's best for a man to try to develop and really get a grip on his life who he is what he wants because all I want for anybody that either watches my content or that's my kid or for somebody I love or a friend is for them to have choice you know and there's a lot of developing to do before you can even get to a place where you actually know what you want in the first place and what that looks like for you you're going to change a lot in the next five years I agree astronomically and what might look good to you today day might look horrible in 5 years and so if you were married it could it it doesn't really set you up for success and I think that's why the the failure rate is so

high now. If you were 35 and she was 25, then maybe you know you're in the ballpark, but I wouldn't do it until I was in my 30s for sure. Well, I think some of it is coming into who you are. Knowing who you are itself, I think, makes you attractive to more people so that you have more options to pick from, and then it's not coming from a place of scarcity. It's really like, you know, I want to be with you not because you're the only option, but because we get along together. But people can also fall for that at 19 when he thought he was 100% there and his chest was poked out. He can talk like a very confident man who knows what he wants. He sounds decisive. He didn't know it all, and neither did I, and I can tell you right now I'm still developing as a person. I don't even know what percentage I am. I hope it's less than 70 for damire. Hope it's 60. I hope I have a lot

of growth left in me. Um, but you at 24, man, you're going to do so many things, and you're going to grow so much from 24 to 30. For me, huge deal. From 30 to 35, it's probably 10x that.

Justin Waller's Warning: DON'T GET MARRIED Before 30+

The Iced Coffee Hour Clips

연사는 자신의 과거 연애를 되돌아보고 어린 나이에 아내를 찾지 말라고 조언하며 개인적인 성장과 성취의 중요성을 강조합니다.

그들은 "미친" 여자친구와 데이트한 경험과 그로 인해 발생한 합병증을 공유합니다.

연사는 야망이 큰 사람은 자신의 미래 잠재력과 맞지 않는 파트너에 안주할 수 있으며, 나중에 더 나은 인연이 찾아올 수 있다고 말합니다.

연사는 80년대와 오늘날의 데이트와 사회적 상호작용의 차이점에 대해 이야기합니다.

그들은 작은 마을에서 같은 사람을 여러 번 만나는 일이 드물었다는 점에 대해 언급합니다.

이 대화는 오늘날 다른 남성과 끊임없이 비교해야 한다는 압박감을 강조합니다.

성공적인 관계 구축은 부와 같은 외적 요소보다는 정직과 신뢰와 같은 내적 가치에 더 큰 영향을 받습니다.

연사는 28세에 가장 성숙했다고 느꼈던 자신의 성장 과정을 되돌아보며 타인과의 관계에서 인생 경험의 중요성을 인정합니다.

관계에 대한 자신감과 이해를 얻기 위해서는 여성과의 경험이 필요하다고 강조합니다.

자기 인식과 자기 계발은 자신의 욕구를 이해하고 정보에 입각한 인생 선택을 하는 데 매우 중요합니다.

사람들은 20대와 30대에 큰 변화를 겪기 때문에 장기적인 관계에 헌신하기가 어렵습니다.

자신이 누구인지 알면 더 많은 선택의 폭을 넓히고 관계에서 느끼는 부족함을 줄일 수 있습니다.

특히 24세부터 30세까지는 개인적 성장이 크게 이루어지는 시기입니다.

연사는 적어도 28세까지는 장기적인 파트너를 찾기보다는 건강, 부의 축적, 자기 계발에 집중할 것을 제안합니다.

외모와 야망이 있으면 여성은 자연스럽게 매력을 느끼고 그 사람의 삶에 들어올 것이라고 믿습니다.