공격적 충동 통합: 그림자와 인간 본성

### 그림자, 경쟁심, 분노의 통합: 조던 피터슨의 인사이트
* 가난하게 자랐고 비행 청소년들과 함께 일했던 조던 피터슨의 강인한 친구에게는 **사람을 꿰뚫어보고 힘든 상황을 처리하는 데 도움이 되는 통합적인 그림자**가 있었습니다.
* 💡 피터슨은 '인간 본성의 법칙'에서 자신의 어두운 면을 인정하고 포용하며 통합하는 것이 중요하다고 설명하며 **그림자를 통합하는 방법**에 대해 자세히 설명합니다.
* 🏫 피터슨은 학교에서의 비경쟁 게임에 대해 비판하며, **경쟁은 협동심을 가르치고 아이들이 현실 세계에 대비하는 데 필수적**이라고 주장합니다.
* 🏆 그는 모든 사람에게 상을 주고 경쟁을 피하는 경향은 **아이들이 현실의 경쟁에 직면했을 때 환멸과 충격**을 받을 수 있기 때문에 해롭다고 믿습니다.
* 피터슨은 야망이 자신과 타인에게 가치를 창출하는 긍정적인 특성이라는 점을 강조하면서 **권력 및 야망과 관련된 부정적인 연관성**을 없애고자 합니다.
* 😠 그는 자신에게 분노와 경쟁심이 많은 그림자 같은 면이 있다고 말하며, 이를 **글쓰기와 강연에 쏟아 부어 강력하고 생산적인 사람**으로 만들고 있습니다.
* 😡 피터슨은 **분노가 두려움을 억제**하고 무서운 상황에서 얼어붙는 해독제 역할을 할 수 있기 때문에 **두려움에 대응하는 심리 생리학적인 도구**가 될 수 있다고 설명합니다.

강인하고 통합적인 사람은 자신의 그림자를 활용하여 문제가 있는 사람을 돕고, 자신의 그림자를 포용하고 통합할 것을 옹호합니다.

so I have a friend. He's a really good friend of mine, and I've known him since I was in college. He's a tough guy. I mean, he grew up in under rather poverty-stricken circumstances in northern Alberta, really on a frontier piece of land. Like, it had only been broken 50 years before by his father who was a longshoreman and the next military guy. Good guy, his father, but this guy grew up, and he is tough. He worked in lead smelters, and he wandered around Western Canada. He was my roommate when I went to college, and is still a good friend of mine. And he ended up working with like delinquents. He went into social work, oddly enough, and he ended up working with some of the worst delinquents in Canada. And he's a really good guy, and he likes to help people get better, but he isn't naive at all. And then part of the reason that he was good at working with delinquents was because

there were no tricks they could get up to that he couldn't see right through, and that was partly because he had a real integrated shadow. I mean, I'll give you an example of him. So, one day I was living in this town called Grand Prairie, and it was at the height of the oil boom. And so, it was a rough town, and there were lots of rough bars and lots of young men in there with plenty of money and plenty they come in for, you know, three days after being out minus 40 weather working on the oil rigs, and they were ready to party, man. We had a party one night in this kind of frat house that I went to college in, and about oh way too many people showed up, and some of them were real troublemakers. And one, we had a table that was pretty full of beer bottles and vodka bottles and so forth, and one guy just went over, like, tore the leg off and knocked the table over. And then a bunch of us got together and chased them all out. And this friend of mine, he said, Oh, they'll

be back. And so, he went upstairs, and he put on some steel-toed cowboy boots. It was just like a bloody west, and he came marching down the stairs. And just as he entered the living room, there was a big knock on the front door. It was these hooligans coming back to cause grief. And he, he just didn't break stride. He opened the door, he pulled open the door, and there was a guy standing there ready to fight. And he kicked them underneath the chin with a steel tool cowboy boot, knocked him right over the front porch. And, you know, the battle was on. But that was exactly what he was like, you know. And he had his shadow was integrated. You could, he's a great roommate. He, he reciprocated everything. I always knew if I bought groceries one week, he'd buy it the next. Like he was a straight shooter, you could trust him. But he was not naive, man. And that made him able to deal with delinquents and to help them. So that's part of that integration of.

that shadow, yeah. Um, I go very deeply into the shadow in a chapter in my last book, The Laws of Human Nature, and I try and talk about how one integrates the shadow because it's not, it's not an easy answer for that, you know. People are kind of perplexed, well, I have this dark side, and I explain a lot of where it comes from and how a lot of your aggressive impulses, like the room of two-year-olds that you were talking about, you have that as well. I'm talking to the people that have my readers, you have that aggressiveness when you were young, and it got socialized out of you, and then it got kind of repressed, and it's like a lost self that lives inside of you and is screaming to come out. How do you integrate it? And so the main thing is you have to be aware that you have this shadow side, you have. You can't run away from it, you have to acknowledge that it exists. You almost have to embrace it. A good parent too does everything he or

she cannot repress that like what you want to do with children is you want to like you want them to be forceful you want them to have some power you want them to integrate that that capacity for aggression into let's say lucid conversation you want them to be able to stand up for themselves in family discussions if you just punish them for being aggressive let's say for talking back or something like that you don't guide that into more sophisticated development you see this in schools too now you know when my kids went to school this was so dumb i we had a rule in our house which was you don't have to follow stupid rules that's a good rule but if you get caught you have to put up with consequences but right so one rule was the school had not only could you not throw snowballs you couldn't make them and so they were trying to yeah exactly you should shake your head that's for sure it's like because their answer and this was all politically correct

nonsense. You know, non-competitive games. We're only going to play non-competitive games. It's like, first of all, you know, I studied Piaget. Yeah, a hockey game is not competitive exactly because in a hockey game, well, everybody, no one brings a basketball, everybody plays hockey. So that's cooperation. And then on the team, you have to cooperate. And like, if you're the star but you never pass, you're just a dumb son of a, you're not the star. And so there's a tremendous amount of cooperation in all those competitive games. They're integrated. And this idea that, you know, make children better by not allowing them to be competitive, it's so, it's disgusting. It is. It's that, well, that's the Freudian devouring mother, right? That's, oh, well, everyone's safe and no one's gonna ever hurt anyone. And that's kind of where a lot of young people are, you know, they enter the world where they've been called, where they think that there are no winners, that everyone is, you know, it's just win-win.

situations, and that's where they get really shocked by the realities of the world. So all this coddling and this idea that there doesn't have to be a winner, we don't have to get prizes for first place, everybody should get a prize, you know, all you're doing is setting your children up for massive, you know, shocks when they enter the world and they see that it's not like that. Yeah, and then they get disillusioned and depressed, you know, or traumatized. But I mean when my son's hockey team in his school, they won the city championship, which was a big deal, you know, and the school was pretty happy about that. To his credit, so was the coach, but the principal, who was this authoritarian empath, she was an awful person. I thought, authoritarian empathy, yeah, well, yeah, she used more virtue as a club when it was, yeah, well, there's plenty of those people around. Yeah, she said, well, really today, we're all winners, and the coach had the, yeah, exactly, no, it

is sickening because it, and you know, my son was just a paul bite, but the coach had enough guts. He said no, no, the hockey team won, and it's not like the kids in the school were jealous. Some of them were obviously, but most of them were really happy, like you are when your sports team wins. That, yeah, you know, and most people are generous enough so that they're able to celebrate someone else's victory without. And that's the same. I saw this with birthday parties. I just bloody well hated this. It's like, well, every child gets a gift bag. It's like, no, you know, they have their damn birthday. Every child doesn't need a damn gift bag. And it's this. Is this same the same naive trickly, and it's authoritarian too, because it imposes this kind of view of the world. It's like, no, it's this kid's data be special. That's why we're celebrating this kid. The rest of them, if they can't take that, it's like there's something wrong with the way.

that they've been treated and it tends to well a lot of my books. I've tried to remove the kind of taboo or the negative associations we have with the word like power or with the word ambition. You know, I try and say ambition is a good thing. It means that you have you believed in yourself, you have some self-love, and you believe you're worth something, and you want to go out and achieve. And it creates something worthwhile for other people, so ambition is a positive thing. But so many people are just kind of embarrassed about being a human being, embarrassed about our primate nature, embarrassed about our own aggressive impulses. This is partly why boys are failing in our schools now at a disproportionate rate. You know, the, and I see this, there's an assault of the sort that you're describing on the better part of striving masculinity. And you know, I had a friend who killed himself because he identified his ambition with, you know, the patriarchal force.

that's devouring the environment. Let's say, and that's a con. That's, you know, the cause of historical horror. And you might say, Well, no one takes that on to themselves to that degree. And that's, well, you can say that, but that you just don't know what the hell you're talking about. People take that on to themselves all the time, and then they start to identify the best part of them that strives forward with the destructive impulses of humanity. And they're so ashamed because they can't do anything good then. But in principle, yeah, you know, he tried to be as inoffensive and harmless in every possible way as he possibly could, and it just sucked all the life out of it. You end up turning that aggressive energy on yourself is what ends up happening. And that's maybe leads to suicide, the ultimate kind of self-aggression. I know that I personally have, as I said, I definitely have a shadow side. I'm very aggressive and extremely competitive, and I have a lot of anger.

so a lot of that those experiences in my youth made me very angry. But the way I kind of integrated my show, I'm not saying this is a model, but the way I integrated it was through my books. Yeah, so I kind of that anger kind of seeps through the material that I write, and I find I can only write when I have that kind of anger. But I don't rant, I don't yell, and kind of put people down. I kind of channel it into something productive and something creative. And so I definitely do that when I'm lecturing, you know, and people have commented, you know, some of the people who've criticized me that I'm an angry person, and which isn't true, but it's definitely that anger, that capacity for anger, definitely is something that gives you force, and it can push and anger definitely so psychophysiologically. So imagine that this is obviously a thought experiment. Imagine you're chasing a cat with a broom. Well, the cat's gonna run from the broom, but if you corner the cat with the broom.

it will attack you, even though it's just a cat. Well, the reason for that is that fear will facilitate either freezing or escape, right? But sometimes fear isn't the right response, and anger will suppress fear. And so, one of the tools that we have at our disposal psychologically is anger as an antidote to the terror that would otherwise freeze you.

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불우한 환경에서 자란 북부 앨버타 출신의 한 친구는 자신의 통합적인 그림자를 이용해 비행 청소년들과 함께 일하며 훌륭한 사회복지사가 되었습니다.

그는 인간관계에서도 솔직하고 신뢰할 수 있는 성격을 보여줬고, 믿을 수 있고 존경받는 친구가 되었습니다.

그랜드 프레리에서 벌어진 거친 파티에서 일어난 사건에서 알 수 있듯이, 그는 속임수를 꿰뚫어보는 능력과 강인한 외모를 바탕으로 어려운 상황을 효과적으로 처리했습니다.

그림자 통합: 어두운 면을 포용하기

억압된 공격적 충동을 나타내는 그림자 측면은 통합을 위해 인정하고 포용해야 합니다.

어두운 면을 억압하면 내면의 자아를 잃고 비명을 지르게 될 수 있으므로 공격적인 성향을 처벌하거나 억압하기보다는 이를 안내하고 통합하는 것이 중요합니다.

비경쟁 게임의 개념과 모두를 승자로 만든다는 생각은 아이들이 경쟁을 받아들이지 못하게 하고 현실 세계에는 승자가 없다는 잘못된 믿음을 갖게 한다는 비판을 받습니다.

지나치게 애지중지하는 자녀의 영향

아이들을 지나치게 애지중지하고 모두에게 상을 주면 아이들이 현실 세계에 들어갔을 때 무례하게 각성할 수 있습니다.

이러한 행동은 향후 환멸과 우울증을 유발할 수 있습니다.

생일 파티에서 모든 어린이에게 선물 가방을 주는 관행은 순진하고 권위주의적인 세계관을 조장한다는 비판을 받기도 합니다.

야망과 공격적인 충동 포용하기

연사는 야망을 자존감 및 생산성과 연결된 긍정적인 힘으로 받아들일 것을 주장합니다.

그는 공격적 충동에 대한 사회적 수치심이 미치는 부정적인 영향에 대해 이야기하며, 이를 학교에서 남학생의 불균형적인 실패와 연결시킵니다.

공격적인 에너지를 억압하여 자기 공격으로 이어지는 해로운 결과와 개인적인 경험 및 친구의 경험을 인용합니다.

분노를 창의성과 생산성으로 전환하기

연사는 자신의 분노를 생산적이고 창의적인 방식으로 글쓰기와 강의에 통합합니다.

어떤 사람들은 자신을 화를 잘 내는 사람으로 볼 수 있지만, 그들은 분노를 정신생리학적으로 원동력으로 사용한다고 강조합니다.

연사는 분노가 두려움에 대한 해독제 역할을 하여 다른 심리적 반응을 일으킬 수 있다고 설명합니다.