열정적인 직업 찾기: 지루함과 동기 부여 문제 극복하기

### 열정과 목적 찾기: 지루한 세상에서 직업 선택 탐색하기
* 🤔 많은 사람들이 인생에서 즐거움을 찾는 데 어려움을 겪고 자신의 열정을 잃어버리는 경우가 많아 **자신이 진정으로 좋아하는 것**을 발견해야 할 필요성을 느낍니다.
* 💪 **요가, 명상, 건강한 식단 유지**와 같은 신체 활동에 참여하면 흥미를 되살리고 동기 부여를 강화하는 데 도움이 될 수 있습니다.
* 🩺 동기 부여와 흥미 부족의 원인이 될 수 있는 **비타민 D 수치**와 같은 생물학적 요인이 있는지 확인하는 것이 중요합니다.
* 🎓 진로를 고려할 때는 단순히 논리적인 경로를 선택하기보다는 **자신의 열정을 파악**하고 이를 실행 가능한 직업 기회로 전환하는 방법을 탐색하는 것부터 시작하세요.
* 💔 많은 사람들이 만족도가 낮은 막다른 직업에 갇혀 있다고 느끼며, **적절한 급여와 개인적인 성취감**을 모두 제공하는 직업을 찾는 것이 중요합니다.
* 🌍 진정으로 흥미를 느끼는 것이 무엇인지 생각해 보면 **전문 DM이 되는 것과 같은 색다른 커리어 경로**로 이어질 수 있으며, 이를 탐색하려는 사람들에게 **틈새 기회**가 존재한다는 것을 알 수 있습니다.
* 🔍 의사 결정 과정에는 종종 **전통적인 경력 기대치에서 한 발 물러나 모든 가능성을 고려**하여 선택의 여지를 조기에 닫지 않으려는 노력이 수반됩니다.
* 🧠 궁극적으로 만족스러운 커리어를 찾기 위한 여정에는 **성찰과 탐구, 그리고 처음에는 실용적이지 않아 보이지만 보람 있는 결과로 이어질 수 있는 관심사**를 기꺼이 추구하려는 의지가 필요합니다.

만족스러운 커리어를 찾는 것은 개인의 열정을 재발견하고 이를 직무 기회와 연계하는 것에서 시작됩니다.

So for this person and everyone else out there who's stuck trying to find a career, what I'd say is like think about what you're passionate about first and then try to figure out how can I make this work as a job. How can I get compensated for doing this? How do I find a career when everything in life is boring to me? I've tried college and self-study in the past, but I never finished anything. I've switched majors like eight times and I was still unhappy. I just can't see, really see myself doing anything to be honest. In the past ten years, the only career fields I've worked on have been restaurants and clinics, working in the billing call center departments. I've hated them both because both are dead-end, low-paying, stressful, and soul-crushing. I don't care about being super rich, I just want to find something that pays decent and that also doesn't make me want to kill myself by the end of the week. This is something that I can absolutely sympathize with, empathize with.

Um, you know, I had a period of time in my life when I was like, really felt like everything was sort of a dead end, and nothing was really working for me. So, let's take a look at this because I think this is a really common problem. So, nowadays, a lot of people struggle to find a career and find everything to be boring, right? So, they're like, I tried this, I found it boring. I tried this, I found it boring. Like, How do I figure out what kind of career to have? So, I want to talk to you all a little bit about how we approach decision-making and how to find the right career for you, okay? So, the first thing is that we have this idea that we need a career, right? And so, we're sort of taught, like, societally, that there is... Oh, God, so this is a really common problem that people have, right? They'll say, like, How do I find the right career for me? Like, I've tried this, I've tried this, I did this.

for a while and um you know none of it really worked. I didn't enjoy it. How do I find the right career? So, the first thing to understand is that we tend to think about a career, right? We say to ourselves, like, Oh, like, I need a career of some kind. The other thing that tends to happen is if we look at how people make decisions, it's basically like monkey see, monkey do. So, I remember I was working with a, you know, a young patient of mine who um had started to use substances. And so, I was his addiction psychiatrist, and he had gone to a 30-day rehab, and he was trying to figure out, you know, what to do with his life. And I, you know, I was kind of asking, Okay, so like, what's your plan going forward? And he's like, Well, you know, I've got a buddy that works at an auto shop, so I think he can hook me up with a job. And so, it was really interesting because as I talked to him, what I realized is like the options that he was considering

are basically exactly what's in front of him. So, we as human beings tend to be like very monkey see, monkey do. So, like based on when we think about the options for like what we should do with ourselves, it tends to be based on things that are immediately available. Like, so I'm the child of two doctors, and I grew up in a small town in East Texas where three out of five of the Indian kids in my class, like in my grade, there were like five Indian kids that were in my grade in the entire city. Three of them wound up becoming doctors. So, when I was growing up and I went to college, like I majored in pre-med because that's just what people did, right? So, when we look at decision-making, what we tend to do is we don't actually make like objective decisions. We don't really look at all of the choices available to us. We tend to reach for the first thing that is available to us. So, like it's kind of weird because this is, there's a good um

exploration of this kind of thing in um who's that Nobel Prize-winning economist Daniel Kahneman. So, I think he sort of talks about this. It's important in medicine as well, where one of the things that doctors are trained how to do is to not make decisions based on the first thing that pops into their head, or the second thing, or the third thing, or the fourth thing. So, a lot of times, doctors make mistakes when they sort of rely on like their first instinct to make a decision. And what we train doctors to do is something called differential diagnosis, which is to think through all of the possibilities before settling on one. So, I see this a lot where people are trying to figure out what should my career be. I've tried all this stuff. I've tried switching majors eight times, and it still hasn't worked. What do I do? So, I'd say the first thing to do is to take a step back and to really think about, okay, what are all of the possibilities here? Construct a differential diagnosis.

about how you can spend your time. And when someone says, I can't figure out what my career is, I'd say that's actually too narrow to begin with. Because forget about a career. Like, I, you know, even a career is maybe not like... The problem is that your mind is coming up with solutions that are already so narrow. So if your problem is that I don't... I can't find a career I enjoy, I think part of that problem is because your mind is narrowly chasing options for a career. And by doing so, you may actually miss out on all kinds of things that you could earn, like a livable wage with, but your mind won't even consider them because you're locked into this idea of career. Because the problem is that when you think about career, right, like, then you start thinking about things like call center. Oh, I can get a job at a call center. I can get a job at a billing department. I can get a job in food service. So you're reaching for the simplest thing, the most available thing.

instead of considering all of your options, so what I'd strongly recommend is take a step back from the idea of a career entirely. Even if we look at how we started a healthy gamer, like this is a mental health startup that's relatively successful, right? Like we're doing some good stuff, we're helping some people, things like that. I did not start out thinking I'mma create a mental health startup and quit my job. That is really not what I cared about at all. It was like, Hey, there's uh, there's like people who are really struggling in a particular way, and I'm gonna try to help these people because it seems like no one else is. And so when you're really thinking about what you should do, the first thing I do is take a step back from the idea of career. And so this person was kind of saying everything that I've tried is boring. So then what I'd say is like take even a further step back and ask yourself the question if you're trying to find a

non-boring career. Start by asking yourself, What do you enjoy? and forget about the career right. Start to think like, Okay, what was the, what's something that I'm genuinely interested in? What's something that I enjoy doing? What's something that I, you know, really like, kind of been passionate about? When was the last time that I really had a lot of fun doing something? When was the last time I was intellectually engaged? What do I care about? What do I think I can do to make the world like a better place? Like, what's some kind of problem in the world that I would like to have an impact on? And you have to be kind of careful here because your mind may go for more what we call premature closure because it may say, Oh, I'm really passionate about, you know, like equal rights, but I have no qualifications. Okay, and so then what your mind does is it'll say, Oh, that's not an option because I have no qualifications. That's a premature closure too. Thinking about a career is also a

premature closure. So, what we want to do is take a really big step back and then start to think about what you actually care about, what you find interesting. And then, once you pick a couple of those things, then what we're gonna do is like an investigation based on what you find interesting and what the purpose of an investigation is a couple fold. The first is like, it's really interesting because I don't know if you guys know this, but like there are professional DMs in New York City that will charge like $400 a week to run like a DM'ing session, right? And so, you may say to yourself like, I never realized that was a career. I don't even know if it is a career. But what some people discovered is that, Hey, I'm really, really passionate about this, and It does seem like there's a lack of good DMs. So, there's actually like people who are willing to pay like $400 bucks a week. You've got like, you know, people who are, you know, maybe investment bankers or

Whatever, like in New York City, there's like five people in the group. They're all willing to chip in 80 bucks a week, and like that's their entertainment budget. Because if you go out a single night, like you go to dinner and you get drinks in New York City, it's like 200 bucks at a minimum, right? So there's actually like supply, and there's demand. And like I've actually met some professional DMs, and it's kind of interesting. You may say to yourself, Oh, I never realized that was a career. And like, yeah, because we don't think about that as a career, right? It's not something that people around you are going to be regularly doing. But there are all kinds of niche opportunities for you to make a livable wage doing something that you love. And the key thing to get into that kind of thinking is to step out of the idea of a career. So I'd say start with something like thinking about what do you actually enjoy, what do you care about, what do you like, find interesting.

and then what you want to do is start to think a little bit about, okay, like, how can I pursue this? How can I make this work? And then something really fascinating will happen. So, let's say that you're interested in, like, you know, equal rights or whatever. Like, then the interesting thing is you may not have any skill set, but as you start to, like, move towards something that you genuinely care about, the ability to do things that you don't enjoy will become far more tolerable. So, the problem right now is that we have a group of people who, like, go to school and they have no end game in mind. They're not going to school for a particular reason that they're passionate about. This is something in addiction psychiatry that we call a competing interest. So, this is a really important principle. If you want to do something that's very, very difficult, you have to have a competing interest. So, in addiction psychiatry, if you want to get someone to quit smoking, smoking offers a strong biological reward. It

offers dopamine. It offers nicotine. It offers socialization. It helps calm you down. It's an easy way to meet people. So, smoking has all of these advantages, and it turns out that if you want to get someone to quit smoking, you can't just give them information and say, Hey, you're going to get heart disease, you're going to get lung cancer, you'll get bad complications of COVID. All of that information doesn't actually affect behavior. What affects behavior is a competing interest, something that you care about. And once you develop a competing interest, so you know, my favorite thing in terms of working with smokers is I'll ask them, like, What do they care about, right? What do they think is interesting? And so, I had one patient, and this is sort of the example that I use. So, I had one patient who was a smoker, and I tried to explain, and this is early on in my career, and so I tried to explain to them, I was like, Okay, if you smoke, you're gonna get lung

cancer. Do you want lung cancer? And he's like, No, I don't want lung cancer. Comes in a month later. I'm like, How's your smoking going? He's like, Oh, I'm still smoking. I'm like, Okay, you'll also get heart disease. You'll get a stroke. Comes in a month later, and he's like, Still smoking, right? So then finally, I get to talk to the guy, and I get to know him, and then it turns out that he's got a daughter, and he's like really happy, and like he's, you know, he likes his daughter a lot. And then, you know, I even try this sort of thing where it's sort of like, Hey, like, you know, if you want to stay alive and healthy for your daughter, like, you know, maybe you should quit smoking. He's like, Yeah, that sounds really important, but he still continues to smoke. So one day, we talk a little bit about, Oh, you know, would you like to walk your daughter down the aisle one day? And he's like, Yeah, absolutely. And then I

asked him, you know, when you walk your daughter down the aisle, do you want to be wheeling an oxygen tank behind you? And then he's like, no, right? So like, he's got this vision, he's working really hard, he's like trying to be a good parent, he wants to like, like be there for his daughter, and then it's about finding something that they care about. And once you develop that competing interest, that competing interest, that thing that you care about, then becomes enough to overcome all of the biology, all of the dopamine, all of the nicotine, all of the, you know, social aspects of smoking. And then over the next like six to eight months, he actually like quit smoking. And it's all about developing a competing interest. And the problem right now that I see is that a lot of people like find a career because it's logical, it's good on paper, but that logical advantage of like, oh, I should do this and should do this is not enough to actually overcome the suffering that you have to go

through for the career. So, as you think about what you actually care about, and then you enroll in a school with a purpose. And then, even though you don't want to take statistics, even though you don't want to take, you know, philosophy or like intro to chemistry, once you have a good competing interest, and you're like, Hey, this is something that I actually care about. I want to learn this and this. This is what I'm passionate about. And then what you do is you align your career behind your passions, right? It's not How do I find a career that I can enjoy? and like your passions are sitting over here. You start by thinking about what you care about, what you enjoy, and then you try to do like a very systematic process of making it work. So, I'd say like if we go back to this Reddit post, we can kind of see it pretty clearly that like, you know, I want you all to pay attention to this: How do I find a career when everything in life is boring to me? I don't think everything in

life is boring, right? What we see is that I've tried college and self-study, but I never finished anything. I keep on switching majors, and I'm still unhappy. So, the real question that this person should be asking is, What are you attracted to? What do you gravitate towards? What do you care about? What do you genuinely enjoy doing? And then be careful because your mind may tell you, Oh, you can't do that because x, y, z. And the cool thing is that when your mind tells you, You can't do that because xyz, that is actually going to be like your solution. So, as your mind tells you, You can't do that because you haven't graduated from college, then you know what you need to do? You need to graduate from college. Well, you can't graduate from college until you get into college. Okay, so then it sounds like what we need to do is get into college. You can't get into college without applying to college. Okay, then it sounds like I need to write an application. And the cool thing is then when you write your college application

and you write your college essay if you have that end goal in mind. Like when you look at your essay, it's going to be like, Why do you want to go to college? I want to go to college because I'm interested in supporting equal rights and developing countries. I want to go to college because I'm interested in esports. I want to study creative writing because I want to be a professional DM, and I want formal training in sort of constructing adventures and storytelling. Colleges love seeing unorthodox candidates that have interesting ideas about what they want to do, right? It's really fascinating. And what I found time and time and time again is that people who are able to do this process of taking a step back, really think about what you enjoy doing, think about what you're passionate about, and then if you have to make some sacrifices along the way to get to where you want to go, it works out really, really well. So for this person and everyone else out there who's stuck trying to find a

career. What I'd say is like think about what you're passionate about first, and then try to figure out how can I make this work as a job. How can I get compensated for doing this? And like literally, it was like I enjoy talking to gamers all day. Like that's what I like doing. I like helping people with their problems. So one way that I was able to turn that into a career is by going to medical school and becoming a psychiatrist. But then I was also like, you know, that's not sufficient for me. I actually like vibing with chat. So what are we gonna do? I guess maybe I'll start streaming on Twitch. And like I don't know if y'all get this, but like I just started streaming on Twitch one day, right? Like I had like 10 people who were viewers, and then we had like 15, and then we had 50, and then we had 200. We were like sitting around 200 viewers for a couple of weeks. And if you're passionate about something and you kind of give it

your all and you try really hard. It turns out that I think the world will kind of respond to you like pretty well, and that's why we have professional DMs. We've got people who are like, Hey, I really love DMing, and like that's their job now. So what if he doesn't know what he enjoys doing or he lost interest in everything he used to love, like me? So that's a great question. So then the question becomes, how did you lose interest, right? Because that passion is there, it's just buried. And so then, well, I think we'll have a couple of other posts today that may relate to that, but like interest is something that is not like gained or lost. I think it tends to be buried or not buried. So a case in point, like I had COVID the last two weeks. So like all of the things that I was passionate about and interested in, I didn't care about, right? Like when you've got COVID, you just don't care about anything. You're kind of anhedonic.

even playing video games and stuff would like not be fun. So then there's like a process of sort of uncovering what you enjoy, what you love, like where did you lose sight of it, what made you lose sight of it. There are also all kinds of like physical things that you can do, right? You can take care of your body, and then your interest will naturally grow. So you can do stuff like yoga, meditation, eating healthy food, like all that kind of stuff is going to be good for you. You know, if you go see your doctor, you know, get your vitamin D levels checked, get, um, you know, there are all kinds of biological things that can result in a lack of motivation. So you can kind of work on some of those things and remember that just because you've lost your interest doesn't mean that you can't find it again. You have to really figure out how it got buried.

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적합한 커리어 찾기: 일반적인 어려움

많은 사람들이 올바른 직업을 찾으려고 노력하는 동안 막다른 골목에 부딪힌 것처럼 막막함과 지루함을 느낍니다.

진로 선택에 대한 의사 결정은 종종 사회적 기대와 "원숭이가 보면 원숭이도 한다"는 사고방식의 영향을 받습니다.

개인적인 상황과 의미 있는 관계는 삶의 변화에 동기를 부여하는 데 중요한 역할을 할 수 있지만, 올바른 길을 찾는 것은 여전히 어려울 수 있습니다.

커리어 경로 찾기: 다른 접근 방식

직업에 대한 생각에서 한 발짝 물러나면 자신의 열정을 명확히 하는 데 도움이 될 수 있습니다.

자신이 좋아하는 것에 집중하고 이를 직업으로 전환할 수 있는 방법을 모색하세요.

자신의 관심사를 조사하다 보면 수익성이 높은 전문 DM과 같은 예상치 못한 직업 기회를 발견할 수도 있습니다.

보람찬 커리어를 위한 열정 추구하기

뚜렷한 목적이나 열정 없이는 좋아하는 일을 찾는 것이 어려울 수 있습니다.

진정으로 관심 있는 일을 향해 나아간다면 어려운 일도 더 견딜 수 있습니다.

강력한 생물학적 보상과 같은 경쟁적인 관심사를 갖는 것은 어려운 목표를 달성하고 경력을 자신의 열정에 맞추는 데 매우 중요합니다.

흡연은 다양한 이점을 제공하기 때문에 건강 위험에 대한 정보만으로는 금연하기 어렵습니다.

개인적인 열정이나 매력과 같은 경쟁적인 관심사는 행동을 변화시키는 데 매우 중요합니다.

진로 옵션을 탐색할 때는 좁은 직업의 정의에 얽매이기보다는 시야를 넓혀 진정으로 흥미와 매력을 느끼는 것에 초점을 맞추는 것이 중요합니다.

만족스러운 커리어 찾기: 경쟁적 이해관계의 중요성

좋은 부모가 되는 것과 같은 경쟁적인 관심사를 개발하면 흡연과 같은 중독성 행동의 어려움을 극복하는 데 도움이 될 수 있습니다.

많은 사람들이 모든 옵션을 탐색하기보다는 논리적 이유나 즉각적인 가용성에 따라 직업을 선택합니다.

만족스러운 직업을 찾으려면 사회적 기대나 자격 요건에 맞추기보다는 자신이 진정으로 즐기고 관심 있는 일에 집중하는 것이 중요합니다.

활동과 진로에 대한 흥미를 잃는 것은 흔히 겪는 어려움일 수 있지만, 근본 원인을 파악하고 자신의 신체적, 정신적 건강을 돌보는 것이 중요합니다.

열정을 탐구하고 이를 직업으로 삼을 방법을 찾는 것은 성취감으로 이어질 수 있으며, 대학은 종종 독특한 목표를 가진 색다른 지원자를 높이 평가합니다.

흥미는 사라지는 것이 아니라 묻힐 수 있으며, 한 발짝 물러나 자신이 좋아하는 것을 되돌아보면 열정을 재발견하는 데 도움이 될 수 있다는 점을 기억하세요.