In the past, what was the most common way for men to spend the night with women? Honestly, it was all about relying on alcohol. Both I and the other person would get drunk, completely numbing our rationality. In today's world, doing this could lead to serious consequences. Moreover, I personally think this method is quite terrible. As I mentioned earlier, the risks are very high. In this day and age, things can go horribly wrong, completely contrary to your intentions, so I felt that it’s just not worth it. In such cases, it’s very clear: even if you do everything right a hundred times, just one mistake—like the other person being a bit off or me acting inappropriately—can completely turn things upside down. It can lead to a downward spiral in life.

I throw it away, and I can't come back. That's why I strongly discourage this kind of thing. Also, I don't drink well. It's really tough for me to open a bottle of alcohol every time I meet a woman. Moreover, when both of us are drunk, and we end up spending the night together based on the mood of the day, I honestly think that's just luck. More precisely, I wanted to have that feeling of seducing a woman in my mind. The physical aspect is just a consequence of that. I didn't want to be the kind of person who just sleeps with every woman. So, at some point, I started thinking about how to create a sexy and attractive vibe, a manly feeling, rather than relying on luck for that day's atmosphere.

Can I make someone feel something? How can I create a somewhat sensual atmosphere without physical contact? This thought spiraled in my mind, leading me to try various approaches. I really tried to act cool, even in situations that weren't about drinking. I also experimented with my appearance, going to the salon and putting in my best effort to look good. I tried everything. I succeeded in some areas and failed in others. However, as I gathered data, I began to combine the successful elements and started to present myself in front of women, which led to quite good results. This made me wonder if it was only beneficial for me. So, I started applying these insights to our consulting clients and long-term coaching clients. Then, results began to emerge. Ah, I see! If I identify these key points and apply them to myself, it can be quite effective.

I realized that a woman can reach her desired goals without being extremely drunk or engaging in excessive physical contact in a sexy atmosphere. Today, I want to discuss this in detail. First of all, I want to mention that when it comes to this topic, there will definitely be a lot of comments about looks. Let me say it in advance: looks are important. The face is the best weapon. Honestly, even if a guy is doing all sorts of crazy things in front of a woman, I believe she will still choose someone who is better looking than him. But if we go by that logic, then anyone who isn't good-looking should just give up, right? We should focus on what we can do. In my opinion, appearance just needs to be neat. Aside from the top-tier individuals, honestly, most people are quite similar. From there, you can make your hair a bit trendier or take better care of your skin.

Optimizing your body is really important. If you go through these things well, I believe you'll find the right entry ticket for this game. I've seen guys get completely outshined and humiliated in front of beautiful women. A pretty face is just a starting point; it's not the end. Of course, the situation is different for those who are at a higher level. However, I am 100% sure that among those watching this video, there won't be anyone at that level. So right now, we need to focus on what we can do. 

To be more specific about what I've felt, the most important thing is feeling awkward around women. The awkwardness I'm talking about isn't about not having anything to say. It's about feeling the pressure and burden of wanting to dominate the conversation, thinking, Tonight, I will lead this. There’s a state where you don’t feel that pressure or burden. You can have some comfortable silences, and then silence arises.

Now the man looks at the woman. At this moment, tension arises. The feeling of tension creates a certain atmosphere, and if it twists just a little, it can lead to sexual tension. In that flow, if the man becomes flustered and looks into space, trying to break the awkwardness with words, he will ultimately engage in silly antics to escape this tension. The woman is sensitive, so she picks up on this man's awkwardness and it all becomes amplified. As a result, the attraction the man feels naturally decreases. In situations where there is this kind of tension, try not to be flustered and just be present in the moment. In my case, when such a situation arises, I simply maintain eye contact and don’t say much. I just smile at her face. If she asks why I keep looking, I just say it’s because she’s pretty, and that’s about it. There’s nothing particularly special about it.

There’s nothing to worry about; just comfortably look into each other’s eyes and talk. I can assure you that in this tense atmosphere, a simple phrase can convey why I really like you, what it is about you that appeals to me. This kind of storytelling will overwhelmingly make you feel a sexual attraction. So, it’s about seeing you as a man. In fact, this isn’t easy. Generally, when people find themselves in awkward situations, they feel anxiety, nervousness, impatience, and a tendency to avoid the situation. However, if you can endure these feelings, sit there, and manage them effectively—if you can remain unaffected by the tension in the situation—it creates a significant difference. Now, let’s think about this: when you and I are talking in front of a woman we just met...

When we meet, do you think we really have completely different stories to share? Not really. The conversations between a man and a woman on a first date are pretty much the same. However, those who are good at meeting women know how to handle conversations without getting flustered, no matter the situation. They never miss the chance to ease the tension or awkwardness that might arise. 

One effective technique is to create a conversational scenario. For example, you might say, Hey, I have something I'm curious about. The other person will naturally ask, What are you curious about? At that moment, you can pause a bit. It's not about making a big deal out of the pause; it's simply about maintaining eye contact and being silent. This creates a similar kind of tension that we talked about earlier. 

Ultimately, what I've realized the more I meet women is that it's not about using specific words to charm them; it's about the atmosphere I create.

I've been thinking a lot about what it means. Naturally, if everything I said was hilarious or truly funny, I would have twisted the language. But most people are not like that. So, let's think about what it means to create a good atmosphere. It's actually simple. Whether or not there is a woman in front of me, I need to focus on upgrading my own atmosphere. When you walk, stand up straight, and if you're watching this video while standing, keep your shoulders back and your back straight. Try not to talk too much in your daily life, and speak a little more slowly. If you think to yourself, Isn't this too slow? when you talk, the other person will find your voice just right. Again, the feeling is important; your everyday vibe matters, not just what you present in front of a woman.

Just pretending doesn't change anything, and it will inevitably be revealed. If you understand this big picture, there are several things we can utilize. It’s about not giving the other person 100% satisfaction. This also creates discomfort. For example, in a situation where both are kissing, don’t go overboard and make a scene. When you’re trying to go a little deeper, you should pull back first. You’re not giving them complete satisfaction. The same goes for expressions of affection. If you excessively express how much you like someone, saying they are the only one for you, it can actually decrease your attractiveness. It makes you seem desperate, as if they are the only person in your eyes. On the other hand, if you don’t express anything at all, the other person might think you’re just not interested, and that’s the end of it. It’s about maintaining that middle ground. How do I express my interest?

It's about expressing feelings without making definitive statements. For example, after talking to you, I feel that your thoughts and feelings are much more attractive than my initial impression. I'm not the type of person who gets easily drawn to someone during a first meeting, but when I talk to you, I find many positive aspects. It's really fun and intriguing. Basically, I have a favorable impression of you, but it's not overwhelming. If I were to quantify it, I would say that about 70% to 80% of my expectations are met. This isn't just about physical closeness; it also includes verbal expressions of affection. The remaining part should not provide certainty but rather allow the other person to fill in the gaps. To summarize what I've said so far, there is always a certain level of pressure and tension between men and women.

You have to create a situation where, if it's not silence, you don't just agree with what the other person is saying. Instead, you can refuse by saying, I don't think that's quite right, or sometimes, if you're confident, you might even diss the other person. In this tension, it's important to maintain your composure and show confidence. You should keep this big picture in mind. 

Let's think about an image: imagine you are standing in front of an audience of about 500 people. If you manage to move comfortably and convey your thoughts quite accurately without succumbing to the pressure and tension, you would feel very satisfied with yourself. Naturally, the audience in front of you would also be satisfied. You would appear much more attractive than when you first started speaking. In such situations, everyone starts off the same; everyone who gets up there has to say something.

Let's take a look. In front of a woman, you might feel uncertain about who she is, and that anxiety about uncertainty is likely to be much greater. In such situations, we become bolder and do not yield to that pressure. Whether it's a woman or society, or anything surrounding you, please do not avoid it. After all, most things are our choices, and in about 90% of cases, they are our responsibility. When we repeatedly make choices that reflect who we are, I am confident that our feelings, and furthermore, the woman's reactions themselves will change. That's it for today's video. We operate a membership at Ambitious Men, and we offer coaching and consulting services. You can find more information in the pinned comment link below. That's it for today's video. If you liked it, please subscribe, like, and turn on notifications.

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