도망가는 습관을 가진 남성의 특징

### 관계에서 도망치는 습관을 가진 남성의 특징
* 🏃 도망치는 습관이 있는 남성은 **불편한 일과 책임을 피하고, 즐거운 활동에만 참여**하고 부담이 즐거움보다 클 때 도망치는 경우가 많습니다.
* 🙉 이들은 과거의 사건을 모호하고 언급하지 않는 것을 선호하며, 그러한 주제가 발생하면 **갑자기 주제를 바꾸거나 커뮤니케이션을 단절**합니다.
* 💬 이 남성들은 의미 있는 대화를 나누는 데 어려움을 겪고 있으며, **파트너의 감정을 주의 깊게 듣고 공감하는 능력**이 부족합니다.
* 🛑 이러한 문제에 직면하면 **인신공격, 애드호미넴 오류, 초점 돌리기 등의 전술**을 사용하여 문제를 모호하게 만드는 경향이 있습니다.
* 🧠 의사소통이 원활하지 않을 때 **정신 질환을 핑계**로 삼아 감정적 갈등을 일으킬 수 있습니다.
* 🚪 이들에게 문제를 직접 마주하는 것은 **손대지 않는 집안의 방을 여는 것**과 같아서 불편한 진실을 마주하는 것을 피하는 경향이 있습니다.
* 🤐 상황이 진정될 때까지 기다렸다가 아무 일도 없었다는 듯이 상대방에게 연락하여 **특정 일이 없었던 것처럼 행동**할 수 있다는 인상이 주는 것이 일반적입니다.
* ❤ 이러한 습관을 가진 남성과 신뢰를 쌓는 것은 어렵지만, **이별 직후에는 관계 중 자신의 행동과 말을 반성**할 수 있기 때문에 변화할 가능성이 있습니다.

도망가는 습관이 있는 남성은 신뢰에 어려움을 겪고, 어려운 대화를 피하며, 관계에서 회피 전술을 사용합니다.

There are individuals in human relationships, not limited to romantic ones, who cannot establish a trusting relationship. These are people who have a habit of running away. Why can't they build trust when they have a habit of running away? What are the characteristics of people who have this habit of running away? I will explain such individuals. In the morning, on the How to Make Women Channel, we not only share tips on successful romantic relationships but also provide useful advice for life. Just by watching, your doubts about human relationships can be resolved. If you are interested, please subscribe to the channel. There are seven characteristics of men with a habit of running away, and I will explain each one. The first one is avoiding inconvenient things like a cat. Avoiding inconvenient things means not wanting to take responsibility for oneself. For example, men who do not commit to a serious relationship or engage in affairs in the romantic aspect.

People who have a habit of escaping often tend to engage only in enjoyable activities and avoid all troublesome tasks. When the burden outweighs the fun, they start thinking about escaping. This is a distinctive trait. Secondly, they tend to act as if certain past events never happened, preferring to keep things vague and not bring them up in conversations. Their wish is for things to remain unaddressed, and if a topic seems likely to come up, they abruptly change the subject or suddenly cut off communication. They often struggle with having meaningful conversations, and one key characteristic is their lack of ability to listen attentively. They may seem distracted and give absent-minded responses, like talking while watching TV or using their smartphone, making it difficult for them to empathize with their conversation partner's feelings.

Reading is something I'm catastrophically bad at. When it gets troublesome, I retreat. For the third point, when things get complicated, I tend to avoid it. When it becomes bothersome, asking for point three is actually important for the person. They are listening properly, but it might seem surprising. They tend to think they are capable of having a discussion, while assuming the other person cannot. This is quite common. The reason for this is that women often want to be understood and become emotional, leading to such situations. Also, men with a habit of escaping tend to run away from various things, so they often can only have superficial conversations. Therefore, it is quite common that they cannot have serious and important conversations. Moreover, many of them do not listen seriously and do not remember what was said. Fourthly, when pointed out, they tend to obfuscate the issue.

So, how can we obscure this point? The first is personality attack. It means rejecting the opponent's opinion by attacking their characteristics, not their opinions or arguments. For example, saying I don't want to hear from a low-educated person like you or I don't want to hear such things from someone with a bad upbringing. This is to push back the opponent's opinions. The second is the ad hominem fallacy. It is a method of criticizing the opponent by claiming that they are surely advocating for something great for their own benefit. For instance, saying something like, You are just trying to point out my mistakes because it suits you, or You must be looking down on me and laughing inside. The third is the You too fallacy, where pointing out that the opponent is doing the same thing becomes a reason for them to get upset. They bring up the opponent's past actions to justify their own.

It means pushing too hard, right? So, like, when you name it correctly, and then the same child doesn't come several times, it's like wanting to make a mistake, you know? So, shifting the focus like this and confusing the issue is a habit of men. The fifth point is when it becomes troublesome, they start using mental illness as an excuse. They can't communicate anymore, it doesn't get through, and gradually the woman becomes emotional. She just wants to be understood, right? But men with an avoidance habit can't understand other people's feelings. Then there's a gap between those who want their feelings to be understood and those who say unpleasant things. As a result, it becomes troublesome, and they end up using mental illness as an excuse towards the female partner. For example, they might say, Are you crazy? or I've never said that before, or You're so extreme, or Don't blame me for your illness.

It's about whether you are a funny person, right? When asked something you don't want to answer, the key is not to touch on that part but to mention the number of times you have been asked. When asked about men who have a habit of running away, instead of addressing that specific point, you return to the topic. So, for people who have sincerely faced others, it may be unbelievable, but in their minds, there is no concept of facing people without running away. For instance, if there is a room in the house that is never opened, for someone who doesn't want to postpone dealing with problems or troublesome things, they will try to address this unopened room first. They understand this to the extent that they cannot live comfortably without it. However, for those with a habit of running away, if there is something in this unopened room, well, it's fine if we don't touch it for three days. It's like, let's keep something hidden here and pretend it never happened to live comfortably. The difference in approach is completely different, isn't it?

So, for those who deal with problems properly, I don't think they can understand people like this. It's a common thing, but when things have calmed down, they start to check on the situation. If they are asked something they don't want to answer, they respond the next day with a greeting like good morning, completely unrelated to the matter. This is quite common. No matter how rude the other person is, they will still greet you without addressing the issue. For example, if you point out that they broke a promise, they won't apologize. They don't understand why they wait until things have calmed down. They are just predicting the period when the heat will die down, not really understanding. They predict when the heat will die down and contact you as if nothing happened. So, that's where women usually

Once you can make it seem like it never happened, it's okay to just avoid dealing with it. This way, the other person can create an impression that they can act as if certain things never happened. That's why when someone like that loses interest, they'll contact you and say something like, Hey, you didn't respond to what I said the other day, and if the response is something like, That doesn't matter to me, it's like, Okay, this person gets it, and it becomes a bit bothersome. It feels like they're going to run away again. In addition, it's a common trait of men with a habit of running away to naturally let relationships fade away in love. The reason they aim for a natural disappearance is mainly because it suddenly becomes bothersome. Furthermore, it's quite common for them to contact the person who disappeared naturally a few months later, all cheerful and lively. As for the issue of whether it's possible to build trust with men who have this habit of running away, the basic answer is no. If you aim to have a relationship that is just for fun...

It may be possible, but men who have a habit of running away have too many challenges that they must face for themselves. Until now, there have been very few cases where individuals who have been able to run away have faced those challenges, even if it means doing difficult things. In relationships, there is a possibility of change right after a breakup, due to repeated attention and advice during the relationship. After a breakup, there are many cases where individuals spend time thinking about the meaning of words and various things. Back then, I said this, or Was there someone who spoke to me directly like that? These are the kinds of thoughts that come up. However, in order to do that, the woman who is his girlfriend must continue to speak directly, and whether that will lead to a change or not, it's something that will only be understood at that time.

Some men are often like a mental illness manufacturing machine, so it's not uncommon for women to become increasingly strange when in a relationship with them. That's why it's more common for one to end up only thinking about themselves rather than the other person, making it more difficult to control their own emotions than to manipulate the other person's. There are many cases like this, so it's better not to expect them to change.

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관계에서 신뢰를 쌓는 데 어려움을 겪는 남성의 습관

습관적으로 가출하는 사람들은 불편하거나 골치 아픈 상황을 회피하고 과거의 일이 없었던 것처럼 행동하는 경향이 있기 때문에 관계, 특히 연애 관계에서 신뢰를 쌓는 데 어려움을 겪습니다.

또한 의미 있는 대화를 나누는 능력이 부족하고 산만하고 부주의해 보이는 경우가 많아 파트너의 감정에 공감하는 데 방해가 됩니다.

커뮤니케이션 및 갈등 해결의 과제

많은 사람들이 일이 복잡해지거나 귀찮아지면 의사소통에 어려움을 겪으며 진지하고 중요한 대화를 나누지 못하는 경우가 많습니다.

이는 이해와 감정 표현에 대한 욕구뿐만 아니라 어려운 상황에서 벗어나려는 경향으로 인해 흔히 발생합니다.

어떤 사람들은 인신공격, 애드호미넴 오류, 상대방의 의견을 거부하거나 비판하는 '당신도' 오류와 같은 전술을 사용하여 문제를 모호하게 만드는 경향이 있습니다.

남성의 회피 습관과 그것이 관계에 미치는 영향

회피 습관이 있는 남성은 집중력을 잃고 정신 질환을 핑계로 삼으며 파트너의 감정을 이해하는 데 어려움을 겪는 경향이 있습니다.

이러한 행동은 관계에 공백을 만들어 책임을 회피하기 위한 방법으로 정신 질환을 사용하게 됩니다.

회피 습관은 또한 남성이 어려운 주제와 대립을 회피하게 만들어 관계의 역학 관계에 더 큰 영향을 미칩니다.

갈등에 대한 이해와 대처의 어려움

어떤 사람들은 문제 해결을 피하고 적절한 시기가 오기를 기다립니다.

이들은 문제와 관련 없는 인사말을 사용하여 회피하고 책임을 회피하는 경향이 있습니다.

이러한 행동은 남성과 여성 모두에게 공통적으로 나타나며, 관계에서 신뢰를 쌓고 문제를 해결하는 데 어려움을 겪게 합니다.

가출한 남성을 상대할 때의 어려움

가출 습관이 있는 남성은 혼자서 수많은 어려움에 직면하지만, 이러한 어려움에 맞설 수 있는 사람은 거의 없습니다.

이별 후 개인은 종종 관계를 되돌아보는 데 시간을 보내지만, 전 파트너와의 직접적인 소통이 변화를 이끌어낼 수 있을지는 불확실합니다.

이러한 남성과 관계에 있는 여성은 점점 더 자기중심적으로 변해가는 자신을 발견할 수 있으며, 이로 인해 남성의 변화를 기대하기 어려울 수 있습니다.