감성 지능: 성공과 웰빙의 열쇠

### 감성 지능: 성공, 건강, 사회의 열쇠
* 😀 "감정은 어디에나 존재합니다. **감정은 우리의 의사 결정을 형성**하고 세상을 이해하는 데 도움을 주며 다른 사람과의 모든 상호 작용에서 매우 중요합니다."
* 🧠 "감성 지능은 **감정을 사용하여 긍정적인 결과**를 창출하고 해로운 상황을 피할 수 있게 해줍니다."
* 🧘 감성 지능은 감정에 휘둘리지 않고 **자신의 감정을 인식하고 관리**할 수 있도록 도와주는 능력입니다.
* 💡 "감성 지능은 **IQ에 비해 학업 성공, 업무 성과, 삶의 성공**을 더 잘 예측하는 지표입니다."
* 👶 "정서적으로 지능적인 환경에서 자란 아이들은 **높은 수준의 감성 지능**을 보입니다."
* 🧒 "아동의 감성 지능은 **복지 및 학업 성취도**와 관련이 있습니다."
* 🏫 "감성 지능의 중요한 영향을 고려할 때, 일반적인 학교 커리큘럼에서 **감성 기술에 대한 강조가 의외로 적**습니다."

감성 지능은 감정을 이해하고, 관리하고, 활용하여 만족스러운 삶을 영위하는 데 매우 중요합니다.

daniel goleman emotional intelligence. Some people think emotions play a role only in romantic situations or in the heat of a physical fight. Yet, in fact, emotions are everywhere. They form our decisions, help us understand the world, and are crucial in any interaction with others. This book explains in detail what impact emotions have on your everyday life. It shows how they can help you, but also how they lead you astray. It also highlights the role that emotional intelligence plays in allowing us to use emotions to create positive outcomes and avoid situations where they can harm us. It explains how emotional intelligence makes it possible to create a balanced interaction between the emotional brain and the rational brain. It also shows us how this capacity can be acquired and expanded. Finally, it answers these interesting questions: how does emotional intelligence develop in individuals, and why is this capacity so important for society as a whole? Emotions are important. They help us learn new things, understand others, and push us to take action.

do our emotions hold us back? Would we do better if our emotions were removed, and we became unfeeling, logical creatures? In fact, emotions are vital to us as they provide us with advantages that help us to lead fulfilled lives. One such advantage is the way emotions help us learn from our memories. When our brain stores experiences, it doesn't just collect facts; it also records our feelings, and these feelings help us to learn from our experiences. For example, if a little boy touches a hot stove, he will experience intense pain. The thought of touching another stove in the future will carry with it the memory of that searing pain; thus, his emotions will hopefully keep him from doing it again. Another value of emotions is the way they help us to interpret the feelings of others, which can aid in predicting their actions. For example, imagine you're faced with an angry man. From his body language, maybe his clenched fists or loud voice, you can tell his emotional state.

knowing this, you can predict his future actions. 
He might, for instance, be ready to hit someone. The final advantage that our emotions 
give us is the drive to act. We require them in order to react quickly to a situation. 
Take that angry man from the earlier example. If we feel that he may be close to a violent 
outburst, our emotions will make us feel threatened or even angry, thus preparing us to react 
quickly if he looked like he was about to attack. People who have lost their capacity for emotion 
also lose this drive to act. For example, in the previous century, many psychiatric patients went 
through a brain surgery called a lobotomy, which separated two regions of the brain that are vital 
for emotional processing. The result of the surgery was that patients lost their initiative and drive 
to act, as well as much of their emotional capacity. Sometimes our emotions can impede our judgment 
or make us act irrationally. Our emotions are important tools for understanding and interacting 
with our environment; however, they are also flawed.

and can lead us to make mistakes. One such 
mistake occurs when we become overly emotional. In order to make sound judgments, we need to 
think clearly. Like a juggler, our minds can   handle only so many items at once, and when 
we're in a state of heightened emotion, our   minds are bombarded with alarming thoughts 
and disturbing images. Thus, there is no room   for rational thought, and our judgment is clouded. 
For example, when you are frightened, you may find   yourself overreacting to situations, thinking 
they're more dangerous than they actually are. This is why when you're scared, you might 
mistake a sheet on a washing line for a ghost.   Another mistake caused by our emotions is when 
we act suddenly before we have the chance to   judge a situation clearly. When information 
enters our brain, a fraction of it bypasses   the region responsible for rational thought, the 
neocortex, and directly enters the emotional brain.   If it perceives this information to be a threat, 
the emotional brain can trigger us to act.

suddenly, without consulting our thinking brain. This is why you may jump out of your skin when you're in a dark forest and you see a strange figure out of the corner of your eye. The final way our emotions can lead us to act irrationally is when we are affected by obsolete emotional responses. Our emotional mind reacts to situations in the present based on past experiences, even when the conditions have changed. For example, a boy who was physically bullied at school may grow up to be a strong man but still feel threatened by his former bully. So, although emotions are important, they can take control of our minds and disrupt rational thinking. We therefore require something to help us manage them effectively. Emotional intelligence enables you to manage your emotions and leverage them to reach your goals. So, how can you use the power of your emotions without them overwhelming you? You need emotional intelligence (E.I.) as it allows you to recognize and manage your feelings without

being controlled by them. The first aspect of emotional intelligence is being able to recognize and name your feelings. This step is vital to being able to manage your emotions. Studies show that people who aren't able to recognize their own feelings are more prone to violent outbursts. Once you are able to recognize your emotions, you need to become aware of what causes them. Often, your feelings in a situation depend on how you think about it. For example, if a friend of yours passes you on the street and doesn't acknowledge you, you might immediately think that they're ignoring you on purpose. This may make you upset or even angry, but if you stop to think why he failed to acknowledge you, you might find other reasons that leave you less upset. The friend might, for example, not have seen you because they were lost in thought and weren't concentrating on their surroundings. When you begin to recognize and manage your feelings, emotional intelligence can help you concentrate on achieving certain goals. For example, imagine that you need to

write a paper for university. You don't really like the subject matter, and you'd much rather go to a film festival instead. Emotional intelligence can help you manage these various feelings. Although the subject matter bores you, you could try to look at it from another angle. Maybe there is one aspect of the subject that enthuses you. Also, knowing how the film festival will make you feel, you can defer the gratification and save your potential enjoyment until you have time for it. Students who manage their workloads in this way tend to do well at school, even if they have average IQs. Emotional intelligence is the capacity that helps you navigate the social world. Unless you live on an island, it is unlikely that you'll develop a happy life just by managing your own mind. Other people play a large role in your existence, and only by managing your social interactions with them can you hope to live a fulfilled life. Once again, emotional intelligence can help in achieving this. Emotional intelligence fosters good social

interactions, because it helps you put yourself 
in other people's shoes. Knowing how you'd feel   in a certain situation helps you to gauge 
how others will feel in a similar environment. Your emotional intelligence also helps you 
discover the emotions of others by analyzing   their non-verbal signs. This means you can judge a 
person's mood just by looking at cues like their   facial expressions or body language. For example, 
if you see someone with a face as white as a sheet   and with their mouth wide open, you will 
probably conclude that they have been shocked. What's more, you'll probably identify such 
cues automatically without any conscious   effort, because it allows you to empathize 
with others. Emotional intelligence enables   you to behave in ways which evoke favorable 
reactions from others. For example, imagine you   are the manager of a company where one member 
of staff is constantly making the same mistakes. You'll need to tell him about this and get him 
to change, but you have to do it in the right way.

if you hurt his feelings, he may become angry or defensive, and less likely to make the changes you desire. If you empathize with him and imagine how he will feel, you can act in a way which makes him more willing to change. In general, people with emotional intelligence can develop social aptitudes such as the ability to teach others, resolve conflicts, or manage teams of staff, and these aptitudes help them to maintain relationships in the social environment. Emotional intelligence requires a balance between the emotional feeling brain and the rational thinking brain. The way we think and feel are intertwined, this is because the thinking brain, where we develop our rational thoughts, and the feeling brain, the birthplace of our emotions, are linked. They are connected by strong neuronal pathways. Our emotional intelligence is dependent on these connectors between the thinking and feeling brains, and any damage to these neuronal pathways can elicit emotional intelligence deficits. For example, a person whose emotional brain is severed from their thinking

deficiencies in this area will include a loss of emotional self-awareness, which is an important component of emotional intelligence. Evidence of this can be seen in lobotomized patients after the connections between these two brains were severed. They lost their emotional capacity. Another example of the importance of the connections between our two brains is the thinking brain's role in correcting the workings of the feeling brain, a process essential for emotional self-regulation. Emotional self-regulation works in the following way: stimuli, such as a sudden loud bang, will often send your emotional brain into overdrive. The feeling brain will automatically perceive the stimulus as a threat, and so it will respond by putting your body into a state of alert. We use our thinking brains to help regulate this process. After we hear the loud bang and while our emotional brain is sending alarm bells ringing around the body, our thinking brain is checking the stimulus to see what threat is there.

if it sees no danger, then it calms down both the feeling brain and the body, allowing you to think clearly again. This is why we aren't constantly overreacting to every sudden noise we hear. If you break the link between the thinking and feeling brains, this process is impossible. For example, patients with severe damage to the thinking brain have difficulty regulating their feelings. Emotional intelligence makes you healthier and more successful. What is the key to leading a successful and fulfilled life? You may think it's high IQ that the brightest people will stand the best chance of leading happy lives, yet emotional intelligence is just as important as high IQ in achieving this. Evidence suggests that people with high levels of emotional intelligence are more likely to be successful. For example, studies show students with high levels of empathy get significantly better marks than less empathic pupils with comparable IQs. Students who can control their impulses will also be more successful than their peers. One study conducted by Stanford University called

the marshmallow challenge tested the ability of a group of four-year-olds to resist eating a treat. Years later, it turned out that those who had been able to control their impulses at age four proved superior academically as well as socially throughout their youth. This success continues into the adult world. Managers who are more emotionally adept also tend to be more persuasive. What's more, emotional intelligence can also help us lead healthier lifestyles. This can be seen by looking at stress. When we go through stressful periods, our hearts are put under immense strain because our blood pressure is raised. This leaves us at risk of cardiac arrest. Stress can also weaken your immune system, as demonstrated by a study that suggested that people under stress are significantly more likely to catch a cold. However, emotional intelligence can help us avoid the dangers of stress. This is because if you learn to mitigate stressful feelings like anxiety and anger, you'll reduce those feelings' harmful effects on your health.

for example, in a clinical study, people who had already suffered one heart attack were coached to manage their anger, which significantly lowered their risk of further attacks. Given the great impact of emotional intelligence on success and health, there is remarkably little emphasis on emotional skills in the typical school curriculum. The future of American society will depend on its children's emotional intelligence. While high emotional intelligence makes people happy and healthy, poor emotional intelligence can have society-wide negative effects. For example, the tripling of the U.S. teen murder rates between 1965 and 1990 can be linked to diminishing emotional intelligence. There is strong evidence that suggests that deficits in emotional intelligence can cause delinquency, a major factor in increasing crime rates. For example, studies show that violent teen delinquents find it difficult to control their impulses and also find it hard to read other people's facial expressions, deficiencies which are also found in adult sex offenders. Drug addicts also display emotional intelligence problems.

for example, heroin addicts have difficulty 
regulating anger even prior to their addiction. There is little doubt that a child's welfare 
is determined by emotional competence. Children who grow up in an environment surrounded 
by emotionally intelligent people will also 
display high levels of it. This was confirmed by 
a study that showed that children of emotionally 
intelligent parents are better at regulating 
their own emotions, show lower stress levels, 
are better liked by their peers, and described 
as more socially adept by their teachers. It's perhaps not surprising that a child's own 
emotional intelligence is also related to its 
welfare. Children with deficits in self-awareness, 
empathy, or impulse control are at risk of 
developing mental health problems and tend to 
have more problems at school. All this evidence 
shows that the emotional intelligence of children 
is central to the future of our communities. The 
children of today are the parents, managers, and 
politicians of tomorrow. In short, many will have a 
big impact on future society, and it would help any 
community if the people in charge were empathic.

good at resolving conflicts and not prone to blindly acting on impulse. Several very diverse societal factors shape a future community's well-being, but obviously emotional intelligence is among the more influential ones. There are several ways to boost your emotional intelligence, as we have learned that emotional intelligence can lead to a fulfilled life. You may be now asking if it's possible to boost it. The answer is yes, and a series of exercises can help you do just that. If you want to enhance your self-awareness and self-management, you can practice using inner dialogues. This will assist you in identifying and naming your feelings. For example, if your friend tells everyone but you about his marital problems, you may feel upset, but inner dialogue can help you resolve this. You should ask yourself, Why am I hurt because my best friend confided his marital problems to everyone but me? Now, having identified this feeling and its cause, you can dampen its power. You could instead tell yourself, I may feel left out, but it's

possible that he didn't want to bother me because 
he knew I was busy drawing up the annual accounts. In this way, you'll feel less upset. If you want to 
improve your empathy, you can try to mirror another person's body language. This is helpful because 
body language doesn't solely express emotions; it also evokes them. So, for example, by mirroring 
another person's tense posture, you may induce tenseness in yourself. If you want to enhance your 
ability to self-motivate and think more positively, follow this advice. The way you explain your 
successes and failures has an impact on your ability to motivate yourself. To become 
self-motivated, start thinking like this: People who can convince themselves that 
failures are due to something they can change don't give up so easily. They continue to try 
because they believe that a successful outcome depends on their actions. In contrast, those 
who attribute a setback to some permanent personal deficit are likely to give up soon. They are 
convinced that there is not much they can do.

about their success. Anyway, if you want to be successful, try to avoid this thought process. You can use emotional intelligence in all kinds of settings, from the office to your love life. You may now know quite a bit about emotional intelligence, but you may also be asking yourself, how can I use this knowledge practically? Here's some advice that can help you use your emotional intelligence in your everyday life. The first piece of advice is you can avoid misunderstandings in a relationship if you take into account the different ways that men and women deal with emotions. Typically, girls are raised to talk about their feelings and connect through intimate talk, while boys learn to minimize feelings that might make them appear vulnerable. For example, if a female partner complains about a problem, the male reaction might be to instantly offer advice, but this could be wrong. Often, when a woman complains about a problem, she is seeking validation. She wants her partner to listen and show that he understands, so an immediate solution

might be misinterpreted as a rejection of her 
anguish, rather than an attempt to help. It would   be better to listen to her carefully. You could 
also follow this advice. If you are very upset   during a dispute, try to take a break to calm down. 
Strong emotions tend to distort your thinking, so   you will likely say or do something you might 
regret. Fortunately, a cooldown period may help.   Some marriage counselors even advise couples 
to monitor their pulses during a quarrel. A pulse rate that overshoots the person's 
average rate by more than 10 beats per minute   indicates that the person is getting too 
emotional to think rationally and needs a rest   period. The final piece of advice is, if you have to 
criticize someone, be specific and offer a solution.   By picking an incident and pointing out exactly 
what should have been done differently and what   was done well, you'll make yourself clear and keep 
the recipient from feeling devalued and confused.

the key message in this book is that our emotions are important as they serve as indispensable sources of orientation and push us to take action. However, they can also make us act irrationally. That is why you need emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence is a set of skills that enable you to recognize and manage emotions, both your own feelings and those of other people. Emotional intelligence is perhaps the most important factor in helping us lead fulfilled lives compared to IQ. It is a better predictor of academic success, job performance, and life success. And unlike IQ, we can increase our emotional intelligence throughout life. Emotional intelligence is of paramount importance for a child's welfare. Thus, if you are a parent or teacher, you might want to help children develop their emotional skills by using one of the following simple measures: encourage them to talk about their feelings. This will enhance their emotional self-awareness. If they experience difficulties with this task, provide them with the

necessary vocabulary to label their emotions. If 
they succeed in something, praise them for their   efforts and for showing self-control. This will 
teach them to trust in their ability to improve   their lives through their own actions. Be specific 
and constructive. If you have to criticize someone,   pick a specific incident and point out 
exactly what should have been done differently,   and what was done well. That way, you'll make 
yourself clear without offending the recipient.   When you are very upset during a dispute, try 
to take a break to calm down. This may help   you to circumvent a hurtful overreaction 
that could otherwise be triggered by rage.

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감성 지능이 일상 생활에 미치는 영향

감정은 의사 결정과 다른 사람과의 상호작용에서 중요한 역할을 합니다.

감성 지능은 감정을 사용하여 긍정적인 결과를 창출하고 감정적 뇌와 이성적 뇌의 균형을 맞출 수 있게 해줍니다.

감정은 기억을 통해 배우고, 타인의 감정을 해석하고, 행동하도록 유도하는 데 도움이 되므로 매우 중요합니다.

하지만 지나치게 감정에 치우치면 판단력을 방해하고 비합리적인 행동으로 이어질 수도 있습니다.

감정은 특히 과거의 경험에 영향을 받을 때 비합리적인 행동으로 이어질 수 있습니다.

감성 지능은 감정에 휘둘리지 않고 감정을 관리하고 활용하여 더 나은 의사 결정을 내리는 데 도움이 됩니다.

또한 공감 능력과 타인의 감정을 이해하는 능력을 키움으로써 사회적 상호 작용을 탐색하는 데 중요한 역할을 합니다.

다른 사람과 공감하면 변화에 더 개방적이 될 수 있으며, 감성 지능은 사회적 관계를 유지하는 데 매우 중요합니다.

감성적 뇌와 이성적 뇌의 균형은 감성지능에 필수적이며, 이 둘 사이의 연결이 손상되면 감성지능이 저하될 수 있습니다.

높은 감성 지능은 더 나은 학업 성취도와 충동 조절 능력과 관련이 있기 때문에 성공과 성취를 위해 높은 IQ만큼이나 중요합니다.

어린 나이에 충동을 조절하는 능력은 성인이 된 후의 학업 및 사회적 성공과 관련이 있습니다.

감성 지능은 관리자의 설득 능력을 향상시킬 뿐만 아니라 스트레스의 영향을 완화하여 더 건강한 라이프스타일로 이어집니다.

정서 지능의 결핍은 범죄율 증가와 아동의 정신 건강 문제 등 부정적인 사회적 영향을 초래할 수 있습니다.

전반적으로 아동의 감성 지능은 미래의 부모, 관리자, 정치인으로서의 성공에 큰 영향을 미치기 때문에 아동의 감성 지능은 지역 사회의 미래에 중심적인 역할을 합니다.

감성 지능은 만족스러운 삶을 위해 매우 중요하며, 자기 인식과 자기 관리를 개선하기 위한 내면의 대화를 통해 향상시킬 수 있습니다.

다른 사람의 보디랭귀지를 따라 하면 상대방의 감정을 더 잘 이해함으로써 공감 능력을 향상시킬 수 있습니다.

성공과 실패를 설명하는 방식을 바꾸어 성공적인 결과로 이어질 수 있는 행동에 집중함으로써 자기 동기부여를 강화할 수 있습니다.

남성과 여성이 감정을 다루는 서로 다른 방식을 이해하고 배려하면 오해를 피하고 관계를 개선하는 데 도움이 될 수 있습니다.

곤경에 처한 사람의 이야기를 주의 깊게 들어주는 것이 문제를 즉시 해결하려고 노력하는 것보다 더 도움이 됩니다.

격렬한 논쟁 중에 잠시 휴식을 취하면 감정이 격해져서 말하거나 행동하는 것을 방지할 수 있습니다.

다투는 동안 맥박을 모니터링하면 이성적으로 생각하기 위해 휴식 시간이 필요한 시기를 알 수 있습니다.

구체적인 비판과 해결책을 제시하면 상대방이 자신의 가치를 평가절하하는 것을 방지하는 데 도움이 될 수 있습니다.

핵심 메시지는 우리의 행동을 이끄는 데 있어 감성 지능의 중요성이며, 이는 인생의 성공을 위해 IQ보다 더 중요하며, 특히 어린이에게 자신의 감정에 대해 이야기하도록 격려하고 노력과 자제력을 칭찬함으로써 평생 동안 개발할 수 있다는 것입니다.