개인적 성장: 과거의 어려움 극복 및 힘 찾기

### 인생의 난관 헤쳐나가기: 고통에서 성장과 자아 발견까지
* 🌌 "이런 작은 순간들은 작고 기적처럼 보이지만 **주의를 기울이지 않으면 알아차리지 못합니다.**"
* 💭 연사는 **일상에서 간과하기 쉬운 삶의 미묘한 힌트와 기적**을 인식하는 것의 중요성에 대해 이야기합니다.
* 😔 이들은 과거의 괴롭힘으로 인한 부적절한 감정을 표현하며 **증오와 이러한 감정을 극복하려는 욕구**가 혼합되어 있음을 인정합니다.
* 🏆 이들은 어려움에도 불구하고 대회에서의 성과와 개인적인 성장을 축하하며 **두려움과 실망감을 관리하는 능력의 변화**에 주목합니다.
* 📺 '빈랜드 사가'의 결정적인 순간은 **용서의 개념과 인간 감정, 특히 분노의 복잡성**을 다시 생각하게 합니다.
* 💪 이들은 자기 수용과 회복탄력성의 중요성을 강조하며 **과거의 불만을 떨쳐버릴 필요성**을 인식하는 동시에 자기 방어를 옹호합니다.
* 🌱 연사는 **다른 사람들이 자신의 여정을 받아들이고 자신의 경험을 공유**하여 커뮤니티 내에서 연결과 지원을 촉진하도록 장려합니다.
* ✨ 궁극적으로 개인의 성장에 수반되는 어려움을 인정하면서 긍정적인 영향력을 발휘하는 것을 목표로, **자기 발견의 지속적인 과정**을 강조합니다.

산티아고는 자기 발견의 여정을 받아들여 고통을 힘으로 바꾸고 그 과정에서 다른 사람들에게 영감을 불어넣습니다.

I always put it way too up. I'm watching Vinland Saga right now, and um, I, you know, I say that so many things happen for a reason in life. There are these small moments; they're small, and they look like a miracle, and if you

don't pay attention, you won't notice. You know, for example, like a certain reflection, um, like something that just—it's like an accident, but like if you look at it and you view it a little bit abstractly, you're like, 'Oh, what does this mean? Oh, oh,

[...] what could it mean? Oh my God, no [...] way!' And it's like God or the universe just slightly dropping hints, you know, for you, 'cause that's all they can do, maybe. I don't know. Um, there are a few people that

I hate. It wasn't that I always hated myself, you know? I can feel that I have a lot of hate in me. I want to get back at the world for making me feel so inadequate and for bullying me so much. I guess you could say it's not

really funny, actually, you know? I try to say like, 'Oh, it's not a big deal,' and [...] you know, I try to not make it a big deal because I'm just supposed to like look over it and admit that it was

my fault that I was in […], that I did take things to heart and stuff like that, and that we were all just kids, you know? And I know everybody has their own chip on their shoulder, and everybody has their own stuff that they have to carry.

I know, but it's just like, it feels so unfair, you know? It really does. Maybe I had to get buffed—I mean, no, uh, nerfed a bit because I was just... I would have been too [Laughter] powerful, you know? I was... I've always been

great at performing and things like that, you know? If I... if I had, you know... maybe I was just this delusional. Yeah, I'm a... I'm a hyper-competitive person. I actually won um, competitions—a lot of art competitions. No, uh, sorry, selling the

most... um, something... something like calendars and [ __ ]... like, I don't want to... it... it... it's not a big deal, you know? But I don't know why. Maybe I am very competitive because I don't know. But basically, my team won one of the things. It's like a kind of big, big box and it's really cool. It's coffee-related, so it's pretty cool.

Um, I had a thought in my kitchen, actually, you know? I just... I was supposed

to maybe go out and buy some food and cook something, but I was just too lazy for that. I just... I wanted... wanted to sort of force myself to relax and just chill out, and you know, I spent an hour and a half just on YouTube, so...

and then now I'm watching *Villain Saga* and eating ramen and some rum or whatever. When I, you know, I could have probably read a book. And well, now I should be in bed because it's 9:30, so you want to be in bed 30 minutes before

You're supposed to sleep, you know, but hey, I don't have to go to work tomorrow, and I've been working for 7 days in a row, still trying to create content and write and produce... so your man deserves a break, all

Right. Um, I've done one big, big move; something... I mean, like a real accomplishment is that I've sort of managed to turn down my, or control my fear of looking stupid. Yeah, I think I still haven't controlled very well the fear of

disappointing the people that *don't* think I'm stupid. Like, that's another level, you know? That's like, oh, it's like, 'I'm going to ruin it! Oops, sorry, I'm going to mess it all up now. You're going to think I'm not who'

I who you think I am.' Well, whatever. Either way, um, yeah, I've improved so much, you know? But I was... I was watching this... this episode of *Vinland Saga*, where the main character Thorfinn...

he um, he has a dream in which he's about to fall into basically some kind of hell or whatever. It's supposed to be Valhalla, or what he believes to be Valhalla, but it's just... it's like a metaphor for war; endless war and whatnot. And...

um, corpses come up because he used to kill a lot of people. And basically, I'm explaining the... I'm spoiling you... I anyways, he wakes up and he decides to never hurt anyone. Okay, I'm not spoiling anything. He

decides to never hurt anybody ever again, and I was just like, 'That's not true!' Some people deserve to get their face punched in, you know? And I just felt so much... it's actually getting me

really tense. Um, yeah, just this... this like... it's like just a... it just feels so unfair, you know, when you don't know how to defend yourself and people put you through stuff. And I believe what you should do is

or, you know, I wish I could go back sometimes, you know, because it just... it sucks. You know, everybody... you're just supposed to forget it, you know? It's like, 'Well, you know, how was your childhood?' You got to

and maybe I see things not as they really were because I was very lucky. You know, I still believe I'm very lucky, but you see, like, it's so unfair. It just feels so unfair because, whether I want it or not, it took... it made... it took so much away from

me, because it made things so much harder. Uh, I'm grateful for everything because I'm here now, but the effects still remain, you know? The effects are still there, and it's not fun because it kind of, you know, it's... it's... it's... you know, maybe I'm

very fortunate because I've come out of that and I've been able to sort of rise above it, and... and there are still things that I need to work on for sure. But, you know, it's like weird because I... I get... the only reason I have insights

and the wisdom in all of this is because I get to see it from both sides, you know, from both extremes. From someone who went from, yeah, I have to explain it every time, but yeah, just, you know, I don't know, it's like I had no other way of...

Either way, um, when you ever look, everybody says, you know, you know, or some people say, everybody's just figuring it out, just like you. And while that might be true, it doesn't help that, you know, on top of that, you're growing up is just so

unstable. You don't know what's supposed to be like, how things work, and what is acceptable, and like how to stand up for yourself. It's just [___] man. So yeah, again, be your hero, right? Be your own hero. So be who you needed to be in the past. So for

me, it's like, be more independent, more disciplined, more, um, I don't know, less naive, um, more mature, and this and that and blah blah blah. Um, and be who you want to be in the future, but you know, like that means to, you know, make your

8-year-old self proud and your 80-year-old self proud, you know. Um, so I won't give up on, you know, being a positive uh person, even if that makes me look naive, or to follow my dreams and to put myself out here on the internet

and and and my writings and my ideas, and until until it gets better and better. Um, you know, I've I have people now send me DMs from all over the world. Even had this this kid, if you're watching this, um, he wrote uh something in...

School. It was a... it was um... it was for an English exam, and he wrote about how I was his hero. And we're... you know, I don't... the um... the premise of the text was that, how, you know, it was like, you know, this is

Santiago, and he was depressed. He's turned it upside down, and he's... uh... I'm laughing because I don't know what else to do. Um, it was a beautiful text, and, and you know, every... there's a lot of love that just comes my way, you know.

And um... I don't know what to do with it. I don't know how to react. Uh... um... you know, I... I... I am very grateful, and I want to take it with sincerity, and you know, not... not um... play myself down too much, you know. I think

I think I'm... I'm... I'm doing something, you know, something good. And oops, sorry. Um, yeah, I... I just... I don't know. It's hard for me to... whoa, it's hard for me to take it like... like how, you know... what? Yeah, I noticed that it's just... it's so

easy for me to still feel hate towards some certain people. And you know, I'm... I'm grinding, you know. I'm really on my grind, you know. Um... I'm over here trying really hard to master myself, you know, to be my own hero. And I see

online, you know, or everywhere else, you know, people my age partying and living their best... their best life, you know. It's not everything as it seems, of course, you know. You know, going to university and studying, and... and yeah, you know, friends and this and that, and the parties and others, you know.

I don't know, but I don't think they have anything on me, really. I mean, they haven't put in as much work. It's not even about comparing; like, I just... of course, I feel a bit like, "Oh, man," you know...

guys, not because they're doing that now, you know? It just feels like if I put myself back a few years, let's say five years back... more than that, sorry, eight years back. Jesus Christ, wow, I'm so old. Okay. Um, I just feel like I'm such an outsider, and everybody's kind of, like, on me. And I think half of that was just my own... my spirit was broken, man. Because you can have...

you know, there are two truths that I lived... wait, no, I only lived one of these. Sorry. You're going to have the whole world tell you you're worthless and you're this and that and you're a sack of...

whatnot, and you still can walk your way and, like, say whatever, like, '[expletive]' you, because you can. You have a strong sense of self, and you're stable, and you're within, you know, and like you're... you're strong; your spirit's strong, and...

whatever. Uh, you're mentally strong, and you know how to stand up for yourself, and you can defend yourself, maybe even physically. And so, you know, just like you can say, like, "I don't give a [expletive]," you can come at me, like, all of you. You know, it's...

Like, man, you know, I want to get to that. I think there are certain aspects now that I feel like, you know, some people I talk to and whatnot, and they might think I'm, like, oh, this or that, you know, and I might embarrass myself and actually...

actually, I embarrassed myself today at work, which was, you know, I really, really embarrassed myself. I was... I don't know, it was very awkward and cringe, but I managed to just look past it with grace and just like, yeah, whatever. And uh, no one's ever going to

remember that. And if something embarrassing would have happened to me eight years ago, I would have still been thinking about it right now, and tomorrow, and the next week, and like a month after. And that would just be like another block on the...

weight that was on my chest, you know? It's like you're lying down and every little... every direction, you know, at first, you know, you don't give a damn because you don't even know that it's embarrassing, but then people start

you know, hammering down on you. And if you let yourself be, like, you know, they build these blocks. And first, you know, maybe you're like, washed in oil, so it just flops down right? It's like, yeah, I don't know what the hell is going

on, because nobody tells you, right? And maybe someone tells you, and then people start telling you all the time, hey, you know, they're this and this and that, and like that was embarrassing. Look at you, you weird weirdo, and stuff. And it's like...

You're like, yeah, maybe it was embarrassing, but I'm not a weirdo, right? And you—I know, hear me out—but eventually, you know, whether it's because you take something personally that you didn't need to (which I did a lot), and

because everybody around just picks you as the target, and then they, you know, this weight stacks up on your chest and you're just like, you don't know what to put on there or how to get rid of it. And then maybe, because you're in

control of, of course, as well, or you're in control of that, you kind of start putting blocks on top of that—you know, things people said that you didn't even have to take personally, or things that happen that no one cares about; you know, those like

mistakes or embarrassing moments. Dude, honestly, no one is going to be thinking about that in like 10 minutes, 20 minutes. Like, it goes by. Anyways, I get to say all of this in retrospect because truth number two: you

can have the whole world tell you you're so amazing and not believe in yourself, not believe them, not take them seriously, or even think that they're delusional. And you have people who love you, and you push them away because, no, I, I'm not; I'm believing the other guys,

everybody else who tells me I suck, because, you know, of course I suck; there must be something wrong with me, right? So you're delusional—all of you, all of you who subscribe to my channel, all of you who send me DMs, you're

Delusional? You don't know who I am. You don't like me? That's not true. Go away! You must be weird, worse than me, because I'm down here, and there has to be a...

…hierarchy or something. I need to be liked by these people because I'm beneath them. I don't know, it's just weird. See how weird it sounds? Imagine that's half your childhood and all your...

…teenage years. Then you're supposed to navigate life and have people tell you you're weak. Because, of course, I mean, I was… Regardless, I keep going. I'm not saying I'm the strongest...

…21-year-old ever; that's for sure. There are people who struggle way more than me, or do things greater than me. Yes, sure. It's not a race, though. Life's not a race, and it's not about comparing either.

You can compare yourself maybe to the people who bullied you, but whether you have it better than them or not doesn't really change anything. And...

…yeah, I guess I still carried some hate or rage against the world, as I was saying, because I thought back…

What do you mean you want to never hurt anybody again, Thorin? What do you mean, man? You've got to punch back! You can't just let people put blocks on your chest, let them walk all over you. It's also such a shame, like, you know...

When you unleash your anger on those who love you, you know, because you think there's something wrong with them or with you... so there must be something wrong with them or their opinion, right? And you're... or someone loves you and you're so terrified of

disappointing them, so that you become this people-pleaser and you do everything, you know... you never... you try... you don't complain, you don't speak up when you're afraid of speaking up because you don't

want them to get mad at you and be disappointed and then leave you. I just think it's... I just think it's comical because, you know, in my mind, people who surrounded me back then, you know, they might... it's like... like in the movies,

you know... you know, it's like a lot of years later, you know, you... it's like the class reunion and then they... they, you know, of course, the elephant in the room gets brought up. It's like, 'Hey, you know, you guys treated me like [ __ ]'

and this and that,' and then someone would be like, 'Yeah, you know, you're so self-centered. Like, oh, the world is always against you,' and like when it's not. And like it's like... but then something happened, right? When I was watching Vinland Saga, which was

Like, I didn't understand it at first. It's like the true definition of a warrior is a person who doesn't let that change them, right? They move forward regardless, which means it's like...

I'm going to forgive and let go, and move on with my life. I won't make excuses or let that stop me from living a good life, being useful, strong, and getting stronger.

I know that at some point I need to just let it all go. I've only been out of that situation for not that long. I think it started when I was in second or third grade.

So, thank God it was never physical. But, um, yeah, I mean, I've been hit. I remember being hit once in Germany, but I never knew how to punch back. I was...

I didn't punch back. I've been humiliated, and all these things, right? But yeah, I don't know, life is good. It's kind of cool talking about this, and I hope it helps in some form or another. I currently can't run, so I'm

just doing push-ups all the time and trying to go to the gym. Work has been really fun. I get to work with some really cool coffees, and if you follow me on Instagram, then you'll see some cool...

pictures there of what I'm doing, so make sure you follow me there. And um, if you want to talk to me or you want to join my community in which, like, dude, hundreds of people are in there, writing some pretty sick stuff; we all help each other grow

stronger and stuff. It's uh, it's called Hero Academy, so it's also where I share whatever it is that I learn and can teach, or whatever. It's really cool, as well as everybody else who's in there. It's just an ecosystem, like you know, everybody helps each other out, and yeah, it's pretty cool. It's really cool; I love my community. Now, while I'm at it, plugging...

I have my newsletter, Letters to Your Hero, so if you want me to send you a letter, then subscribe. Um, yeah, that's it; that's all I got. All right, um, I guess the end message for this video should be that, whether I want it or not,

and whether you want it or not, probably at some point, um, you're going to have to forgive, even though I believe you should still punch back, or, you know, uh, to those who do you wrong. I truly believe in that. You know, if I would have learned karate as a kid,

Jesus Christ, I would have avoided so much, so much stuff. Like, it would have... but I wouldn't be here, so I'm grateful again for my life. Just... it's such a shame; it brings so much pain, not just to me, but to those around me. And and it's not like it was...

All like the fault of others, you know? It's like also my own. Like, there could have been things that I could have done better, but you know, I was just a kid. Like, you know, the whole situation sucks ass, um, and that that angers

me. Some... some people just never showed any remorse, you know? It's like, you weakling, you know? I don't care what's going on in your life, putting it all on me. I'm just kidding. I understand that too, you

know, some kids bully because their life is just horrible. That's true, you know? I don't know what was going on in their life, hell, but you know, I do pity them a bit. I was always forgiving, you know? It was the... that was the worst part, the best

and the worst part. I knew they were taking advantage of me too. Like this one kid, I bought him pizza like seven times. I'll never forget it... that guy...

I was the first. He got to... he got to Ecuador. I invited him. I was the first one to be like, 'Welcome, dude!' And then he ended up bullying me, bro. And I knew he was taking advantage of me too. He was like, 'Buy me pizza and

we'll be friends,' and I said okay. Look, the more I share these stories and the more I explain, the less power they hold, the less... the less it matters, right? I'm not here to be like, oh, you know, look at all of this that happened to me, you

I know you guys, I mean, definitely thank you for sure. If you ever see me again, um, but you know, I'll probably won't do anything. It's okay.

We're just going to be like, "Hey, you okay?" Okay. I don't know, just maybe again, through me sharing my stuff, I can help. And I've gone—there's no returning. You know, I've put myself out here; there's no going back, so

it's cool. You know, I get to truly embrace myself. And yeah, at least—yeah, it's creating, or putting yourself out there is like a cataclysm for you, embracing parts of you that you're really afraid of integrating and whatnot. So, and I'm inspired a lot, too, you know, by everybody who follows and talks and shares.

And for those who are in the Hero Academy and who've reached out, because you guys are so much more capable than I have ever been, or that I ever was. So, um, yeah. You—and to those who don't feel like you're very capable, look, it's like—it's like I'm the Joker. Look at everything I did with a

barrel and a bunch of bullets—a few barrels of gasoline and a bunch of—I'm just kidding. I was doing a few voice impressions earlier today. The point is, you're a lot more capable than you think you are. You know, I always believed I was stupid.

Right, and now I think I... I have a small noise here. It's like a bit of genius, you know, my own genius; uh, the way I integrate all my positive and negative traits together and combine that into a beacon of hope

or inspiration, or just simply being myself, being my own hero, um, and aiming up. I had a phone call with my mom the other day, and I've come to the point in my life now where I can actually help her, you know, just through a phone call. It's

like I'm carrying my own weight and more; I'm pushing more weight, I'm taking on more responsibility, you know. You know how great of an accomplishment that is for me, man. I'm going to bed, and you should too. Enough internet for today; have a good

don't let them stop you

Santiago Weppler

인생의 작은 기적과 숨겨진 의미

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화자는 자신이 쓸모없다는 말을 듣는 것과 대단하다는 말을 듣는 것, 그리고 그로 인해 발생할 수 있는 내적 갈등이라는 두 가지 진실을 대조합니다.

당황스러움에 대처하고 회복력을 키우는 법 배우기

발표자는 직장에서 당황했던 경험과 시간이 지남에 따라 반응이 어떻게 변했는지 공유합니다.

화자는 과거의 트라우마와 부정적인 경험을 표현하기 위해 가슴에 블록을 얹은 은유를 사용합니다.

화자는 다른 사람의 말과 행동이 이 은유적 무게에 어떻게 기여할 수 있는지 설명합니다.

연사는 일을 개인적으로 받아들이지 않는 것의 중요성과 이러한 무게를 극복하는 과정에 대해 이야기합니다.

연사는 사람들이 걱정하는 많은 것들이 금방 잊혀진다고 강조합니다.

용서, 앞으로 나아가기, 그리고 자기 방어의 중요성

화자는 자기 방어의 중요성과 다른 사람이 자신을 통제하지 못하게 하는 것이 중요하다고 거듭 강조합니다.

연사는 사랑하는 사람에게 분노를 표출하는 것이 가져오는 부정적인 결과에 대해 이야기합니다.

연사는 다른 사람을 실망시킬까 봐 두려워서 사람들을 기쁘게 하는 사람이 되는 것의 위험성에 대해 이야기합니다.

화자는 과거의 갈등이 해결되는 미래 시나리오를 상상합니다.

연사가 진정한 힘과 회복력에 대한 이해에 대해 이야기합니다.

연사는 용서, 전진, 개인적 성장에 대한 약속으로 마무리합니다.

마무리 생각, 커뮤니티 및 향후 포부

발표자는 자신의 여정과 토론한 사건 이후 경과한 시간을 되돌아봅니다.

발표자는 현재 자신의 피트니스 루틴과 업무 경험을 공유합니다.

발표자는 Instagram 및 Hero Academy 커뮤니티를 홍보합니다.

발표자는 뉴스레터인 '영웅에게 보내는 편지'를 홍보합니다.

연사는 용서의 중요성을 강조하면서 동시에 자기 방어를 옹호합니다.

화자는 과거 사건으로 인한 고통과 공동의 책임에 대해 반성합니다.

연사는 일부 괴롭힘 가해자들의 반성 부족에 대해 이야기하고 그들의 어려운 배경에 대해 이해를 구합니다.

화자는 친절함에도 불구하고 자신을 괴롭혔던 아이에 대한 구체적인 일화를 공유합니다.

연사는 자신의 이야기를 공유하면 자신의 힘이 약해진다고 강조합니다.

화자는 자신의 나눔이 다른 사람들에게 도움이 되기를 바란다는 희망을 표현합니다.

연사는 자신의 진정한 자아를 받아들이고 취약성의 변화하는 힘에 대해 이야기합니다.

발표자는 커뮤니티에서 받은 영감을 표현하고 구성원들의 역량을 인정합니다.

연사는 시청자가 자신의 능력을 믿도록 격려합니다.

연사는 긍정적인 특성과 부정적인 특성을 통합하는 독특한 능력에 대해 설명합니다.

화자는 어머니를 도울 수 있었다는 성취감을 공유합니다.