한국 여성들의 DINK에서 모성애로의 전환

한국 여성들은 고령화라는 현실에 직면하면서 딩크족이었던 것을 후회하고, 이제는 모성을 갈망하고 있습니다.

### 변화하는 욕망: 한국 여성들의 DINK 라이프스타일 선택에 대한 후회
* 👩 ↪f_200D↩❤️‍👨 **1984년생인 한 부부는 무자녀 생활에 전념하던 아내가 수년간의 DINK(맞벌이, 무자녀) 생활 끝에 갑자기 아이를 갖고 싶다는 의사를 밝히면서 중요한 전환점**을 맞이했습니다.
* 😲 항상 한 명 이상의 자녀를 원했던 남편은 특히 서로 다른 가치관을 가지고 결혼을 했기 때문에 이러한 변화에 **충격과 실망감**을 느꼈습니다.
* 🕰 그는 잃어버린 시간과 희생을 되돌아보며 **아내가 이제 산모의 나이가 들어감에 따라 이전의 감정과 상황의 긴박함을 무시하는 것 같아 답답함**을 느꼈습니다.
* 🤔 흥미롭게도 한때 DINK 라이프스타일을 지지했던 많은 여성들이 이제는 **아이를 갖는 기쁨이 예전의 기대를 뛰어넘는 것**을 깨닫고 모성에 대한 후회와 그리움을 표현하고 있습니다.
* 📈 보고서에 따르면 한때 자녀가 없는 삶이 행복하다고 주장했던 이 여성들은 **출산 후 전반적인 행복감이 크게 증가**하면서 더 일찍 모성을 받아들였으면 좋았을 것이라고 후회하는 경우가 많다고 합니다.
* 💬 '마시'라는 용어는 엄마가 된 후 겪는 새로운 경험과 감정을 반영하여 **맘카페에 참여하는 여성들**을 일컫는 말입니다.
* 😩 시간이 지나면서 많은 여성들이 자신의 선택을 후회하고 **결혼이나 자녀를 원하지만, 나이가 들고 선택의 한계에 직면**한 후에야 후회를 깨닫게 되는 경우가 많습니다.
* ☕ 이 이야기는 독립을 자랑스러워하던 한국 여성들이 이제 **자녀에 대한 아쉬움과 욕구를 공개적으로 이야기**하며 자신의 역할과 행복을 새롭게 정의하고자 하는 사회 전반의 트렌드를 강조하고 있습니다.

Today, I want to share a fun story about our Korean women who are now saying they don't want to be DINKs (Dual Income, No Kids) anymore and are begging for children. Let's take a look at a post from a wife who wants to lift the DINK status. 

We are a couple born in 1984, and we are both 41 years old. Until six years ago, just before our marriage, I, as the man, wanted to have at least one child, while my girlfriend, who is now my wife, absolutely wanted to remain child-free. We faced a crisis of breaking up due to our conflicting values, but I gave in and we got married. We were living without any major issues until suddenly, my wife expressed her desire to have a child. She said that if we wait any longer, it might really be too late. Can you imagine how shocked I was? Even now, if we want to have a child, we could somehow manage it. My sister had her second child after turning forty, so it is possible, but I am mentally quite disappointed with my wife. I had hoped to raise at least one child, using all kinds of reasoning.

He stood up, trampled on doubts about affection, and ultimately made me surrender. Now, having grown older, I have changed my mind. From my perspective, it feels like all the time I spent was in vain, and despite having made difficult sacrifices for you, I was told to adjust. I was angry about that. However, my wife, instead of understanding, called me strange and said I shouldn't act tired and that I didn't want a child. I felt like if I were to have a child, I would have rather done it quickly. What is this? This is the frustration of a man expressing his thoughts. Interestingly, he had the chance to have a child when there was no risk of advanced maternal age, but too much time has passed, and now at forty, he faces the heat of advanced maternal age. The woman, however, cannot empathize with his anger and only makes harsh comments telling him not to act tired. In reality, such situations occur quite frequently.

Do you know that there are women who regret being DINKs (Dual Income No Kids) after giving birth? They think about how they would have felt if they hadn't had children, and it's a reflection of our women's rights movement. Women who were DINKs are now thinking, What if I hadn't had children? They are experiencing emotions and experiences they have never encountered before. The Korean FM list of women who advocated for DINK lifestyles all say they are incredibly happy after having children. They express regret about not having children sooner, saying that the overall happiness has increased. Korean women wish they had become mothers earlier, as the joy is beyond their imagination. I will also share a post about a woman who was a DINK but changed her mind and now regrets it. By the way, the term 마시 refers to women who participate in mom cafes and are part of the women's era, indicating a mix of those who have given birth but are still struggling with FML (F*ck My Life). They all say these feelings are precious and new to them.

I don't regret my life to the point of it being precious, but I do regret the days when I disliked Enaki. Even now, if I say that I want to have a child, isn't it a thank you for the situation? Instead of acting like a victim, speak confidently like a boss. Now, our Korean women boldly say that they will give birth. Isn't it pathetic to see them regret their past decisions and want to have children now? There are women who, after living a life of being single, regret it as they get older and say they want to get married. Similarly, there are women who, after being child-free, regret it and express a desire to have children as they age. I don't know why, but our women tend to regret their actions only after they have aged. As time goes on, they think about wanting to have children, but when they reach an age where they can't, they lament their situation, feeling like they have become too old to have kids.

Women who regret having children tend to reflect on their past. It is often only after aging that they acknowledge their mistakes and realize they were wrong. The numerous women you see online, often labeled as FM women, will eventually find that age resolves everything. Even the women who ran mega businesses end up marrying a man, which is a common trait among Korean women. Those who cry out on the internet will also eventually reach that point. Today, I shared an interesting fact with you. I will conclude the video here. Your subscriptions and likes greatly help with the coffee costs when I create videos. 

Today's summary: Their claims of being single and choosing not to have children are ultimately a call for attention.

"이제와서 딩크 후회한다ㅋ"

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결혼한 지 6년이 된 41세 부부는 자녀에 대한 상반된 욕구로 인해 위기에 직면했습니다.

처음에는 아이를 갖지 않기를 원했던 아내가 갑자기 아이에 대한 욕구를 드러내자 남편은 충격과 실망을 느꼈습니다.

남편은 좌절감을 느끼고 아내는 남편의 분노에 공감하지 못하는 일반적인 상황을 반영하는 두 사람의 갈등입니다.

후회와 반성: DINK에서 엄마로 전환하기

맞벌이 부부가었던 일부 여성들은 아이를 낳은 후 자신의 라이프스타일 선택을 후회하며 아이가 없었다면 삶이 어땠을지 의문을 품습니다.

DINK 라이프스타일을 옹호하면서도 많은 여성들이 엄마가 된 후 행복을 느끼며 더 빨리 엄마가 되었으면 좋았다고 말합니다.

마시라는 용어는 맘 카페의 여성들을 지칭하는 용어로, 출산 후에도 여전히 엄마의 어려움을 헤쳐나가고 있는 여성들이 모여 있다는 것을 강조합니다.

화자는 자신의 삶을 후회하지 않지만 에나키를 싫어한 것에 대해 후회합니다.

이 작품은 독신이나 무자녀와 같은 과거의 결정을 후회하고 나이가 들면서 결혼이나 자녀에 대한 욕구를 표현하는 여성들의 경향을 강조합니다.

연사는 많은 여성들이 나이가 든 후에야 자신의 행동을 후회하는 경향이 있으며, 이러한 변화를 이루기에는 너무 늦었다는 사실을 깨달았을 때 한탄하게 된다고 지적합니다.

모성애에 대한 후회와 검증을 위한 탐색

아이를 낳은 것을 후회하는 여성들은 나이가 들면서 과거를 반성하고 자신의 실수를 인정하는 경우가 많습니다.

성공적인 사업을 운영하는 여성들을 포함해 많은 여성들이 결국 남성과 결혼하는 것은 한국 여성들의 공통된 특징입니다.

비혼과 무자녀를 선택한 사람들의 온라인 외침은 시간이 지나면서 비슷한 깨달음을 얻게 되는 경우가 많습니다.