영향력 있는 서클이 성공에 미치는 영향

### 성공을 달성하는 데 있어 영향력 있는 서클의 중요성
* 💪 당신의 영향력 범위는 성공을 결정하는 데 중요한 역할을 하며, **부정적인 사람으로 둘러싸여 있으면 스스로 몰락할 수도 있습니다.**
* 🚫 '부정적이고 징징대는 루저'와 어울리면 **그들의 사고방식과 행동이 여러분의 삶에 큰 영향을 미칠 수 있기 때문에 필연적으로 그 그룹에서 여섯 번째**가 될 수밖에 없습니다.
* 📚 남성성과 부족주의에 대한 잭 도노반의 통찰은 **부족을 정의하고 자격이 갖춘 사람만 이너 서클에 허용**해야 한다는 점을 강조합니다.
* 🍺 한 개인적인 일화는 **심각한 음주 문제를 가진 친구의 해로운 영향**을 강조하며, 그러한 부정적인 영향이 자신의 삶과 웰빙을 어떻게 무너뜨릴 수 있는지 설명합니다.
* ⚓ "돛에 바람과 공기를 채우고 앞으로 나아가게 하는 돛이 되는 사람이 있고, 닻이 되는 사람이 있고, **닻이 발목을 잡는 사람**이 있습니다."라며 발전을 방해하는 사람들을 잘라낼 필요성을 강조했습니다.
* 🛑 오랜 관계를 단절하는 것을 단절하는 것을 의미하더라도 **자신의 성장에 도움이 되지 않는 친구**를 인정하고 떠나보내는 것이 무엇보다 중요합니다.
* 💔 파괴적인 생활 방식에 빠진 친한 친구와의 개인적인 경험은 **누군가가 자신의 본성을 드러내면 그 사람과 거리를 두는 것이 필수적**이라는 생각을 강화합니다.
* 🌟 궁극적으로 집중력 있고 의도적인 사람들과 주변을 둘러싸면 **독성이 있는 사람들과의 관계를 끊은 연사의 경우처럼** 삶이 극적으로 개선될 수 있습니다.

긍정적인 영향력으로 자신을 둘러싸는 것은 개인의 성공을 위해 매우 중요합니다.

so let's get into some of these talking points that I have over here. I think we're warmed up now. Your circle of influence is going to dictate your successes. I think it's fundamental for dudes to understand that if you're going to surround yourself with negative, whiny losers, you surround yourself with five negative, whiny losers, you're gonna be the sixth. There is no two ways about it. If you're allowing these people into your life, again, I've talked about this many, many times. Jack Donovan's written some great books about masculinity, tribalism. The Way of Men is a good starting point. You need to define your tribe. You draw a perimeter around it, and you have an us versus them strategy. You only let people into your inner circle that have earned it, that are deserving of that placement. Far too many guys let these losers into their inner circle that influence them in a negative way, and they think sometimes that it's not going to have any influence. I'll give you a good example. There was

this. There was this guy that um I traveled in circles with. I'm going to say late 20s early 30s. Um he had a bad drinking problem. Um he was he was almost always drunk and he was a really bad drunk. Um he got involved in some other uh compounds as well you know like weed and stuff like that but that didn't really affect him the way that alcohol did. He was just really bad to be around and it it made him almost intolerable to be in public places with. He would have outbursts freak out you know sometimes [ __ ] would break sometimes he'd want to start a fight with you come on fight me you know let's you know come at me like you think you're better than me sort of stuff like that because you didn't want to engage at his level and he was always broke. He was always borrowing money from people um you know he had hard time paying his rent. He had a hard time paying his staff when he was trying to run his business trying to

make money, and anytime he came across money, it was gone. Boom! It was, it just evaporated just like that. And I let this guy orbit my inner perimeter, you know, get on the inside for far too long, mostly because I was really good friends with one guy that went to high school with him. And you know, he cleaned himself up, this other guy. He, you know, he got himself out of his vices, out of his addictions, went through A.A., was completely sober and clean for a number of years. He was a good guy, you know, he was, you know, he's doing the work in life, he was leveling up. He lost a ton of body fat. He was like this, he was like this short, kind of not even pudgy, but like fat dude with a bad haircut. He had this like big, bad haircut sort of thing. And he cleaned it all up, man. He turned into a good-looking dude, got himself a decent job, made some money, drove a nice car, lost all the fat. We

you know, by the end of it, when I came to know him as he cleaned himself up, we started calling him Pocket Hercules at the office because we used to work together. He was this little dude that was all just like buff as [ __ ], but this other guy that used to travel in circles, he just brought us down, man. Everything that we did, there was always something that was invited into our life just by having this guy around us. I remember one time we were sitting around, I think this was in the late 20s or so, this was in the Halo days with the Xbox One, you know, like the original one. And I remember he came in the house, and he looked all sketchy and dodgy, sort of thing like that. And we're like, What's up, dude? right? And he just kind of like ran off and kind of hid in a corner. And then a few seconds later, there was a police officer at the door. There was

two of them, it's like every turn of the way, it was like there was no surprise that it was coming. And it wasn't that he was a bad guy; he was a good guy. He had a good heart, um, you know. He was fun to be around when he was clean and focused and attentive to getting [ __ ] done. But he just, he was just intolerable, and it just got to the point where I just cut him out. And had I let him, and maybe other people that he, you know, he got involved with, because there was always somebody that he would, uh, collaborate with or associate with that he would bring over to our place, and he'd also get smashed or stoned out of his mind and trip over something and start breaking things in the house. And they just, I remember one time he, uh, you know, he tried to get in the house, and we weren't back from the club yet, and because he was pissed off and drunk out of his mind, he

ripped the screen door off the front of the house. This is the house that we rented, by the way. You rip the screen door off the front of the house and just kind of let it hang in there. You know, if you allow these people into your life, and I've done this, if you allow these people into your life, they're going to hold you back. I've said this before. We have people that are sails that will fill our sails with wind and air and drive us forward, and we have people that are anchors, and anchors hold you back. And it's funny that I keep mentioning this because I keep watching so many sailing videos on YouTube now, but you got to cut those anchors loose, man. You know, they hold you back. You can only permit people into your life, and the sooner that you learn this lesson, honestly, I wish I learned this lesson in my 20s because it would have saved me a lot of time and a lot of stupid choices and decisions.

uh spending time with or surrounding myself with people that you know didn't have that, that didn't want to level up, that didn't want me to level up, that didn't want to level up themselves. They just wanted to be mediocre, and that's fine. There's people like that, but once you identify them, you gotta let them go. You have to cut them loose. There's no two ways about it. And that might mean that you're gonna have to cut loose, you know, friends that you were, you know, hanging out with in high school for the longest time, you know, the good friend of mine that was clean, that had to separate himself from this guy, had a really struggled with it because he was good friends with him throughout the high school, and he had a lot of history together and all sort of stuff. Um, you have to be able to do that, man, you know, when you know when people do that to you, um, and they really let you down in that sense, you got to let them go, and there's, and there should be nothing

that um that that is off the table you know if I'm being honest um when I was in my I want to say second or third year running my debt business in my early 30s um I ended up getting into a serious problem with well ultimately what was my best friend of like you know 25 30 years or you know something like that at that point it was 25 years and um you know he was he was living in my house actually rescued this guy from his shitty relationship with a single mommy um I remember his mom called me from the states to beg me to have him stay there and I was okay with that because he was a good friend of mine he was um you know he was he was there for me but um he just he just went down the shitty path of like greed man and started collaborating with like really really bad guys I got heavily involved in like uh you know cocaine like really bad drugs and stuff like that and it was all about money and the friendship

took a backseat, you know, like it used to be bros all the time, like, you know, my brother and I ended up having to sue the guy and cut him loose, and the stupid thing was, was he deserved everything that he got. And then after all that, dude had the balls to like come at me later on and like, you know, maybe we can patch us up and water under the bridge, we'll just forget the salt. No, you gotta ghost people like that, they are done once they prove, once they show. When somebody shows you who they really are, it's incumbent upon you to let them go, to cut those [ __ ] loose from your life. They're out there, and I know right now there's people watching this broadcast right that are thinking to themselves, Yeah, I know one, maybe two, maybe five guys, you know, in their inner circle that are problematic for them. You gotta cut those guys loose, man, gotta cut them loose. Your circle of influence is always gonna dictate the limits to your success. The more that I surround myself with

focused intentional good people, which didn't really happen until my 30s. My life improved significantly, leaps and bounds. I stopped allowing loser women into my life. I stopped allowing loser friends into my life. I stopped getting involved with people that I should never be involved with, that are tremendously problematic for guys being successful. You know, like I always say, guys, it's incumbent upon you as a man. You have the burden of performance. You

Why You Must Cut LOSERS Out of Your Life Now

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부정적인 사람들로 자신을 둘러싸면 스스로 몰락할 수 있습니다.

자신의 트라이브를 정의하고 자격을 갖춘 사람들만 이너 서클에 허용하는 것이 중요합니다.

개인적인 예를 들면 심각한 음주 문제를 가지고 있고 해로운 행동을 하는 사람과 어울릴 경우의 해로운 영향을 강조합니다.

화자는 돈과 관련하여 소란스러운 관계를 맺은 친구와 갈등을 겪으며 그들의 삶에 혼란을 일으켰습니다.

친구의 변화와 성공에도 불구하고 또 다른 부정적인 개인은 계속해서 그들의 서클에 문제를 일으켰습니다.

기억에 남는 사건은 그 친구와 경찰관이 관련된 사건으로, 그가 그들의 삶에 끼친 파괴적인 영향력을 강조합니다.

화자는 마음은 선하지만 참을 수 없는 행동으로 인해 파괴적인 행동과 삶의 혼란을 초래하는 사람을 묘사합니다.

내레이터는 이러한 독성을 가진 사람을 발목을 잡는 닻에 비유하며 그런 사람을 잘라내는 것이 중요하다고 강조합니다.

긍정적이고 진취적인 사람들만 자신의 삶에 받아들이는 것이 중요하다는 교훈을 되새기며 이 교훈을 더 일찍 배우지 못한 것에 대한 후회를 표현합니다.

독성 관계에서 벗어나는 것의 중요성

레벨 업을 원하지 않는 사람들과 함께 있으면 방해가 될 수 있으므로, 그런 사람들을 찾아내서 끊어내는 것이 중요합니다.

여기에는 오랜 친구, 심지어 역사를 함께 공유한 친구를 놓아주는 것도 포함될 수 있습니다.

친구가 탐욕과 나쁜 영향에 빠지는 것과 같은 개인적인 경험은 자신의 성장과 행복을 우선시해야 할 필요성을 강조합니다.

생활에서 유독한 사람을 차단하는 것의 중요성

문제가 있는 사람과의 관계를 끊는 것은 개인의 성공을 위해 매우 중요합니다.

연사는 자신의 부정적인 본색을 드러내는 사람들과 관계를 끊어야 한다고 강조합니다.

집중하고 의도적으로 좋은 사람들로 자신을 둘러싸면 삶이 크게 개선될 수 있습니다.