Some people's DNA contains a survival instinct that drives them to seek out sweet and rare things. This isn't limited to just sweetness; it also applies to human relationships. Often, a person needs to possess some uniqueness for it to shine. I believe that there is a need to control certain aspects of my charm in human relationships. In terms of important principles in relationships, I think of the concept of rarity and manners as distinct elements. I learned about this from a book I read about ten years ago called The Psychology of Persuasion, written by Robert Cialdini. This book discusses the principle of scarcity, which is a key concept. It is often regarded as a sort of bible for salespeople, and it has sold well in the field of psychology and self-development.

There aren't many series of books, but I really think you should read this one. Anyway, when we have something that is scarce, don't we feel a strong desire to possess it? Take diamonds, for example. The actual production volume is quite abundant, but the companies control the distribution to ensure that only a certain amount is available in the market. As a result, people start to perceive them as rare and valuable, which draws them in. It's human nature; we really enjoy sweet things, right? These days, eating a lot of sweets can lead to diabetes, and while it's been a while since that became common knowledge, for most of the 300,000 years of human history, we haven't consumed sweet things like honey or sugar for more than a few hundred years. So, within our DNA, there is...

Survival instinct involves seeking out sweet and rare things. It's not limited to just sweetness. In human relationships, there are many cases where a person must possess some uniqueness for it to shine. So, in a way, I feel like a diamond dealer; I have my own charm, but I shouldn't say it out loud. Martin Heidegger, the philosopher, described the world we live in as a theater. However, I believe that in the world we inhabit, at least I am the protagonist. I believe I am the main character, and I think it's okay to say that I walk around thinking, I am the king of the world. It might sound crazy, but when I act, I remind myself that I have value as I am. I keep telling myself this.

I don't know how much that will be accepted now. Whether it's work or human relationships, some might call me crazy, and in a professional sense, I could be seen as a madman. However, at least I set my pride that way. That doesn't mean I go around saying, Hey, I'm the king, bring me some food, pour me some drinks. I still want to maintain a sense of dignity and elegance, like King Sejong, who had that feeling of being for the people. I'm not saying I want to become a king, but at least when I live in my own world, I mean that I have control and authority over my life. Manners are a different issue. There's a vocalist I really admire, and according to our Jo Soo-mi's testimony, that vocalist is always smiling.

There is a person named Sopran who is associated with the school of singing. This person is known for greeting the cleaning lady at the opera house. Recently, there have been some scandals, but regardless, it could be that this is a facade. However, I realized that just because someone is rare and valuable, it doesn't mean they lack manners. I believe that a person can be both polite and dignified. Honestly, I learned a lot from my father, but someone who often declines offers tends to possess a certain rarity, right? This is a bit of a different topic, but for example, when dating, instead of asking where to meet, one might say, Could you come over here? or I'll decide the time. This is also mentioned in books about dating psychology, but please edit this appropriately. It's important.

But the mistake we make is that by becoming too close, I lose my rarity. When you go to the convenience store every day and see milk, you don't think, This is precious, I must buy it, do you? It's because it's so readily available. Some people might feel that way about sugar, but a thousand years ago, sugar had a different value than it does now. I have to decide whether I want to make myself like sugar from a thousand years ago, like a diamond, or like the common white sugar that is everywhere now. It's about whether I can show my charm with some restraint. I think this is very important. Just because we became close doesn't mean I should reveal everything about myself.

I think we should open up everything, but since we are close, we can show everything, right? I strongly disagree with that statement. The closer we are, the more careful we need to be, and there are things we should keep hidden. I believe there are things we need to protect as our relationship deepens. It may feel insincere to hide things, but that's not the case. For a relationship to last, the other person needs to keep feeling attracted to me and wanting me. Not everyone feels that way all the time. When someone doesn't want to, relationships can become forced and rely too much on obligation. Isn't family about obligation, though? That's true. But if the other person likes you back, isn't that even better? Friendships are better that way too. However, we often fall into the trap of familiarity, which can diminish our uniqueness or, conversely, make us overly exclusive while being rude.

There are many cases like this. So, to summarize and reiterate, my principle in life is that I have control over the world I live in. However, I should be kind and courteous to others. I always try to make an effort to uphold this principle, whether I'm creating a YouTube video, having a business meeting, or whatever the situation may be.

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