부모로서의 책임감: 무례함과 정서적 성숙의 주기

### 육아 조언: 무례와 학대의 악순환 끊기
* 👨 이 연사는 기성 세대를 대상으로 **양육에 있어 정서적 성숙의 중요성**을 강조합니다.
* 🔒 부모는 자녀의 정신 건강에 오래 지속되는 영향을 미칠 수 있으므로 **자녀의 분노를 자극하지 말 것**을 당부합니다.
* 💔 연사는 **아이들에게 단순한 훈육 이상의 지도와 이해**가 필요하다고 강조합니다.
* 🏠 부모님은 업무 스트레스를 사무실에 맡기고 **자녀를 위해 평화로운 가정 환경**을 조성하는 것이 좋습니다.
* 📚 연사는 설명 없이 처벌에 초점을 맞추는 전통적인 육아 방식에서 **문제 해결이 부족**하다고 비판합니다.
* 🔄 자녀가 성인이 되어 **부모의 행동을 그대로 답습하는 무례와 학대의 순환**이 강조됩니다.
* 💡 이 메시지는 부모가 자기 성찰을 통해 자신의 행동에 책임을 지고 **앞으로 자녀와 단절되는 일이 없도록 하자**는 취지입니다.

부모는 자녀의 행동을 형성하는 데 있어 자신의 역할을 인식하고 정서적 성숙을 실천하여 존중을 키워야 합니다.

you know a lot of you parents, you boomers, your gen X, y'all are not going to want to hear this, but you know what, baby, it needs to be said. Your parents be having the nerve, the audacity to get pissed at your children from talking to you disrespectfully when all that you talk to them was with disrespect. You raised your voice as your children, you cursed at them, you yelled at them, you scolded them for every single small trivial little thing that they did, where to a point where they were afraid to even breathe wrong in that household because they was afraid of what she was going to do because you could not regulate your emotions, because you do not have emotional maturity. I'm sorry, but your age does not define your maturity, and because if it did, you would not be 60-something years old, 50-something years old, acting the way that you act, 70-something years old, acting the way that you act. Oh, but age defines maturity? No, age just gives you more years on your life. That is it.

Sometimes your children be having more sense than you. They'd be more mature than you are, but y'all don't want to hear that because y'all too [ __ ] prideful. Let me tell y'all something. Y'all talk about honor thy mother and thy father, but let's continue on with that scripture. But do not provoke your children to wrath. Do not provoke, push a button your children, your offspring to wrath, which is anger. Don't provoke your children. Don't push your children's buttons. Don't purposely hurt your children, pick at them, belittle them, put them down to make them angry. That's what you're not supposed to do because that is not of love. That is not of love. That is of hatred. Whenever God wants to get in on us and tell us what we doing wrong, God always brings it to us in a loving way. Like my son, my daughter, like you know this, this was wrong because of this, but this is what you should have done instead. Addresses the problem, but always offers a solution. You all never did that. You

all just discussed the problem, but you never gave a solution. You scolded us for messing up but didn't tell us why we messed up. You just mad that we messed up, but you didn't give us a solution. It's why children are just so [__] traumatized, and they people please because they are so afraid of hurting other people that cannot regulate their emotions. Just because you had a bad day at work, leave that [__] at work. Don't come home and bring these problems to your children's home. They don't know what the [__] is going on. They just want to see mommy and daddy, right? And then y'all talk to your children crazy. You pin them against each other. You play favorites, and then you wonder why your children fighting like they people off the street. You talk to your children crazy and belittle them, and then you get mad. This is how you're teaching children to talk to people, and it's exactly how they

start talking to you because they're gonna start retaliating and start lashing back out. Y'all don't even realize that you were your child's first teacher, and you taught them wrong, which is exactly why they carry that into their adulthood, and it's staring you back at the face. You don't like that, dude. You don't like what it feels, but that's exactly what you did. So, start taking accountability and start self-reflecting on the thing that you actually done did before your children clearly cut you off for the rest of your life. You don't want that, do you?

Boomers & Gen X Parents Really Screwed Up

TerriAnn Belle

육아 스타일이 자녀에게 미치는 영향

부모는 종종 자녀를 무시하여 두려움과 정서적 불안정의 악순환을 초래합니다.

나이는 정서적 성숙도와 같지 않으며, 때로는 자녀가 부모보다 더 성숙한 모습을 보이기도 합니다.

경전에서는 아이들을 화나게 하지 않는 것이 중요하다고 강조하며 사랑스럽고 건설적인 지도의 필요성을 강조합니다.

부모의 행동이 자녀에게 미치는 영향

부모는 종종 해결책을 제시하지 않고 실수에 대해 꾸짖는 데만 집중하여 자녀에게 트라우마를 남기고 사람들을 불쾌하게 하는 행동을 유발합니다.

업무와 관련된 스트레스를 집으로 가져와 자녀를 부당하게 대하면 갈등과 정서적 혼란을 일으킬 수 있습니다.

이러한 부정적인 상호작용은 아이들에게 잘못된 의사소통을 가르치고 해로운 행동을 반복하게 만들 수 있습니다.

자녀 양육이 성인 자녀에게 미치는 영향

부모는 종종 자녀의 첫 번째 교사로서의 역할을 깨닫지 못해 성인이 되어서도 부정적인 행동으로 이어지는 경우가 많습니다.

이러한 주기가 반복되면 자녀와의 관계가 긴장되고 자녀가 연락을 끊을 수도 있습니다.

장기적인 결과를 피하려면 양육 선택에 대한 책임감을 갖고 자기 성찰을 하는 것이 중요합니다.