자신과 연결하기: 고급 변화의 열쇠

일상적인 습관과 용기 있는 행동을 통해 자신과 연결되면 인간의 행동 변화와 개인적 성장이 촉진됩니다.

### 고급 인간 행동 변화를 위한 전략
* 🔒 "대부분의 사람들은 자신과의 연결을 잃어버렸기 때문에 삶에 큰 변화를 일으키지 못합니다. **그들은 오랫동안 다른 사람과 다른 모든 것에 우선순위를 두었기 때문에 자신이 누구인지 알지 못합니다.**"
* 🕰 "우리는 생각할 시간이 없을 정도로 **만연한 소비 중독 문화**에 빠져 있습니다."
* 💪 "자신을 존중할 때 **대담하게 움직이고 다른 곳에서 힘을 얻**게 됩니다."
* 🎯 "가장 먼저 개발해야 할 습관은 **명확성을 추구**하는 것이며, 이는 자신과 연결하고 귀를 기울이며 자신을 넘어서는 연결에서 비롯됩니다."
* 🤔 "많은 사람들이 **자신의 행동이 가져올 결과에 대해 생각하지 않기 때** 때문에 행동을 바꾸지 않습니다."
* 용기는 다른 모든 미덕을 가능하게 하는 덕목입니다. **소극적인 태도를 멈추고 원하는 것을 향해 일관되고 적극적인 행동**을 취하세요.
* 📆 "매주 **용기 있는 행동을 쌓아** 올해를 **용기의 해**로 만들 수 있도록 노력하세요."

most people don't make advanced changes in their life because they lost connection to their self. Time for yourself is not the same as time listening to yourself. We're in this culture of such rampant addiction to consumption that we don't have any time to think. When you honor yourself, now you make bold moves. When you honor yourself, you come from a different place of strength. For everybody, there's a consequence to your inaction. But the thing that's so strange about life, almost always, the consequence to inaction is [Music] blind. most people don't make significant change to their lives because they've lost a connection to their self. most people don't make advanced changes in their life because they lost connection to their self. They don't sense themselves anymore. They've prioritized everybody else and everything else for so long, they don't know who they are. This happens, you see this in research over and over. In a divorce, a person wanders out of a divorce and for like two or three years are like, who am I? That one significant change in

relationship makes you say, Who am I? and they realize they haven't heard their own thoughts and feelings and desires and dreams. I can't help you change unless you start hearing your own thoughts and feelings desires and dreams again. So what's the advanced stuff you need everyday moments to connect to your own thoughts feelings desires and dreams. What is that? Well, every single thing we're talking about can become a habit connection to self can become a habit that can be your time to pray to meditate to do your ice bath and think about life. You can do or whatever you have to think about like you have to find the time. If we're going to shift your life, there needs to be time in your life to connect with yourself. That might be your warm bath, that might be your daily walk, that might be your workout alone or with headphones. Like when do you and please let me be specific time for yourself is not the same as time listening to yourself. Do you all understand that something got lost with the pandemic and that you got to take time for yourself?

so people put on podcasts and get on ellipticals for 30 minutes and think they had time for themselves. no, no, no. you weren't even thinking. you were consuming. consuming is not the same as listening to yourself. who follows well brenon? you don't understand. I meditate. I'm like what form of meditation? cuz most most forms of meditation are trying to release a thought pattern. most forms of meditation are doing a mantra so that the monkey mind isn't going. so what type of time are you spending listening to yourself? This is why of course every psychologist in the world and every coach that I know who has any worth their salt not only do they Journal, they recommend Journal as one of their first inter interventions. when you journal and you actually think about your thought thoughts feelings desires dreams how you're dealing with life everything shifts. you can't know yourself and become a better version of yourself if you're currently not listening to yourself. let me say it again. you cannot know yourself and become a better

version of yourself if you're not currently listening to yourself. So what I asked my clients would go show me where you're listening to yourself. You might write this down. Show me where you're listening to yourself. Like where, when do the happen. For some people, it's like New Year's drunk. I'm not judging. I'm just saying it's a very common thing. Some people, they take a walk on their birthday, and they think about it for five minutes, but they really think about the future versus themselves. What is your real true authentic loving self saying to you about what you really think and need and feel? 'Cause here's the thing. It's hard to get change in your life if you're so out of touch with with yourself that one hit. It's hard to get change in your life if you're so out of touch with yourself. But we are in a modern era where every second we have that we're not in touch with ourselves, we're just feeding ourselves. We're in that swipe mode. And when you're

In swipe mode, you're not thinking, you're reacting, but you're not thinking, and real human behavior change takes thinking. More time alone. I just saw a great session with humor in where he was describing to a friend how he, he spent 13 minutes talking about all the wealthy and extraordinary people he met, and he was like, I'm so shocked how much time they take to just think. And he's just like, he's blown away by it, and he realized he's like, I don't think I've just sat and thought for like three years to just sit and actually think about yourself and your life and how things are going without consuming, no, no consumption, just thinking in quiet. There's a reason Einstein was Einstein. He sat in silence, thinking about hard things, and changed the entire understanding of the universe. Does that compete with you? He sat and just thought about complex things and changed the entire understanding of the universe, and you want to become more wealthy, but you literally won't even sit.

and think it's the weirdest thing I've ever seen. We're in this culture of such rampant addiction to consumption that we don't have any time to think. So as I shared earlier, the great changes of Life are strategic, they're purposeful, but most people aren't enacting a strategy, they're just reacting today. And so I want you to take time to think. Like when you hang out with the best CEOs and entrepreneurs, they're thinking. I mean, it's crazy. I've been with Elon Musk, he's just thinking all the time. And he's thinking very complex things. And anyone can judge him for lots of different reasons that they might believe. But one thing that's amazing is this guy has thought up some of the most incredible inventions of our existence as a human species. It's amazing. But you have to SP like people understand how much time that is. So okay, give me something tactical, Brenon. Show me it in your day, in your schedule, on your calendar. Where's that block of thinking?

time to connect with yourself to connect with yourself. If you got anything like you might not like anything I said today or anything Ed did, but if you will make sure that you have time every day to think and connect with yourself. What will do is it will put you back in touch with yourself, and when you're back in touch with yourself, you start to honor yourself. When you honor yourself, now you make bold moves. When you honor yourself, now you make authentic, courageous action. When you honor yourself, now you know how to love like a man or love like a woman or love like a partner. When you honor yourself, you come from a different place of strength. For everybody, your servant goes up, your wealth goes up, and everyone's like, what's going on? You're honoring yourself by listening to yourself. Somebody, we're so fragmented, you're playing so many different roles, right? It's like your head is like this all day. Who's ever felt like this? Oh God, that's G to be like a meme.

somewhere damn that video my team's already like we can never get a thumbnail of Brendon have you ever tried to pause a video of me and get a thumbnail they're all it's like impossible but who knows what I'm talking who's felt like this in the last three years okay we got to get you centered turn to the person right shake them and say get centered oh my God okay if we're going to change we also need connection Beyond yourself so what's your H what's your Habit to connect Beyond yourself now this can be connection with others this can be connection with your creator this can be connection with nature but we got to get you out of you now every day we got to get you into you and every day we got to get you out of you right and so this connection Beyond self for Ed as you all know he's down on his knees praying for me being a Montana kid it's outside if I'm in nature I'm with God I

just I'm an outside kind of guy. It's just something different for me. That's where that connection happens. That's a big important part for me. My conversations with God are outside. I got to walk and be in nature. I'm a guy from The Rivers. Got to happen. So getting connection Beyond yourself. Where does that happen? Because see what are these two things going to give you? Well, we know from research called high performance habits that the first habit, hey, that the first habit is to seek Clarity. How do you get clarity? You got to connect and listen to yourself again. And you got to connect Beyond you. If we could get Advanced change in your life, do you know what every single performance psychologist, every single mindset coach, and every therapist would agree in the world? Clarity. If we can increase your Clarity for who you want to become and how you want to live and how you're going to live into that, we shift your life forever. Clarity is your answer, answer the issue that I'm trying to

demonstrate here is you need to know where you're going to get that Clarity from. Where's Clarity coming from? Oh, Clarity is coming from my character idealization. Who do I want to become? Then it's time to connect with self and time to connect Beyond self that helps develop the role Clarity of who we want to be. This stuff is so important. Now we get to some of the basics and simple fundamentals. Okay, we want to change somebody our prits earlier we're just going have to challenge them stubborn or not. We got to introduce challenge into your life. Second, we got to pull in something called consequence review. Do you know why a lot of people never change? They never think think about the consequences of their inaction and their action. See it turns out higher performers are very Adept to thinking about consequences. They're not paranoid. They're not paranoid though Jim Collins would argue otherwise in his one of his later books he wrote good to great and he would argue that no it's

very important that some of the greatest leaders in the world. They're slightly paranoid. And what he was trying to elaborate was they're kind of seeing out, and they know they got to hedge against these bets. They got to. They got to make sure they don't lose. They got to see that what we're doing now is adding up into a direction. And if we don't shift now, that Direction's going to crash. Some people never change their behavior because they're so in the moment. They're so out of touch with themselves that they can't even see the consequence of who BEC coming who's ever had a child like this. You kind of had to say, Oh my God, if you don't change your behavior, you're going to go to jail. A lot of people told me that when I was growing up. I remember one time. I don't know what happened to us goofy kids, but somebody taught us. I don't know somebody in my high school taught us that you could go into a parking lot at night and

you could get one of those shopping carts, and you could put it in front of the car, and then put your friend in the shopping cart and go fast. Yeah, this became a thing. I have no idea why. And then you could also climb on top of all the buildings. It was like a goal to climb on every top big building in our high school town. I have no idea why we crawled on all those buildings, but it became a thing we were for fun maybe. I don't know. I never I didn't ever think I was Spiderman, but it was like somebody, a security guard, pulled me over, and I unrolled my window. I said, Yes, sir. He says, Didn't say anything. You know you're going to get yourself killed or kill somebody, right? And just the way he looked at me, that's all he had to say. I never thought that. I was just having fun. You know you're going to kill yourself and get somebody killed, right? And he said it so sternly and so seriously, it hit me. I was like, What am I?

doing this for cuz sometimes you're just not thinking about that concept quence, but when you feel the consequence, you shift. If you're a bad parent and you can see that consequence 10 years out and 20 years out, you're like, Oh, I don't want to be like that. You shift when you see, and this is the most important one. I want to share this with you and make sure you wrote it down: the consequence of your inaction. You shift. Most people think their inaction doesn't have a consequence, but you heard Ed mlet give a different speech today, didn't he? There's consequence to inaction, there's consequence because life is so short and it's so precious, and you have to realize that things you don't do are also adding to a type of life, the things that you don't do. It's almost like there's a, you know, a Quantum parallelism happening, okay, again fancy words, but it's like there's two things happening, there's like, okay, who you are.

becoming, but also who you could have become if you stay acting the exact same way. You're going to become something, but there's always a parallel track of if you had taken more action or the person who would have been of more courageous action. What would they have shifted into? Because there's a consequence to your inaction, but the thing that's so strange about life, almost always the consequence to inaction is blind. You can't see it. You can't see the person now who you could have become if you had acted differently for the last 10 years. So you don't have to actually deal with the consequence, right? You just, you think the consequence of who you are today is what you did the last 10 years, but it's also what you didn't do. And that person who you didn't do, that inaction is blind to you. You can't see it. It's kind of a mind-blowing reality of that inaction. You can say, Well, yeah, but

brenon, I didn't work out, so I have to deal with that today. I'm like, yeah, that's one form of it, but the other form is you just can't see. You don't know who you could have become. That's the problem with consequences. Is often you don't see them. You're so unaware of them. Or it seems like they live on a different Quantum field that you're not even ever going to access. And that's why you have to have times of review. When do you review the consequences of your life? Now when you say consequences, it doesn't sound fun. So in growth day, we call them life scores. And we just have you track your habits and your mindset every day, every week, and every month in growth day. So if you haven't used the life score section in your app, start using it. And you'll start to see some of those consequences with your scores. So you can score. You can make it fun. But at the end of the day, if you're not viewing it, it's just

gone. It's blind. You'll never experience it. And that's why I want to end with for this framework. One more thing across the bottom. And it's courageous action. Courage is that virtue that makes all other virtues possible. You've heard that quote before. Courage is the virtue that makes all other good virtues possible. If you want Advanced human behavior change, it's going to be come from knowing who you want to become, connecting to yourself more often so you can understand yourself, connecting Beyond yourself, challenging yourself, understanding the consequences of your behavior, and having way more courageous action way more. And here's the thing. I would just rather for most people. And here's kind of interesting. If I tell you take courageous action and you're like, yeah, I'll do that. I'll be wait. But before you do that, can we stop the inaction part? There's things that you want and you desire but you're inactive. You're not going for it. You're not assertive towards it. I want you to assert yourself way more consistently towards the things

that you want. That doesn't always require courage, sometimes it's just doing the thing, it's just showing up, just showing up. I want you to stop, stop the inaction, get in motion towards the things that you want on a consistent basis. And then, and then after we review the consequences of that, then I'm going to say, Okay, bold moves, courageous action, let's go, let's get in it, let's do the hard things now, let's go to that other level, courageous action. What would be a courageous move this week and start stacking those weeks, stack those weeks, one courageous action week after week after week, 52 courageous actions throughout the year, that's a whole lot more than most people and that gives you an unfair advantage, it gives you an unfair advantage. This should be a year of courage for this community, for each of you who know this personal development stuff, who are unblocking, who are ready to do the work, a year of courage. Everyone say, I'm here, I'm here, I'm ready, I'm ready, I go encourage, I go.

Encourage, that's what we want to build today. Today, that's what we want to build today. [Music]

How to Become Who You WANT to Be

Brendon Burchard

자신과 다시 연결되는 것의 중요성

많은 사람들이 자신의 생각과 감정보다 외부의 요구를 우선시하면서 진정한 자신과의 연결을 잃어버리기 때문에 삶에서 큰 변화를 이끌어내는 데 어려움을 겪습니다.

자신을 위한 시간을 갖는다는 것은 진정으로 자신의 말에 귀 기울이는 것과 다르지 않으며, 자기 성찰과 성찰을 위한 시간을 마련하는 것이 중요합니다.

명상, 일기 쓰기, 혼자 산책하기 등 자신의 욕망과 꿈과 연결되는 시간을 찾는 것은 개인의 성장을 위해 필수적입니다.

생각할 시간을 갖는 것의 중요성

자기 자신에 귀 기울이고 이해하는 시간을 갖는 것은 개인의 성장과 변화를 위해 매우 중요합니다.

오늘날의 급변하는 소비 중심 문화에서 단순히 생각하는 행위는 소홀히 여겨져 왔습니다.

엘론 머스크와 같이 성공하고 영향력 있는 많은 사람들은 자신의 성취를 깊이 있고 전략적인 사고를 위해 시간을 할애한 덕분이라고 말합니다.

반응적이고 바쁜 라이프스타일 속에서 조용히 사색하고 생각하는 시간을 예약하고 우선순위를 정하는 것은 필수적입니다.

매일 자신과 소통하는 시간을 가지면 자신을 더 잘 존중하고 이해하게 되어 더 대담하고 진정성 있는 행동으로 이어질 수 있습니다.

또한 타인, 자연, 더 높은 힘 등 자신을 넘어선 연결이 가능해져 궁극적으로 삶의 명확성을 높일 수 있습니다.

연구에 따르면 자기와의 연결과 자신을 넘어선 연결에서 비롯되는 명확성은 개인의 변화와 성장에 매우 중요한 요소입니다.

명확성은 우리의 성격을 이상화하고 우리 자신과 연결되는 것에서 비롯됩니다.

도전을 도입하고 행동의 결과를 고려하는 것은 변화를 주도하는 데 필수적입니다.

많은 사람들이 자신의 행동이 어떤 결과를 초래할지 예측하지 못해 변화에 어려움을 겪지만, 그 영향을 이해하는 것은 자기계발에 매우 중요합니다.

자신의 행동과 무행동의 결과를 깨닫는 것은 인생에 큰 변화를 가져올 수 있습니다.

또한 무행동은 눈에 보이지는 않지만 영향을 미쳐서 현재의 나를 형성하는 결과를 가져옵니다.

삶의 결과, 즉 '인생 점수'를 정기적으로 검토하면 습관과 사고방식이 인생의 궤적에 미치는 영향을 인식하는 데 도움이 될 수 있습니다.

인간의 행동 변화를 위한 용기 있는 행동 장려

용기는 인간의 행동을 변화시킬 수 있는 핵심 덕목이며 일관되게 추구해야 합니다.

용기 있는 행동을 취하기 전에 먼저 행동하지 않는 것을 해결하고 목표를 향해 자신을 주장하는 것이 중요합니다.

대담하고 용기 있는 조치를 지속적으로 취함으로써 개인은 자기계발에서 불공정한 이점을 얻을 수 있습니다.