Empathetic Dating

From the beginning to the end of dating, we take the time to empathize and resolve concerns. Hello, this is Empathetic Dating. It's become a bit less awkward now. Right? At this point, it's okay to greet each other. I've been in a relationship for six years. So, I was four years old when I started dating. Well, I don't have any prejudices; I don't judge based on age or anything like that. 

Now, let's read a story today. It's a concern from a woman in her twenties about the age difference. She is a woman in her late twenties who is somewhat confident in her looks. When it comes to men who are younger or of similar age, she doesn’t really feel any attraction. Even when her friends set her up on blind dates, she doesn't feel much interest and lacks excitement. She hasn’t been dumped before, so she thinks she can be confident. However, recently she developed feelings for someone who is 15 years older than her. They met at the same company, and perhaps because of the age difference, he always speaks to her kindly.

I was drawn to his relaxed demeanor, even when I made mistakes, and he didn't particularly look like an older man. Even though he has no specific tasks on the days he works, he pretends to work overtime with me, and when we're done, he asks for a drink while continuously flirting. However, he never crosses a certain line. It's not like he's married or has a girlfriend, but when I ask if I don't appeal to him, he says that I am attractive and that there are good feelings, yet he also insists that I shouldn't do anything I might regret later. He suggests that I should meet someone better than him, who is older. I've watched him for a year; he gets along well with his colleagues and seems to have no personality issues. From my perspective, it definitely seems like he likes me. Is there a way for me to get closer to him? After all, we are adults.

It's a relationship that has too many consequences to simply engage in based on emotions and then end it. It's not just about the age difference, but also the dynamics within the company. So, I think if this person were just a bit younger, they might have considered pursuing a workplace romance. I understand that this person is in a situation where they have no choice but to think deeply about it. In the end, throwing something out there, pushing forward—that's creating a situation where one has to suppress their rationality and let emotions rise, which usually happens when alcohol is involved. Alcohol is the biggest factor here. Even if they are flirting, there’s a certain line they won’t cross. It must be really tough. Did she drink? Or maybe while the guy was briefly in the restroom, she finished all her drink?

The man should drink something a bit stronger, but that's not the way to go. This is not the right approach. There is a method to this. The woman gradually invades his daily life, making him get used to her presence. At some point, there’s a line where he becomes accustomed to her. She keeps blending in, but then suddenly, she says, “Don’t contact me for a day.” The man will feel that emptiness, right? Is that not a bad idea? Ah, I see. One should not do things they will regret later; that’s a line for rejection. Ultimately, she is speaking with the thought of the regret that may come after a breakup in mind. The end of a relationship often leads to regret and breakups, and that fills her mind. So, she thinks that they have no choice but to end things, that it’s a relationship that cannot go on until the end. She wants to break that mindset.

Building trust seems to be very important. It might be seen as a momentary curiosity or childish behavior, but I think it’s good to express that I’m seriously considering these aspects when I talk about it. On the other hand, if this woman is just feeling curious and wants to meet without any serious thoughts about marriage, then she should be sent to an older brother, right? If she’s now 35 and a 20-year-old college freshman keeps saying he likes her and wants to hang out, it might feel like a joke. She might wonder why he’s interested in her when she’s at the age where she needs to think about marriage. It could be frustrating because he doesn’t understand her situation.

Yes, we will drink and eat together, but that’s not the point. This is the end of today’s story. It was tough today. For those of you who are frustrated or have many concerns about your romantic problems, please send your stories to the email address in the description below. We will try our best to reflect on as many of them as possible and provide empathy, as well as to think about good solutions. This episode was really fun, and if you could relate to it, please subscribe, like, and turn on notifications. Well then, goodbye! 

Now, a man in his 40s, and a woman in her late 20s who says, “I’m confident about my looks,” might find that he is an attractive man if she feels she wants to date him for a year while waiting. This man has likely experienced a lot in life.

I've been through a lot, so shallow flirting and superficial tactics won't work on me.

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