One of the biggest lies we tell ourselves is that women aren't just as visual as men. This became very evident to me when I was scrolling through Instagram reels one day and came across this reel of a guy just getting a haircut. But I did not expect the comment section to be a tsunami of women going rabid for this man. Thousands upon thousands of likes. Usually, you think of Instagram as a place where guys are thirsty, but here I was deep into waters that I didn't know existed. But it gave me an idea. In my previous video on the female gaze, we focused on different aspects of attraction such as personality, vibe, and a little bit on looks. A lot of you were more interested in the physical aspect and wanted me to make a follow-up video on the topic. Initially, I wanted to do it in a very scientific way where I looked up studies and experiments that focused on different aspects of physical attraction. But as I started writing the script, it just felt a little boring, soulless way of looking.

attraction, and to be fair, other channels are already doing this, and they do it better than me, so I scrapped it. But seeing that reel and the comments gave me an idea. Could these social media platforms offer real insights into what traits women find attractive? It was worth trying. Anytime I saw a comment section full of women fawning over a guy, I let the reel linger for a bit to train my algorithm. Eventually, all the reels showing up were ones where the guy was getting a ton of positive attention. My algorithm was fully trained. I wanted to break down common factors I saw in all of these guys that people found so attractive. The first part of my experiment involved scanning the various faces to see how AI would rate them. I did this using the Rate by Fresh app. All of the faces scored an 8 or above, which is pretty rare. This showed me not only are these guys deemed handsome by other humans but also objectively by AI. Next, I used the dimorphic feature. The average score was 8 out of 10 in masculine features and 3

out of 10 in feminine features, which is typically what you'll see with good-looking men. Next, I set out to identify the common traits that made these men significantly more appealing than the average guy. Here's what I found. Archetype. Let's go back to the initial video that sparked this. I sent it to my girlfriend and asked, What's the appeal of this guy? She said, One, he's manly, has strong facial features, beard scruff, and intense eyes, and two, he gives sugar daddy vibes. Now, the first part is evident to everyone watching this video, but the second part is what's interesting. Throughout the comments, you saw the same thing over and over again, the word sugar daddy. What I've noticed is that a lot of attractive men map onto certain archetypes that are deemed attractive. For example, Michael Morone became famous from playing a Mafia boss in a movie called 365 Days. Both sugar daddy and mafia boss are very common tropes in romance novels. Now, you might say, Well, they're just attractive.

archetype doesn't matter, but I saw evidence to the contrary, guys, that the looks maxing would not be considered typically attractive. They didn't have Hunter eyes or the perfect bone structure, for example. This guy, now what archetype does he fulfill? He looks skinny, older, sleep-deprived, dresses decently, and has some tattoos. This is a classic mysterious loner archetype. All this to say, archetype does matter, whether it's being an athlete, a bad boy that drives a motorcycle, or a muscular Lumberjack. You'll notice throughout this video, all of these guys can be mapped onto some type of classic romance novel Trope, with the most universal being muscles and Tattoos. Every guy I saw either had muscles, tattoos, or both. Their physiques were muscular yet athletic. I didn't see anything that was super unattainable without hard training and a good diet. You don't need to look like a rooted-out bodybuilder to have a great physique, like a lot of guys think. Literally, get to a healthy body fat and build some muscle, and you should be good.

to go. A lot of these physiques can easily be achieved in a year or two of solid training. First, tattoos go. They're obviously a very personal and permanent thing, so unless you're into them and won't regret them, don't get them. But there's no denying that they definitely up your attractiveness, especially when paired with a nice physique. Grooming is everything. Grooming was impeccable across the board, whether clean-shaven or bearded. Every detail was managed, from eyebrows to body hair. I strongly believe grooming is an art and skill every guy needs to get good at. If you can't do your own beard just as good as your barber can, learn to do it. You can't use a double-edged razor? Give yourself a pristine clean shave? Learn to do it. Invest in high-quality grooming gear. It'll save you money in the long run, and you'll always look fresh. Your hair is your crown. Hair played a major role. Each individual featured had thick, well-maintained hair styled with intention. A few years ago, you would have

seen every guy here rocking a clean fade, but just like we've been saying, the trend was definitely more towards lived-in, grown-out, fluffy hair. This doesn't mean the hair was unruly, though. All of these hairstyles were cut and styled with intention, and most importantly, looked healthy. Find the perfect hairstyle for yourself. I recommend using the Rate by Fresh app. Grow healthy, thick hair by getting the right nutrients. Make sure you're getting enough protein, iron, and vitamins such as B12 and vitamin D. Invest in shampoos and conditioners that suit your hair type, without chemicals that strip your hair of its natural oils. Glowing skin. Glowing, clear skin was a universal trait among the men featured. I guarantee you every guy here has a skincare routine, and I hope you have one too. By now, we have a ton of different videos on skincare, so check those out if you need help creating your own routine. Now, it's not just about having clear skin; you want that glow. You can get this in a variety of ways. Usually, I recommend

eating beta carotene. This can be a slow process, and you want to avoid getting a straight-up sun tan, as the sun will age your skin and give you wrinkles. Lately, I've been using something called tanning drops. These are drops you mix in with your moisturizer. It will give you an amazing glow, depending on how much you use, and it works in just a couple of hours. I highly recommend trying this out if you want nice glowing skin. I'll link the one I use below, not sponsored at all. Aesthetic by aesthetic, I mostly just mean general style and fashion. A lot of these guys kept it simple, and most fit into two main categories: clean, simple, old money look, and a darker, edgier star boy style. Both of these styles are super easy to get into and will always look good, but if you really want to take it to the next level, going headfirst into fashion can be a huge marker of attraction in and of itself. I'll be making a more in-depth fashion video soon, but if you're not too into fashion and just

want to look good, stick with a simple style and clean fits, and remember the best fashion accessory is a nice physique. Don't be cringe when it comes to men trying to portray themselves as attractive. If you're very direct with it, it comes off terribly and turns people off instantly. The best example is those clearly staged videos of a group of guys walking out of the train and staring at the camera. Even if you're a 10 out of 10, you're going to get clowned on and seen as goofy. The videos that got the most positive attention and a guy clearly doing some kind of activity or action, the best examples being guys on motorcycles, I saw this a lot, guys playing sports, and a guy that just chops wood all day. Yeah, some of it is still a bit cringe, but it tends to actually work. This is more just a bit of advice to tell you that attraction can also be very context-dependent. I think the great thing is I saw guys of all types here giving credence, giving credit to the

fact that you can become an attractive guy no matter who you are. Just hit the jib. Doom yourself. Take care of your skin. Find the style, and the rest will fall into place. Thanks for watching. Make sure to subscribe for much more.

what women actually find attractive in men (female gaze)

what women actually find attractive in men (female gaze)

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