Sometimes, rather than a flashy appearance, a single word or action can sway a man's heart. Especially if you hear that a man's heart flutters the more you meet him or that you shouldn't use your face carelessly, I hope you watch this video two or three times. If you want to meet a top 1% successful man and are considered a woman with high standards, you need to shine not only in appearance but also in your words, actions, and values. For an average man in the bottom 50%, looks are the top priority, one, two, and three. It can't be helped. A man who has never met a beautiful woman is bound to have fantasies about beautiful women because he has never had the experience. However, successful men, whom women tend to like, place greater importance on things that are not visible. Why is it that out of ten women, some only focus on their appearance while neglecting their heart and charm? Just by equipping yourself with the tools I'm sharing today, you'll be able to cast a spell that makes men's eyes turn into hearts.

You'll see, actually. To be honest, there aren't many women who are as attractive as you might think. There are a lot of pretty girls, but very few know how to capture a man's heart. So I've always felt a bit disappointed. There have been so many times when I've had to part ways with someone who was really beautiful but lacked charm, which has left me in tears. If you watch this video until the end, not only will you escape being the triple crown of dullness, but even the top 1% of desirable men will find you irresistible. Oh, don't date other guys. I'm the one for you, hearing such words while feeling the envious gazes around you, and experiencing a romance that makes your heart flutter every day can become a reality. Women want men who are focused on their work; that passionate demeanor is incredibly sexy from a woman's perspective. It's the same for men; they are attracted to women who take pride in their work. Indeed, I, Aru, am still a job seeker.

I feel like I can't date anyone. I'm currently working part-time at Olive, and I wonder if professional men dislike part-timers. I earn 2 million won a month, but the guy I like makes 10 million won a month. I think there are friends who ask these cute questions, so I want to say that I don't necessarily want someone who just sits in a big corporate office. I find a woman with a passion for her life attractive. In reality, 90% of women say things like, Oh, I don't want to work. Should I quit my job? Should I skip school? I really dislike Manager Kim. Oppa, hurry up and succeed so I can quit my job. There are many women who just repeat these thoughts like a parrot without any real consideration. But I'll speak honestly, even if I get criticized. The successful men around me—friends who have assets of at least 2 billion won and earn over 100 million won a year—prefer women who have a passion for their work. Why? Because you should also be making money, right? Of course.

If a man hasn't built up his assets, it's natural for him to prefer capable women. Honestly, just the price of apartments in Seoul is at an astronomical level. But what truly matters is not money; it's the understanding of how terrifying it can be to work for money and to appreciate the value of labor. What's funny is that women who have never really earned money often dismiss my friend's husband's salary of over 200 million won, saying things like, Ugh, such a meager salary is so boring. Similarly, men who have never experienced the challenges of making a living used to raise children and live well even without washing machines or dryers. Nowadays, life is so much easier, yet they make such absurd statements. It's a common misconception that other people's jobs look the easiest. Even if I do the same job, research shows that I feel it's 70% more important. It means that even if a woman doesn't earn a lot, men want someone who is passionate about her work. And there's one more important fact about society.

As a member of society, one must work not only to feel self-esteem and a sense of achievement but also to find fulfillment in life. It may seem like one could be happy just eating, sleeping, and playing, but in reality, that is not the case. Of course, if one gets married or has children, their perspective might change, as parenting is no easy task. However, at least until that point, I hope that everyone has a job they are passionate about, regardless of how much they earn. I would prefer that they are not like frogs in a well, confined to a limited view. More than 98% of men think this way. Of course, if a man is overly possessive and controlling, his mindset might be different. Just think about it: coming home every day, lounging around, watching TV, or scrolling through Netflix or Instagram reels until dawn while holding a phone. Even if they don't show it outwardly, they might not want to promise a future. Consider changing the market and dating a handsome guy.

I started working at a small company, earning 2 million won a month. I can do that because the future is uncertain. However, I spend money like water without saving a single penny. I want to live doing everything I want; I’m enjoying the moment as a YOLO person. I’ll buy a car on a 48-month installment plan and post it on KakaoTalk. It’s a gift for the hard work I've done. I plan to travel abroad every quarter and post such updates on Instagram. Traveling abroad is all about experience. Even if I don’t say it out loud, I secretly think, Oh, I could marry this person. After working for 30 years, I might have to struggle through life, and that thought is chilling. Do you understand what that feels like? No matter what job you currently have or how much you earn, what’s more important is your attitude towards your life. People, especially those with skills, really consider this aspect when looking for a life partner. Why is it that men only treat well at the beginning?

Why do men leave after just having sex? Why do men say they are not ready when it comes to discussing marriage? You might have thought about this. There are older sisters in the community who teach younger girls strange things, trying to make them suffer from heartbreak and turn them into old maids. When you hear such words, you end up becoming just like them. Think about it: if I want to be successful, should I listen to someone who earns 1 billion won a year, or someone who earns 20 million won a year? People instinctively compare themselves to others. The more of a loser I feel, the more I want others to fail too. Those who have failed at marriage often think, Ah, women need to improve; if they get married, everything will be fine, and life will look up. This gaslighting pulls others down as well. We need to break free from this vicious cycle. Do you understand?

Why do men only date and not propose? It's simple: either they don't like the woman enough, or they can't envision a happy future together. When men are dating, their standards for women aren't that high. If a woman is a bit charming and attractive, they might think, Why not date? and enter a relationship without much hesitation. On the other hand, women, from an evolutionary psychology perspective, don't want to be with ambiguous men. In the past, being with such men not only lowered their status but also posed a threat to their survival. 

But here's the funny part: men who aren't sensitive to women's standards suddenly become very calculative when they decide to get married. Unless they are completely infatuated or experiencing a 100% love, they start crunching numbers like crazy. To sum it up, women's standards for dating and marriage differ significantly.

While it may seem small, I honestly have to say that the difference in standards regarding dating and marriage between men and women is enormous. Women find it difficult to date a man who seems like he might be a failure, but men can easily date a woman who seems like she might fail at any moment. This is because men tend to take dating more lightly. From an evolutionary psychology perspective, the difference arises from the fact that women have to bear and raise children, while men have the instinct to spread their genes as much as possible. Of course, in modern society, men also have to take responsibility, and women can choose to be free. However, the instincts from the past still linger. There are not only men who are reckless and lack a future, but also many capable men who may not show it outwardly. Even if they are willing to build a future together, they often evaluate whether a woman is suitable throughout the dating process, much like a luxury goods appraiser scrutinizing every detail. A man confessed his feelings to me first.

I kept pursuing you to date. When are you going to talk about it? Dating and marriage are separate. You can start a relationship based on external charm, but you can't just live off someone's looks. Women in their early twenties might date handsome men, but by their thirties, they look for capability. Similarly, men in their early twenties may only seek pretty women, but by their thirties, they carefully consider charm, personality, values, and tendencies. Why should I only meet my girlfriend twice a week? I can just adjust those two days, and spend the other five doing what I want to heal. However, that doesn't work in marriage. When a man thinks about it, can he truly be happy spending 365 days a year together? The answer to that question should be a resounding yes, yes, yes before proposing with a Tiffany diamond ring. This woman is meant to be my lifelong partner. Even if a man is cost-effective, it won't feel like a waste of money.

A wallet opens when it sees the potential in a woman. A woman who will become boring and end the relationship after three months, someone you meet now but have no thoughts of marrying. If a man is uncertain about whether things will work out with you, he doesn't want to take a loss either. Men are much more focused on value for money. Think about it: when women go out to eat with friends, they often choose high-end hotel restaurants or omakase, prioritizing emotional satisfaction over cost-effectiveness. But have you ever seen men going out for omakase? They usually go for burgers, sundae soup, pork cutlets, or spicy stir-fried pork. This means that men are inherently obsessed with value for money, but if they truly want to spend their lives with someone, they can go all in without hesitation. It's not that the man is cunning or a bad person; it’s just that the situation changes. We are the same, right? Trash.

When you meet the same type of man, you tend to become selfish, but if you meet a really good man, you can transform into an angelic girlfriend. Men are the same way. Just for once, try to enhance your charm, and you’ll see that the way men treat you will truly change. My friends also see that there’s no clear distinction between good men and bad men. Even if they act like a spoiled child, when they encounter true love, they can transform into devoted partners. Do you understand what I mean? Instead of constantly complaining and living half-heartedly, love your life and strive to become a better, more attractive person while in a relationship. Not only your boyfriend, but also the way people around you see and treat you will start to change. I have some lower body obesity and a small chest. I have bad skin, so I can't do it. I'm too old for this. No one is without complexes.

The complex is magnified like a magnifying glass, determining whether it appears double or even ten times larger, or if it looks attractive. In the past, I often heard girls say to me, Oh, your voice isn't great. If only your voice was good, you would have been really popular. However, once I developed my charm, they started to see my flaws in a positive light. They said they liked my voice because it wasn't ordinary; they could tell at once that I was their boyfriend. I personally like tall girls, but the funny thing is that when I was younger, I used to like small, cute girls. The girl I really liked back then was tall, and since then, my ideal type has become tall girls. Because I liked that person, her characteristics felt attractive. You all probably feel the same about the guys you liked in the past.

The characteristics must have determined your ideal type. I have a younger sister who is very short and had a complex about it. She used to say that she felt boys didn't like her because she was too short, so she couldn't date. Every time she opened her mouth, it was about this, but she ended up meeting a really good boyfriend, and all her complexes disappeared. He would always tell her, Oh, you're so cute! Why are you so lovable? How did we end up together? He boosted her self-esteem. So, in the past, whenever her height was mentioned, she would shrink back, but now she jokes that not only is she short, but her face and hands are small too—except for her chest. It's funny because her popularity has skyrocketed. Now, 95% of the boys around her say that girls like her are their ideal type, and they keep pursuing her.

How you interpret things can be a disadvantage or a benefit. If you speak negatively, you will see things negatively; conversely, if you speak positively, you will see things positively. It makes you feel like a more impressive woman. Men can't help but fall for women who have this mindset. The reason many women exude negative energy and try to release that stress onto their boyfriends is that they are overwhelmed by it. This behavior makes men constantly sing praises about positive women. If there is a negative woman, I become negative too, and feelings of sadness arise. No one is perfect, right? Men want to meet women who can see their shortcomings in a positive light. That is the true meaning of what men refer to as a positive woman. Not understanding this leads to the constant talk of clichés and nonsense about men only liking pretty women.

It's like this: while you're rationalizing, men also have their complexes, just like you do. How can I not love a woman who sees me as a more remarkable person? How could I not propose? I want to spend my whole life with this woman; how could I treat her as just a cost-effective girlfriend without going all in? When a man meets a woman like this, even the most accomplished man, who might seem perfect enough that everyone around him would say he deserves better, cannot give her up. Men are mentally exhausted from fierce competition since childhood. No matter how hard they try, they can never be perfect. Even if they earn over 100 million won, in today's world, 100 million isn't much. After studying for ten years to become a doctor, they might just end up as a pay doctor. They might have an apartment in Gangnam, but people still look down on them. So, I want to be more...

I met a woman who makes me feel like a better man, and I absolutely can't leave her. I have no choice but to rush into this. I wonder why there are so few good men. Men think the same way: they wonder why there are so few good women. Other women are always full of complaints, just wishing for something better. But I meet a woman who not only thinks positively but also gives me the courage to start something together. I can’t afford to let her go; I can’t help but feel a sense of crisis. I know that no matter how passionately I speak, some will say that a woman’s looks are the most important, or that she needs to come from a good family background. There are people who will talk like losers. What can I do? I used to feel that way too. I had a lot of complaints about society, so I always walked around grumbling like a grumpy smurf.

Not only women, but men also don't seem to like me. When I'm with them, they get depressed and feel like a burden. However, how I think about myself and how I live my life changes everything. Life is like that. Just as you perceive others, they will perceive you in the same way. If I think that because I work at Olive Young, others won't love me, then they will start to ignore me. On the contrary, if I work at Olive Young but prepare for my future confidently, then that attitude makes me look beautiful and cool. Instead of thinking that men won't like me because I have a small chest, I should consider that my small chest allows me to present myself in a way that enhances my beauty. That becomes my charm. How you perceive yourself will determine whether men treat you as a cost-effective girlfriend or as a valued woman in life.

If you decide to try to change the complexes you have and realize that you can't, it's okay to acknowledge that and leave the parts you can't change as your own charm. I feel like I can't meet someone good for me, and I wonder why the people I like don't seem to like me back. I used to think about this a lot in the past, but looking back, there was a reason for everything. 

If a guy sends you a message asking, What are you doing? try replying like this. He will probably imagine you working out, picturing you looking even prettier than you actually are. Of course, he will notice your chest or your butt, but he won't say it outright because that would be embarrassing. He might say, I like girls with pretty eyes, but I would expect him to mention something like being cute or having a positive personality instead. However, he ends up saying that, leaving the guy flustered, saying, Uh, right.

While doing this, you might stutter a bit, and then you comfort him. At the same time that he feels relieved, it's impossible not to develop a crush on a woman like you who speaks kindly. You have to say, Oppa, you're so handsome and cool. It's not about just enjoying happiness; it's about using your dating skills to shake a man's heart. You need to have a sense of lack to feel happiness. Let me give you an example: after seeing a handsome man passing by, you intentionally compliment him. In places like Apgujeong, there are many model-like men. You might say, Oh, there are no men as cool as you, oppa. Then, the man's smile will be so wide it might reach his ears. 

Sometimes, you see women in restaurants yelling loudly and trying to act tough like fighters. Men have a problem-solving instinct, so they find such situations very uncomfortable. Moreover, when women show this side of themselves, men think, Ah, this is her true self. If you come home late after getting married...

I can immediately imagine becoming a female general. So, what would happen? It feels like the stock market is crashing, and my likability would plummet. In a situation that could make one angry, it depends on how well a man can hold onto his composure. A woman can think, Ah, I can adapt to this, and see a glimmer of hope. This can lead to a pleasant date, which is not a bad thing at all; in fact, it can be something that makes you feel good. Why? Because it’s an opportunity to show how wonderful of a woman you are and how relaxed your mindset can be.

I always say that men are simple and easy to train, like dogs. Don’t let yourself be persuaded by men without confidence, as you did in the past. Instead, have faith in yourself, as I advise you. Don’t just follow along without any thoughts; it’s not about being dragged along by whatever the man wants. You have your own values, and men appreciate that kind of attitude.

You will feel that you are a special woman, and it will draw you in like crazy. If you haven't met a guy you like until now, or if you've quickly lost interest, you've been treated as a cost-effective girlfriend. Try using the secret dating techniques that you can't learn anywhere else in South Korea. You will realize that cheat codes really exist. If you don't believe what I'm saying, those of you who are skeptical should read the reviews of the dating manual on Wadiz. Only members who have spent their own money can leave comments there. I hope you all get to experience how happy the life of an attractive woman can be. That's all for today. This has been Haru, the only one in the country teaching practical dating skills.

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