But I promise you one thing, especially for women's lectures, it's even more so. I followed everything I said, but the man left. That man is not worth it; you can just throw him away. How great it is to filter out such people. 

Hello, I am Daniel, the representative of Sound Sound, which provides educational courses that are essential in life but cannot be learned in school. Nice to meet you. As for my main background, I am currently working as a Gallup-certified global strengths coach. I strive to offer a better life in various fields such as career and organizational leadership coaching, as well as relationship coaching, while working with large corporations. Additionally, I have been publishing newsletters for several years in a paid membership community, providing thousands of people with the humanities and cultural education necessary for life. Mainly, educators come to learn from me.

There are many educators, including teachers and academy instructors, who also run adult education YouTube channels. On these YouTube channels, they happen to cover educational content about dating, marriage, and relationships for more than half of the time. Therefore, this lecture focuses on relationships, particularly between men and women. The current setup and composition of the video were created in June 2024. The reason I am adding a few more videos is that the lectures attract not only newsletter subscribers and YouTube followers but also external students. I felt it was necessary to provide more information about who I am and what kind of lectures I conduct. Although my writing and videos already have a rapport and trust with my regular readers, those who are seeing me for the first time may find this information helpful.

I think you will definitely be able to relate to this, so along with the additional prologue, there will be some extra lectures in Chapter 1. I believe there will be one in Chapter 2 as well. I have added quite a bit to the lectures over time. Compared to the initial version, I have made some additions this time too. In any case, you can consider that all the videos in the current setup were added after June 2024. Therefore, the screen composition and color tone may differ slightly from the existing ones, so I ask for your understanding. If you see something that feels a bit different, you can think, Ah, this is something that was added recently.

To express what you can gain from this lecture in one sentence: it is all the skills that can be applied not only to dating but also to married life. However, you might have various expectations from this. Are you wondering if I will teach you techniques to charm women like a pickup artist, or if you are a woman, techniques to attract handsome and capable men? So, I will cover this part in the course.

I have written down the guidelines and requests, but those who want such things will not gain anything from this lecture. In fact, you are misunderstanding the very meaning of technology. To be honest, you cannot learn such magical techniques anywhere. If someone claims to teach you that, they are undoubtedly a fraud. Everyone has a certain level that defines the type of person they can attract. Unfortunately, it is difficult to meet someone outside of that level, and no matter how hard you try, it won't work. Scientifically, the attraction to someone is determined within seven seconds. So, attraction is not something we can achieve through effort. Even if you had some magical technique to attract your desired partner, that wouldn't be the end of it. Maintaining that attraction is another matter entirely; if the levels don't match, it won't last.

In the end, we will break up anyway, so the best way to meet a better partner is to become a better person myself. This is because human relationships are like water. Water has the property of flowing, so no matter how hard you try to hold flowing water with your hands, you won't be able to catch it. So, what is the way to possess water? It is to let a lot of water flow around me. For example, having a large channel would work. Human relationships are the same. No matter how much I try to grasp or own them, it won't work because they are flowing. Therefore, the only way to have the person I want and to increase my chances is to become a better person, to become someone with a larger capacity. If I become a more attractive and better person, more people will naturally orbit around me, and opportunities will arise. So, in the end, it comes down to self-development.

You need to develop yourself further. Of course, some people may not want to do that. I personally don't want to lose; I'm fine just as I am. That attitude is also good. However, if that's the case, you won't be able to meet a better partner. You will meet someone who matches your level, and that's okay too. So, what should these people learn? For those who want to become better individuals, it's important to learn how to maintain relationships steadily throughout the process. Many people focus on how to seduce others, which is a very immature approach. This leads to constantly hurting each other, expressing dissatisfaction, and then breaking up, only to repeat the cycle. Therefore, I teach these two things: how to become a better man, a better woman, and a better human being. But this applies to everyone.

It's okay. I've done coaching and counseling more than a thousand times, and do you know how most people come to me? They think that the problems they have are very unique and special. However, most of them are quite universal. Now, I want to talk about how to maintain relationships well throughout the process. Do you know what this is called? It's called techniques. Do you know the dictionary definition of techniques? It refers to the basic abilities needed to go through the essential steps in any field. It's the very foundation, the basics. Techniques do not refer to the ability to perform tricks or stunts. To do well in circus acts, what do you need to master first? You need to know how to control your body. To excel in boxing, you need to practice skipping rope. To speak well, you need to know how to write first. However, many people...

Without knowing the basics, people try to show off their skills, which is why it doesn't work. This applies not only to dating but to everything. Let me explain it in a way that resonates more. There is a very famous book about love called The Art of Loving by Erich Fromm. However, the reviews of this book are extremely divided. Some people say it is the best book on love, while others claim it is the worst. If I were to publish my lecture as a book, I think the reviews would be similar. Those who call it the best have accurately understood the author's intentions, while those who call it the worst had incorrect expectations. These people probably expected some tips on how to attract men or women, but it’s about the art of love. Let's analyze this. The title of the book is brilliantly crafted. To avoid mispronunciation, I’ll use Konglish: Art is from Ars plus Techne.

The combined words both mean skill. So, it can be referred to as the skill of love or the art of love. In fact, they have the same meaning. The origins of art and skill are the same. This is because, in the phrase alt-ruy, instead of using love in the simple present, the present continuous form loving is used. Fromm's concept of love emphasizes that the essence of love lies in action. What this means is that the book The Skill of Love literally teaches the skills needed to act in love at every moment. If you continuously practice these skills throughout your life, you can create a work of art called love. Ultimately, anyone can create a work of art through continuous action and training in these skills. Therefore, the terms art and skill are used interchangeably in their origins. So, skill is something that...

It's not just something you do and finish; it's something you have to train for your whole life. I teach the same thing: the basics that you need to train for throughout your life. However, most people don't know this at all. That's why I included the fundamentals of love that you need to train for your entire life in my lecture. The aspects that men and women need to develop are somewhat different. You need to keep this in mind and train countless times so that your attitude towards life itself can lead to a successful marriage. Truly, the book The Art of Love is quite similar to my lecture. In Chapter 1 and Chapter 2, I analyze in detail the current social situation and the environment we are in, discussing the problems we are facing deeply. Especially in the lecture for women who possess, there are many points that might sound like nagging in those first two chapters. There is a lot of content because, based on my experience, it seems that...

Should I say it's an uncomfortable truth for women? Many people feel averse to such content, so I was worried and ended up nagging more. I repeated important points up to six times, but I included them because they are necessary, so please don't be too upset about it. I love you. 

One of the most important messages in The Art of Love is that love is not an attitude towards a specific person, but rather an attitude towards the world. This means that it's not just about doing good things for the person I love; my attitude and values towards the world should reflect that. That's what love is. I agree with this. 

Being good to my partner is meaningless if it's not an attitude in itself. We all want a partner who treats us well, but if someone is only kind to me, that’s not a good person. If they are kind to me, they should also be kind to others in the world. That is the true attitude of love.

Of course, it will be difficult since it requires lifelong training, and it won't go as you wish. However, I promise you this: especially for lectures aimed at women, it's even more so. I have adhered to everything I said, but if a man leaves, it means he is not worth your time. It doesn't make sense. Just think about how much better you can filter out such individuals. I am confident that this content is universally applicable, so please approach the lectures with an open mind. 

Also, especially for women, make sure to thoroughly understand the content in Chapters 3 and 4 regarding the mother and father figures in the section about conquering men. Honestly, the other parts are just supplementary. I believe there is no other lecture in the world that defines these concepts in this way. I have spent countless hours researching and reading various books to organize this information, which has cost me not only money but also thousands of hours of my time. So, even if you only take away this part, it will be worth ten times the cost.

You can think about it; it's the most important and very valuable part. Now, shall we summarize what I've said so far? I will teach you the skills to love as a man and as a woman. These skills are essential abilities needed to love, and if you consistently act on them and make them part of your attitude, eventually, a work of art called love will be born. That's why the title of the program is The Art of Love. However, there is also a lecture titled The Art of Love in the final epilogue, which is written in English as The Art of Love. It precisely refers to the art of love. If you embody and train in all of this, it means you will gain the ability to create a work of art called love. Additionally, the only way to meet the person you desire is not through special tricks but simply by becoming a better man or woman.

I will tell you how to maintain that throughout the process; that is the main content of the lecture. As I mentioned earlier, interestingly, many people who learn from me, not just through online lectures but also through newsletter subscriptions or coaching programs, are educators. I have many teachers, academy instructors, and professors who seek me out, and I also do a lot of consulting for HR teams in companies, as HR is related to education. 

There is a must-read book for teachers, which is almost like a Bible for them; it’s called The Courage to Teach. In that book, it says that the best educators are not those who have excellent teaching skills or teach something special, but those who can help students discover who they are. I agree with that. Therefore, most of my lectures will continue to emphasize this point. If you are a man...

If you are a man, I have organized this lecture to help you understand me as a man and also to understand women as the other gender. If you are a woman, the same applies; I want you to understand me as a woman and also understand men. I aim for you to grasp what it means to be a person. To achieve this, I have referenced numerous specialized psychology books, including psychoanalysis, analytical psychology, evolutionary psychology, and anthropology. Just understanding who I am as a man, a woman, and a human being, as well as why the other person is the way they are, is sufficient. You understand what I mean, right? Lastly, I want to mention that when pharmaceutical companies develop new drugs, it takes a lot of time and money. There are projects that cost thousands and can take up to ten years. There is a substance that cannot yet be ingested through food or created as a drug, and that is called DMT. It is said to have four times the effect of endorphins.

This comes out when dolphins are moved or gain enlightenment. Ah, I see, that's why. That's why clergymen and researchers tend to live a long time; they often achieve enlightenment. Even if it's something small, I hope that while listening to this lecture, you all gain a tiny realization and feel happiness. In fact, the reason I was always happy when creating this is that while making it, small insights keep emerging. The concepts I know come together, and as I study, they merge again. So, this lecture is a culmination of my happy moments. All of my lectures are like that; I was always happy while creating them. I hope you all feel happy while listening as well. I want to give you happiness, not just knowledge. You understand what I mean, right?

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