Why do you want to change? No, like seriously, why do you want to change? Can you give me three things right now that would positively influence your life if you change right now?

Like, what would happen? If you can't, then please skip this video because this video is not for you. What? Because anything I tell you right now won't make you change.

It might motivate you for a little bit, but if you don't have that core reason to change and want to improve your life, you're not going to stick to it.

So please skip this video and come back when you have three valid reasons as to why you would change and how it would improve your life.

Hi guys, my name is Liz and welcome to my YouTube channel.

I will be giving you guys some advice on leveling up and being the baddest and best version of yourself, as you should.

And just, you know, we have to make it work. Like, we have to do this. There is no other option, so either you subscribe or you just go on with your life and don't do these things.

But don't forget, you'll stay in the same place.

So okay, let's get into it. The first thing you need to do to improve your life is stop living in the past.

Show me the past. Like, show me the past. Where is it? You can't even show me the past. You know why? Because the past does not exist. It's literally just a thought in your head.

Like, you're just thinking something and that thought is preventing you from planning your future and being in the present moment.

You are being terrorized by a thought in your head. Do you not realize this? We cannot change the past; we cannot Change what happened.

We cannot change what we did. We cannot change what happened to us. We cannot change anything. It's not coming back; we're getting older.

Every single minute, and to that time you choose to live in the past, honey, that's embarrassing. That's really embarrassing.

Now, here are some things you can do instead of focusing on the past: plan your future. What do you want your future to look like?

Do you even have any goals? Are you trying to accomplish something? Because if you were, you would not be dwelling on the past. You know why?

Because you have no time. You have things to accomplish, you have things to do. You can't even afford to focus on the past, because you realize that if you want what you want so badly, the only way you can look is forward.

There is no looking back. Forgive yourself.

Forgive yourself. We all make mistakes. Oh Lord, I have made the biggest mistakes ever. I have made mistakes so big that to this day, it's just haunting me.

Literally, I've been blackmailed by my mistakes to this day. I'm being bullied; people are lying about my name to this day because of a mistake I made four years ago.

But you know, I don't care because I forgave myself.

I came to the conclusion that, you know what, you were young, you made a mistake. People make mistakes. Would we be human if we didn't make mistakes?

Would we? Why? Like, who are we? We're not gods; we're supposed to make mistakes, and we're supposed to learn from them. How can I grow as a person if I don't do anything wrong?

How can I learn? How can I be perfect if I've never been imperfect before, how the beauty is in being imperfect.

The beauty is in being, like, the beauty isn't making mistakes; the beauty isn't doing the wrong things.

Then looking back at it and saying, like, you know what? I have grown so much and I'm so proud of myself. That's the beauty of making mistakes.

So you have to forgive yourself. It was not your fault. Something might have happened; it might have been your fault, you might have done something, or somebody might have done something to you. But the only power you have right now is how you treat yourself afterwards and how you react to it.

And you have to realize that in order to move forward in your life, you have to forgive yourself first. Stop the self-pity party.

Honey, we're done. Stop crying, stop doing all these things; it's done. Look, I'm gonna tell you something: eighty percent of the people are happy that you have problems and twenty percent do not care. Life has to move forward. It's very sad what happened to you, and it's very sad what might have happened in the past and all these things, but you cannot wallow in all this self-pity and be like, 'Oh, I feel so sorry for myself.' All these things, you can't, you can't.

Because if you're trying to improve your life, you don't have time for it. You don't, you don't. The only thing you see is forward. You have to look like this: this is my goal, I gotta go, I gotta go.

I don't have time for this; I just don't. I read this book once about two men who got into a car accident, but no one was injured. One man got out of the car and was like, 'Oh my god, I don't need this.' Life is so bad.

Look, what is this? What a shitty day. I just was in a car accident, all these things.

The other men got out of the car, and he was like, wow, what a blessed day! What a beautiful day to have a car accident, but nobody was injured.

Who do you think of those two men went home with a happy heart? Another thing is you have to start a healthy lifestyle.

And I know that this is like, oh, accept your body, do this. You should accept your body; you should love your body.

Obviously, but it is not wrong to be healthy or to want to be healthy. And what I mean by this is start working out, and it doesn't have to be like one hour at the gym and go from zero to 100 real quick.

No, no, start small. Start by implementing a 10 minute workout maybe a day.

Maybe don't even work out, go walking. Go get your 10,000 steps. Are you even getting those in? Like, go walking every single day.

Go to the woods, walk around, be mindful. Think about your thoughts, think about what you want, try to think positively, but go for a walk.

It really helps; it makes you feel better. Also, what I would suggest is to eat a little healthier, and I'm not saying like, you know, only salads now, all these things.

No, no, definitely not, because that will develop an eating disorder. I had one, and it's not pretty. It's not pretty at all. You don't look good; you just look sick, really, honestly.

But the one thing I would say is to start with, like, you know, if you want to eat healthier, start with, I am going to drink more water from tomorrow.

Start planning it. I'm going to drink more water. Then you may be, uh, gonna implement I'm gonna eat less sugar, not completely.

You can have sugar because that's hard. You're gonna be like, 'I'm gonna eat less sugar, oh I'm gonna.' Replace this meal with more vegetables, and little by little you're gonna see results, not like this because like this nothing is healthy.

Everything has to build up a little bit, so by doing that consistently you're gonna see results, and results that you can keep.

And not go into a binge cycle. Again, like eating and then not eating, that will drain you more and more. So what I would say is start little by little.

Start implementing little things. Maybe do some yoga, do some stretches, healthy lifestyle. Next, I would say is self-care. I know this is also a big thing, like you should just accept yourself as you are, and you shouldn't have to change, and you shouldn't have to improve yourself.

That really isn't, because the world is very superficial. It is, it just is. And the thing is, like if you don't take care of yourself, if you don't find yourself worthy of care, the world will also not find you worthy of care.

And I don't make the rules, don't shoot the messenger. I'm just telling you. Do you have a skincare routine? If you have a lot of acne and it's huge, and you cannot do anything about it, go to a dermatologist.

What are you doing looking at YouTube, looking at all these people? They won't help you. Go to a professional.

Your hair is falling out, it's crazy, it's insane. Are you taking your vitamins? Are you trying to look up foods that are high in biotin that will help you grow your hair?

Like honestly, maybe you have a disease. You have to check these things out. Then I would say inner self-care, which is even more important than your outer work, because inner self-care—I've realized humans are just all traumatized beings walking around, and you have to heal yourself.

You have to heal yourself for your future generations to come because it has to stop with you.

I feel very sorry for my parents because I think back in the day, therapy and all these things were not as accepted as they are right now, and you can tell because they carry so much trauma with them, and they pass it on to their children.

But it has to stop with you, and you can decide to make it stop.

Go to therapy; honestly, therapy is one of the biggest things I would recommend because talking to a stranger, a licensed therapist who knows how to deal with your emotions, is such a good and beautiful thing to learn about yourself, to heal certain parts of yourself, to work on yourself, to work on releasing your trauma.

Realize that certain things that trigger you or certain mental issues that you have right now might be a response to a trauma that you did not recover from.

And for people dealing with traumas and issues, I would suggest not being in a relationship.

I would suggest really being alone, focusing on yourself and focusing on your healing because you are going to bleed on people that didn't cut you.

It's just the way it is. If you have been cheated on, if you have been betrayed, if you don't trust people, work on those things because your partner is not to blame.

It's not your fault, but maybe unconsciously you're going to start doing things to him or start mistrusting him or her because you were treated badly before. But that's not fair because they didn't do that to you, and they don't deserve that. You should take responsibility and start healing those parts of yourself because otherwise you will never grow.

And what I would also suggest is if you don't want to talk to a therapist, if you don't have friends to talk to, talk to God, talk to the universe, whatever you believe in.

But when you're alone in your room, I do it all the time—just talk and tell them, 'Look, this is how I'm feeling.

This happened to me, and I do not appreciate that.

This is how I'm feeling; this is what I want; these are my goals, and you have to help me.' You know how much God wants you to talk to Him, how much He's waiting to hear from you, and you're just suffering in silence.

It feels good to talk. It feels good to let your emotions out. It feels good to talk to the universe, talk to God; they're here to listen, they're here to help you, and I will 100% guarantee you, you will start to see signs and you will start to see things showing up in your life that are helping you because you talked about it.

Oh my God, like this is the worst part ever. We are so afraid to be alone that we would rather keep toxic relationships going.

And that is such dishonesty to yourself. How dare you, really? How dare you? Because honestly, if you are in a toxic In an environment, you will never thrive because you'll always try to go up, and they will always push you back down.

Look, you can change how you feel, but you cannot change how other people treat you. You can't change that, and that is not your responsibility.

So, what I would suggest if you are living in a toxic environment or have a toxic relationship is to either keep to yourself.

As much as possible, just keep to yourself and avoid interacting with those people because they will drain you.

Or, try to find a way to leave. If you're a teenager in a toxic home, I would say, you know what, get a job.

Save money, and once you're old enough, you can move out because sometimes it can be our own family that is toxic, and that hurts the most.

But keep to yourself, keep to yourself. Maybe try to spend more time at work, try to do those things, but just don't be around negative people.

Even if they are negative and they come to you wanting to drain you, don't give them your energy.

Because one thing you have power over is how you respond to people, and don't you dare give them your energy.

They do not deserve that. They do not deserve that at all. Another thing I would say is seek knowledge. How many books have you read in the past month?

Do you even read books? If you don't enjoy reading books, I mean, I didn't enjoy reading books, but now I'm obsessed with it.

Try to find one book that you actually really like that helps you. If it's really not for you, listen to Podcasts about self-improvement, listen to YouTubers about self-improvement, look up videos on how to love yourself.

What's your situation? Do you want to be motivated? Look up videos on how do I get motivated. Do you want to heal from a trauma bond?

How do I heal from a trauma bond? You know what the biggest blessing you have right now is? What they didn't have back in the day You have the internet.

You can look up anything. You can get free therapy. I mean, even this, what I'm giving you right now is free therapy.

You just have to decide and you have to want to heal because no matter what I tell you, you will not heal if you don't want to heal.

Another thing is to forgive others. You don't have to forgive them because they're sorry, because most of the time they're not.

You have to forgive them for yourself. You cannot strive and level up with hate in your heart or resentment in your heart because that's the worst pain you can experience.

Why would you punish yourself for somebody else's mistakes? Why? Because anger is the punishment we give ourselves for somebody else's mistakes.

I read the story about this officer once. He got shot in his spine. The young boy that shot him went to jail and when he, yeah, I think he died in jail.

And the man, the officer, he was paralyzed for the rest of his life, but he was so adamant to forgive him and he was so motivated to encourage others to forgive people that do you wrong.

He quoted it like this: he said, I would rather live with a bullet in my spine than live with resentment and hate in my heart.

because what they did to you, that's on them. They will get their karma; they will get their karma. But you, you should forgive.

You should forgive yourself because we thrive in forgiveness. Another thing is to realize your worth and stop settling. Literally stop settling! What are you guys doing?

There are literally women out here getting Bentleys, getting love, getting diamonds, getting real estate, princess treatment 24/7.

They don't have to worry about anything. You are not even getting a response back; you are being ghosted. You are not being respected.

And I'm not telling you to go after material things because that also won't make you happy, but damn girl, you are not even getting love, the bare minimum!

Be better or stay bitter

Be better or stay bitter

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