Hello everyone, I'm Urban, the dad of Meow Bokdori. I thought you would turn around, Bok. Today, I want to talk about something unexpected again—marriage, specifically related to the age of marriage. To be honest, I've talked about this topic so many times that I don't really have much more to say. I would just be repeating what I've already said, but it's still interesting, right? What I've mentioned so far is that marriage is going to become increasingly difficult in the future. The reality is that living alone as a woman is very challenging. When looking at income levels, the average wage for women is quite low. Because of this, it's hard to find love. Considering the long term, we also have to think about the upcoming economic recession.

So I told them to hurry up and go. And I still remember something about a woman in her mid-twenties. Generally, women really dislike my YouTube channel. There was a time when someone came and left a comment in a casual tone, saying, Hey, Urban, at first I was just watching to see what nonsense you were talking, but as I listened, I realized you were actually right. So there was this sentiment about getting married in your mid-twenties, like, Thank you for that. But if you’re going to leave, you need to do it quickly. 

On the other hand, when I give advice to older women, I mention that not long ago, during a live broadcast, a similar conversation came up. When someone said they would soon be turning 35, I responded by saying that from 35 onwards, it’s actually good to have a plan for living independently. What this means is that once you reach your mid-thirties, the chances of getting married decrease significantly.

This might not be the case, but statistically speaking, it's half, meaning one of the two won't get married. However, after that, even if they do get married, the success rate of your marriage isn't very high, and the probability of having a happy married life isn't very high either. In the end, it often leads to situations where I always talk about a bad marriage. Then, it turns out that after getting married, the husbands are made miserable. If that's the case, what crime did the men commit? Just let them go and live alone with the mindset of being independent. In fact, when I see someone like Alpaca Sister, it seems like she would do well living alone. I believe that mindset is necessary starting from the mid-30s. I mentioned this before, but there was a YouTube video that talked about the same thing and was uploaded on DC Silver. So I thought, What is this? It featured a YouTuber discussing women's marriage and mentioning age, and it got a lot of views.

There are people who say that someone is not a 'Q1' and that we have raised an ENTP. These days, I've been mentioned a lot on my YouTube channel, and I noticed that a video about raising ENTPs was uploaded. The main point is to say, Go to the three-way junction. Of course, you might say that I'm an old-fashioned person for mentioning this, but looking back, it seems that the old-fashioned advice was indeed correct. When you realize that, it’s already too late to change. So, they talk about yangyakgogu, a term I heard for the first time, which means that the strong medicine is indeed bitter. The idea is that when you're only surrounded by sweet words from flatterers, that kind of flattery ultimately has no nutritional value. So, after turning 35, one's ability to join or adapt significantly decreases.

There are realistic aspects to this, and on the contrary, when you are young, you might think you can meet anyone, even a chaebol, but that's an exaggeration. It's difficult to meet a chaebol; it's not something just anyone can do. However, it's possible for women to meet the best partners in their lives. Generally, women's DNA is imprinted in such a way that they seek the best males. Men, on the other hand, tend to spread their seed widely. The men that women feel a connection with usually come around in their mid-20s. They might meet one or two men that they feel are the one. When it comes to marrying that man, the best age to do so is indeed around that time. So, the advice is to get married quickly at that age. I am actually sharing healthy advice with you; it's more like a positive reinforcement.

People who say it's okay even as they get older, those who say that are the ones who criticize others for having children in their 40s. They say things like, Don't be fooled by that. In a way, it's a very common-sense statement; it's a very valid point. However, this has reached the point of DC (a social media platform), so I honestly feel a bit envious. I wonder if I could ever get to that level if I had subtitles below. But starting a subtitle project seems too bothersome; I think it would just stress me out too much. So, in a way, it's a very natural statement. The reaction to this on DC is, Oh, look at how handsome he is! And then there's a comment saying, Women are like wine. Didn't you see the kind, tender parts? As women age, their value increases.

Women start at 70, and women start at 40. On one hand, there are reactions suggesting that teenage girls today might still be able to get their act together. Then there's talk about being 35 and still being a baby. On the other hand, there are concerns that if women share their experiences, they might be criticized harshly. There were discussions about just letting things mature, as if they don't understand the concept of aging like fine wine. Watching all of this, I can't help but wonder how we got here; it's quite fascinating. From a man's perspective, I've talked about this a lot. As a matter of fact, getting pregnant becomes very difficult as one ages, and now the environment for raising children has undergone tremendous inflation. When you have a child, there are things that must be done. In the past, being a good dad meant just fulfilling the responsibilities of a provider, but now that alone is not enough.

It is absolutely not possible. There are so many realizations and so many things to consider. The desired income level is also high, and the school district has to be good. One of the reasons people are not having children is because of these factors. To prove this, the investment in private education in South Korea is at an outrageous level; it has already been raised so high. However, putting that aside, it becomes very difficult to get pregnant as you get older. Starting from age 35, it becomes quite challenging. If you look around at people who married late, they all struggle with pregnancy. So, if you’re going to get married late in life, a shotgun wedding is rather a blessing; that’s actually a blessing. But the problem is, if that’s not the case, there’s really no reason to get married. In fact, there is no reason to get married at all if you can’t establish a family. From a man's perspective, if a family cannot be formed, why should he get married? But aside from that...

Basically, women age faster than men. Women, like Noah, tend to reach maturity more quickly. I've talked a lot about this. However, when women reach their mid-30s, it becomes quite difficult to feel attracted to them from a feminine perspective. The attraction I'm referring to is whether one finds someone appealing or not, and that's genuinely challenging. It's really tough. So, even as we age, what transforms us is the youth around us. But realistically, is it easy to meet young people as we grow older? Not at all. Statistically, I believe that less than 10% of people marry someone who is more than ten years younger. That's about the extent of it. Even that is not easy, and aside from that, men tend to have a decrease in desire as they age. All these factors combine, making marriage quite complicated.

So, when I talk about being in your mid-30s, I think that is basically the maximum. If you haven't made it by your mid-30s, you might as well give up and find a way to survive on your own. I believe that having a path to live independently is what defines that maximum point in your mid-30s. However, beyond that, I'm starting to feel that with the upcoming economic recession, getting married at a young age might not necessarily make things easier. It’s clear that it will be more difficult than before. In the past, the sense of responsibility that men naturally felt was a given, but in the future, that basic expectation will become very rare. So, even if I feel that going early is still the best option, it is still the highest point.

In the past, if someone talked about getting married at a young age, it was generally accepted without question. However, nowadays, even that is not easy. There are so many people who have become disillusioned, wanting to drain the youth from others. This seems to be increasingly common. In a way, it feels like these issues are cyclical. Initially, it was primarily women who suffered from these disillusionments, and men were anxiously following along. Now, however, men are becoming disillusioned, and women are starting to follow them into that mindset. I believe we are at a turning point in this regard. Therefore, I hope people can think a little more wisely. I’ve always said that I don’t believe life is completed through marriage. But, how should I put it? I actually think it would be great if women became stronger, and then...

Even without marriage, women can wield significant power in relationships. I don’t think that’s a bad thing. However, I’ve never seen a woman who can still live strongly and well as she gets older. So, I think it's much harder than you might expect for people to live independently and resiliently as they age, especially for women compared to men. Men have a remarkable ability to recognize and accept the reality they are given. For instance, if I feel I've failed to prove myself, I tend to handle it relatively easily. But women often struggle with this and can become trapped by their surroundings. This tendency to compare themselves to others is prevalent, and I recently talked about comparisons.

When we start comparing, it becomes hell. I mentioned that such tendencies are designed to emerge, and that's why it's even harder for people. I want to reiterate this point. Nowadays, there are a lot of nonsensical claims that it's okay to start after turning 40, but let me make it clear: if you haven't accomplished anything in your mid-30s, it's going to be tough moving forward. You need to live strongly on your own from that point. If you can be a woman who lives well on her own even in your mid-30s, then your chances of success will increase a bit. So, I wanted to share this with you. Anyway, that's all for today's discussion. Thank you.

30대 중반전에 시집 못가면 X된다고 말하는 유튜버 (FEAT.큐언니)

30대 중반전에 시집 못가면 X된다고 말하는 유튜버 (FEAT.큐언니)