Overcoming Boredom: How to Attract Women Authentically

Men can attract women by being interesting and enthusiastic, engaging in hobbies, and reducing overstimulation to avoid being perceived as boring.

### How to Stop Being Boring and Start Attracting Women
* 😴 Most women don't hate you; they just don't care about you because you're boring, and to attract girls, you need to be **interesting and make them pay attention to you**.
* 👦 Young men often struggle with being themselves due to fear of not fitting in and getting bullied, so they end up being the **generic, boring version of themselves**.
* 👩 Women hate boring men because they have a **limited attention span** for boring individuals.
* 💼 Fortunately, men can attract women based on more than just their looks by being **good at something, being interesting, and standing out from others**.
* 🎤 Most comedians and influencers are not conventionally good-looking but are successful because they are **interesting**.
* 🧔 Men need to stop being boring by **taking risks, doing interesting things, and spending less time online**.
* 🗣 "Boring guys don't approach girls, don't try new things, don't have hobbies or skills, and **don't make new friends**."
* 🏃 When you stop overstimulating yourself and live a **less boring life**, women will no longer find you **boring**.

yeah, that's right. Women hate you because you're boring. Okay, maybe they don't hate you, but they just don't care about you. And as far as I'm concerned, it may as well be the same thing because if you're a young guy and you want to attract girls, you want them to pay attention to you because how are they going to like you if they don't pay attention to you, right? Let's say you're a musician and you want a bunch of fans so that you can play a sold-out show in front of a crowd. Well, how are you going to get them to come to your show if they don't like your music, right? The exact same thing applies to you as a person that is trying to meet and date girls. So, if you're a guy that's struggling with being able to attract girls or have interesting conversations with them, then this is a perfect video for you to watch. All right, so when I was younger, I was scared about what other people thought about me, so I never felt like I was

actually being myself. And this is the thing that every young man has to go through in order to fit in with the other boys at school. Because as you probably know bro, if you're different than the other kids, then you're going to get isolated and bullied. So I was always the weird kid, okay? I used to get into fights, and I would talk back to the teachers, and I'd get in trouble at school. I was just a shitthead, okay? And I remember one time I got in a fight with some kid at school, and the principal sent me home, and my dad had to pick me up. He had to leave work early to come and pick me up. It was kind of embarrassing. And he sat me down, and he said, Jack, when you grow up, you're either going to have a million friends, or everybody is going to hate you. He was right. Turns out I ended up making a million friends online, but when I was young, a lot of kids hated me because I was myself. And as high school continued, I started to try to fit in.

with the crowd, because I wanted others to like me. So, I stopped being myself, and I started to be like the boring generic brand version of Denmo. And that's probably what you are right now. Let's say your name is Melvin or Johnny or whatever. You're probably the boring generic version of yourself. You're not the interesting, funny, aggressive Conor McGregor Savage version of you. You're the boring, forgettable, seen-it-a-million-times version of you. And this is exactly what society wants you to do. They want you to be like everybody else - boring. When you're boring, you are predictable. And when you are predictable, your actions are predictable. And it makes you easier to control. Your parents like this, the school system likes this, your job and your boss like this, the government loves this. But you know who doesn't like it when you're fing boring? Women. Women hate men that are boring, okay? And I know this sounds pretty narcissistic, but like, women only have a certain attention span. They only have so much time on this beautiful planet. They don't want to have

to listen to some boring f***ing dude bore them just like you don't want to have to pay attention in math class or watch a YouTube video where a girl's talking about her makeup collection. Why? Because it's boring, and we don't want to be around people that make us feel bored. And that's why women don't enjoy spending time with you because you are boring. All right, women have no attention span for boring men. There's a great quote by Rich Cooper. He said something along the lines of, You can be anything to a woman except boring. Women look at boring men the same way that men look at unattractive women. They tend to forget that they even exist. And I know that sounds dark, but it's the truth. Okay, you could probably tell me about the last attractive girl that you saw at your job or walking down the street, but tell me about the last unattractive girl you saw. You have no idea what she looks like because she just literally does not exist in your head. Fortunately though for men, we are valued on more than just

our looks when it comes to dating. And I want to say right now, I don't think that women's value should be determined by how they look physically. But when it comes to dating, that's just how it is, okay? That's also how business is. If you want to hate on people judging others for how they look, you need to hate on Hollywood, you need to hate on social media, and you need to hate on every single company that you buy products from that tend to use female models to sell their products, okay? So don't hate the players, hate the game. However, it's different for men, thank God, because otherwise I'd be in a lot of trouble. For men, we are valued on more than just our looks. This is why musicians, actors, YouTubers, comedians, firefighters, entrepreneurs, etc., are able to date women that are very attractive easily. And you know what that reason is? Because they're good at something, because they are interesting, they are the opposite of boring, they stand out from others because they are different. And I'm

emphasizing this in particular because I know that a lot of you have limiting beliefs about your looks. You know, oh my God Deno, I have acne, oh, I'm 5'10, oh well, my hair doesn't match my face. Again, these are all limiting beliefs because you want to rely entirely on your physical looks. That's a female strategy. Stop trying to be a woman and be a man and rely on the 10 other things that you can do to attract women. Okay, what does a woman do when she wants more attention? She tries to lose weight, she puts on more makeup, she dresses in a certain outfit. What does a man do when he wants to get attention? He becomes useful, he gets good at something. And I don't mean attention as in in general, I mean attention from the opposite sex in the context of dating. I don't want you to start doing something just so that it makes you look cool to people you don't care about. What I want you to do is get good at something because you enjoy it.

and then as a secondary benefit, it also makes women attracted to you. And in this video, that's exactly what I'm going to share with you: how to get good at stuff so that women do not find you boring, they find you interesting, and yes, they find you attractive. So let's take a look at most Comedians and influencers. Are they tall or good-looking? Usually not. No, most of them look like average dudes, okay? In fact, most of the time, the only thing going for them is that they're interesting. They have a unique job, they have a unique talent, they have a unique skill, personality, or sense of humor. Again, think about all the comedians that are blowing up on Netflix right now. How many of them are absolute studs? How many of them are even good-looking? Not many. Most of them are just average normal. These guys look like the dudes I used to work with on the construction site. And I'm not hating on them, I'm just saying that kind of shows how if you're just

good at something like comedy, or carpentry, or being a firefighter, or whatever, that is enough. Isn't that great? Can you imagine if the roles were reversed? What if you were a woman and you're not good at anything and you're average looking? I mean, sure, some guys would probably still date you, but like, are they the ones that you want to date? Probably not, man. So let's kind of go over female nature, right? Women tend to be attracted to random ass dudes, okay? They like Chads, obviously, but they also like starving artists, smoking cigarettes with long hair in their face. They like emo dudes with tattoos and painted fingernails. They like [ __ ] criminals, meatheads with anger problems, YouTube comedians, [ __ ] cowboy farmer dudes. You ever go on, you know, TikTok or you go to a country concert, there's a million dudes with like ripped jeans and cowboy hats that have never worked a day in their life. Women swoon for these guys. My point is, as a man, you don't care.

about any of that. You just care if she's hot. So let me paint a picture for you. All right, if you met a woman that you're not physically attracted to, but she was a famous actor, or she was a famous singer, or she worked as a veterinarian, or she was like a middle school teacher and she helped children, right? Would you all of a sudden start being attracted to her? No, probably not. But if you're a man and a woman initially finds you unattractive, but you're a police officer, or you're a doctor, or you're a guitarist, or you're a comedian, or you're a canoe specialist, all of a sudden you become attractive to women. That is amazing. I don't think you guys actually understand how good we have it as men. If you are born an unattractive woman, you're going to have a really hard time attracting the top-level guys that you want to attract. But if you are born an unattractive man, you are also going

to have a really hard time, however, there is a way to do it. There is a path to follow, and that path is to become interesting. And I'll talk about that more, but first, we need to teach you how to stop being so boring. Okay, men have the unique advantage that we can attract women regardless of our physical looks. The problem is the majority of men are boring, and this is not your fault. The reason you are boring is because boring is safe. Ever since you were young, this is how you avoided getting bullied, this is how you avoided having to do extra work at school. You didn't put your hand up, you didn't say anything, you know, this is how you stayed out of trouble at school. The reason most of you are boring is because boring is comfortable. Doing something interesting is dangerous because you risk rejection or humiliation. Think about how many movies you watched where the main character tries something, he fails over and over again, and because of that you're like [ __ ] yeah, I love this movie. Imagine a movie where the guy's just like yeah.

this is what I'm going to do, and then he succeeds, and there's no problems at all. That movie doesn't even exist because it'd be too [__] boring. People want to see a struggle, except they don't want to see themselves struggle, or rather they don't want other people to see them struggle, and that's why you're never going to be remembered by anybody. Yeah, that doesn't sound good, does it? And this is why so many young men pursue jobs they don't care about. This is why so many young men are afraid of learning a new skill like singing, boxing, public speaking, [__] painting. Okay, this is also the topic of this video: why men suck with women. You are looking at interactions with women the same way you look at everything else in your life: boring and safe. You want to be in the perfect situation, and out of nowhere, the perfect girl that you like just comes up, and she drops her groceries in front of you, and you start picking them up.

then she's like, Wow, thank you so much. What's your name? That shit's never going to happen. That's way too boring and safe, okay? And this is why so many men are single and unable to attract the women they want to. Because you're afraid to be yourself and actually go for what you want in life and not be boring. Taking risks is scary. It's the opposite of safe, but you don't want to do that. That's why you're boring. Boring guys do not get rejected because they don't approach girls in the first place. Boring guys don't fail at anything because they never try anything, okay? You guys starting to see a pattern here? Boring men don't approach girls. Boring men don't try new things. Boring men don't have hobbies or skills. Boring men don't make new friends. Boring men are not consistently putting themselves in uncomfortable situations or taking risks. So what makes you think that you're going to attract a girl when you talk to her if your [ __ ] life is so boring?

let's break this down. If you have a boring life, what makes you stand out from every other man? Is there anything? Comment down below. What makes you special, bro? Seriously, if you have a boring life, what's going to make you interesting to girls? Let's be fair, though. Sometimes you can have a boring life but still be interesting to talk to. And I'll give you an example, right? Me. I used to have a hectic life. I was constantly doing crazy pranks and interviews, and I was getting in trouble doing wild stuff. Now I'm running this business, okay, and it's pretty laidback. And most days, I'm by myself, reading and writing. Pretty boring, I guess, if you think about it, right? But when I turn the camera on or when I'm around a friend or somebody I just met for the first time in real life, I'm super enthusiastic and interesting to talk to. And if you disagree, how come I have millions of views on the internet, right? That's my point. There are a couple of reasons for

this though, and I'm going to share them with you because I want you to have the same social skills and charisma that I do. And the reason I'm willing to share this with you is because it makes me feel good, but also I don't have to worry about competition once you get good at socializing, once you get good at making money, or whatever it is that you get good at. Share your information for free because this is how you make friends, friends for life, by helping other people. That's what life is. Life is not about you, it's about everybody else. So here's four tips to stop being boring around women, and also men for that matter, but I know that the real problem you want to solve is getting some [__]. Just imagine your dream girl, gorgeous, beautiful hips, big ass, big tits, nice and healthy, funny, interesting. She's from some random country in Europe, she's got an accent. You could go up and talk to her, and then you guys could date, and then you never have to watch a YouTube video ever again.

doesn't that sound great? So, the four tips to stop being boring. Number one: be interested in other people. Yes, you are meeting them for the first time and you don't know anything about them, but you should assume the best and treat them like they are already your friend. That's a pro tip. It doesn't matter if you aren't into the same things, act like you are anyways. One of the reasons certain YouTubers, politicians, and talk show hosts are so successful and likable is because they have a way of asking questions and listening to bring the best out of the person they're talking to. You need to do this too. Number two: be enthusiastic. I don't care how bad your day was, talk to them like you are happy to see them. You might not realize it, but your mood is contagious. If you are awkward, scared, or bored, they will match your energy and then the conversation will be awful. If you are happy, enthusiastic, confident, and passionate, then they will also match your energy. For all you know, the person you're

talking to the girl you approach. She was in a bad mood before, or maybe they were bored, and whatever neutral. Now all of a sudden you come in with this great energy and you make them feel good. They're going to want to keep talking to you so that they can keep feeling good. And that is what makes girls want to go on dates with you and bang you. You make them feel good like a drug. Why do you listen to music? 'Cause it makes you feel good. Imagine if every song you listen to was so depressing that you just wanted to blow your brains out. You'd probably stop listening to it. But that's how boring guys sound when they talk to women, so stop being [ __ ] boring, all right? Number three, start doing interesting stuff. Hobbies, interests, join groups, join CL classes. It doesn't even have to require money, right? Read, read about topics you're interested in online. For example, I'm obsessed with rock music, and I know all the stories behind how certain songs were written and recorded.

okay, here's an example. Hotel California was written about a hotel in California that the band stayed at, and they thought it was haunted. The song Aqualung by Jethro Tull, the guitarist, he was having a really hard time getting the solo down. After like 10 attempts, he was in the studio. He's about 30 seconds in. Jimmy Page of Led Zeppelin, who was also recording that day, came into the studio booth, gave him the double thumbs up while he was recording, and he kicked into second gear, and all of a sudden, [__] shredded the rest of the solo. Okay, the Rolling Stones, they used to do weird [__] like they recorded the drums while in the bathroom, reflecting off the uh, the bathtub to get like a weird sound. Okay, there's so many classic rock stories I'm super interested in, and I'll be honest, I don't care if the girl I'm talking to even listens to rock music. I'm going to tell her a random story like our lives depended on it.

enthusiasm and passion is what makes it interesting. Let me give you a really simple analogy. Girls, for the most part, don't really care about your interest in cars, but they care about the fact that you are interested in it because it shows that you have things that you do, things that you care about, you have some life in you as opposed to just being a dull caricature, shadow version of yourself hunched over the computer watching YouTube videos. Most of you guys live boring lives, you take no risks, you work a boring job, and you do the same thing every night. You need to mix it up, start a new hobby, martial arts, dance, art, improv comedy, start a new business, get a second job, find a new skill you can do, go and make new friends instead of hanging out with the same people from high school. Okay, you got this man, I believe you, nobody else does, but I do. Number four, stop spending so much time online. That's right, I know you're watching a video right now, but if this

is the last video you have to watch for a while so be it you are boring because you are bored. You are bored because you are overstimulated. I get it, man. Video games, movies, social media, they're all very fun, some would even say they're addictive. But this is dangerous because it makes everything else boring in comparison. All right, think about it this way. Ice cream is delicious, vegetables are not. But if you waited until you were hungry and then you ate vegetables, then they would taste good. Think about the last time you went on a hike for hours. You didn't eat anything. You got home, there's a big salad there, you just mucked it 'cause so hungry, right? And then after you eat your vegetables, you can eat the rest of your meal, and maybe you can even get some ice cream as a dessert, like a reward. But what would happen if you ate the ice cream first, and then you had to eat your vegetables after? They would taste awful in comparison, and you would probably just avoid eating them entirely. Okay, talking to girls is the

exact same thing. If you play video games, then talking to girls is going to seem boring and difficult. If you spend 3 hours sitting at home in your comfortable chair watching YouTube videos and scrolling on social media, and then you have to leave your house and cold approach girls in public that you don't know, you're going to be bored as hell. And when you talk to them, you're going to stumble through the conversation because you're just trying to get out of it. Because you would rather go back home where it's nice and comfy and you could watch another YouTube video instead of joining socializer. Even though you got money and you want to solve this problem. Come on man. Shameless plug but seriously let's be honest. You probably won't even do it. Okay, you probably can't even leave your house and go and talk talk to people. Otherwise, you wouldn't be watching this video right now. Let's say that you did approach, okay humor me. Great, you did the hardest part. You went and talked to them.

but now you go and talk to the girl, and you are boring as hell. That's the main point of this video. You have no charisma, no energy. You aren't in a good mood. You have nothing to talk about or interesting to share. Why? Because your lifestyle has sucked all of it out of you. You have no energy, bro. I don't mean to be like woo-woo and manifesting and spiritual, but like your life energy is probably low, man. You're not doing anything. You have no interests, you have no hobbies. You're not hanging out with people. How are you going to somehow pull a bunch of charisma out of your ass? You're not. All right, now let's create a fantasy scenario here. What if you spend 12 hours in a room by yourself, no windows, no phone, no computer, just you in a room locked in there, nothing, okay, it's just you and a blank wall. I guarantee that if you left that room after a couple of hours, you would be so excited to talk to another human. You'd have a

10-minute conversation about weather. Okay, because you'd be so stimulated just by seeing another human being. You would be stimulated just by hearing another human being's voice because you went a while without being super stimulated by TV or your phone or whatever. They could literally tell you the most boring story ever and you'd be on the edge of your seat. That is my point. When you stop overstimulating yourself, then you are no longer bored. And when you're no longer bored, you no longer live a boring life. And when you no longer live a boring life, women don't find you boring. Boom. Okay, I [__] solved that problem. Share this with a friend. Now, if you want to learn how to destroy approach anxiety and learn how to attract women authentically using my socializer conversation system, click the link in the description below. You get access to multiple courses and hundreds of videos of me approaching girls in real life and using my conversation framework step by step. You could literally copy-paste my lines and get help with me on once a

week calls. And if you're making money and you're in your late 20s, early 30s, you want to solve this problem forever, then work with me. And then you'll be a testimonial on my website. Look at all these testimonials, guys. Come on, put them up. Look at my testies. Look at my testies. Look at my balls. Photos, videos. What more do you want from me, huh? Do I need to come to your house and [ __ ] pull you out of there and actually get you talking to people? That's going to cost extra, bro. I'm not doing that. But yeah, guys, seriously. I know that these videos help you. To be honest, I'm [ __ ] bored of making them. But until every single one of you guys has a business and you got your sex and dating situation sorted out and you're happy, then, uh, I'm going to keep [ __ ] sharing this with you, okay? I want an army of a million of you guys. And then we can do cool stuff.

together, but we can't do that if you're still living in your mom's basement, still watching YouTube videos all day, still single, jerking off on social media, and you're not making any money online. You don't have to make a lot, just enough to get out of the [ __ ] place you are now. That's just me being real with you, all right? Okay, I love you guys, peace.

Women Won't Date You Because You're Boring AF

Denmo

The Impact of Being Boring on Attractiveness to Women

Being boring and not being true to oneself can hinder a man's ability to attract women and have meaningful conversations with them.

The pressure to fit in and be like everyone else can lead to being perceived as generic and uninteresting.

Women are not attracted to men who are predictable and boring, as they have a limited attention span and want to spend their time with someone engaging.

The Importance of Being Interesting for Men in Dating

Women are not interested in boring men because they have a short attention span for them, similar to how men view unattractive women.

In the dating world, men are valued for more than just their looks, and being good at something and standing out is crucial for attracting women.

Men are encouraged to focus on developing skills and interests rather than relying solely on their physical appearance to gain attention from the opposite sex.

The Power of Being Skilled and Interesting for Attractiveness

Being skilled and interesting is more important for men to be attractive to women than physical looks, as seen in the examples of comedians and influencers.

Women are shown to be attracted to men with unique talents, skills, and personalities, regardless of their physical appearance.

The message is that men have the advantage of being able to become attractive to women through their abilities and talents, while women may have a harder time overcoming being unattractive.

Many men are stuck in a boring routine because it feels safe and comfortable, but it makes them uninteresting.

The fear of rejection and failure prevents them from taking risks in their personal and social lives.

This reluctance to step out of their comfort zone leaves them struggling to attract women and pursue their desired goals.

If you have a boring life, you can still be interesting to talk to by being enthusiastic and interested in other people.

Being a good listener and asking questions can make you more likable and engaging.

Your attitude and mood are contagious, so approaching interactions with enthusiasm can make you more appealing to others.

How to Keep a Conversation Engaging and Exciting

Approach with great energy to make the other person feel good and interested in talking to you.

Share interesting stories and show enthusiasm and passion to keep the conversation engaging.

Avoid living a boring life by exploring new hobbies, taking risks, and meeting new people to have more to talk about.

The Dangers of Overstimulation and Boredom

Overstimulation from video games, movies, and social media can make real-life activities seem boring in comparison.

This can make it difficult to engage in conversations and activities, leading to a lack of energy and charisma.

A lifestyle with low energy and no real interests can make it challenging to be engaging and interesting to others.

The Importance of Reducing Overstimulation

Reducing overstimulation can help combat boredom and lead to a more fulfilling life.

The speaker emphasizes the benefits of authentic human connection and offers a program to help with social and dating skills.

He also encourages his audience to strive for personal and financial success.