Hello everyone, nice to meet you. Today, I would like to talk about the topic of those born in '83 and '84 who still haven't gotten their act together. Recently, I saw a post from Romi, and while I was following her stories, I realized that not all of her content gets attention immediately; some things take time to gain popularity. I noticed that when I started on YouTube, it was similar. Initially, you share your content with a small audience, and if it starts to gain traction, you share it with a wider audience. That's when I noticed Romi's content coming up in my feed. However, this topic also relates to something that was discussed in the context of drinking culture, and I thought it would be interesting to explore this theme further. This thought suddenly came to me, so I'm sharing it with you now.

In 1983 and 1984, a lot of people came out, so I had previously talked about the same topic. I mentioned how aging can be tiring for both women and men. However, I'm going to discuss something slightly different now. 

Initially, Romi, the older sister, talks about a guy named Young-cheol who seems to have some emotional wounds. At first, the man approaches her and says, Wow, how is it that such a beautiful person is still single? When he says that, it implies that there must be a reason for it. The woman responds, Why are you being so suspicious before even meeting? The man cleverly replies, If someone as wonderful and beautiful as you is still single, then there must be a reason for it. The woman starts off like this.

It's just that I laughed it off, but the story keeps coming up. So, the woman mentioned here is Sandara Park from Ulsan. Wait a minute, her age... her age is the same as mine and Donghyun's. Listening to her story, I realized that everyone has their own background. But when I hear this woman's story, she seems to lower her expectations and says she doesn't want to meet a man and get married. She just wants to prepare well for herself. This is truly something admirable. You really have to applaud this. I mean, why would I lower my expectations to get married? I’d rather live alone, right? This kind of mindset deserves applause, in my opinion. So, listening to this woman's story, she talks about being Sandara Park from Ulsan, but then she goes on to say that her self-objectivity is excessive.

When I say I'm certain about this, it's because in Ulsan, where the Sandara is located, proper self-objectification is not possible. You need to understand the characteristics of Ulsan. Ulsan simply lacks women. It is the city with the lowest number of women of childbearing age in the country. Therefore, when a woman appears in Ulsan, it’s like a massive buff. It’s really incredible. Just seeing a woman in a skirt makes you go, Wow! So, even women who seem ordinary, everyone sees them as top-tier because it's really that kind of place. Despite this, there are matches happening, especially since there are many companies around. Now, when we talk about Sandara Park from Ulsan, she was born in '84, so she is 80% my age, which means we can consider ourselves the same age, right? However, at this age, you might not acknowledge it, but at my age...

If you change it, you really did a great job managing it. It’s truly impressive. But as someone from Ulsan, I feel like I can visualize this person's story. There are actually a lot of stories like this in Ulsan. In a way, it feels somewhat similar to the stories of public officials in Ulsan. The story of Ulsan's freedom is like that. So, initially, they were talking about this kind of story. From my perspective, it's just an environment where the standards for Ulsan women are bound to be high. It's an environment where expectations are naturally raised, so it probably turned out this way. However, the male participants who appeared here might not meet those expectations. They probably won't stand out. So, they are aiming for Mr. Park. But Mr. Park is just too superior. When Mr. Park first appeared, people were asking if he had brought an influencer with him.

When I talk about it, I realize that it's not like that. I didn't bring an influencer; all my friends are locked up, and I'm left alone, really wanting to find a partner. But in my view, that's a lie. I always say I'm single, but that's not the end of it; there could be a bigger picture behind it. Once you come out here, you get to promote yourself in front of the public audition. For example, Mr. Park is currently on Instagram, and the hot body Pilates and yoga girls are really trying to catch his attention. But first of all, if you're here, you should show a more serious side and present yourself that way. However, amidst all this, something funny happened when Sandara Park from Ulsan asked Mr. Park about his age. So, he appeared to be younger than his actual age. He doesn’t really look that way, though.

안녕하세요. 제가 듣고 싶었던 이야기가 있었습니다. 미스터 박이 고개를 끄덕이는 장면이 있는데, 갑자기 그 장면이 생각났습니다. 그래서, 내가 좋아하는 사람이 나를 좋아하는 것은 정말 기적입니다. 어떻게 만나면 좋을까, 사실 이렇게 만나는 것이 정말 어렵다는 느낌이 듭니다. 그래서 정말 좋습니다. 이렇게 만나는 것이 정말 어렵긴 한데, 아이러니하게도 서로 좋아하는 사람들이 만나서 잘 되는 것이 또 쉽지 않은 것 같아요. 나이가 들어서 보니 그렇습니다. 결국, 그런 것들에 대해 이야기하면서, 울산 산다라 방은 잔이 없는 돌도 괜찮다고 말하고 있습니다. 그런데 문제는 여기서 로니가 맞춰주거나 잘하려는 행동보다는 처음 봤을 때 몇 살인지에 대한 질문이 떠오릅니다.

Did you see it? I noticed that some people tend to pressure their partners or rush into dates, which might not be the best approach. So, I was thinking that if you are passive at the beginning, like the beautiful trio here, it might end up being pointless and lacking substance. And that's often the case. However, in a way, that's also true because, as we know from experience, women don’t really need to approach men when they are younger. That's just their hunting style; they have always hunted this way. They don’t need to confess first; they can simply sidle up next to someone and smile, and then the men will naturally pursue them. There are advantages to taking the initiative, so...

It's true that there's a bit of fear that they might just break up after going through the motions. But the problem is that as we get older, things tend to just fizzle out. We end up without much thought about it. When we see each other, it's like, Oh, that's a person, or Oh, that's a woman. So, in that context, I can definitely see that the strategy of the other party in Ulsan was a mistake. You shouldn't do it that way. Instead of trying to appear difficult or challenging, you should approach first and make your appeal. It should be the opposite. In a way, when men meet women, they strategically try to show that they are harmless and adjust their approach to appeal to them. Women also need to have a certain level of strategy in this regard. The best strategy for women is to be relaxed.

A feminine woman remains most attractive even as she ages. However, in the case of Ulsan's Sandara Park, it seems to be the opposite. There were discussions about how this image has emerged. Amid this, I noticed my sister Romi and Bedesi. They suggest that lowering one's standards just because one is getting older can lead to dissatisfaction and constant arguments, ultimately resulting in separation. For women, it becomes a hellish time, and for men, it leads to a hellish life due to women's desires. Therefore, there’s no benefit in lowering one’s standards just because of age. As time passes, one must objectively evaluate themselves, let go of what needs to be let go of, and only then can they avoid lowering their standards without realizing it. So, enjoying later years isn't the problem; it's about being prepared for it.

Saving is essential. You need to save money to get married and prepare for retirement. These days, if the marriage fund is around three thousand, men tend to run away. So, if you don't have anything, don't expect anything from your partner. This is what people say. If you’re not going to have deep conversations together, just enjoy your freedom and live your life. This is a conversation about yourself and your partner, and it's true. The reality is that you can't lower your standards just because you want to; you need to realize that your market value has completely crashed. Especially for women in their thirties, there is no merit in getting married. If a woman wants to have some merit, what should she do? First of all, when living together, there should be some merit to it. You need to have something that makes it worth giving up having children. Then, ultimately...

There are two things: being at ease and having money. The problem is, do I have to make the other person feel at ease? Women often feel a strong resentment towards this idea. They think, Do I really have to do that? This sentiment seems to be a huge issue permeating through South Korea. Because this mindset is so strongly entrenched, it becomes difficult for things to progress. Ultimately, as mentioned earlier, one must come to this realization. When considering the situation, there isn't really a reason for men and women to get married. If a man has no desire for children at all, then marriage might be possible. However, even among those individuals, when they look at a woman, there needs to be some merit in being together. When they are together, there should be some comfort or benefit. But what I really feel is...

As we grow older, there aren't many people who can easily comfort others. This is because those kinds of people usually have passed on. Most of them have moved on. It seems a bit cruel, but suddenly becoming kind, like a dog turning good, isn't very common either. So, in a way, this might be a dilemma for women. There are those who cannot accept the timing of completely retiring from the dating market, and it's also difficult for them to accept their own depreciation. In that case, they might think, Let's just have a casual relationship, and if they live like that, they can find someone in the dating market. However, they even refuse that. They want to catch the last train, but they are trying to let go, trying to let go, yet they can't seem to let go of anything.

I feel like we can see a lot of contradictions now. So, the conclusion is, who gained the most from this season of I Am Solo? It's Mr. Park. Mr. Park has already gained the most. Later on, even if Mr. Park gets along well with those kids, they will eventually break up. Honestly, I think he will end up meeting someone younger and prettier. Mr. Baek definitely has the ability to do that. So, let's see if what I'm saying turns out to be true. That's all for today's story. If I have more interesting stories next time, I'll share those with you. That's it. Thank you.

자기객관화가 필요한 84년생 83년생 와인녀들을 바라보며.... (Feat.나솔사계 울산 산다라박)

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