birdsburgbids.com presents Rejection Proof: How I Overcame the Fear of Rejection and Became Invincible. Banshee and Young and entertaining an inspiring account of conquering the fear of rejection offering a completely new perspective on how to turn a no into a yes. Shia's young came to the United States with the dream of being the next Bill Gates, but despite the early success in the corporate world, his first attempt to pursue his entrepreneur dream Antony rejection Jean was crushed and spiraled into a period of deep self-doubt. But he realized his fear of rejection was a bigger obstacle than any single rejection would ever be, and he needed to find a way to cope with being told no without letting that destroy him. Thus was born his hundred days of rejection experiment, during which he willfully sought rejection on a daily basis. Jean learned that even the most preposterous wish may be granted if asked in the right way and shares a secret of successful asking, how to pick targets, and how to tell when an initial

nerve can be converted into something positive, but more important, he learned techniques to foster in himself against rejection, and ways to develop his own confidence, a plan that can't be derailed by a single setback. Filled with great stories and valuable insight, Rejection Proof is a fun and thoughtful experimentation. I've had to overcome fear and dare to live more boldly. The written and audio summary can be found on a website, bestbookbits.com. So without further ado, I bring this book summary of Rejection Proof. Unlike other people in China, he dreamed to be an entrepreneur. His first exchange family were criminals and stole his money. His second family was wonderful. He studied hard in school and practiced English because he craved the approval of his family. He became miserable in his comfort zone as he sat on a corporate ladder collecting income. He was a non-tech founder and had to recruit software developers to develop his promise-keeping app application. The problem with insecurity is that you start to feel like everyone will reject you, even your closest loved ones. He got

rejected by investor, but his wife Tracey pushed him to keep going. With remaining two months left, he realized he needed to overcome his fear of rejection. The way you ask a question and how you follow through in the conversation has an impact on to get. He got the Olympic donut rings and complimented the worker. She was so happy, and she gave it to him for free. The world is much kinder, and people are nicer than he had realized. What was possible if you just ask. Awesome what is possible if you just try hard. His third rejection attempt transformed his mindset. Instead of learning to deal with the pain of rejection, his focus shifted to having the courage to make big requests. He stopped caring so much whether he got a yes or no and cared a little bit less about what other people thought of him, which was liberating. Playing soccer in someone else's backyard, he said the request was so off the wall, how could he say no. A personal curiosity on the part of the person on the

receiving end of the question could dictate the outcome by picking their interest. With the way he made a request, he might have a high probability of getting a yes. He learned how important his communication style was to the outcome he was getting. When he was confident, friendly, and open, people seemed more inclined to go along with his request, even if they said no. Then, at least, engaged longer to ask questions. For any rejection, many variables were in play: who is asking, who has been asked, what was being asked, how it was asked, how many times it was asked, and where it was asked. He went into business school to learn everything about business so we could eventually become a leader and entrepreneur. About $80,000 later, he learned a lot of business theories and became a master of spreadsheets and PowerPoint decks. After less than a week rejection journey, he learned more about business and human psychology. He became a better leader and communicator and his company and learned not to take criticism him personally. He's demeanor and confidence improved and affected other parts of his life.

posts reach thousands of people on Reddit, and people loved it. Soon, he started getting flooded with requests for interviews. Tony Hsieh, founder of Zappos, read his book Delivering Happiness, and it was his inspiration. He gave a talk in downtown Las Vegas to inspire others. Tony Hsieh wanted to hire him as a public speaker, a skill he didn't know he had until today. He didn't feel sure about chasing fame and working with someone else since his goal was entrepreneurship and making an impact. Though he didn't want to capitalize on his 15 minutes of fame, he simply had a cool story and could tell it well. And he wasn't an expert since his journey just started. People are inspired by and gained strength in his actions and journey. He realized that his fear of rejection was more common than he thought. What might someone be capable of if they weren't afraid of rejection? What might someone be capable of if they weren't afraid of rejection? The biggest regret people have is not living a full life true to themselves. His team was

very supportive in his new direction and knew would be more meaningful. Three questions: why don't we talk about rejection, why do we fear rejection, why does rejection hurt so much. Rejection and failure are not the same things. Failure can be logical and understandable. Failure almost seems to become a prerequisite to success. Rejection hurts more because it feels personal, like they are rejecting us. People naturally want revenge after they've been rejected, perhaps thinking they will feel better showing the rejector how wrong they are. However, those who do actually feel worse afterwards. Social rejection causes your brain to react similarly to physical pain, bond releasing opioids. Mammals evolved an innate fear and alertness towards these harms in order to avoid and escape them faster. Fear was required for our survival back then. Social rejection could mean death. He gave a welcome speech to the Southworth passengers and got them all to board. Could humor be an effective way to neutralize rejection pain? Researchers have shown that laughter has been linked to killing pain. Pain thresholds have difficulty increased.

where participants of the study will laugh, in laughing, singing, and dancing, have evolutionary roots of bringing people together and release endorphins. If something can't hurt me, then why should it scare me? When you're not afraid of rejection, anted feels like it has nothing to lose. Amazing things can happen. People could react to the same request very differently, and it said nothing about him is less like a truth and more like an opinion. He offered apples to complete strangers and thought nobody would eat one until a well-dressed lady did. Many famous authors with great works got rejected many times. It is as if becoming a master of the craft requires not just great skills but also the ability to weather rejection and get to an acceptance, not to mention an unfailing believe in themselves and their own work. Lesson one: rejection is a human interaction with two sides, often saying more about the rejecter than the reject. II listen to Victor and heavily influenced by historical context, cultural differences, and psychological factors. Lesson three: every rejection has a number asked why.

before goodbye, asking why. I gave him an explanation and a referral for planting the rose. Knowing the reason behind a rejection can help dissipate or even to solve any of the pain one might feel. Otherwise, I asked him for something like a McGriddle. He learned about the negotiation tactic of making and getting concessions. A third strategy is to retreat and reproach with a different angle or perspective or request collaborate, don't contend. Instead of seeing someone who can't reject you as an adversary, start seeing them as collaborators to help you solve a problem. Arguing with the person who turned you away is a surefire way to get a rejection. Story about a basketball player who moves to Beijing and becomes a hero. There is a possibility after rejection, and that rejection is not always the end of the story. I listen, retreat, don't run. High a chance of landing a yes when you retreat to a lesser request. Lesson switch, don't give up. Step back and ask a different person.

under different circumstances all in a different environment he offered five dollar bills to five different people and only two said yes. even a reason for a request is far more likely to get a yes. question if he added a wire to his request that involved a meeting with the other person's needs would that increase his chances of getting a yes. he's requests to kind of hairdressers hair went really fast because he gave a bad wine. he made some guesses and assumptions about the hairdresser that were way off the mark and ended up offending her. a study regarding use of pronouns in emails illustrates the use of I gave a greater perception of truth. the more pronouns he/she you they pronounce the let's perceived truthfulness. although it may seem counterintuitive acknowledging other people's doubts can help rather than hurt your cause. admitting his request was weed prove to the other person that he wasn't crazy and they were on the same page. it also revealed both honesty and empathy on his own part to feelings that are critical to evoke entrust. other people doubts can be the

reason for rejection if you don't take control of them. Domino's Pizza and their honesty campaign regarding their revamp resulted in a huge increase. You can't change people, but you can select the person wisely or target your audience. For he's giving a college lecture rejection attempt, he targeted his audience and did order a preparation experiment where if he missed concert violinist played to the subway passengers and got hardly any attention. The lesson is having the right audience to target principle targeting. It doesn't matter how amazing your performance or products are if you target the wrong audience who don't recognize, appreciate, or need your value, your effort will be both wasted and rejected. Lessons give a why start with. I never pretend to think any other person's interest without generally knowing them acknowledge doubts target the audience while there was still fear here and there. He was learning a tremendous amount about psychology, negotiation, and persuasion. The challenge of constantly experimenting and testing out. He's growing knowledge then sharing it with the readers still felt exhilarating.

soon realized that he had to start saying no to people's requests in order to restore balance to his life. The root of the problem was he was still afraid of rejection. Every rejected other people, he started to learn the strategies and finesse of good rejecters he had come across in his journey. The personal trainer made him feel valued by pulling out his problem-solving skills during the rejection. It's hard to be unhappy when the other person is being nice all the time when rejecting. Be direct, quick, and genuine. Lesson: offer an alternative to the person you're rejecting. Lessons: patience and respect, be direct, provide a reason after the rejection, offer alternatives or simple concessions. Any rejection can have hidden upsides if only we are willing to work for them. Rejection can give you motivation for Gaea. His traumatic elementary school experience made him wanted to prove everyone wrong about him and show them who he really was. His experience also helped him see himself as special or unique. Our rejection can be negative or positive.

all depends on how you spin it for yourself. Michael Jordan consistently used rejection to motivate him during his career. Successful people convert rejection into personal fuel. Steve Jobs switching his perspective about being adopted for being rejected to been chosen because he was special. Sooner or later, other intrinsic motivations, such as the love of the game or the desire to put a dent in the universe, neither take over to sustain excellence. So as the saying goes, when advertising fails, don't blame the customer, blame the message. Lessons from rejection attempt on soliciting donations to food bank: importance of good messaging, upside of being specific, element of surprise, not confusing people with bad humor, and how to use rejection to learn, adapt, and improve. Rejection could also be a sign of being ahead of the curve. Our society as a whole praises creativity and thinking outside the box; however, when creativity actually happens, it is often met with rejection because it frequently just drops order and rules. While we say we love creativity, we actually despise and fear it because it brings uncertainty. There has never been

in history of a world-changing idea that was initially met with universal approval. If someone thinks your auntie is incredibly stupid, consider the possibility that you might be on to something. Perhaps the question we should ask about an idea is not how do I afford rejection but is my ID worthy of rejection. His rejection attempt of giving a public speech on the sidewalk was his most frightening of them all. He told his story on the sidewalk and his crowd of six cheered for him. He had such a sense of pride. His experience with people passing him by on the street made him strong and fearless. It prepared him for a speech of thousands of people. He received a standing ovation. Turning rejection into a positive requires courage. It requires looking rejection in the face and seeing it for what it really is: an experience that can either hurt you or help you, depending on how you look at it. The difference is attitude. The difference is attitude lessens rejection can be used for motivation motivations to fuel someone's fire for achievement self-improvement by taking the emotion

out of rejection one can use it as an effective way to improve an idea or product worthiness. Sometimes being rejected is a good since the public opinion can be influenced by conventional thinking. Character building by seeking rejection in tough environments, one can build up the mental toughness to take on greater goals. Sometimes in rejection, it's not about a yes or no, it's about being willing to endure rejection because there are profound reasons for doing so. His collaboration with the Middle Eastern guy in DC to help promote positivity by holding positive signs. The DC man example demonstrated that happiness doesn't always come from money, comfort, or happiness. That's why some of the most brewing in influential people spend their time and effort on things that only have intrinsic reward. He started gaining empathy for panhandlers, for whom he used to have a huge divide within his life. Empathy fuels connection, while sympathy drives disconnection. Empathy is feeling with people. When you don't know how much you want and value something, rejection can almost become a measuring stick.

of the most successful people obtain their achievements only after going through the most gut-wrenching rejection. Louis C.K.'s success wasn't a result of a lucky break, but the result of being able to endure multiple devastating rejections over a long period of time. Scott Smiley, a disabled blind military man, inspires people to shift their perspective on what rejection means and how to turn adverse circumstances into strength, motivation, and a mission in life. Instead of being defined by tragedy, he decided to be defined by his reaction to it. Lessons: find empathy for others through rejection, find value through rejection, and let your resolve find mission, as sometimes brutal rejections can signify new beginnings and missions for the rejected. He asked a pilot if he could fly his plane, knowing he would likely be rejected, but ended up having the best flying experience flying a gyroplane. By going on a rejection journey, you will get rejected at some point, but by not even asking, we are rejecting ourselves by default and probably missing out on opportunities as a result. Lesson: half the working Americans have ever asked for a

raise but those who do 85% get something. What we really need is not acceptance from others but acceptance from ourselves. Being comfortable with whom we are should be a prerequisite, not the result of seeking others' approval. Who we are is good enough to get a yes from ourselves. Lessens freedom to ask freedom to accept ourselves. Rejection attempt of trying to sell another's company's product at a convention. His experience reinforced that acceptance and rejection depend primarily on other person's situation. Rejection in sales is a good thing because it weeds out people who don't need or want his service. He felt refreshed by his own directness and honesty by promoting that product. Being detached from the results is the key. Being detached from the results is the key. His rejection journey taught him to play his best and not worry about the results even when the streak seemed impossibly high. For his 100th rejection, he wanted to do something meaningful. He decided the perfect attempt would be to help someone try and get a job at a

dream company Google since he's been so grateful that his wife has been so supportive of him. Google initially rejected her but then change their mind and offer to her a job. Merl the story treat everyone nicely even when they say no. The Google recruiter advocated for her because he really liked to listen detachment from results by focusing on controllable factors such as our efforts and actions and by detaching ourselves from uncontrollable outcomes such as acceptance and rejection we can achieve greater success in the long run. He uses rejection attempts to exercise his courage muscles stay mentally strong and keep his confidence flowing rejection lessons outline rethinking rejection number one rejection is human one involves two sides often says more about the rejector than the reject e number two should never be used as a universal truth number two rejection is an opinion one opinion of the rejecter and heavily influenced by historical context cultural differences and psychological factors 2 there is no universal rejection or acceptance number 3 rejection has a number if a reject e

goes through enough rejections and no katooni - well yes taking - no one asked why before goodbye sustained the conversation after the rejection ask why which could reveal underlying reason for rejection and present an opportunity to overcome the issue. Number two retreat don't run but I'm retreating to a lesser request one increases chance of landing a yes. Number three collaborate don't content never argue try to collaborate with the other person. Number four switch up don't give up step back and make the request to a different person in a different environment under a different circumstance positioning for yes. Number one give me why priestess chances of acceptance. Number two start with I can give requests a more authentic control of the request never pretend think any other person's interest without generally knowing them. Number 3 acknowledge doubts by admitting obvious and possible objections before the other person one can increase trust levels between the two parties. Number 4 target the audience choosing the more receptive audience can enhance the chance of being accepted giving a no. Number 1 patience and respect delivering

the message with the right attitude can go a long way to soften the blow. Never belittle the rejectee. Number two, be direct. Present the reason through the rejection. Avoid long and convoluted setups and reasoning. Number three, offer alternatives. Alternatives and simple concessions can make the other person a fan even in rejection. Finding upside. Number one, motivation. Rejection can be used as one of the strongest motivations to fuel someone's fire for achievement. Number two, self-improvement. By taking the emotion out of the rejection, one can use it as an effective way to improve an idea or product. Number three, worthiness. Sometimes good to be rejected, especially if public opinion is heavily influenced by group and conventional thinking. Number four, character building. By seeking rejection in tough environments, one can build mental toughness to achieve greater goals. Finding meaning. Number one, find empathy. All rejections are shared by many and can be used to obtain empathy and understanding of others. Number two, find value. Repeated rejections can serve as a measuring stick for one's resolve and belief.

some of the most triumphant stories come after gut-wrenching rejections. Number three find mission sometimes the most brutal rejections signal a new beginning and mission for the reject e finding freedom. Number one freedom to ask. We often deprive ourselves of the freedom to ask for what we want in fear rejection and judgment. Amazing things often happen if we only take the first step. Number two freedom to accept yourself and inner needs of approval seeking forces to consistently look for acceptance from others. The people we need acceptance from the most is ourselves. Finding power detachment from results by focusing on controllable factors like our efforts and actions and detaching ourselves from uncontrollable outcomes such as acceptance and rejection. We can achieve greater success in the long run. And that's a wrap on rejection proof check out our YouTube channel with over 400 video summary's uploaded previously and check out our website best book bits com4 for 400 written summaries where you can download in the PDF version in categories from biographies business and

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