Honest Advice for 18-Year-Olds: Navigating Life Choices

Eighteen-year-olds should prioritize defining their life goals to avoid wasting time on unfulfilling pursuits.

### Honest Advice for 18-Year-Olds: Navigating Life's Choices
* 🏋 The speaker begins by expressing his intention to share **unfiltered personal insights** with 18-year-olds who are seeking guidance at a **pivotal stage in their lives**.
* 🎯 He emphasizes the importance of **defining personal goals** to avoid wasting precious time on unfulfilling pursuits, stating that knowing what you **don’t want** can help clarify what you **do want**.
* 💡 The speaker advises against materialism, warning young people to be cautious about the **desire to fit in and seek high status through possessions**, as this can lead to **regret later on**.
* 🧠 He stresses the need to be selective about the advice one takes, highlighting that **not all advice is beneficial** and that it's crucial to **learn from those who have achieved what you aspire to**.
* 💪 The speaker encourages putting maximum effort into everything you do, noting that the **quality of your work reflects your commitment** and can lead to **greater success in the long run**.
* 🔍 He urges 18-year-olds to spend time in self-reflection to identify insecurities, as understanding these can **prevent misguided decisions driven by external pressures**.
* 💬 "The faster and the better you **understand yourself**, the easier you will be in **catching yourself from doing things that you want to do**," he concludes, reinforcing the value of **self-awareness**.
* 🚀 The speaker invites feedback on his video and expresses a desire to **continue sharing insights**, indicating a commitment to **helping others navigate their early adult lives**.

hello yeah there we go. Hello everyone. So I'm actually on my way to the gym right now. I've been promising to make a video like this for a long time. I've said it on Twitter as well, and I've been not doing it. I've been procrastinating it. I thought I'd be able to give you guys more unfiltered personal insights into my thoughts and opinions, and I thought maybe some people would appreciate it. Some people said that they wanted it samam suck style. Ironically, I'm actually going to the gym right now. The first thing you should know is this camera is not at all in my direct line of sight. What I want to talk to you guys about is I wanted to give my honest advice to 18-year-olds just getting started. This is something that a lot of 18-year-olds ask people. It's like, What would you do if you were my age? or like, If you could go back and tell your 18-year-old self something.

what would it be, and they're looking for that advice that they can, like, pretty much use as a guide and use as insight into what direction they should be going in life because, you know, that's kind of the age where you have to start to figure out your stuff, and you don't really know what you want or what you want to do, and I guess a lot of people could be lost. Here is my honest advice to 18-year-olds that are just getting started. I'm not going to say do Drop Shipping. I'm not going to say do online business. Go to college. I'm not going to say any of that. I'm going to say you need to figure out what your goals are in life, and that sounds very cliche, but this is very important so that you don't spend years, precious time, doing something that you later on in life, you're like, Man, I really wish I didn't do that. I really wish I didn't waste that time 'cause

I run into that all the time. I meet people all the time that they're like, I wasted my precious time in my 20s doing something, and I wish I hadn't. And if you knew what your goals are in life, you would have a lot less, uh, there would be a much lower probability of you wasting time. I'm going to kind of walk you guys through it. So, a lot of people might respond to that and say, Well, I don't know what I want to do with my life. That's why I'm asking you, or That's why I ask people, right? And yeah, I get that. So, here's what you should do, because the answer is different for everyone. I'm not going to give you advice that applies to me, right? I'm not going to tell you my goals in life. Maybe my goals in life are having a super yacht, or maybe it's just having a family with five kids. And I also think a lot of people do that, which is really bad, which is give very biased advice. I'm not going

to give you advice that I'm needing myself. I'm simply going to tell you that you need to figure out what it is you want to do, and the best way to do that is to work your way backwards, in my opinion. If you don't know what your goals are in life, or if you don't know what you want your life to look like, imagine what you don't want your life to look like. It's a lot easier to picture something that you don't want versus something that you do want. I don't want to live in an apartment when I have kids. I don't want to be working a job that I don't like. I don't want to only have a couple of months of savings in my account. Basically, if I were to lose my job, I would only have a few months to figure out a way to make money. I want to have a bigger safety net, whatever. So, you can start designing the opposite of what you want, and then when you know exactly what you don't want, you can find

the opposite of that, or you can go in the complete other direction, and you'll know what you do want. Now, one thing I would be cautious about is materialistic stuff, because at a young age, everyone wants to have materialistic stuff because you're coming out of that phase where you just want so desperately more than anything else to fit in and to be well-liked and well-respected by your peers and to have a high status among your peers, right? Like, I feel like it peaks in high school, like teenage years, high school, college-ish, and then it kind of goes downhill for most people, maybe not everyone. You know, you see some celebrities that clearly they are setting new highs every couple of years. You're very, very materialistic when you're young, and you're very desperate to fit in, and fit in by raising your status or having a high status, and a lot of people achieve that through materialistic things such as designer clothes, such as fancy cars, and that type of stuff, etc. I would be

very cautious against that because you might think that you want all of those things. In reality, you probably don't. You probably don't actually care, um, and then you know once you get them, you can make that choice for yourself, uh, and that's what everyone should do. You know, everyone should explore the curiosities and live life to the fullest and then make their own choices once they have enough, you know, data or information about lifestyle, and they make their own choice on how to live that, make in whichever way that makes them happy. But I would be very cautious. Now, I'm not saying don't use this drive as fuel because it's good because you can use, you can use this like desperate need for materialistic things to make a lot of money and to work really hard and grind, which is great. But when you finally and inevitably do make money and you start making good money, be very cautious and be very slow to spend your money on materialistic things unless it helps your business. I know some people

are going to call me a hypocrite 'cause I've had like nine cars. I've had a McLaren, uh, what's it called, a Urus. I've had a GTR, a lot of cars. But the thing is, is all of those things due to the nature of the business that I'm in, which is having a personal brand. Those things attract attention, which make me more money. So it's like justifiable in a way. But if you're not making money through YouTube or through attention of some sort, uh, and having a car doesn't bring you any extra income, and it's just something that you want to have so that you can be cool. In that scenario, I'd be very cautious and just make sure you take your time to really make a decision. I'm on my way to the gym now. I'm going to stop and wash my car real quick and vacuum my car, so we'll take a break. But moving on from that, another thing I want to say to people that are 18 that are

Just getting started is also be very, very cautious who you take advice from because a lot of people, a lot of people are so ignorant that they will just give you the wrong advice. They'll just give you terrible, terrible advice. Even your own parents will give you terrible, terrible advice. One thing you have to understand about your parents is probably and hopefully they just want what's best for you and what's safest for you, especially mothers. They just want you to be safe. They don't want you to take risks. They just don't want to see you in suffering, right? And so like if you were to drop out of college and go start a business and it fails, your mother knows that that's probably going to end with you having a lot of suffering, right? Maybe fathers are a little bit less likely and maybe they understand like, No, he's got to go out there and figure it out a little bit more and like kind of go through pain. I don't know, I'm just speculating. Be very

careful with the advice that you get and how you apply it to your life. Obviously, you can listen to anyone, you can listen to anyone's opinion. When it comes to people that are not where you want to be in life, you have to be very cautious when taking advice from them. So, for example, not only money, I would be very cautious taking advice on how to treat my spouse from someone that has been divorced three times or from someone that has never been married that's giving me advice on like, Oh, this is how you should be with your wife. Like, that's not okay. That advice doesn't mean very much to me. Also, from somebody that is married, that isn't divorced, but it's pretty obvious that they don't have like a super healthy relationship, and I don't want that kind of relationship. Even in that situation, I'd be really reluctant to like really internalize and apply their advice to my life. I would listen to it, and then it'd pretty much be like, Okay, yeah. I would make a decision on

whether or not that's useful to me, and then I'd pretty much like to discard it. Same applies for anything. Same applies for anything. Fat people giving advice on how to lose weight or how to build muscle. Broke people giving advice on how to make money. Or people that have no idea about stocks or crypto or anything giving advice about market timing and why crypto is going to zero or why it's going to 200k. What a lot of people do, they give advice to themselves through other people. And the truth is everyone's life is different. We're very, very complicated. Advice like specific advice is very hard to give unless you know a lot about that person's circumstance. And even then, the advice giver has to be aware of any biases that he has. And also, he has to be self-aware as to what advice he's giving you and why he's giving you that advice. And he also has to be knowledgeable in whatever advice he's giving you. So, because of that, there

just simply isn't going to be a lot of people, like a big collection of people, that can offer you really, really great advice. And that also ties into the first thing I said, which is define your goals. Because the first step is to find out who do I not want to be in 20 years for the rest of my life. Okay, now I know who I don't want to be. Now, who do I want to be? Okay, now I need to find people that have achieved the different aspects of my life that I'm looking for. So, for example, one aspect is family. I need to find someone that, for example, I want, let's say, I want five kids. I want to find someone that has a family with more than two children, like a few children, that has a very healthy marriage, and the kids are respectful and nice. They're great kids, and I just, that's exactly what I want. I need to find someone like that and talk to them and ask them questions and get advice from them. Same thing for marriage, same

thing with relationships in terms of like friend and non-spouse, obviously same thing financially. What do you want to be like? Do you want to be a billionaire, or do you just want to have financial freedom where you're making like, let's say you make 20-30k a month? You have a few hundred thousand dollars saved up after, you know, your house and your two cars and stuff, and you take like four or five vacations a year, whatever. And I do want to quickly say 'cause I know people will get triggered, you can learn something from people that have failed. You can learn what not to do, and that advice can be very good advice. For example, if somebody is divorced and they're giving you advice on, Hey, this is why we got divorced. This is the main reason, that can and usually is probably very good advice. Them giving advice on the opposite of their circumstance is not good. So, a divorced person or a single person or a multi-divorced person, someone that has gotten

divorced multiple times, giving you advice on how to have a happy and healthy marriage, will not be good advice. Them telling you why their marriage suffered, um, and giving you that one variable, because oftentimes there's probably more than just one variable, there's probably tons of variables, but them giving you that one piece of information can be a very, very useful piece of information. Same thing for someone that's broke, for example, like, Hey, this is the reason I was broke. I may, I invested everything into crypto, everything. Okay, well, now what you can extrapolate from that is you don't ever put all of your eggs in one basket. You can learn something from that person, from that person's failure, and I've done that too. I've learned from my family's failures, my friends' failures, or I try to. You definitely don't learn as much as you do from your own failures, that's for sure. All right, I'm at the car wash now, so I'm going to vacuum my car and get judged by everyone for having a camera.

on the windshield. I have two more pieces of advice. Two more pieces of advice. I forgot one of them. Hopefully, I can remember the other one. But my next one: anything that you do, put in maximum effort. Don't try to find the easiest and quickest way to do something just to get it done so that you don't have to worry about it anymore. Now, this is something that I'm still working on, but I wish that I had put in more effort into the things that—into everything that I do. This is something I will absolutely teach my son to drill it into his head: everything you do must be done with like your best effort. How you do anything is how you do everything. And for a long time, I personally, throughout my early 20s, I have done things just to get them done—done just so that I don't have to think about them anymore. The result of that is the quality of your product and the quality of your work is bad in the long term. It doesn't build the right foundation for great things. It doesn't

set you up for success, so no matter what it is you do, do it so that even if you do it with everything that you have, even if you fail, you'll still feel good about it because at least you tried. At least you did your best. If you do something half-assed and you fail, you're not going to feel great. You're going to feel bad about it and you're going to be like, Yeah, if I worked a little harder, if I tried a little harder, if I actually did what I knew I could do, I would have maybe succeeded. Oh my gosh, these people are literally about to get in an accident. I wish you guys could see this right now. They're literally driving like off the road, side by side, and turning into each other. I can't believe you can probably see the dust clouds behind me. And now this guy just brake-checked him. Bro, he cut you off. Relax, just get over it. It's like not a big deal. Look, now he's cutting him off.

again oh my God. I wish you guys could see this. What a psychopath. Like, dude, let it go. Oh my gosh. Anyway, I was saying, if you do something with your best effort and you still fail, you're still going to feel good about it because at least you did your best. I wrote one email where I flipped my mindset on exactly the advice I'm giving you, and that email made me $300,000. I was making money, and I was doing the math on how much money I should have made based on an ad campaign for a business, for a company. My math based on historical math was not adding up. So, I emailed the company. I'm like, Hey, I think that there's a reporting issue. I think you guys should look into it. Writing the most basic email and giving the problem to them so that they can figure it out, and then hoping that they email me back and say, Hey, yeah, you're right. We misreported. We owe you hundreds of

thousands of dollars. I really, in that moment, thought and expected that they were going to work so hard to, uh, to like find out my problem and make sure it was right, uh, and then like reach back out to me. Like, I was hoping that they would do all the work so I wouldn't have to. And then I was thinking about it, and I was like, dude, they don't care. Like, who cares more about the 300K that's owed to me, the people that owe it to me, or me, the people, the person that it's owed to. So, I wrote an email, and instead of doing like a super lazy, like two-liner, Hey, there's an issue. Like, it's Math's not adding up, I wrote a whole email. I spent like 45 minutes writing this email, and because of that email, I did most of the work. They found out I had 300K that was misrack, and yeah, and uh, it was a $300,000 email. So, I just finished my workout, and I remember the last thing

I wanted to mention, so I'm going to quickly talk about this, and then I'm going to end the video, which I'm sure he's going to get 15,000 views. Hey, 15,000 is a lot of people, okay? So, even if it only does get 15K, still hopefully some people get something out of it. The last thing I'm going to say is if you're 18 and you're just getting started, spend a lot of time self-reflecting and in your own thoughts and trying to map out and figure out yourself. And the reason I say that is because you should try to find out what your insecurities are as fast and as soon as possible. And a lot of the times, you're not even aware of some of the insecurities that you have, and you subconsciously behave in different ways because of those insecurities. You're going to subconsciously do things that maybe aren't great. The faster and the better you understand yourself, the easier you will be in catching yourself.

from doing things that you want to do, and this ties back into the materialistic thing. For example, if you're insecure about fitting in because people have always laughed at you, then you might have a drive to have a really nice car or something. Or it doesn't necessarily mean that it doesn't mean you're insecure, or you could just really have a dream car because you love cars, and driving them makes you super happy 100%. Or it could be a combination of both, but the goal is to figure out how much of what you're doing is because of these different reasons. And if you find, if you do that, and you find out early on that you're doing stuff because of insecurity, like if you're doing bad things and they're insecurely motivated, then that is also going to waste a lot of time and a lot of money. And it's just, you're going to look back and regret it. So for example, guys that have a hard time talking to women or like getting girls.

to like them right. As they get older, they're going to subconsciously maybe chase tons of girls for a very long period of time and spend tons of money on them and just rack up a super high body count, which is a bad idea. That's just not good. It's not something you don't want to do that. You don't want to participate in hookup culture. You just don't want to do that. And you might feel pressured to do that because of an insecurity that you have, or it could be because you really, really want to get girls. I don't know, like for whatever other reason that you could want to desperately pursue multiple, multiple women for many years on end. Maybe you just really love women and you think they're really beautiful. Whatever the variable may be, it's your job to figure out and identify why you're doing what you are doing and if that falls in line with where you are going or where you want to go. If you want to have a family and a wife that's loyal to you and loves you, and you want

to have, let's say, a traditional God-fearing marriage, and you also have a desire to sleep with girls and do all like party and do all these things. Just figure out why you have that desire and where it comes from. Again, this is just an example, but this goes for anything. It's going to be hard, especially at the age of 18, because everything is new, and you want to try things, and you want to see what you like. Really try to spend a lot of time in your own thoughts. I don't think people do that these days. There's too much information. You're constantly inputting more and more information. You're literally doing it right now, listening to my video. But just do that. Go on a drive with no music, no nothing. Go and spend a lot of time in your own thoughts. Think about why you think your thoughts, why you do things, where it comes from, and better understand yourself. And then, the better you understand yourself, the better choices

you'll make, and the closer and faster you'll get to your goals, and the happier you will be. So, that is my honest advice to 18-year-olds that are starting out. I probably left out some other things. If you guys like these types of videos, let me know. Maybe I'll make a part two. And please leave topics or things you want me to talk about more in the description, and I'll make videos on them as well. On my way to the gym. Thank you all for watching, and I'll see you in the next one.

My Real Advice To 18 Year Olds Getting Started

Sebastian Ghiorghiu

The speaker shares personal insights and advice for 18-year-olds just starting out in life.

They emphasize the importance of figuring out personal goals to avoid wasting time in the future.

The speaker suggests working backwards by identifying what you don't want in life to help clarify what you do want.

Young people often have a strong desire for materialistic things to fit in and gain status, especially during their teenage years.

It's important to be cautious about pursuing materialism, as true happiness may not come from these possessions.

Additionally, seeking advice from others, including parents, can be misleading, as they may prioritize safety and stability over taking risks.

The Importance of Choosing the Right Advice

Be cautious when taking advice from people who are not where you want to be in life, as their perspective may not be valuable.

It's essential to seek guidance from those who have achieved the goals you aspire to, whether in family, marriage, or finances.

While you can learn from people's failures, their advice on the opposite of their circumstances may not be helpful.

Learning from Failures and Putting in Effort

Divorced individuals can offer valuable insights from their experiences, highlighting that multiple variables contribute to failures.

Learning from others' mistakes, like investing everything in one place, can provide important life lessons.

Putting in maximum effort into everything you do is crucial for long-term success and personal fulfillment.

The Impact of Self-Reflection and Proactive Communication

The speaker initially expected others to resolve a $300K issue but realized they needed to take action themselves.

After writing a detailed email, they were able to identify the misrack and recover the owed amount.

The speaker emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and understanding insecurities early on to make better life choices and avoid regret.

Navigating Relationships and Self-Discovery at 18

Chasing multiple women and participating in hookup culture can lead to a high body count and potential regret.

It's important to identify the reasons behind these desires and whether they align with personal goals, such as wanting a loyal family and marriage.

Spending time in self-reflection and understanding one's thoughts and actions can lead to better choices and a faster path to achieving personal goals.