The Importance of Healing Before New Relationships

Healing from heartbreak is essential before inviting new love into one's life.

### The Journey of Healing: Embracing Independence and Finding True Connection
* 💔 One must fully **endure their own pain** before being ready to welcome another person into their life, as rushing into new relationships can leave **lasting scars**.
* 🌀 The emotional impact of a relationship shapes an individual, making it essential to **avoid fleeting loves** and instead focus on **meaningful connections**.
* 🌱 Women with strong independence often prioritize **personal growth over relationships**, which can **delay marriage** and complicate their interactions with men.
* 🤝 It's crucial to reflect on whether one's **independence may hinder the ability to accept help or companionship from others**, as this can affect relationship dynamics.
* 📚 Maturity and understanding of one's temperament and that of others can lead to healthier relationships, highlighting the **importance of compatibility and mutual growth**.
* 💡 Relationships should provide **comfort and stability**, rather than emotional turmoil, as true love is about finding someone who **complements one's innate traits**.
* 🌈 Embracing the healing process after a breakup is vital, as it allows for **personal growth** and prepares one to engage in future relationships with a **clearer perspective**.
* 💖 Ultimately, the journey through pain is a necessary step toward discovering a fateful relationship, reminding individuals of their **capacity to love deeply** and the **importance of healing before moving forward**.

Ultimately, finding someone is about discovering a person who matches your innate temperament and tendencies. When we meet different people, sometimes we feel uncomfortable, while with others, even if we give a lot, we want to give even more. Then there are those we find unpleasant for no apparent reason. Our judgment of these relationships is based on our life experiences, so when I meet someone, I believe the most important things are comfort and stability. If our emotions are in turmoil, we may mistakenly interpret discomfort as love, leading us to form unhealthy connections from which we struggle to escape. Rather than seeking that kind of love, it’s important to understand our own innate traits and tendencies, to complement our personality, and to think about finding relationships that allow us to live happily and with stability throughout our lives.

I hope you understand that when meeting someone, my temperament and disposition are important, as well as the other person's personality. I believe that the best relationships occur when I can look at the other person without much effort, while they can also accept my temperament without too much strain. Therefore, it’s important to check whether the expectations of a woman regarding her husband and a man regarding his partner align. 

It’s not uncommon for people to say that they prefer someone who treats them well, even if that person isn't particularly good overall. However, I cannot agree with that perspective. Fundamentally, it is essential to judge people based on their overall character, rather than just how they treat me. For instance, first impressions are significant, and one's facial expressions play a crucial role in that initial assessment.

There are people who have a very negative impression, like being dirty or unpleasant, and I don't necessarily need to consider them as connections in my life. What I look for is someone with a basic disposition that is decent, a stable attitude towards life, and a dedication to their work. When such a person enters my life, and we can mutually thrive and grow together, then I can say it is a good relationship. There are certain types of women who, when looking at their fortune, have a hidden aspect of a man in their destiny. This aspect is often not visible. In such cases, women typically have an innate dislike for being controlled or interfered with. Therefore, they tend to reject situations where they receive nagging, obsession, or attachment, or where their freedom is restricted. This makes it somewhat difficult for them to find a sense of stability through belonging to someone.

This can be seen as having certain aspects. In such cases, there are instances where marriage is somewhat neglected. Additionally, there are cases where the individual is excessively independent. When a person is independent, it means that the woman has no issues living alone. Therefore, the probability of a man who is ambitious and willing to provide something for a woman entering her life is relatively low. This is because men who are successful or willing to give something to a woman find satisfaction in filling the gaps or shortcomings of that woman. However, women with strong independence and self-sufficiency do not leave many gaps, making it difficult for such men to find satisfaction. Consequently, there is a higher likelihood of men who seek economic or emotional support entering the picture. When such encounters happen, it can lead to some complications.

It is necessary to reflect on whether my inclination is too independent, leading to an innate dislike for control or interference. Additionally, when women possess strong energy in their destiny, they often seek satisfaction through their own achievements, which can be driven by a strong desire for honor. In such cases, since they cannot fulfill their sense of honor through the reputation of a man or their children, they strive for personal growth. This pursuit of self-growth can take considerable time, which is why marriages may often be delayed. Therefore, women's independent and self-sufficient nature can sometimes leave little room for men to enter their lives. For instance, it is not always necessary for me to handle everything myself, such as driving. During a date, it would be good to allow a little space for the other person to feel included.

It is not good to give space; you have to lower it. What is better done late is ultimately because when two people meet, they come from different temperaments and backgrounds. The fact that they meet and adjust to each other is, in fact, like a miracle. I believe that when one matures, there is no need to check compatibility; rather, one feels a shift in perspective. The most important thing is that if you understand your own temperament and that of others, you can change and grow beyond your innate traits. Maturity requires effort, and achieving that maturity often comes from reading many books or meeting mentors. However, in the early thirties, it can be difficult to find that energy. Some people may become cynical due to the trials of life, while others become humble and grow through those experiences. After such growth and maturity...

When you meet someone, it means that I can understand that person. Some men may have the intention of taking care of and providing for others when they look at someone, but ultimately, the attitude I have towards the woman I am looking at is also important. I need to consider whether I am willing to take responsibility or whether I have the disposition to develop a partnership together. This is something both men and women should reflect on. Initially, there may be a slight attraction, and it’s good to have positive feelings, but when meeting someone, if it feels too good to be true, there’s a chance that it might not be a good match. From a compatibility standpoint, if both individuals cannot coexist harmoniously and instead conflict or deceive each other, this could lead to a situation where, in the moment, their emotions become intensely involved, making it easier for them to become close.

경우도 있는데, 그런 관계를 생각하기보다는 요즘에 연애를 할 때 여러 가지 먹는 기술이라든가 마음의 변화를 서로 읽는 여러 가지가 나오고 있지만, 그것보다 더 중요한 것은 상대방의 마음을 편안하게 내가 받아들일 수 있고, 그 누군가를 만났을 때 마음이 안정되는 것이 가장 중요하다고 생각해요. 그래서 연애를 하실 때는 상대방을 만났을 때 편안함이 들고 안정감을 가지고, 마치 집처럼 느껴져야 한다고 생각합니다. 사랑이라는 것은 우리가 늘상 먹는 밥과 국 같은 존재가 되어야 한다고 느껴요. 가끔 파스타나 피자, 혹은 중국 음식을 먹을 수 있겠지만, 그 느끼함을 달랠 수 있는 것은 약간의 탄수화물 같은 느낌이니까, 만났을 때 편안하고 심리적인 안정감을 가질 수 있는 사람이 가장 중요하죠. 이별이라는 것은 가슴이 아프고, 이별을 하게 됐을 때는 그...

During this time, I feel a sense of guilt about the things I couldn't do. It seems that I often reflect on this here. No matter how many breakups one goes through, the breakup I am currently experiencing always brings heartache and distress. However, what I want to convey here is that the pain experienced after a breakup should be fully endured by oneself. The reason is that if we try to easily substitute the emotional pain we feel after a breakup with someone else, it may provide some comfort, but it can also make the wound seem larger. Ultimately, such patterns will continue to create more of those patterns. If I have not had successful relationships and have not achieved any meaningful outcomes until now, it is necessary to engage in relationships with patterns that differ from those I have followed thus far. Therefore, if one experiences great pain after meeting and parting with someone, that...

I believe that one must go through the process of fully overcoming their own pain. When one has sufficiently solidified their own physical time alone, only then can they be in a state of mind ready to welcome another person. Meeting new people to overcome the pain of a breakup may seem appealing and comforting at the moment, but if you look at the bigger picture, it leaves scars that remain within oneself. It also leads to negative patterns in relationships, which can easily become habitual. Therefore, I think we should be cautious about this. The words, actions, and values experienced in a relationship leave a lasting impact on that person, influencing their life. For this reason, I believe we should refrain from diving into countless fleeting loves and instead focus on those that are truly destined.

Love may not always be present, but I hope you have dreams of being in a fateful relationship with someone. If your heart is aching because someone has hurt you, it’s ultimately because you are a good person, and that’s why it hurts. So for those who are currently suffering because of love or are in pain due to a breakup, remember that you have loved deeply and fully engaged in that love. The pain you are experiencing is part of the process. Instead of being too tormented by it, realize that you just need some time to heal. I hope you can appreciate this journey. Through this process of reflection, you will grow and mature, and you will be able to welcome another person into your life.

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Finding the right person is about matching innate temperament and tendencies.

Comfort and stability are crucial in relationships, as emotional turmoil can lead to unhealthy connections.

Understanding one's own traits and those of others is key to personal growth and building harmonious relationships.

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Initial attraction is positive, but if it feels too good to be true, it may not be a good match.

A decent disposition, stable attitude, and dedication to work are key traits to look for in a partner for a mutually thriving relationship.

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The Impact of Breakups and Relationship Patterns

The author reflects on the guilt and heartache of breakups, emphasizing the importance of fully enduring the emotional pain.

They argue that substituting this pain with someone else can worsen the situation and create negative patterns.

The author believes that successful relationships require aligning temperaments and expectations between partners, and they stress the importance of judging people based on their overall character, not just how they treat them.

The Importance of Overcoming Personal Pain Before Entering New Relationships

Fully overcoming personal pain is crucial before welcoming someone new into your life.

Rushing into relationships to escape pain can lead to negative patterns and lasting scars.

Women's strong independence and self-sufficiency can make it challenging for ambitious men to enter their lives, often leading to complicated encounters.