Overcoming Shyness: Approaching Girls with Confidence

Approaching girls becomes easy when treating them like normal people and overcoming self-limiting beliefs.

### Overcoming Fear: How to Approach Girls with Confidence
* 😌 I used to be terrified of talking to girls throughout high school, feeling shy and introverted, but I learned that it's all a **mental game**.
* 🌟 Reflecting on my past, I realize that despite being a cute kid, my **insecurities held me back** from approaching girls, and it wasn't until my senior year that I began to **break out of my shell**.
* ✈ Now, as I solo travel in Sweden, I find that nearly every interaction I have with girls is positive, with **98% of conversations going well** due to the **confidence I've built**.
* 💬 I approach girls as if they're **normal people**, using simple opening lines like "**Excuse me, what's your name?**" and asking engaging questions to keep the conversation **flowing**.
* 💖 I incorporate subtle flirting after a few minutes, offering **genuine compliments that feel natural rather than forced**, which often leads to **positive reciprocation from the girls**.
* 🏋 It's essential to work on yourself to become a **higher-value man**, as the effort you put into self-improvement will reflect in your **interactions and the quality of girls you attract**.
* 🔍 By experimenting with different types of girls, you can learn to identify **high-quality partners who contribute positively to your life**, making the journey of dating both **enjoyable and enlightening**.
* 🎉 Embracing the excitement of approaching girls has transformed my life, and I encourage you to **step out of your comfort zone** and experience the same **rewarding interactions**.

what is good boys. I'm going to be telling you why approaching girls is not scary. So, I used to be terrified to talk to girls all throughout my high school, even up until I was like 18, 19 years old. I was actually extremely shy and introverted, and just talking to a girl would generate all these negative self-limiting beliefs in my head that would hold me back from even doing it. So, if you're in this position, I completely understand what you're going through, and I know exactly how hard it can be. But you need to realize that this is all a mental game. See, when I was a kid, looking back, I didn't feel very confident about myself. I was always extremely insecure, but I was kind of a cute kid. Even when I was like 14, 15 years old, I could have easily gotten with a lot of the girls in my school, especially now after seeing the girls that I get with. Those girls from high school weren't, and I would have pulled every single one of

them, but I wish I could have known that and had that sort of confidence back in the day. But I was that kid who would get shy, get red in the face when I went up and talked to a girl. So, it just, I never even did it, and I never got anywhere. And I didn't really get with girls until my senior year, is when I first got pushed by my friend group to break out of my shell. The first girl that I actually hooked up with, I was kind of just shoved into a car, and it kind of just happened from there. But that's kind of how shy I was. And here I am now, I'm currently in Sweden. I like to solo travel and go to new cities and meet girls. And pretty much every weekend that I go out, I get with a new girl. It is that easy. And every single girl I speak to is nearly a positive interaction, like 98% of them. I have a great interaction. I'm not saying that every girl I talk to, I end up getting

with or sleeping with, but nearly every interaction goes well because of how I do it and everything that I've learned, and I'll share some of those things with you in this video. So, what you need to realize is that girls are actually extremely friendly, and they want to talk to people just like anyone else. You can't overthink it, and you can't pedestalize girls and make them seem like this thing that's like untouchable, 'cause really, if you just go to them and talk to them like they're a normal person, that's pretty much exactly how my game goes. And then I start throwing in some flirting later on. I was actually just experimenting with some new things this past weekend, and it worked extremely well. So, what I do is I just talk to them like they're a normal person. I say, Excuse me, what's your name? I've told this a million times on my channel, but that's my opening line. And then I just asked them some basic questions that are pre-loaded in my head, so I always know

what to say, and I usually go with something like, Where are you from, and what do you do? Do you work? Are you in school? And at that point, once you've asked those three questions, the conversation should just be flowing. You're going to understand their level of reciprocation, if they're interested in having this conversation or not. You can look at some of their body language cues, like is their body facing to you, are they interested, are they touching you, you know what I mean? A lot of little things like that will give you cues. And if they're facing away, their feet are turned in the opposite direction, and they're just looking at you with their head turned, they don't want to be in this conversation. Tell them, you know, it's a pleasure to meet them and go talk to someone else. It's really not that difficult. And what I noticed to elevate my game even more is that I throw in some flirting like 5 to 8 minutes in the conversation. It's very little subtle things. It's not like I go up to a girl

and say, Excuse me, you're so beautiful, 'cause I personally think that that's like not good game. That's my personal opinion. Some people disagree, and that's fine, but I like to throw in subtle little compliments later on in the conversation. And it's funny, I actually noticed that girls will do the same thing. So after I've been talking to them for like 3 to 5 minutes, a lot of the time if they're interested, they'll give me a compliment. One I commonly get is like my eyelashes. They say, Oh, your eyelashes are so long and curled. They're so pretty, whatever. And I'm like, Thank you. I mean, I guess as a girl, that's like a good thing, but guys, we don't really care. But so the thing is, you can give them like little subtle compliments. I would recommend doing something like, you know, something slick. It's just like, Your eyes are very beautiful, saying something like that, but later on in the conversation, not as an opener. Don't do those as openers. So I

have extremely positive actions by just treating girls like the humans that they are, like normal people, and then actually just going up to them and approaching them in a very respectful way. Like if they're not facing to me but I know I want to talk to someone, I give them a tap on the shoulder and say, Excuse me, and that's gone extremely well for me. And if they're looking directly at me, all the better, and then you don't need to do that whole tap thing, and you can even skip the Excuse me if you're making direct eye contact and you walk up to them. But that's pretty much my game, and since then, I have... I mean, the difference is night and day. I mean, of course, you need to be working on yourself, and you need to be improving to be a higher-value man, 'cause of course, it's the same thing with girls. You're not going to want to talk to the fat ugly girl, let's be honest. You want to talk to the hottest and prettiest girls, so it's

the same thing for girls. They want to be approached by the, you know, highest-tier males, right? So, the more work that you're putting in—going to the gym, looks maxing, improving on your mindset, your business, your social skills, reading, learning, developing—all these things are only going to help you in the long run and actually allow these conversations and the girls that you attract to increase over time. So, of course, there's personal work that goes into it, but I've seen guys who are really not that high-value who just go up and talk to girls, get so many, just because they're out there chatting. And you'd be surprised how easy it is to actually get these girls, especially out here in Sweden. Don't be coming out to Sweden, though, 'cause this is my spot. You can find another European country to come to, but this is my spot. Don't come here 'cause if I see you rolling up in my city, saying that you on my channel, I'm going to be upset 'cause this is my secret spot. But I'm giving it to

you guys, since you're early to my channel. So, it's for me in Sweden. I mean, it's super easy. I mean, sometimes you'll just be in a conversation, and you can literally just be like, Let's get out of here, just straight up out of the Crazy Stupid Love movie, right? Ryan Gosling just goes, Let's get out of here. That's pretty much exactly the game that I've developed over time. It's just very similar things to like the one from Spread, Ashton Kutcher, where he uses that exact line that I told you, What's your name? And then the one from Crazy Stupid Love where Ryan Gosling is just very cool in the club, and then he just chats with them for a little bit, makes them feel good, lets them talk about themselves, and then asks them to go home with him, and it works every time. So, I mean, that's what I've built my game off of, is those two movies pretty much, and it's worked extremely well. So, I hope this kind of breaks down some of your

self-limiting beliefs and allows you to start approaching girls and living the life that you want because girls are a super important part of life and self-improvement. If you do really want a high-quality girl in the future, you're going to need to experiment around and see what a high-quality girl is. After being with tons and tons of girls, I can very quickly identify a high-quality girl from a non-high-quality girl, and the things stand out so clearly over time. And these will be things that I missed out on in the moment, like years ago. I'll be like, I don't know if this girl is good or not, and now I'm like, Oh, that's clear as day. So, you really want to be able to experiment around and be able to pick a high-quality girl for the future if you do want to have a family and kids and a great marriage or whatever it is that you're going for, or just have a good girl that you can date that's not going to cause you headaches.

and take away from your life but add to it. So, being a little bit of a Playboy is never a bad thing, really feeling out the different types of girls out there, the, you know, the positives, the negatives, and identifying what you want in a relationship and what you want out of, you know, your female companion is super important. So, I hope you can start living the life that I've been having where, you know, talking to girls now is just something that I actually love doing and I look forward to. I don't have a single negative self-limiting belief when I do this. When I see a hot girl, I'm all excited. I just run over to them and talk to them, and that's pretty much how it is. And this can be the same thing for you. You just got to get out there and start doing it and watch how your life changes. All right, so if you got any value from this video, please like and subscribe, comment down below if you're going to start talking to girls, and I'll see you guys in the next one.

Overcoming the Fear of Talking to Girls

Sebastian Riccobono

The speaker shares their personal struggle with shyness and insecurity when it came to talking to girls during high school.

They emphasize that building confidence is a mental game and reflect on missed opportunities with girls.

Through pushing themselves out of their comfort zone, they eventually gained confidence and now have positive interactions with girls while solo traveling.

Approaching women as normal people, without overthinking or pedestalizing them, is key to successful interactions.

The speaker uses a simple opening line and pre-loaded questions to initiate conversation and gauge interest.

Flirting is introduced subtly after a few minutes, using body language cues to determine the other person's level of engagement.

Approaching Women: A Personal Perspective

The speaker prefers subtle compliments later in the conversation rather than using them as openers.

They have noticed that women often reciprocate with compliments after a few minutes of conversation.

The speaker emphasizes the importance of treating women with respect and approaching them in a confident manner, whether through a gentle tap on the shoulder or making direct eye contact.

Girls are often drawn to high-tier males, and personal development can increase attraction over time.

Approaching women and engaging in conversations can be surprisingly effective, especially in places like Sweden.

The speaker shares their successful approach, inspired by movie scenes, and emphasizes the importance of confidence and making women feel good.

The Importance of Experimenting with Relationships

Experimenting with different girls is key to identifying a high-quality partner for the future.

Over time, the traits of a high-quality girl become clear, helping to make better relationship choices.

Overcoming self-limiting beliefs and approaching girls with confidence can lead to a fulfilling social life and meaningful connections.