Here are ten oddly specific things you should keep to yourself as I do my makeup. And just to clarify, these are things you shouldn't share, like with your friends or a romantic interest you just met. Okay, some secrets—obviously.

If it's the vibe, tell people. Do what you want, but you can't say I didn't tell you so. And these are going to be really oddly specific because I literally have been through so much in my life

where I've made some of these mistakes before, and I really wish I hadn't. Number one, don't tell people what phone carrier you have. I know that's really oddly specific, but don't tell just any random person, because there's something called

one-time pin fraud. AI is literally getting to the point where it's scary nowadays, and people could literally use your photo, make a fake ID of you, go into your carrier, get four lines, screw up your credit. Or not even just that,

they can just say that your phone went missing, and then boom! All of a sudden you're locked out of all of your accounts: your Instagram, your bank. Because basically, they send a one-time pin to your phone number, which just got swapped to another phone.

It essentially locks you out of your phone so you can't even use your number anymore because it's literally swapped to another phone. So, of course, all of those 'forgot password' texts are going to their number. And again, this video is going to be oddly specific,

But it can save your life. If you're on social media at all, even if you're not an influencer, you need to be careful about two-step verification and all that, especially as AI advances.

This is just my prediction, but I feel like there will be a lot more cases where AI messes up the court system. This stuff is so new that people's lives are being ruined by identity fraud, and it's all because they trusted someone

they thought they knew. A friend shouldn't know your phone carrier. If someone you don't really trust asks you what phone carrier you use, don't tell them. And this might be controversial, but it's 100% okay to

lie in situations that could put you in danger. I'm not telling you to be a compulsive liar, I'm just saying, stay safe, okay?

Nobody needs to know that information. This next one might seem like common sense, but common sense isn't that common nowadays... Don't tell people anything that can be used in a password: your mother's maiden name, your first dog's name,

anything usually used as a second password guess. Don't tell people that. Why would a boyfriend need to know your mother's maiden name?  This isn't me

Like trying to cast doubt on the people you love. Because obviously, you love them for a reason. They're in your life for a reason. I would hope they would never do something like that to you, where they would use your personal information and try to sabotage you, but you never really know someone, okay? And so, because of that, you need to take precautions.

Also, for those wondering, the foundation and concealer combo... I'm not done putting on the concealer, by the way. I look dead, but I use the Bobbi Brown Skin Long-Wear Weightless Foundation and the Hourglass concealer. Both of them have a price tag, but they're worth it.

I might be sharing things you should never tell anyone, but I'm certainly not a gatekeeper. You're welcome, bestie.

The third thing you should gatekeep is a little bit controversial. I don't know if the girlies are going to agree with me, but I'm going to say it anyway: your relationship problems.

Okay, I'm going to say it very clearly: If you're in a toxic situation, you know you need to get out of it. You already know that. But are you ready for it?

And this is something I had to ask myself, because I was always the girl who would go to my friends crying about my boy troubles and this, that, and the third, just to end up back with the same guy, because I knew...

I wasn't ready to let it go. My brow combo is the Anastasia Beverly Hills Brow Freeze Gel, and then the Brow Definer. I'm going to look crazy for a second as I do this cream blush, because I always do blush and contour

and then concealer. That's a tip: if you use a lot of cream concealers or cream bronzers, do your liquid contour and blush first, before you put on concealer. So that way your concealer doesn't crease. Okay, back to what we were saying.

Your friends want to help you, okay? They're not trying to give you advice to be mean. They're trying to help you, unless they're a bad friend. But most friends will get upset when they hear about toxic situations you're going through

because they see your value, okay? They see your value. But if you keep going to them with the same problems over and over again, they're going to start to distance themselves. And this is why I say you need to know

when you're actually ready. And here's my thing: I know when I'm in a situation I have no business being in, but I'm still going to be in it and I'm still going back. And you cannot convince me otherwise.

I'm sorry. That's just how I am. And I won't tell anybody about it, because I know I'm chaotic sometimes. Right, I can admit it. I'm a little chaotic when it comes to my love life. But it's my love life for a reason.

Because I love them. Sorry, I'm getting a little dramatic, but I see both sides of it because I've been on both ends. I've had a friend come to me over and over again saying, “He did this to me!!” and then not leave.

Like, girl, it's giving 'you don't love yourself.' It's giving 'you don't value yourself.' And it's giving 'you're wasting my time, too.' And I would get so mad when I saw my friends disrespect themselves

by going back to a situation they had no business being in, until I did the same exact thing. And then I didn't tell anybody about it because, in my own mind, I was trying to fix it.

I was trying to do this, I was trying to do that. And I didn't want to hear anyone's opinion on it, quite frankly. And that's okay. Okay. If you're in that moment where you're like, “I'm self-sabotaging right now,”

or “I'm doing something for the plot.” You do that. I've been there, but I'm going to be over here, okay? And if you come to me with it and then don't take my advice, I'm distancing myself from you.

I don't want chaos in my life. And I don't want to go out of my way to stay up on the phone with you for hours on end, listening to you talk about all your relationship problems, just to have you go back?

That's stupid, that's dumb. Another part of it: If you're actually in a good relationship, sometimes people will try to sabotage it. And I hate to say that I don't think that all the time. Okay. Sometimes there are some snakes around you, though,

and you gotta be careful who you share relationship advice with. Because there are girls who are always just like, “Just dump him!” “Just dump him!” Sometimes he's a good man, okay? The man is good; he just did something dumb.

And I'm not talking about cheating. I'm talking about, you know, like he pissed you off. You know what I mean? Because we don't tolerate cheaters around here. Okay, that's just one thing I gotta make clear.

But if he genuinely made a mistake and made up for it, you're going to have girls being like, “Oh, I would have dumped him for that!” “I would have!” Okay, okay, really stand on that. Then those girls who are judgmental

always get hit with their karma, too. That's just something that I've experienced. You know what I mean? Everyone goes through their toxic relationship era, and sometimes you just gotta let your friend be in that, but stay at a distance.

And that's why you need to accept people as they are and place them where they belong. If you're getting pissed off at a friend because you're like, girl, “Why don't you just leave him?” “Why don't you just do this?”

Sometimes they're not ready to face that within themselves. And that's not a 'you' issue. You, as a friend, need to distance yourself if it's causing you mental distress. But I don't think you should end a friendship

based on their relationship problems. I just feel like you're involving yourself too much in that situation. So yeah, just don't share it. If you're going to make some stupid decisions, just keep it to yourself and spill the tea later.

That's what I do. Because you live and you learn. All-nighter setting spray. And then we're doing the One/Size Beauty powder. *aggressive blending* One/Size Beauty blush trio, shade: Cheek Clapper. I already use the blush,

so I'm going to use this blush. This is also the highlight I use, but I'm going to do highlight later. Don't let girls know who your ex is. Don't let girls you just met know who your ex is. That's going to become their ex.

Okay? Because he's going to go to them and it's going to be a he-he-ha-ha. No. If it's your close friend, of course, bestie. Like, we're going to make fun of him.

We're going to say he's a clown because, obviously. I didn't go for looks, but seriously, don't let these girls know, okay? They don't need to know who you've been with. And that's the next one. What?

Number five? Don't kiss and tell. That one's obvious. But don't post when you're at a place, okay? If you're at a place and you're posting on your Instagram story, that's literally you just being like,

Hey, come find me, come stalk me. Literally. Don't do that. Don't do that. There's no reason people need to know exactly where you are. Leave, wait two hours, and then post it. Or shoot,

wait until the next day to post it because then you're content prepping. You know what I mean? It's the age of influencers, okay? So you can content prep. You went out to dinner two nights ago, and all of a sudden

you're at home in your bed and you're like, 'Let me pretend I'm going to dinner.' It'll definitely confuse your roster, but in a good way. I mean, that's what I do on my Instagram. That means you should go follow it.

Okay. If you're watching this far, you obviously vibe with me and you obviously like me. Go check out the Instagram. We're almost at 10K, but subscribe if you want to. Okay. Am I good enough? Please, please like me? Am I good enough?

Shut up. Sorry. I'm weird sometimes. I love a good trauma dump, but girl, nobody needs to know about your mom's divorce. Nobody needs to know. Nobody needs to know. Okay, okay. Here's the thing. If the vibe is trauma dumping,

Then we're going to trauma dump, okay? We're going to bond over our trauma. It's fine to bond over trauma. It's not that deep. But when it is that deep, and when it's a stranger, and when you're in a

professional setting, why are you talking to me about your mom's divorce? And don't get me wrong, I order myself a cappuccino every single morning. I know I yap, and sometimes it's trauma, okay? Sometimes it's trauma.

And that's just how it is. But I think you should keep certain traumas to yourself. If you do it, do it in a joking way, okay? Don't be weird and make the conversation dull. Like, do it in a funny way.

If you're going to trauma dump, don't make it serious. Don't make me say, "Oh, I'm sorry." Like, why am I saying sorry? I didn't hurt you? That's the next one. What number is it? Seven?

I don't know what number we're on. If you're meeting someone new, don't tell them about your past. This is the Nyx, I don't know, eyeliner. It's... I put it in my waterline. Don't tell the man

you just met about your past. Okay? And I think this goes for anyone, but this is for the girls. This... Obviously, I'm doing a makeup tutorial. I feel like it's mostly the girls here. If you're a man, it's cool too.

Okay, I'm not going to make you feel weird for being here, but if you just met a man, okay? You don't need to be talking about how your ex hurt you because he's going to do the same thing. If anything, say your ex was great.

Okay? Don't talk about the parts where he was bad until you're actually, like, involved with the man. You know what I mean? Because the first day you're saying, oh, he did this to me. He did that to me.

That's just him taking notes. He's like, oh, okay. So she tolerates this. She tolerates cheating. She tolerates lying. He's taking notes, being like, damn, he did her like that.

I'm gonna do her worse. I'm going to do her worse. He is going to do you worse. Wake up, wake up. He's going to do you way worse, and you're going to be crying. And you'll be like,

why did you do this to me? Because you literally said, this is how my ex hurt me. You gave him a tutorial, babe. Like, can we please be honest right now? I don't care if you lie to the man, okay?

I don't care if you say my ex did this, this, this, and this for me. I don't care what you have to do. Just don't tell him that he cheated on you and dogged you out. Don't tell him that.

Shit. At this point in the dating economy, that can be inferred. Okay, but you can still say, "Oh, he opened every door for me. He bought me flowers." He did highlight all the good, positive things he did,

even if he didn't do them. Okay, you're manifesting him doing them because, obviously, men are competitive. Okay. If you approach a date like, "Okay, this is just how I've been treated, you know, obviously I'm going to wait.

I'm not going to rush to open the door." I'm going to wait for him to open the door. I'm going to wait for him to take the lead. It's going to set the stage for you to be treated better,

because from the beginning, he should be treating you like a queen. He should be courting you. I think some of y'all need a little more respect for the love bombing phase. And I'm not saying that in a funny way.

I'm saying that legitimately. Like, feel the honeymoon phase. Shit. Why are we talking about trauma on our first date? Why are we talking about how your ex treated you badly on your first date? Of course, a man is going to be scared.

I'm not saying live a lie. I'm not telling you to fabricate your entire existence and say you grew up in a perfect two-parent household, and you were, you know, rich. No, I'm not saying that. I'm just saying

Don't share things right off the bat, like, you know what I mean? The trauma comes out later. It's like, can we have peace in the first two months of meeting each other? Next. Don't share mistakes you're actively working on,

you know, regrets you have that are just unnecessary. Some people will never understand. All right? And it's okay that you've made mistakes in the past. Like, I feel like so many people would be like, oh, "I would never, I would never do that."

No. Yes, you would. And you've done some things that you regret in your past. If you're actively working on becoming a better person. Like, don't get me wrong, this doesn't apply to, like, people who've done horrible, terrible things

and are sitting on death row. I'm just talking about, like, maybe you led someone on. Or you didn't communicate effectively, or you screamed at someone, like, you know what I mean? Things like that. There are going to be times

where you're obviously in the wrong. Ask yourself if this person has the awareness to understand your change. And if they don't, you just, like, don't really mention it because, at the end of the day, like, nobody needs to know

your deepest, darkest mistakes or ways that you fumbled or things like that. Back to lighthearted things. Don't give someone your drink. Are you stupid? Not even a friend. Like, even a female friend. Yes. Most females,

You can trust them with your drink. Because, like, we're women. There should be no reason you're drinking out of someone else's bottle. There should be no reason you're letting someone you don't know prepare your drink. Unless it's the bartender, all right?

Unless it's the person literally working there and they hand it to you. Not to, like, weirdly steer the conversation super deep, but, like, things happen fast, especially with your girls. Like, watch out for them. Even watch out for girls

who are strangers. Like, if you see something weird, get someone involved because you never know if you're saving their life. Next? Don't share your vision board with people. I just made a vision board and I was hesitant to show even my close friends,

because I don't know about y'all, but I'm really delusional when it comes to my achievements and the things I want to do. And so I can't just show, like, the regular average person my vision board because they're going to be like,

Oh, you want to be on the red carpet one day? Shut up. Like, okay, God forbid you have dreams. God forbid you have things you want to achieve in life. So yeah, don't share your vision board with people.

Keep it to yourself. I don't really believe in someone evil-eyeing me and really affecting me. Like, yes, people look at me and are jealous or things like that. I'm fine with that. Haters can be mad.

You know, like, everyone has the ability to be mad. I'd be mad too if I were you all. However, I don't need to show you all my dreams because then it just makes me feel like you're all involved in a process

you shouldn't be involved in. This is for my delusional brain. You know, my dreams are for me. It's not for anyone else. It's not to prove to people this that and the third; it's literally just to make me feel good about myself

and to have a vision for my future. And so if you're making a vision board this year, yeah, just don't really show anyone. Why do they need to know? They don't need to know. This lip liner is so cool because it just, like,

peels off, or lip stain or whatever. I use it as a liner. I just rub out whatever I feel like doesn't look right. And then I put a gloss on top of it. This is the Maybelline gloss. The last oddly

specific thing that you shouldn't tell people about is if you've done any crime. I know that's, like, really obvious, but I feel like people get online nowadays and go, like, 'I used to shoplift.' I used to do, like,

the digital footprint is a thing. Put your brain cells together and realize that, like, not everyone is going to be on board with that. Again, like, don't discuss your past mistakes or things like that. Don't just come on the internet and be like, 'Yeah,

These are the crimes I did. This is a tutorial on how to avoid crimes. Like, go log off, touch some grass. Okay, but my makeup... wait. My makeup, my makeup, my makeup. Okay. I'll tag all the products I use below because I'm not a gatekeeper.

There are things I don't tell you all, but I'm not a gatekeeper. There are also just little things like, don't tell people what car you drive. Don't tell people your driver's license number. Don't tell people your social...

like, obvious ones. Don't be dumb. But these were just some oddly specific ones. And kind of just like a little rant for you guys. If you're new here, my name is Natalie. This is where I share ways I'm getting my shit together

so that you can get your shit together. If you like more of that, be sure to hit that subscribe button. Check out my Instagram; all my links are down below, and be sure to comment and let me know what you agree with, what you disagree with.

And that being said, I love you guys so much and I'll see you guys next week. Yes, I'm looking at the viewfinder for most of this video. That's because I'm doing my makeup. Yeah.

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Secrets to Keep to Yourself for Safety and Privacy

Don't share your phone carrier to avoid one-time pin fraud and identity theft.

Avoid revealing password-related information like mother's maiden name or first pet's name.

Navigating Relationship Issues and Seeking Support

Recognize when you're in a toxic relationship and are ready to leave.

Friends want to help, but repeatedly sharing the same problems can strain friendships.

Be cautious about sharing relationship advice with others who might try to sabotage your relationship.

Distance yourself from a friend's toxic relationship if it causes you mental distress, but don't end the friendship.

Additional Privacy and Relationship Advice

Don't reveal your ex to new acquaintances to avoid potential issues.

Don't post your real-time location on social media; wait before sharing.

Be mindful of oversharing personal trauma, especially with strangers or in professional settings.

Avoid discussing past negative experiences with new romantic interests.

Don't share mistakes you're actively working on, unless the person has the awareness to understand your change.

Never leave your drink unattended, even with friends.

Keep your vision board private; it's for your personal goals and aspirations.

Refrain from disclosing past crimes or illegal activities online.

Avoid sharing sensitive information like car details, driver's license, or social security number.