Ah, it hurts. Ah, it hurts. Thank you. No, thank you as well. So, there’s another story that has come in. First of all, it’s a really common concern, but it’s hard to get close to girls. It’s not that girls are uncomfortable and don’t want to get close; rather, they want to, but it’s difficult. What should I do? What’s hard about it? If you divide it into male friends and female friends, what’s difficult? When I meet guys, I feel comfortable and can joke around easily, but when I’m with girls, I feel cautious about joking and I don’t know what to say, so I struggle to speak and become timid. I know I’m not a bad person, but what I understand is that when I interact comfortably with guys, it’s because they welcome me as an outsider.

It seems that the person in question may be somewhat lacking in forming relationships that the other party would welcome. Not all women are bubbly and overly excited. Women do not all behave in an exaggerated manner. The world of women is quite diverse, but there must be something that connects them all. However, that understanding needs to be acquired. You mentioned that you feel comfortable joking around with guys, but that cannot be accurately described as communication based on a proper understanding of each other. You said you want to date same-sex friends, so you need to figure out what they want. Honestly, it seems you haven't really studied what your male friends desire. While you may quickly become close with guys upon meeting them, it takes more time to connect with girls.

After eating, I feel like I can't quite fit in with that group. When I'm with the boys, there’s definitely an effort that I wouldn't make otherwise. And perhaps there have been attempts to date girls to some extent, but those attempts could have ended in disappointment a few times. However, during those moments of frustration, it might have felt easier to hang out with the boys. You fail and then retreat, fail again and retreat, and maybe that’s how it ended up. But that’s not necessarily a bad thing; it’s just how people are. We tend to gravitate towards what feels more comfortable. Still, I believe that the effort to connect is definitely necessary. I don’t know if you’re aware of it, but others are contemplating how to fit into same-sex social circles. You might think that all the other girls are getting along just fine, but that’s not the case.

In women's social circles, there are necessary rules and efforts to get along with each other, including communication styles that need to be developed. Of course, some people might be good at this from the start, but there are many who are trying hard to blend into their social environment. The same goes for men's social circles; it's not just a matter of being an outsider. I see. So, would it be good to observe their atmosphere and keep trying? For example, if you are sitting among women and feel like you can't join in the conversation, you should speak up. However, the friends around you are unlikely to say, Hey, you should go home. Let's say there are four women sitting together, chatting. You might think that you can't fit in, but did the three friends there really not say a word to you?

Did they only not give you a spoon and chopsticks? That's not true. The reason you think you can't fit in is that the things that existed when you were hanging out with the boys no longer exist now. You need to understand that. Three girls have ostracized you; they openly ignored you and disregarded what you said. It's not that when you hang out with boys, you naturally had a sense of consideration for the things you thought were elements that matched well with them. So now that you’re with the girls, the situation is not going the way you want it to. When you’re with the boys, it feels different compared to being with the girls. It’s not that they are ostracizing you, but rather you feel that the situation is not unfolding in a way that suits your preferences. This is what it means to be ignored and ostracized, right? Do you understand what I mean? The things that were naturally present when you were with the boys are now not visible.

The atmosphere of consideration has now disappeared. It has been removed, and we are starting from a zero base. Relationships are something that you have to understand; they have become less supportive. You need to realize this. Being the only woman in a group, usually, the boys would worry about you feeling excluded, so they would initiate conversations and throw interesting topics your way. However, that advantage is no longer there, so you need to jump into the conversation yourself. You have to bring up topics that fit the discussion, interject, and watch for the right timing. Everyone has to do this now, and you need to do it too. This doesn’t mean you have to adopt a style of replacing men or anything like that. It’s not about that; the consideration you receive is certainly valid, but without it, this situation...

It's that I can't talk about it. I really thought that guys treated me like a male friend, but that's not possible. Of course, I think it's possible to have male friends and female friends, but ultimately we are the same. We are not the same; that's not it. You keep insisting that you are not a male friend, but if you were caught up in the question of why it's hard for girls to get close to you, then today you are taking away a very important key. Ultimately, we are different. We are different, right? There’s no way we can be the same in a group of guys. I believe you can move forward with that understanding.

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