Expanding Your Perception Box: Change Your Narrative

Nicole Vignola believes that individuals can reshape their self-perception and break free from limiting narratives.

### Breaking Free from the Perception Box: Rewiring Your Self-Image
* 🧠 Deep-rooted beliefs about our identity can trap us in a "**Perception Box**," affecting how we see ourselves and how we think others perceive us.
* 🔍 Neuroscience reveals that we have the ability to **change our thoughts and expand our self-perception**, allowing for **personal growth and transformation**.
* 👨 Our stories are often shaped by our upbringing and environment, leading to **"observational knowledge"** that can sometimes **reinforce negative self-images**.
* 💔 The concept of "**negativity bias**" can cause us to dwell on negative thoughts, like feeling **unworthy or not good enough**, which can become a **repetitive cycle**.
* 🌱 By focusing on "**small wins**," individuals can shift their perspective and recognize positive aspects of their lives that they previously overlooked.
* 🚧 Changing ingrained thought patterns requires conscious effort, much like **paving a new road**, and this process can lead to a **healthier self-image**.
* 🧩 Metacognition allows us to **observe and label our thoughts**, helping to **alleviate negative emotional responses** and enabling us to **take control of our narratives**.
* 🔄 Ultimately, anyone can change their narrative and break free from limiting beliefs, as the brain retains its **capacity for change throughout life**.

- Those deep-rooted beliefs about who we are and how we perceive ourselves in the world and where we place ourselves in the world can keep us feeling stuck in this Perception Box about how we see ourselves - and not only that - how we think other people interpret us as well. It could be we are a sporty one or a creative one, or that perhaps we want to be someone that's creative, but we're not. And the question is whether that narrative is really yours. It wasn't until I started studying neuroscience that I realized that we have this ability to change our trajectory, change our thoughts, and we can expand the box that we're in. We can expand our perception of who we are in the world. I'm Nicole Vignola. I am a neuroscientist and organizational psychologist. I'm the author of Rewire: Break the Cycle, Alter Your Thoughts, and Create Lasting Change. So the stories that we tell ourselves about ourselves

have been shaped by our environment, our upbringing. We have something called 'observational knowledge,' and that means that we learn about how the world is by observing those around us in our formative years. You might learn how to cook, how to get to school without your parents having to teach you. You're not having to be told these things, you just kind of know them through nuanced communication whilst you're growing up. But observational knowledge has a flip side: Sometimes we observe our peers or parents being highly critical of themselves, and so we learn to do that as well. Or perhaps your parents will exacerbate a particular narrative. And then that boxes us into this kind of fixed mindset in our adult life where we don't want to step outside the realms of what's been defined for us. So I have two friends, they are both sisters. Samantha was always a good dancer, and her parents always highlighted that about her.

She struggled a lot growing up because she wanted to be more than just a ballet dancer. Her sister, Martha, was always the more academic one, the higher achiever. When Martha then went on to the real world, she started to experience failures. She didn't know how to handle it because her entire persona was built on this very smart, high-achieving person who had never really failed. So within this Perception Box, you have this pre-programming that was given to you by your peers and parents, and it's not really your programming. And for some people, that pre-programming is fine, but for others, it isn't. So as humans, we do have a 'negativity bias.' So we perceive negative information more greatly than positive. And the negativity bias can really highlight those things that we say to ourselves, those negative stories, things like, I am not good enough. I'm not worthy enough to be loved. Maybe it's the way that you speak

to yourself about your body. Now you add on another layer, you've got this 'confirmation bias' that tells you to go into the world and confirm that you are correct. And so we can stay stuck in this loop of perpetuating these stories that are no longer serving us. If left unchecked, it will basically form a template to how you see the world. So you will carry that into every aspect of your life, and your brain will perceive that as normal. So whilst our thoughts are extremely powerful, we can use that to our advantage to really pull out the positive narratives that we want for ourselves. So sometimes in a social setting, I will start to plant a seed, and I will ask friends, clients, family, what are the small wins or the big wins of your week? And generally speaking, people will start out by saying, Not that much. And as soon as they start talking, I'll go, That's a small win.

And they're like, Oh yeah, that is. And then as we go along in the day or the conversation, they start to see more and more small wins than they previously had seen. By pulling out the small wins, it will start to shine a light on a different outcome, not the one that you have usually perpetuated. And it's not until you bring conscious attention to it that you can start to make a change, because the brain is just doing what it knows best. It's going to optimize energy for other things and just repeat what has been ingrained. So if you have a pathway that has been ingrained and it's a beautiful tarmac highway, and now you want to change it, you're gonna have to step onto a dirt road. And then you have to pave that dirt road. And then you have to put in some streetlights. And eventually, this path will be a tarmac highway.

As humans, we have something called 'metacognition.' We can watch thoughts come in and exit. And not just that, but name them. When we name our thoughts, we engage the medial prefrontal cortex, which is responsible for higher-order thinking and problem-solving. And what that does is that it alleviates the pressure from the emotional brain, the limbic system, which usually perpetuates those negative stories even more. When we break those automatic patterns, we take control of that steering wheel and we start to say, Hey, this is how things have usually been. This is the box that I put myself in, that parents put me in, but I want to change that. And you start to essentially rewire and reshape your Perception Box and how you conduct yourself in the world. One of the questions I always get is, you know, 'Can I change?' Whoever you are, if you have a brain, it can change.

The brain is capable of change well into old age, and this is true for everybody: neurotypicals, neurodivergents. We don't need to stay stuck with the narratives that we have reinforced if it's no longer serving us, because they can absolutely change.

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Deep-rooted beliefs about ourselves can keep us feeling stuck in a fixed perception of who we are.

Neuroscience shows that we have the ability to change our thoughts and expand our self-perception.

Observational knowledge from our upbringing shapes our narratives, but it can also lead to self-criticism and a fixed mindset in adulthood.

She struggled with her identity growing up, feeling overshadowed by her high-achieving sister, Martha.

Martha's subsequent failures in the real world highlighted the impact of pre-programmed perceptions and the negativity bias, leading to a cycle of self-doubt.

The speaker emphasizes the power of thoughts and suggests planting seeds of positivity by encouraging others to recognize their small and big wins.

The Power of Small Wins and Metacognition

Focusing on small wins can shift one's perspective and create positive change.

The brain's ingrained pathways can be altered by consciously addressing thoughts and engaging in metacognition.

By breaking automatic patterns and naming thoughts, individuals can rewire their perception and take control of their actions, leading to personal transformation.

The brain can change well into old age for everyone, regardless of neurotypical or neurodivergent status.

We don't have to be bound by unhelpful narratives, as they can be changed.

The possibility of change is always present, offering a chance for growth and transformation.