Life Values and Relationships: A Personal Perspective

Nobu values authenticity, personal freedom, and meaningful relationships over materialism and societal expectations in life and business.

### Life Advice and Insights from a YouTuber with 200,000 Subscribers
* 🎉 The YouTuber recently reached **200,000 subscribers** and expressed satisfaction with the growth, emphasizing the **importance of creating content true to one's preferences**.
* 💬 Despite receiving criticism after uploading a Tesla test drive video, the YouTuber believes in **expressing opinions clearly** rather than trying to **please everyone**.
* 💑 The YouTuber shared their unique marriage story, highlighting the importance of **understanding past relationships and emotional exchanges** to **understand oneself and others**.
* 🧠 When it comes to forming and maintaining human relationships, the YouTuber suggested that it is essential to meet people who **warm the heart, provide learning points, or offer help**.
* 💼 To expand one's network effectively, the YouTuber advised being an **attractive person** rather than focusing solely on **seeking help**.
* 📚 Citing Bertrand Russell, the YouTuber emphasized that a life guided and nurtured by **knowledge and love** is the most valuable.
* 🔓 The YouTuber considered **freedom - both economic and mental** - as the most important value in life.
* 🎮 As the YouTuber entered their 40s, they adopted a mindset of **viewing life as a game** and gradually shifting towards a **more observational perspective**.

I finally reached 200,000 subscribers, and although it came very slowly, I am very satisfied. I think I came solidly as much as I came slowly. I tried to create popular content. Even though I made efforts, I believe it's better to express our preferences more clearly rather than trying to please everyone. Recently, I uploaded a Tesla test drive video and talked about Model 3 Performance, but I received a lot of criticism even though I said it was good. So, even if I said it was good and that it had improved a lot, some people criticized me, saying it's because you can't adapt to one-pedal driving. I guess that's unavoidable. When you're on YouTube, people even ask about marriage.

I wonder if anyone is interested in hearing about the uncle's marriage story. Honestly, even if you listen to it, it's not interesting. After coming back from Paris, the day after returning from Paris, I went on a blind date. Despite the jet lag and feeling a bit out of it, I went on the blind date. And my wife came. So, we started talking about this and that, and I mentioned that I had just come back from France the day before and it was so much fun. She asked what I did there. So, I started explaining about the city of Paris in France, starting from the storming of the Bastille in the French Revolution of 1789, then the Tennis Court Oath, and how Jacques-Benigne Bossuet seized power and fought with the Girondins. I explained the process like that, talking about how the French Revolution has influenced our society.

You really liked her, so I actually asked my wife later, and she said that she found it very interesting seeing someone who only met medical students since buying the house. You have a plan, don't you? In fact, I don't really tell stories like that. I'm not good at talking about different things just to impress someone on a blind date. So, I'm the type who just straightforwardly talks about what I'm interested in and what I think. If someone doesn't like how I am, they don't have to meet me. I'm that kind of person. So, I said that, and somehow it matched well. That's how we dated, and our relationship wasn't very dramatic. I explained my dating history from when I was 20 years old to a certain age, how I met certain friends, and how I met this friend.

How much I loved, why I loved, how we broke up, what influence I had from that friend, I've talked about all these stories. I've done everything. Why did I do it? Because I think in order to understand myself now, I need to know about the women who influenced me or about women and relationships. That's something I need to know. We are not trying to be cool or anything, but we just think the past is the past. So, what can we do about it? Then, this person must have been influenced by many people until they formed their current values. Especially in relationships, when people meet and deeply share emotions and get hurt, right? If someone has never deeply loved someone or never deeply parted ways with someone.

I really wonder if it's possible to truly understand someone's emotions so delicately. That's why I don't think it's a problem at all to talk about it. Understanding a person means understanding their identity and ego. I think it's very difficult to do so without understanding the deep emotional exchanges in the past. So, I don't feel bad or fake at all about how much that person loved their first love or how they felt. I don't have any attachment. In fact, I have a personality that doesn't cling to people. Therefore, I cannot understand people in a literary way. I don't understand everyone, but if I make an effort to understand, I think I can understand various aspects of that person, even the ugly ones. The image of a person, their aura, some kind of perception.

When it comes to deconstruction, in a way, it can be understood phenomenologically. We, as humans, oh, there are things like this too. When we got married, we didn't even take studio photos. We just went to the courthouse. But we skipped every process when we got married. We didn't do anything except the wedding ceremony, not even taking studio photos. Instead, I got married in September, but in August, during summer vacation, we went to Phrao and took snapshots there. Oh, the snapshots cost around 500,000 won, but I think we only paid 300,000 won. I remember it that way, so we used those photos to replace the wedding photos. Anyway, there's nothing special about our love story. We dated like everyone else and got married similarly. My wife and I are not people who consider formalities so important, so of course, the wedding ceremony is...

I had my wedding at Shilla Hotel, but it was quite special. However, we minimized everything. We minimized the flower decorations and didn't spend that much money. In fact, we didn't spend that much. I think it's unreasonable to rent a house and have a wedding at a hotel. I believe it's unreasonable to spend money for the sake of others' attention. I brought my Sony action camera to my wedding and filmed my friends who attended. I asked them how they felt, saying, How do you feel? I'm getting married now, tell me how you feel. I ended up filming my friends and still have those files. I keep them as a memento. It was really fun. I had a lot of fun at my wedding. The weather was really nice that day.

It was good, and I remember each person's expression one by one, and at the wedding, we didn't invite many people. We only invited close friends, about 200 people in total. We didn't invite many people, only about 200 in total when combined. We just said we wouldn't take initial deposits, but some friends just gave initial deposits among ourselves and said, Let's just drink and eat. So we kept it small. We had a small wedding. I think weddings becoming a profit business is a bit off, and personally, if someone I'm not close to invites me to their wedding, I don't go. I don't go at all, I don't give a wedding gift, and I don't receive one either. I might say it lacks manners, but that becomes a burden. So, while doing a small wedding, I think it's right not to receive congratulatory money. Right? It's expensive during the Silla Dynasty.

Of course, it's expensive. Of course, it's expensive. I wanted to say that you should just do it according to your own passport. Even if it's burdensome, there are many people who insist on doing it at the Shilla Hotel. There are a lot of them. But really, I can't understand when I see that kind of thing. I really can't understand. If you have that kind of money, you should expand your house. Among the people I know, there is someone who pays a deposit of 200 million won and a monthly rent, living in a 34-pyeong house in Banpo, saying that even if his wife dies soon, he must live in Banpo. But they still have their wedding at the Shilla Hotel. Honestly, I absolutely cannot understand why someone living in a 34-pyeong house on rent is having a wedding at the Shilla Hotel. I really don't understand. If I didn't have the means, I definitely wouldn't do it.

I didn't know much about the world, so someone asked me how a single woman should live. Therefore, it seems like I will live as a single person. Since dating is not easy, what should I prepare for instead of getting married at the right age? I tried to ask for advice, and I asked my wife. I asked her, Hey, you seem like you will live as a single person. What do you think about this? When I asked her, it seemed like men and women indeed think a bit differently. In my case, I think one must have economic ability first to secure a position economically and be able to live independently. I presented this first, and my wife said that building a relationship that can replace the sense of stability and emotional connection provided by family is the most important. So, our perspectives were different, but I fully agreed with my wife's words.

So in the end, it's about money and economic ability. Economic ability is the ability to live alone. Secondly, it's the sense of stability and emotional connection provided by the legal framework called family. Also, by having a child and interacting with the child, you can have a lot of emotional connections. Even if you have money and economic ability, as you get older, your friends all raise children, get married, and drift away, making you feel lonely. Therefore, isn't it okay to have relationships that can replace those emotional connections? I think it's important to establish relationships where you can have such emotional connections. How do you maintain and form human relationships? Isn't there no clear answer to this? It's different for each person, but to maintain human relationships, you need to continue to see that person. And to see that person means...

I consider it as an investment. Investment. I have a lot of time or nothing to do, so it's not about meeting someone. If it doesn't meet three criteria, if it doesn't meet any of the three criteria, I don't meet people. I have a family, children, a company, things I have to do, YouTube, and so on. There are too many things to do. That's why meeting people efficiently is natural. But efficiency doesn't necessarily mean it's helpful to meet. So, please listen to what I'm suggesting here. Among the three, at least one must be satisfied to meet people. I think meeting people is when at least one of the three is fulfilled. First, it's not about whether the person is helpful to me emotionally, but just meeting this person warms my heart, brings back memories, like meeting old friends usually does. Just meeting this person feels good.

Someone who makes me comfortable, I want to meet them even if I have to make time. It's tiring to meet people based on understanding relationships all the time. Meeting someone who can fill in the gaps and make me less tired is the second point to learn from. It could be someone with a lot of knowledge, a smart person, or someone who knows a lot about wine. I met someone who knows a lot about wine, so I can learn a lot about wine from them, or maybe this person is really good at driving because I have a hobby of racing, so I can learn driving from them. Or I can listen to insights or expertise on something. The third point is meeting a helpful person. If any of these three - connection, network, or help - is not met, there is no reason to meet people. Just meeting people without fulfilling any of these, without any thoughts, emotions, or learning points, feels empty.

It's no use, why bother meeting? Students may not know well, but meeting people in their 20s and meeting them after their mid-30s are different. Because after the mid-30s, usually there is no time. In your 20s, you may not have money, but after your mid-30s and now in your late 30s, you have more money, but less time. And there are so many things to do. So you have to divide your time. If you are not satisfied with any of these three, when you meet that person and come back, you will feel a huge sense of regret. You will think, Why did I spend time with this person? So, in emotional learning points, at least one of the three needs to be satisfied in order to meet. If none of the three are met, you will drift apart. I probably don't want to meet either, and I avoid it, and that's how we drift apart. Think about it. This business purpose also makes me attractive.

You need to be a person for networking to work better now. If you think meeting someone will be helpful, you should be the one to reach out. Even if that person is busy, they may not meet you. First of all, to expand your networking, don't think that you need help, but you need to be an attractive person first. If you have attractive qualities, people will be curious and approach you first in many cases. So, I think it's good to do that. Why am I the only one who doesn't know this? Whether you have a lot of money or not, human relationships are always difficult and challenging. Of course, if you have a lot of money, many flies will gather, and if you have less money, people may not meet you easily. However, as I mentioned earlier, even if you have less money, if you become an attractive person, you can easily meet the people you want.

There are many opportunities to meet. That's right. I think there are two perspectives on who should be kept at a distance. One is the giver, a typical giver. People with a strong giver tendency think that they should stay away from them. Socially, people with a strong giver tendency tend to be more successful. They are the ones who give, the ones who take. But I also have a giver tendency, and I have a giver tendency as well. Everyone has both giver and taker tendencies. People with overwhelmingly high taker tendencies always harm me. Whenever I see them, they always act like they are basic even though they are takers. They keep saying what they can do, they show off a lot, and so on. But,

First of all, it's essential to develop the ability to see through this, no matter how much one tries. Even if I try my best, I always end up being deceived. I don't have the eyes to see such people. If you say this, then it means that you shouldn't do business. It seems more appropriate to work comfortably. I tend to avoid people with a strong predator instinct. Also, I tend to avoid people with a strong beastly nature. In the long run, it seems that you naturally avoid these kinds of people. I have had a lot of experience with both predators and business. There are many predator businesses out there. In fact, most businesses that focus on sales are essentially predator businesses. For example, insurance or the used car industry, it's the same. I have done a lot of business with such friends. There are really so many predators. It's beyond imagination how many there are. But the public doesn't know about these predators too much.

It's unfortunate that many people don't know who this person really is. Because the appearance this person shows externally is not the same, it is too flashy and too sophisticated. What makes this person unique is because of the content I have. Please refer to that and watch it once. Friends with a strong tendency, well, whenever, anyway, it seems like there is not much good connection. So, in the end, if you spend a long time together, it seems like a good connection is not formed well. Even thinking is very different, the direction of life is different, values are different, everything is different, so in the end, it seems like they don't mix well, like oil and water, they don't mix well. So, I am making some effort to avoid these two types. I have talked about what values ​​I prioritize in life several times on YouTube. Bertrand Russell, a Nobel Prize in Literature recipient, is a Christian.

In Analects, it says that a wonderful life is a life guided by knowledge and nurtured by love. It's such a great saying. So, in terms of the value of life, I think there were two axes in life. For Russell, one was knowledge. Knowledge is the life of a rational libertarian. And the other is love, a relationship. I think a life nurtured by love is the most important value. So, I believe that a life guided and nurtured by knowledge and love is the most valuable life, rather than a life guided by religion or material things, believing in a god through religion, or a life guided and nurtured by material things. It encompasses both happiness and unhappiness. Therefore, many happy people have low expectations, and many unhappy people have high expectations.

There are some relative parts, and here it seems like you grouped similar questions together. You asked what the essence of life is for Nobu, who is 30 years old. It's not easy to think about turning 30 and facing death, but you wrote that you are striving to live by simply being grateful for the finite nature of life. If I were to recommend a book for you, there is a book called How to Die by Atul Gawande. My wife and I went on a honeymoon to Rome and toured the southern part of Italy. We read the book How to Die by Atul Gawande on the beaches of southern Italy and were deeply impressed. It's a really good book. How to Die is not just a book for people facing death, but also for how to live.

It's a Korean book, so I really hope you read this book. It's a really, really good book. When asked about the most important value in life, I think it's freedom. I believe that freedom is the most important value when living. The concept of freedom is very abstract and comprehensive, so if we elaborate a bit more, there is economic freedom and also mental freedom. In fact, I think the biggest reason for earning money is to achieve economic and mental freedom. However, there are many rich people who lack mental freedom. I think that in mental freedom, the ability to make choices and decisions is very important. If we talk about choices and decisions in a Sartrean way, it's about being able to make choices freely, but not being mistaken for being free.

The roles assigned to me in League of Legends and what, by what environment or not, unconsciously or constantly being forced to, not those choices, but really freely choosing, pursuing mental freedom, pursuing that is quite a different concept. So, as I go through life, I think the most important value is freedom. If there is a goal in life, I think living while cherishing this freedom is the goal. When asked what kind of person to build a family with, before thinking about wanting to meet someone, I think you need to know your own personality first. You have to know yourself first to be able to meet a good partner. If I say I love money too much, if I can't live without money, if I think appearances are too important, if I think I have to live more than others, and if I have to live to a certain age, then I have to meet a rich person. I think it's important to be precise about what values I truly pursue.

I think you have to know that first. I think that comes first. I think they asked what each age group desired in terms of desires and values. When I was in my teens, I wanted to go to college. I took the GED exam and went to college. At that time, I wasn't very good at studying. I was actually the worst in the class and not good at all. I dropped out in my third year and took the GED exam, did well on the college entrance exam, and got into a good university. I wanted to go to a good university back then. In my twenties, I wanted to have a nice car and I wanted to get good grades. I studied for the accounting exam in my twenties, so I wanted to pass the exam and become smarter. I think those desires were very strong in my twenties. I think I was very vain and had a lot of vanity. And in my thirties, I wanted to have a nice car.

I wanted to have a nice house, and I think I wanted to have a conscious desire to be different from others. In my 40s, I'm thinking of breaking away a bit like this. So, I made content looking at life as a game. If you are curious, you should watch it once. I think it's a very good content. When you look at investments, businesses, and everything as a game, it reduces a lot of stress that comes from there. I've been testing that a lot. In my 40s, when I think about what I pursue, it's about gaining freedom. As I mentioned earlier, it's about gaining mental and material freedom. To gain freedom, I should be able to make choices. Speaking a bit more philosophically, Sartre said,

As I mentioned, my goal for my 40s is to live as a mature individual and to be able to make choices and decisions entirely on my own. I don't really think about my current position as being so high, so when I hear questions like this, it's a bit embarrassing and strange, but anyway, when you asked if there is a mindset that was most influential or necessary for success in 2030, there can be various stories. Some friends in business might say, Work yourself to death in what you do, work hard until you die, and become really good at it. They might also say, Throw work-life balance out the window. If you want to earn more than others, what work-life balance? Freeze to death for more money. There can be various stories like this, but I just

Looking at life a bit like a game seems to be better. As I age year by year, I am gradually changing into a more observational mindset. When I look back at the many worries, stresses, and anxieties I had in my 20s, many of them seem like nothing after some time has passed. Things that I thought were very important become completely insignificant after ten years. The future is unpredictable, and nobody can predict it. Just a few years ago, we couldn't even imagine the era of AlphaGo, Chatbot, and OpenAI. That's why we cannot know the future. Anyway, I think it would be nice to enjoy life like a game with a more observational mindset, having fun and enjoying it.

In your 20s and 30s, there is a bit of a difference. If you are in your 20s, you really need to find something that you can do well. Instead of following what others say is good, you should think about finding something that you can do well. I'm not someone who excels in studying, so even if others say something is good, like going to law school and studying to become a lawyer, I don't think it's the right path. No matter how you try to become a lawyer, you will inevitably fall behind in that competition. So, I think that in your 20s, you should find something that you can do well. Also, in your 20s, you should gain a lot of experiences to be able to find such a thing, don't you think?

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Reflections on Reaching 200,000 Subscribers

Despite the slow growth, the creator is satisfied with reaching 200,000 subscribers and emphasizes the importance of expressing personal preferences.

The creator also shares their experience of a blind date, discussing their straightforward nature and the significance of understanding past relationships in forming their current values and identity.

The creator expresses a belief in the importance of deeply understanding someone's emotions and experiences in order to understand their identity.

The speaker and their spouse chose to minimize traditional wedding formalities and expenses.

They had a small ceremony with close friends, avoided spending on unnecessary things, and used personal photos instead of professional ones.

The couple prioritized personal meaning over extravagant gestures and emphasized the importance of emotional connection in relationships.

The Importance of Human Relationships and Emotional Connections

Emotional connections, stability provided by family, and the ability to learn from others are all crucial aspects of human relationships.

As people get older, the challenge of maintaining these connections becomes more pronounced.

Meeting people efficiently and with purpose becomes essential, especially as time becomes more limited.

Being an attractive person and offering value in relationships is key to forming and maintaining connections, regardless of financial status.

Navigating Relationships: The Impact of Giver and Taker Tendencies

People with a strong giver tendency tend to be more successful socially, while those with high taker tendencies can be deceptive and should be avoided.

Developing the ability to see through deceptive behavior is crucial, and it's important to work comfortably and avoid those with a strong predator instinct.

The most valuable life is one guided by knowledge and nurtured by love, prioritizing relationships over material things or religious beliefs.

The Importance of Freedom and Values in Life

Nobu, a 30-year-old, believes that the essence of life is to cherish the freedom to make choices and decisions, both economically and mentally.

He recommends the book "How to Die" by Atul Gawande, emphasizing its impact on how to live life.

Nobu also emphasizes the importance of knowing and pursuing one's true values before building a family or pursuing any specific desires in different stages of life.

Approaching Life as a Game for Freedom and Fulfillment

In his 40s, the speaker is focused on gaining mental and material freedom, aiming to live as a mature individual and make independent choices.

He advocates for viewing life as a game to reduce stress and anxiety, emphasizing the unpredictability of the future.

In one's 20s, he suggests focusing on finding something one can do well and gaining diverse experiences.