The Loneliness Epidemic: A Modern Social and Biological Crisis

Chronic loneliness, a modern epidemic, stems from human biology and societal changes, impacting health and relationships.

### The Loneliness Epidemic: A Modern Social Dilemma
* 😔 Despite living in the most connected time in human history, an unprecedented number of people feel isolated, with **60% of 18 to 34-year-olds in the UK** and **46% of the US population** regularly experiencing loneliness.
* 🧠 Loneliness is a biological function, like hunger, that evolved to ensure **social connection**, which was crucial for **survival** in our ancestors' group-based lifestyle.
* 🏙 The loneliness epidemic started in the late Renaissance, accelerated during the Industrial Revolution, and continues to worsen as modern society prioritizes **individualism and mobility over community**.
* Chronic loneliness is extremely detrimental to health, aging individuals quicker, weakening the immune system, and being as **deadly as smoking a pack of cigarettes a day**.
* 🔄 When loneliness becomes chronic, the brain goes into self-preservation mode, perceiving **hostility in social interactions** and becoming **more self-centered to protect itself**.
* 🔄 Loneliness often leads to a vicious cycle where **negative feelings and interpretations reinforce isolation**, making it **increasingly difficult to escape**.
* 🔍 To combat loneliness, individuals are advised to recognize and challenge **negative thought patterns, assumptions about others' intentions, and behaviors that perpetuate isolation**.
* 🌍 The text concludes by calling for a shift in societal perspective, viewing loneliness not just as an individual problem but as a **public health crisis** that requires **more attention and support**.

Everybody feels lonely from time to time. When we have no one to sit next to at lunch, when we move to a new city, or when nobody has time for us at the weekend. But over the last few decades, this occasional feeling has become chronic for millions. In the UK, 60% of 18 to 34-year-olds say they often feel lonely. In the US, 46% of the entire population feel lonely regularly. We are living in the most connected time in human history, and yet, an unprecedented number of us feel isolated. Being lonely and being alone are not the same thing. You can be filled with bliss by yourself and hate every second surrounded by friends. Loneliness is a purely subjective, individual experience. If you feel lonely, you are lonely. A common stereotype is that loneliness only happens to people who don't know how to talk to people or how to behave around others. But population-based studies have shown that social skills make practically no difference for adults when it comes to social connections.

Loneliness can affect everybody. Money, fame, power, beauty, social skills, a great personality— nothing can protect you against loneliness, because it's part of your biology. Loneliness is a bodily function, like hunger. Hunger make you pay attention to your physical needs; loneliness makes you pay attention to your social needs. Your body cares about your social needs, because millions of years ago, it was a great indicator of how likely you were to survive. Natural selection rewarded our ancestors for collaboration, and for forming connections with each other. Our brains grew and became more and more fine-tuned to recognize what others thought and felt, and to form and sustain social bonds. Being social became part of our biology. You were born into groups of 50 to 150 people, which you usually stayed with for the rest of your life. Getting enough calories, staying safe and warm, or caring for offspring was practically impossible alone. Being together meant survival, being alone meant death. So it was crucial that you got along with others.

For your ancestors, the most dangerous threat to survival was not being eaten by a lion, but not getting the social vibe of your group and being excluded. To avoid that, your body came up with social pain. Pain of this kind is an evolutionary adaptation to rejection, a sort of early warning system to make sure you stop behavior that would isolate you. Your ancestors who experienced rejection as more painful were more likely to change their behavior when they got rejected, and thus stayed in the tribe, while those who did not got kicked out and most likely died. That's why rejections hurt, and even more so, why loneliness is so painful. These mechanisms for keeping us connected worked great for most of our history, until humans began building a new world for themselves. The loneliness epidemic we see today really only started in the late Renaissance. Western culture began to focus on the individual. Intellectuals moved away from the collectivism of the Middle Ages, while the young Protestant theology stressed individual responsibility.

This trend accelerated during the Industrial Revolution. People left their villages and fields to enter factories. Communities that had existed for hundreds of years began to dissolve, while cities grew. As our world rapidly became modern, this trend sped up more and more. Today, we move vast distances for new jobs, love, and education, and leave our social net behind. We meet fewer people in person, and we meet them less often than in the past. In the US, the mean number of close friends dropped from 3 in 1985 to 2 in 2011. Most people stumble into chronic loneliness by accident. You reach adulthood and become busy with work, university, romance, kids, and Netflix. There's just not enough time. The most convenient and easy thing to sacrifice is time with friends. Until you wake up one day and you realise that you feel isolated, that you yearn for close relationships. But it's hard to find close relationships as adults, and so, loneliness can become chronic.

While humans feel pretty great about things like iPhones and spaceships, our bodies and minds are fundamentally the same they were 50,000 years ago. We are still biologically fine-tuned to being with each other. Large scale studies have shown that the stress that comes from chronic loneliness is among the most unhealthy things we can experience as humans. It makes you age quicker, it makes cancer deadlier, Alzheimer's advance faster, your immune system weaker. Loneliness is twice as deadly as obesity and as deadly as smoking a pack of cigarettes a day. The most dangerous thing about it is that once it becomes chronic, it can become self-sustaining. Physical and social pain use common mechanisms in your brain; both feel like a threat, and so social pain leads to immediate and defensive behavior when it's inflicted on you. When loneliness becomes chronic, your brain goes into self-preservation mode; it starts to see danger and hostility everywhere. But that's not all; some studies found that when you're lonely, your brain is much more receptive and alert to social signals.

while at the same time it gets worse at gets worse at interpreting them correctly. You pay more attention to others but you understand them less. The part of you brain that recognises faces get out of tune and becomes more likely to categorise neutral faces as hostile, which makes it distrustful of others. Loneliness make you assume the worst about others intentions towards you because of this perceived hostile world. You can become more self-centred to protect yourself, which can make you appear more cold, unfriendly, and socially awkward than you really are. If loneliness has become a strong presence in your life, the first thing you can do is to try to recognise vicious cycle you may be trapped in. It usually goes something like this: an initial feeling of isolation leads to feelings of tension and sadness, which makes you focus you attention selectively on negative interactions with others. This makes your thoughts about yourself and others more negative, which then changes your behaviour. You begin to avoid social interaction, which leads to more feelings of isolation. This cycle becomes more severe and harder to escape each time.

loneliness make you sit far away from others in class. Not answer the phone when friends call. Decline invitations until the invitations stop. Each and every one of us has a story about ourselves. And if your story becomes that people exclude you, others pick up on that. And so the outside world can become the way you feel about it. This is often a slow creeping process that takes years and can end in depression and a mental state that can prevent connections even if you yearn for them. The first thing you can do to escape it is to accept that loneliness is a totally normal feeling and nothing to be ashamed of. Literally everybody feels lonely at some point in their life. It's a universal human experience. You can't eliminate or ignore a feeling until it goes away magically. But you can accept that you feel it and get rid of its cause. You can self-examine what you focus your attention on and check if you are selectively focusing on negative things. Was this interaction with a colleague rarely negative or was it really mutual or even positive? What was the actual content of an interaction?

what did the other person say? Did they say something bad, or did you add extra meaning to their words? Maybe the other person was not really reacting negatively, but just short on time. Then, are your thoughts about the world assuming the worst about others' intentions? Do you enter a social situation and have already decided how it will go? Do you assume others don't want you around? Are you trying to avoid being hurt and not risking opening up? And if so, can you try to give others the benefit of the doubt? Can you just assume that they're not against you? Can you risk being open and vulnerable again? And lastly, your behavior. Are you avoiding opportunities to be around others? Are you looking for opportunities to decline invitations, or are you pushing away others preemptively to protect yourself? Are you acting as if you are getting attacked? Are you really looking for new connections, or have you become complacent with your situation? Of course, every person in each situation is unique and different, and just introspection alone might not be enough.

LEGAL DISCLAIMER: If you feel unable to solve your situation alone by yourself, please try to reach out and get professional help. It's not a sign of weakness, but of courage. However, we look at loneliness as a purely individual problem that needs solving to create happiness, or as a public health crisis. It is something that deserves more attention. Humans have built a world that is nothing short of amazing, and yet not of the shiny things we have made is able to satisfy or substitute our fundamental and biological need for connection. Most animals get what they need from their physical surroundings; we get what we need from each other, and we need to build our artificial human world based on that. (giggling)

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Kurzgesagt – In a Nutshell

Loneliness has become chronic for millions, with a high prevalence in the UK and the US.

Social skills have little impact on adult social connections, as loneliness is a purely subjective experience.

Loneliness is a biological function rooted in our evolution, as our ancestors were rewarded for collaboration and forming social bonds for survival.

The Evolution of Social Pain and the Loneliness Epidemic

Social pain, as an evolutionary adaptation to rejection, served as a warning system to prevent isolation in ancestors.

The loneliness epidemic began in the late Renaissance, accelerating during the Industrial Revolution, as modernization led to the dissolution of communities and decreased in-person interactions.

Today, the trend of prioritizing individual pursuits over social connections has led to a significant increase in chronic loneliness, as people struggle to maintain close relationships in the midst of busy lives.

The Impact of Loneliness on the Human Body and Mind

- Chronic loneliness has severe health effects, aging the body quicker, weakening the immune system, and making diseases more deadly.

- Loneliness is not only twice as deadly as obesity but also as deadly as smoking a pack of cigarettes a day.

- It leads to a self-perpetuating cycle, causing the brain to see danger everywhere, leading to distrust of others and a negative impact on social interactions.

Overcoming Loneliness: A Path to Connection and Healing

Loneliness is a common and normal feeling that can be addressed without shame.

It's important to self-examine and challenge negative thoughts about interactions with others.

By giving people the benefit of the doubt, taking risks to be open and vulnerable, and actively seeking connections, it's possible to move away from loneliness and towards meaningful relationships.

Loneliness is a significant problem, both on an individual and societal level, requiring more attention.

Despite the amazing advancements in the modern world, our fundamental need for connection remains unfulfilled.

Human happiness is deeply tied to our ability to connect with each other, highlighting the importance of prioritizing this in our society.