Life Lessons: Achieving Success and Happiness in 10 Steps

To save time and avoid stress, focus on happiness, productive struggle, genuine relationships, sales skills, and efficient work methods.

### 12 Life-Changing Lessons for Success and Happiness
* 💡 "Happiness is a choice... until the chronic complainers, who always keep complaining, do not **change the programming of their brain**, they will not be happy."
* 🏊 "Don't cry over a missing tile, see that the whole swimming pool is there, swim in it, **keep flowing with it**."
* 🏋 "I have seen that a person never gets tired without **hard work**... If you enjoy anything you do, the struggle that is there will become **productive**."
* 🤝 "Never for small profits or even for any big profit, **betray your friend, your brother, or any relationship**."
* 🧠 "In the pursuit of stylish and fancy things, don't forget your **intention for which you have come**."
* 💰 "Ask yourself **why you want to earn whatever you are thinking of earning**, where to invest, or if you even **need that much**."
* 📞 "Learning sales is **number six**. Any person can... start **earning instant money from the phone**."
* 🛠 "I'm a tools lover. I need a tool for anything. I need its **app**. I need its **extension**."
* "Whatever work you do in life, if your intention is clear... the second is **clarity**, the third is **detachment**."
* 🏎 "The one who wins the speed inside Kung Fu is the **real Kung Fu master**."
* 🎭 "Emotions of any kind, if you hold them back, **they will burst**."
* 💸 "Money can buy anything, what can't it say? With money, you can buy anything. You can, but you can't **buy some things with money**."

I wish I had known these things earlier, then today I would have been much ahead in my life. What can a 24-year-old boy tell you that can save you one to two years of your life, and in learning all these things properly, I have shed many tears. It took my time, it took my energy, in fact, it caused a lot of stress. These things that I am about to tell you now, within a few minutes, do not complain about number one.

You must be aware of the Missing Tile Syndrome, where a person tends to focus on what is missing. It means if there is a beautifully constructed swimming pool, and everything you want is exactly there, but if one tile is missing inside that beautiful swimming pool, your complete attention will be drawn towards that. Due to repeatedly pointing out the lack and complaining, the connections of neurons in your brain are formed in such a way that you only find faults.

Happiness is the choice. Joy is your choice. Some things cannot be achieved by gaining something. Until the chronic complainers, who always keep complaining, do not change the programming of their brain, they will not be happy. Any movie starts in a certain way, we see everything going right, but then obstacles start coming in the life of the hero. Troubles start coming, and we want that, buddy.

When a hero faces difficulties in his life, he takes heroic actions to solve them. It is very enjoyable for us. Then some unexpected things start happening that he is trying to solve, but still, something happens that should not happen. But ultimately, the climax satisfies us and we feel like, Wow, that was great fun! The hero has fought and these odds that we like the hero for, these odds are yours.

Life's shortcomings are the same ones you are complaining about, so you are also the hero of your life. Don't cry over a missing tile, see that the whole swimming pool is there, swim in it, keep flowing with it. Another point is to struggle, my friend. I have seen that a person never gets tired without hard work. Our brain never gets tired of working hard. Scientists also say that the brain never gets tired of learning. No matter how much you can learn, but when do we get upset? We get upset when we get that result.

The result that we hope for does not come by just expecting it. When we worry about the outcome, stress enters our lives. If you want to do something in a way that you can be proud of yourself and say, I did it, you have to do it with complete conviction. Anything you do with conviction, with all your heart, you can only do when you stop worrying about the outcome. This line is not just written to say, Don't worry about the outcome, it is not just said like that.

There is a very deep behind this that you are not understanding, there are two types of struggles, number one is productive struggle, meaning that actually you are reaching somewhere, achieving something, and the other struggle is non-productive struggle. I believe this, and all successful people in the world also believe that no matter how much productive struggle you do, you never get tired. I am making this video, I speak for three to four hours like this.

I will not get tired, why? Because I am enjoying doing this, but if I add fruit inside it, I think, Hey, I don't want this fruit from this video, then maybe I will start getting tired. Osho said something in his video that a person who comes tired from the office, meaning he works and gets tired. But if he plays games or if he watches a series for 8 hours or 10 hours continuously, then why doesn't he get tired? Because he is enjoying there.

If you enjoy anything you do, the struggle that is there will become productive. So, struggle, the mind doesn't get tired, the body doesn't get tired, it's fun. The third point is this point is built inside me, meaning I have been following this since the age of 15, and why am I following this? There must be something about upbringing, my father taught me to see relationships, friendships, networks, the people who become our brothers inside the world, when do we understand the value of all this.

The value is understood by us when we become successful. When we become successful, we are alone because when you rise, you meet very few people. The world is very small. After a time, you get bored with life. You need people around you. You need people with whom you can talk about success. So the point is, never for small profits or even for any big profit, betray your friend, your brother, or any relationship.

Don't betray him, don't leave him. No matter how many millionaires or billionaires I have met, whose accounts have 9000 crores, when I talk to them, I have learned that they always prioritize their network, their brother, their friend. It means money is secondary. It is never for temporary profit because money is like a mail in your hand. Never lose your friend, your brother for temporary profit.

Going there, your power can be created because think you are 70 years old and what will you have with you, you have millions of rupees, agreed, okay, then what if you have a group of 10 people, a group with whom you have become a millionaire and you are sharing stories with them about how we became that moment is different, and imagine another scenario, you have achieved everything you wanted, but when you go there, you are alone, you have nothing, so what will you do with those toys?

The third point is that never hurt your permanent relationship for temporary profit. Do you know that out of 10 successful people, how many are there who cannot maintain success? It's because those people, by showing off to their friends and brothers, become successful and then cannot maintain it. Number four is very, very, very important for those who have seen Instagram reels.

If you watch any short and feel like, Wow, this is really good, there are two types of advice. One is giving massages, meaning it's fun to listen to, and the other is practically whether it's working or not. Until you understand the difference, you will keep getting confused. If something comes to your mind that you have to do, then later you hear something else, and you start enjoying it. This is called mental masturbation, meaning you always enjoy listening to things.

It happens, you know. It happens. Hold the point. Many times, in the quest to like stylish, fancy, and good status, we end up saying things that were not our intention. Our intention should be clear that, brother, where does this matter? Is my 'M' getting fulfilled by this or not? Remove it. In the pursuit of stylish and fancy things, don't forget your intention for which you have come. A person is someone who learns, knows, and listens with purpose.

He sees, hears, knows, learns, with tension and purpose, that brother, it is necessary to apply it. The advice coming from all sides is controlling it. So, in today's time, you have a phone in your hand, and as much advice is coming in it because information has increased a lot, chances are very high that whatever you are about to do, you will be interrupted repeatedly because there are many people telling you. So, the fourth point is practically work.

What is it that you are enjoying listening to, or is it just fun for both of you? Understand the difference between these two. Number five, find out the info about anything, how much money you need to earn and why you need to earn that money. For that, you need to be very clear. If someone tells me that they want to earn millions, for example, they say they want to earn 10 million, I will say, Okay, earning 10 million is possible. But why do you want to earn it? What needs to be done? So, what will be on your list?

I want to buy a car, need to buy a house, or maybe I want to travel the world. I ask him if it's okay, he needs 10 crores for that. If he hasn't earned 10 crores, he can't do it. All these things hold him back. Ask yourself why you want to earn whatever you are thinking of earning, where to invest, or if you even need that much. I am not saying you shouldn't earn or that you shouldn't aim for 10 or 20 crores.

You should see, you should watch, I am saying that along with those dreams, you should also consider what will be purchased, where it will be invested, how much will be saved, why it will be done. If before earning money, you do not think about where it will be invested, then there is a 100% chance that you will invest it where your intention was not to invest. The truth is that you can do many things in your life without earning millions. You can earn millions, but there are still many things you can do without earning millions.

Can you get what you want, after saving for luxurious things that you can only have after earning millions? Do you want to achieve that or not? If the goal is big, then only jump into planning to earn millions. Are you understanding the point of jumping into planning to earn millions in two years of your life? Where will you see what you will get from giving those two years of your life? For that, you have to be very clear because imagine if you have spent five years trying to achieve something and you got that thing, then it's fine.

Will you enjoy the luxurious thing you bought in using it for the rest of your life, or did you just want to try it for 10 days, do you actually want to own it, or just wanted to see it once, think, you only wanted to see it, why earn for that, think why do you need to invest ₹ lakhs where you will get bored after a month, now think about investing that same money in 10 different ways of fun.

If you go, earn money, brother. You have to earn crores. Along with that, where to invest in crores is also very important to think about because I have seen many people who manipulate and do such things. After that, they feel like, Oh, this was not right. I have earned this after so many years of hard work, and what have I done? And if you don't understand what I'm saying, get married, your wife will understand. Learning sales is number six. Any person can.

From today, one can start earning instant money from the phone. Absolutely, it's very fast from today. If you know how to sell, whether it's through calls, messages, or emails, you can talk to someone one-on-one and sell products. This means you can approach a company and say, I want to sell this product for you. You have a list with you, you go to them, sell the product, and you start earning. You will have a way for the rest of your life, like how you can earn.

Whether it's one-to-one, meaning selling a product by calling one person, or one-to-many, meaning you create reels and bring people to webinars, and sell to everyone at once. The point is sales skills. If you have sales skills, if you know how to sell a product, then you always have an ATM machine in your hands. Whoever knows how to bring sales, knows how to do business. Any company will fulfill that person's requirement.

Any human will growl any business and yes, I'm not talking about sales that involve connecting three people, I'm talking about selling an actual product. It's the seventh point, Get Obsessed with Shortcuts. I'm a tools lover. I need a tool for anything. I need its app. I need its extension. Every time I need software for anything. If I meet any person in my field, they...

I have already mentioned 10 things that will save his time and energy, so whatever work you do, don't always keep searching inside it to find if there is a shortcut, a hack, a tool, an app for it, or if this thing can be done in less time. You should be obsessed with shortcuts, and secondly, know what this thing is, only he can do it well who is lazy. Number eight point is ICD rule, this rule has been told by our brother Himanshu Agrawal.

I was told in my workshop that I found something amazing, man. This thing is quite terrifying, which is intention, the second is clarity, the third is detachment. Whatever work you do in life, if your intention is clear that I am doing this, the intention of this is that I want to achieve this. The second intention is clarity, whatever I am doing, it is clear to me that brother, this will happen, this needs to be done, this should not be done, clear meaning no confusion, third.

Attachment, whatever work I am doing, I don't mean I don't want to be too attached to it. If anyone works, then attachment comes with it, it means that you have called stress and ego into your life. Stress and ego are the enemies that do not let success fall down. The ninth point is Do Everything with Speed Kung Fu Panda movie, I don't know how many people must have watched it. It's my favorite movie. In childhood, I

I have seen a scene in this movie where a character knows Kung Fu, he holds a gun here and then he fires the gun as soon as he fires the gun, he catches the bullet in such a fast way, meaning he does this thing so quickly that just after that, a line comes that the one who wins the speed inside Kung Fu is the real Kung Fu master. This is what happens. I will make a video on this, on how to do any work at speed.

Because doing it quickly is very important. Think about how big a sum of 1 crore is. It seems like a lot, right? But that amount becomes small if earned over 30 years. How does an amount of 000 seem? It's still 000. However, if you earn it in half an hour, it becomes ₹ J in 12 hours. So, no matter how well you do something, what matters is how quickly you can do it. That also matters.

Doing things quickly also adds to your advantage. Like when you take action, you receive feedback, you can run the action-feedback loop quickly. That means whenever you take an action, you get feedback, learn, take another action, get feedback again, learn, then take a third action. So, the loop that you have rotates quickly, rotates fast. For example, let's assume this.

Any business, whatever it is, is written in your life that you failed 14 times and you will earn in the 15th time, right? So why not those 14 failures be quickly seen, done quickly, failed quickly, failed fast, why see 14 failures in 2 years, why not see those failures in just three months? So if you want to be successful quickly, you have to fail quickly. You have to face failures quickly, right? It is written in my life that my

You need to fail 20 times quickly, if you fail 20 times, hurry up, if you become successful on the 21st attempt, then I won't need to explain that the meaning of speed is not to compromise on quality. Look, everyone likes a person with quality. I mean, everyone likes Aamir Khan and we all like a person who is fast as well. I mean, we all like Akshay Kumar too. But what if Aamir Khan and Akshay Kumar both come together and become one person, anyone.

How does a factory produce at speed? What is the system behind it? The world's best companies, how do they make their products quickly? Because they create systems, processes. So, how do they create these processes? Go, learn from them how they do it. Watch the company's case studies videos to see how they have done this. How can I do it too? For example, Apple, I always know that, hey, how can I produce a video of this quality in two days.

How can I make it in seven days, I make it in eight days, how can I make it in two days, then it's fun to do, number 10 point is emotions, emotions that are inside us, they do not want to come out, you cannot suppress them, you cannot suppress them, you are doing any work in your life that you do not like and you keep doing it, thinking never give up, never give up, you have seen motivation somewhere that you should not give up no matter what.

Go ahead, and as you keep going, you say that there should be discipline in humans. You have accepted the talk of discipline, and it's been six months for you, so what would happen, brother? You don't mean you are collecting one thing in your mind. What are you doing? Bad emotions, you don't like to do it, your mind doesn't like it. By putting pressure on it, after a while, you will go where, inside depression. Why? Because emotions that are not created, and not destroyed, emotions too.

Like energy, which transfers, if you always welcome things in your life that you don't like to do, after a while, you will blast. Your mind will tell you that you are deteriorating. Then your quality deteriorates, your relationships deteriorate, your health deteriorates because have you ever heard that there is a lens inside us that makes us feel like we don't feel guilty, we enjoy it.

We do not regret, we work with pride, and then comes the compounding, we enjoy it. Our whole body and brain are designed in such a way. After that, whatever you do, do it well. Emotions of any kind, if you hold them back, they will burst. If it's a good emotion, it will also burst. How to use this, you can use it in such a way that you don't do any work that you really like. For example, 20 minutes.

You are doing the work daily that you really like. After two-three months, automatically, something good will start happening in your life because emotions that are stored within you cannot burst. You will start doing something that you will say, Hey, I made this. The point is, no matter how much money you earn in your life, whether you are happy with thousands, millions, or even billions, it's your choice. But never ever

Abudos, we serve as you wish, spend as you wish, invest as you wish. But Abudos doesn't mean that you throw away 10,000 rupees just like that and say, Bro, I just threw it away to show off that I have money. There is a difference between having money and having value. Assume your monthly income is one lakh rupees, and you are going to the wrong place with 5,000 rupees, and you are not paying attention. It's called money abuse; the difference is not understood. 5000 is going there.

It doesn't matter if it's in crores or going to a few lakhs here, the difference is that your mentality is deteriorating. Yes, yes, I am talking about valuing money. Think of it in a way that for earning which you have put your heart and soul into, you also understand the meaning of abode. You also buy things that you don't need, just to show that I can buy. That's the point. Money can buy anything, what can't it say? With money, you can buy anything.

You can, but you can't buy some things with money. You can't buy maturity with money. You can't buy ethics with money. Maturity means that you are rich, but you don't have manners. You don't know how to talk. You don't know how to give respect. You can't respect those younger than you because your success has gone to your head, and you can't buy that. You cannot buy it. You have 100 crores, but you can't buy it.

Expensive thing, you are a billionaire, you cannot buy it. So, Money cannot buy Majority. Money cannot buy Ethics. You earned money, saw a few lakhs, had fun. Your mind will want to earn ten times more. Your mind will want to start doing unethical things because you cannot buy ethics. Those things come from your upbringing, from your environment. You cannot buy Majority and Ethics. So, this was my video. I wish I had known these things earlier.

All the points we have covered were all 12 out of 12 points. This was not a research video; it was not that I have to put it in. These are actually the things that I write in my own journaling book that I don't have to do. I wish I hadn't done things before, then I would be ahead today. If you want to be consistent in your life, I have a successful program in which you can enroll if you wish. In 2020, I had launched it, and many people have taken full advantage of it.

I teach how you can work hard within limits, how you can dedicate focused hours to your work, and why I am a better person. I tell you this because I was also very lazy. Before getting up from my place, I used to think ten times and would end up wasting my work. I do work but only a little, but I think too much about it, getting caught up in the trap of perfection, I never get the work done. Many things are left without any progress, life is not fun. No one enjoys it.

He does not respect because respect is given by the person who has a purpose for whom he is working. He could do 100 things but could not start a single thing properly. But the day I realized, I understood a purpose, started living with a purpose, then I came in an energetic mode, with full confidence, started doing things, and by doing this, I recorded everything. Restart Your Life is a course that tells everything inside it.

You have a three-day refund policy. Still, if you feel like this work is not suitable, no worries. Within the day, you can get a refund. The email displayed on the screen, write an email and send it requesting a refund. You will receive it. Thank you so much. See you in the next video. Wishing you all the very best. I, Shakeel, your friend, support your dreams.

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Embracing struggles with conviction and enjoying productive work can lead to a fulfilling and tireless life.

Prioritizing Relationships over Profits: A Life Philosophy

Struggle can be productive when approached with the right mindset, prioritizing relationships over temporary profits is crucial for long-term success, and it's important to differentiate between enjoyable advice and practical advice to avoid getting sidetracked by the pursuit of wealth and status.

It's crucial to have a clear understanding of why you want to earn a certain amount of money and how you plan to use it.

Without a clear purpose for your earnings, you may end up investing in ways that don't align with your goals.

Having a solid financial plan is essential before aiming to earn millions, as it's important to consider how you will invest and save your money.

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Efficiency and shortcuts are crucial for saving time and energy in any work.

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Doing everything with speed is vital for success, as it allows for a quicker action-feedback loop and the ability to face and learn from failures rapidly.

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The Inability of Money to Buy Maturity and Ethics

The video emphasizes that money cannot buy maturity, leading to a lack of manners and respect.

It also highlights that ethics cannot be purchased, often leading to unethical behavior in the pursuit of wealth.

The speaker promotes a course focused on working with purpose and dedication, offering a refund policy for those who feel it is not suitable.